Out of the Fog
Out of the Fog

Author: Dana Morningstar

Publisher: Morningstar Media

Published: 2017-11-21

Total Pages: 305

ISBN-13:

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Lying. Cheating. Manipulating. Will they ever change? What will it take to get through to them? They apologized, but will this time be different...or will they just get better at hiding what they are up to? This book will help you get out of the fog of confusion and into the clarity you are looking for. FOG is an acronym that stands for "Fear, Obligation, and Guilt." These three emotions are often at the core of manipulation, and are often how narcissists, sociopaths, and other types of emotional manipulators go about controlling their targets. However, this type of destructive manipulation isn't just limited to narcissists and sociopaths. There is no shortage of people with well-intended bad advice out there who unintentionally fall into the FOG as well, and push targets of abuse into keeping the relationship going. The FOG is one of the main reasons that people stay "stuck" in abusive relationships for so long, why they continue to get involved with abusive people, why they feel that they are the problem, and why they tend to feel that the abuse is somehow their fault. When a person is being manipulated they have a hard time figuring out who has the problem, what is normal, what is problematic, and if their wants, needs, and feelings are valid. The disasterous effects of being lost in the FOG are confusion, crazymaking, people pleasing, and an erosion of boundaries. What makes this well-intended bad advice so damaging is that, on the surface, it seems like good advice--especially if it's coming from people who seem to have our best interests in mind, such as friends, family, church members, support group members, or a therapist. Some examples of this well-intended bad advice that comes from other people is: "Who are you to judge?" "No one is perfect." "You need to forgive them." "She's your mother, you need to have a relationship with her...she's not getting any younger you know." "Commitment is forever." What can be so crazymaking for targets is that they are often getting two very different messages. On one hand, they are told that they need to work towards a solution, and on the other, they are told that need to leave a partner who lies, cheats, steals, hits, yells, or belittles them. This book compares and contrasts of these concepts so that targets of any type of manipulation and abuse can make a more empowered decision. Some of the concepts covered are: Who are You to Judge vs. Being Discerning No One is Perfect vs. Tolerating Abuse You Need to Forgive Them vs. Keeping Yourself Safe A Parent vs. A Predator Commitment vs. Codependency Self-love vs. Selfishness A Person Acting the Part vs. A Person Actually Changing Gut Instincts vs. Hypervigilance A Friend vs. Someone Being Friendly Caring vs. Caretaking Being in Love With Them vs. Being in Love With Who They Pretended to Be Workable Behavior vs. Deal Breakers Acceptance vs. Allowance Going Through So Much Together vs. Being Put Through So Much By Them Sincerity vs. Intensity Healthy Bonding vs. Trauma Bonding Insincere Remorse vs. Sincere Remorse Reacting vs. Responding ...and many more.

The Narcissist's Playbook
The Narcissist's Playbook

Author: Dana Morningstar

Publisher: Morningstar Media

Published: 2019-05-15

Total Pages: 310

ISBN-13:

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Do you have a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath in your life, or think that you might? Do you continually feel anxious around someone in your life, but can’t pinpoint why? Do conversations seem to go off track, leaving you feeling knocked off balance and confused? Does it feel like they are making your life a living hell, but they insist that you are too sensitive, crazy, or to blame? Perhaps you know you are being manipulated or abused, but don’t know how to make it stop. The Narcissist’s Playbook can help. Dana Morningstar is a domestic violence advocate, author, podcaster, YouTuber, speaker, and group leader. She writes from personal as well as professional experience in the field of domestic violence awareness, narcissistic abuse, and advocacy. Some of the topics covered in The Narcissist’s Playbook are: -What manipulation is and isn’t. -How to spot manipulative behaviors early (and why most people struggle with this). -How and why people get caught up with manipulators, and why they have a hard time breaking free. -How to identify the emotional “hook” that is keeping you stuck in manipulation and what you can do about it. - How to effectively disable manipulation as it is happening. - How to identify the common personality traits that are frequently exploited by manipulators. You can take back your life. The Narcissist’s Playbook tells you how.

Start Here
Start Here

Author: Dana Morningstar

Publisher: Morningstar Media

Published: 2017-10-21

Total Pages: 326

ISBN-13:

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Are you in a relationship or dynamic with a person that can be best described as an emotional rollercoaster, toxic, draining, crazy-making, or confusing? Have you wondered why they never seem to change--no matter how much you are willing to do for them, or how much love, understanding, rehab, religion, therapy, second (or twenty-second) chances you've given them? Do you feel as though if you tried harder that eventually you could earn their love, respect, loyalty, honesty, or be treated with dignity and respect? If so, you are not alone and this book is a great place to start. This book covers: - The most common words and definitions (along with examples) surrounding narcissists, sociopaths, and narcissistic abuse, such as "flying monkeys," "hoovering," "narcissistic abuse," "love bombing," "trauma bonding," "C-PTSD," "scapegoat," and "reactive abuse," as well as dozens of additional helpful words and concepts. - Understanding the cycle of narcissistic abuse (and what is really looks like in motion). - The different ways that emotional manipulators go about exploiting your vulnerabilities. - Frequently asked questions about narcissistic abuse. - Elements to consider if you are planning to leave so you can do it as safely as possible. - What to anticipate after breaking up with a narcissist, sociopath, psychopath, or any other type of emotional manipulator. - How to find a support group and privacy concerns to consider when joining one. - A section for friends and family for how to help support a loved one who is in a narcissistically abusive relationship or dynamic. And much, much more.

Summary of Dana Morningstar's Out of the Fog
Summary of Dana Morningstar's Out of the Fog

Author: Everest Media,

Publisher: Everest Media LLC

Published: 2022-06-10T22:59:00Z

Total Pages: 42

ISBN-13:

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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 The FOG is an acronym for fear, obligation, and guilt, and is used to describe the emotions most commonly used by emotional manipulators to gain and keep control over others.

Out of the Fog
Out of the Fog

Author: Ph.D. Murphy, Kevin

Publisher: Hyperion

Published: 1995-05-31

Total Pages: 320

ISBN-13: 9780786880874

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Once known as "hyperactivity" and thought to occur only in children, Attention Deficit Disorder is now proving to be a serious neurobiological condition, which affects millions of adults across the country. In Out of the Fog, Dr. Kevin R. Murphy, Chief of the Adult Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Clinic at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center, and medical writer Suzanne LeVert give adult ADD patients and their families everything they need to understand and live with ADD, including practical advice on how to cope with its symptoms and current methods for treating this often debilitating condition. In this lively, accessible guide you'll also find: the latest medical information on drug therapy and other treatment breakthroughs psychological insight into the emotional fallout from ADD and how to handle it helpful tips on how to tame the "organizational devil" and improve communication skills strategies for coping with ADD in the workplace and in relationships Reassuring and authoritative, Out of the Fog is the definitive handbook no one affected by ADD should be without.

Whole Again
Whole Again

Author: Jackson MacKenzie

Publisher: Penguin

Published: 2019-01-08

Total Pages: 306

ISBN-13: 0143133314

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From a leading voice on recovering from toxic relationships, a deeply insightful guide to getting back to your "old self" again--in order to truly heal and move on. Jackson MacKenzie has helped millions of people in their struggle to understand the experience of toxic relationships. His first book, Psychopath Free, explained how to identify and survive the immediate situation. In this highly anticipated new book, he guides readers on what to do next--how to fully heal from abuse in order to find love and acceptance for the self and others. Through his close work with--and deep connection to--thousands of survivors of abusive relationships Jackson discovered that most survivors have symptoms of trauma long after the relationship is over. These range from feelings of numbness and emptiness to depression, perfectionism, substance abuse, and many more. But he’s also found that it is possible to work through these symptoms and find love on the other side, and this book shows how. Through a practice of mindfulness, introspection, and exercises using specific tools, readers learn to identify the protective self they've developed - and uncover the core self, so that they can finally move on to live a full and authentic life--to once again feel light, free, and whole, and ready to love again. This book addresses and provides crucial guidance on topics and conditions like: complex PTSD, Narcissistic abuse, Avoidant Personality Disorder, Codependency, Core wounding, toxic shame, Borderline Personality Disorder, and so many more. Whole Again offers hope and multiple strategies to anyone who has survived a toxic relationship, as well as anyone suffering the effects of a breakup involving lying, cheating and other forms of abuse--to release old wounds and safely let the love back inside where it belongs.

Insight Journal
Insight Journal

Author: Dana Morningstar

Publisher:

Published: 2018-04-23

Total Pages: 402

ISBN-13: 9780999593561

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Two questions a day. One year's worth of answers. Over 700 insights gained. Fun and insightful for all ages! *Included is also 33 mandalas along with inspirational quotes for those who enjoy coloring.* This insight journal is a fresh take on journaling, and is geared to help you cultivate self-awareness. Questions are appropriate for all ages, and are geared to help you to examine limiting beliefs and patterns, build your self-esteem, and get you thinking about your life in a new and empowering way. To start, simply flip open the journal to today's date and answer both questions in the space provided. When you are finished with all of the questions for that year, start the journal over again, doing this for a total of three years. It's a fun and insightful way to examine your thinking, patterns of behavior, as well as to keep track of notable or aha moments for each day. As you cycle through the journal, you'll be able to see how both your thoughts, feelings, and actions change over time. Some of the questions asked are: When was the last time you had your feelings hurt? What happened? How are you feeling right now, and why? What decision have you been hesitant to make, and why? In what ways are you a friend (or an enemy) to yourself? What is the last thing you learned, and how will you apply it? What are two things that you hope to achieve in the coming month, and why? When was the last time you felt stressed, and how did you handle it? If someone were to give you $10,000 today, how would you spend it, and why? What are two things you've learned about yourself lately? What is your favorite memory you've made so far this year, and why? What traits do you most appreciate about the last person you spent quality time with, and why? In addition to the rotating daily question, there is also a repeating daily question that asks, "What was a notable or aha moment from today, and why?"

Narcissistic Ex
Narcissistic Ex

Author: Lauren Kozlowski

Publisher: Escape the Narcissist

Published: 2019-06-22

Total Pages: 82

ISBN-13:

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Narcissistic abuse is a form of abuse that ensures victims are left emotionally drained, mentally exhausted, and devoid of any self-worth or self-esteem. I was a victim of a malignant narcissist for seven years of my life, and I know just how crushing it is to live such an abusive and suppressed life. The helplessness and detachment from reality that comes with narcissistic abuse are enough to keep you in the tight grip of the abuser for as long as they choose. However, I eventually found the courage to leave my abuser, but it didn't end there. As you may know, ending a relationship with a narcissist isn't that easy - even if it was the narc who did the breaking up. They don't just 'let you go' - they try to make sure you'll go through hell before you get one over on them. In this book, I want to offer you some guidance on this rarely-talked about aspect of an abusive relationship: how to deal with a narcissist when they're your ex. The chapter list is as follows: Why you shouldn't go back and why you need to move on Why you need to go 'no contact' and ways you can do this How to stop missing your abuser Understanding and dealing with 'hoovering' after a break-up Narcissistic stalking How to deal with 'flying monkeys' Survivor stories from two former narcissistic abuse victims Throughout the book, I also offer some of my own story too, in the hopes that this offers you a sense of familiarity. You'll likely find that thing things I went through are very similar to your own experiences, and the purpose of this book is to get you to the point where I'm currently at: healed and thriving.

The Object of My Affection Is in My Reflection
The Object of My Affection Is in My Reflection

Author: Rokelle Lerner

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

Published: 2010-01-01

Total Pages: 295

ISBN-13: 075739776X

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In her latest book, relationship expert Rokelle Lerner, tackles the innerworkings of narcissism and offers compassionate and realistic advice for surviving a relationship with those afflicted with this personality disorder. A Narcissist can make life exhilaratingly exciting one minute, and shear hell the next. A narcissist has no qualms about taking another's money, love, admiration, body or soul to satisfy their unquenchable hunger. They are not inherently evil, but unfortunately their wounds compel them to act in ways that are sometimes unconscionable, damaging, and ultimately tragic. Whether a mother-in-law, friend, coworker or boss, sometimes it's impossible to avoid narcissists, so instead of being miserable or taken advantage of, Rokelle Lerner shares her insights on the dynamics behind this personality disorder to give readers the tools to cope with narcissists, including: Learning to see narcissists as they see themselves Creating defense factors to ward them off Maintaining a balanced relationship based on mutual love, not one-sided narcissism

Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

Author: Don Barlow

Publisher:

Published: 2021-04

Total Pages: 196

ISBN-13:

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Break free from the lies and manipulation that are keeping you captive You're positive you saw a flirty text from another woman on your husband's phone. Yet, when you confront him, he tells you you're imagining things and being paranoid. A co-worker sarcastically mentions that you're not contributing enough to the big project. When you get offended, they say they were just joking and that you're too sensitive. Your mother constantly criticizes your weight. When you bring up her comments around other people, she denies ever saying them and says you are making up stories. Have you repeatedly found yourself in these types of situations where you end up doubting yourself? They might have occurred with different people, in different circumstances, but the way they make you feel is the same. Your feelings are trivialized, your thoughts are manipulated, and your reality is denied. When this is done to you repeatedly, you begin to feel confused or even crazy. You are left questioning your own reality and sanity. These are classic signs that you're being gaslighted, and it's something to take very seriously. Gaslighting is a covert form of abuse that affects your confidence and trust in yourself, which the abuser then takes advantage of to keep you under their control. Whether it's a spouse, parent, or co-worker, it's hard to break loose from the grip of a gaslighting manipulator. You will need to know how gaslighters operate, how their behavior is affecting you, and how you can reclaim your truth. In Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery, you will discover: The sneaky tactics gaslighters employ that catch you off-guard and make you more vulnerable to their exploitation How to hold on to your grip on reality, despite the gaslighter's efforts to undermine it Powerful ways to respond to gaslighters, block their attacks, and take back control of the conversation Why self-care is a critical component in coping with abuse, especially if you need to regularly interact with a gaslighter The shift in mindset to help you finally gain the courage to escape an abusive relationship What you need to do after leaving a gaslighting relationship to make sure you don't fall into the same cycle again Why you shouldn't expect any closure from your abuser, and why you can still move on without it How to rebuild your sense of self after years of being torn down by others And much more. Acknowledging that you're being abused is the first step towards recovery. After years of gaslighting, you may be so used to it that you no longer recognize this is not a normal way to live. You might believe that there's no way out, or you can't imagine life without the one who's manipulating you. But if you truly want to be able to live life on your own terms, cutting yourself off from the source of your pain is essential. It won't happen overnight, and it will take committed effort, but you can feel like yourself again - the person you used to be... the person you're meant to be. If you want to take back control of your life and regain your sanity and self-worth, then scroll up and click the "Add to Cart" button right now.