How Kind People Get Tough: Assertiveness Tools, Tips, and Techniques for More Confidence and Happier Relationships
How Kind People Get Tough: Assertiveness Tools, Tips, and Techniques for More Confidence and Happier Relationships

Author: Marlene Rose Shaw

Publisher: Nielsen

Published: 2019-12-07

Total Pages: 266

ISBN-13: 9780993541919

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Do you wish you could be more assertive, but you worry that you'll come across as unkind or mean? Do you want to speak up and be the authentic you, without pushing people away? Do you want to ask for respect, without seeming arrogant or confrontational? Many people struggle to find the balance between assertiveness and kindness. Yet, it is perfectly possible. Based on Marléne Rose Shaw's work in helping thousands of clients, How Kind People Get Tough will help you achieve that balance, so that you can feel more confident and create happier, more fulfilling relationships. In this book you will learn how to: Gain respect without coming across as arrogant or unkind Speak your truth without fear of rejection Be heard and acknowledged Stop people-pleasing and feel confident in your own skin Say no with confidence, and without feeling guilty Know where you stand in your relationships This book is special in that it goes beyond teaching basic assertiveness skills. It explains why we human beings have an innate struggle with assertiveness, and it teaches you how to get past those fundamental blocks. Packed full of case studies, tools, tips, and techniques, the book also includes your free Online Companion Course to help you put those skills into practice.

Assertiveness
Assertiveness

Author: Conrad Potts

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons

Published: 2013-03-29

Total Pages: 120

ISBN-13: 0857083678

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How to overcome challenges with confidence No matter how successful we are, we all face stressful and hard-to-handle challenges in daily life, and – if we want to be as happy and healthy as we can – we must learn to assert ourselves, make our voices heard and approach life with confidence and self-assurance. This book is a roadmap to help you navigate your way through those challenging opportunities, hurdles and milestones. Taking universal scenarios case by case, and packed with practical tips, this inspiring, down-to-earth book will give you the tools to build your self-esteem and become happier, healthier, and in control of your own destiny. Written in an approachable style which posits practical solutions to a range of universal problems Deals with assertiveness in business, family, social situations and all areas of life Covers topics like ‘dealing with your boss’, ‘dealing with finances’, ‘asking for a pay rise’, ‘saying no at work’

The Assertiveness Guide for Women
The Assertiveness Guide for Women

Author: Julie de Azevedo Hanks

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

Published: 2016-08-01

Total Pages: 226

ISBN-13: 1626253390

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Isn’t it time you took a stand? Many women struggle with assertiveness, but if you’re prone to anxiety and avoidance, it is especially difficult. Grounded in attachment theory, this essential guide will help you identify your thoughts and feelings, balance your emotions, communicate your needs, and set healthy boundaries to improve your life. When you’re assertive, you’re able to communicate your needs and wishes clearly while respecting yourself and anyone else involved in the interaction. But when you aren’t assertive, you may stop yourself from saying anything when your needs aren’t being met, or end up lashing out in hostile or hurtful ways. People with different attachment styles struggle with being assertive for different reasons, and even women with a secure attachment style may have difficulty expressing emotion when faced with challenging circumstances. Using strategies based in mindfulness, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), The Assertiveness Guide for Women can help you understand the attachment styles that keep you from asserting yourself. You’ll learn about the three communication stances—from the passive Doormat to the aggressive (or passive-aggressive) Sword to the assertive Lantern—and find practical examples that show you how to apply your new communication and emotional awareness skills in your own life. Rather than being caught in a cycle of rumination and regret when you’re unable to express yourself or even acknowledge your own needs, you’ll be ready to assert yourself and get what you want. Whether you’re anxious and overwhelmed by the intensity of your emotions, avoidant and struggle to identify your emotions, or otherwise have difficulty expressing yourself, this book will help you become more aware of your own thoughts and feelings, and empower you to ask for what you need, set boundaries, and speak your truth for a more fulfilling life.

High Performance Habits
High Performance Habits

Author: Brendon Burchard

Publisher: Hay House, Inc

Published: 2017-09-19

Total Pages: 401

ISBN-13: 1401952852

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THESE HABITS WILL MAKE YOU EXTRAORDINARY. Twenty years ago, author Brendon Burchard became obsessed with answering three questions: 1. Why do some individuals and teams succeed more quickly than others and sustain that success over the long term? 2. Of those who pull it off, why are some miserable and others consistently happy on their journey? 3. What motivates people to reach for higher levels of success in the first place, and what practices help them improve the most After extensive original research and a decade as the world’s leading high performance coach, Burchard found the answers. It turns out that just six deliberate habits give you the edge. Anyone can practice these habits and, when they do, extraordinary things happen in their lives, relationships, and careers. Which habits can help you achieve long-term success and vibrant well-being no matter your age, career, strengths, or personality? To become a high performer, you must seek clarity, generate energy, raise necessity, increase productivity, develop influence, and demonstrate courage. The art and science of how to do all this is what this book is about. Whether you want to get more done, lead others better, develop skill faster, or dramatically increase your sense of joy and confidence, the habits in this book will help you achieve it faster. Each of the six habits is illustrated by powerful vignettes, cutting-edge science, thought-provoking exercises, and real-world daily practices you can implement right now. If you’ve ever wanted a science-backed, heart-centered plan to living a better quality of life, it’s in your hands. Best of all, you can measure your progress. A link to a free professional assessment is included in the book.

Assertiveness Training
Assertiveness Training

Author: Chase Hill

Publisher: Mindful Happiness

Published: 2021-08-16

Total Pages: 192

ISBN-13: 9781087902852

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Stop being a pushover - it's time for you to be seen, be heard, and to get what you deserve. Have you spent the better portion of your life physically and mentally unable to strive for what you really want, passively riding the waves as they come? Are you constantly considerate of others' feelings, having made too many compromises in the past that have left you feeling unfulfilled and empty? You may currently be facing an unsettling internal conflict, wondering how you can assert yourself and express your genuine thoughts, needs, and opinions without being aggressive or disliked by those around you. Your generosity and kindness are indeed a double-edged sword - they may feel like your weaknesses, but you need to realize that they are also two of your most admirable strengths. Only then will you be able to find real balance in your life. Being assertive isn't synonymous with being aggressive or unfriendly - it is very much possible to be confident and firm all while being polite and kind. True assertiveness, rooted in a real inner desire to build relationships instead of destroying them, is a rare and precious commodity among people nowadays. The mere fact that you're striving for it shows off your undeniable strength and ability to transform and evolve as a human being. There's no reason to be held back by discomfort and fear anymore - with the right training, your timid nature will undoubtedly subside, making room for the assertive person you've always longed to be. In Assertiveness Training, you will discover: How to recognize the subtle behaviors that have been hindering your path to self-fulfillment, as well as ways to start transforming them into more positive and self-affirming habits Scientifically proven steps to practice self-awareness and emotional control to avoid the most common emotional setbacks barricading the way between you and your assertive self How to tackle the anxiety and fear that come from your first attempts at being assertive, making assertiveness second nature A plethora of situation-based tips and tricks that will guide you through the process of knowing exactly what to say and do to let people know that you're not to be walked over Comprehensive guidance on how to be assertive in your workplace to finally get the recognition and respect you deserve How to find the right balance between passive and aggressive behavior to gain genuine respect from others, untainted by pity or fear A step-by-step action plan, taking you on a transformative journey towards building more confidence that's rooted in a polite and kind contact with the people around you And much more. Assertiveness is not a natural-born trait, but it is a skill that we all can acquire with perseverance and the right kind of guidance. It's time to stop living your life feeling like a vessel for others to use as they wish. Unlike what you may fear, being assertive isn't going to cause others any pain or hatred. It will instead create healthy boundaries through which you and your acquaintances can communicate more honestly and freely. If you want to gain the respect and admiration of others for being who you truly are, then scroll up and click the "Buy now with 1-Click" button right now.

Self-Esteem
Self-Esteem

Author: Matthew McKay

Publisher: ReadHowYouWant.com

Published: 2009-09-17

Total Pages: 302

ISBN-13: 1458725138

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Self-esteem is essential for psychological survival. It is an emotional sine qua non - without some measure of self-worth, life can be enormously painful, with many basic needs going unmet. One of the main factors differentiating humans from other animals is the awareness of self: the ability to form an identity and then attach a value to it. In other words, you have the capacity to define who you are and then decide if you like that identity or not. The problem of self-esteem is this human capacity for judgment. It's one thing to dislike certain colors, noises, shapes, or sensations. But when you reject parts of yourself, you greatly damage the psychological structures that literally keep you alive. Judging and rejecting yourself causes enormous pain. And in the same way that you would favor and protect a physical wound, you find yourself avoiding anything that might aggravate the pain of self-rejection in any way. You take fewer social, academic, or career risks. You make it more difficult for yourself to meet people, interview for a job, or push hard for something where you might not succeed. You limit your ability to open yourself with others, express your sexuality, be the center of attention, hear criticism, ask for help, or solve problems....This book is about stopping the judgments. It's about healing the old wounds of hurt and self-rejection. How you perceive and feel about yourself can change. And when those perceptions and feelings change, the ripple effect will touch every part of your life with a gradually expanding sense of freedom. ---- Self-Esteem.

Your Perfect Right
Your Perfect Right

Author: Robert Alberti

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

Published: 2017-03-01

Total Pages: 287

ISBN-13: 1626259623

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Your Perfect Right—the leading assertiveness guide with over 1.3 million copies sold—is now fully updated and revised. This indispensable guide to equal-relationship assertiveness is packed with step-by-step exercises, tips, and skills to help you express yourself effectively. Are you comfortable starting a conversation with strangers at a party? Do you sometimes feel ineffective in making your needs clear? Do you have difficulty saying no to persuasive people? Everyone needs a little help getting along with others. Assertiveness is a key social skill, as well as a tool for making your relationships more equal. Learning to respond more effectively to others can help you reduce stress and increase your sense of self-worth. In this fully updated and revised tenth edition, you’ll learn practical advice on dealing with difficult people, handling criticism, and expressing your feelings. You’ll also discover how to use humor in conflict resolution, ways to clarify others’ intentions, and how to distinguish between encouraging and discouraging communication habits. This edition also includes a new introduction by coauthor Robert Alberti, in addition to research and information on the subjects of anger and interpersonal communication. Assertiveness is an alternative to personal powerlessness or manipulation. The program in this book will help you develop effective ways to express yourself, maintain your self-respect, and show respect for others. This is not a “me-first” book—it's all about equal-relationship assertiveness!

Sticks and Stones
Sticks and Stones

Author: Scott Cooper

Publisher: Harmony

Published: 2000-02-29

Total Pages: 210

ISBN-13: 0812932404

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Sticks and Stones helps parents teach kids how to speak up for themselves more assertively, gently, and effectively. Each chapter, based on the characteristics of a particular bird, uses a wealth of examples and imaginative exercises to give kids the confidence to speak truth to power. This unique guide, beautifully illustrated with line drawings of each bird and informed by the author's gentle humor, will help kids be effective communicators and includes easy-to-follow exercises and sample scripts. Examples include: Shut down bullies (The Way of the Blue Jay) Overcome shyness (The Way of the Black Bird) Counter peer pressure (The Way of the Hummingbird) Resolve fights (The Way of the Dove) Accept blame (The Way of the Crow) And more

Grow Your Confidence, Assertiveness & Self-esteem
Grow Your Confidence, Assertiveness & Self-esteem

Author: Michelle Gates

Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform

Published: 2017-09

Total Pages: 114

ISBN-13: 9781975912772

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The 2018 updated version of the best selling solution to grow your confidence, assertiveness & self-esteem. Over 15 years of research lead to Michelle Gates writing the original book in 2008 which has now been fully updated with the latest methods for 2018. Cutting through the nonsense, this book offers a simple and easy to understand solution to growing your confidence, assertiveness and self esteem. No fancy gimmicks, just solid and actionable advice. Some of the topics covered in this book include: - Quickly & Easily Overcome Fear About Social Situations - Always Know What To Say - Building Your Self-Esteem and Confidence - Effective Use Of Body Language and Reading Other People - Relating To Others With Ease and Confidence- How To Be Assertive In Any Situation and so much more! The 2018 updated version is available now on Kindle, Paperback and Audible.