A first-ever how-to book to help abusive men change their behavior by changing their thinking. End the cycle of abuse - for good. Authors Charlie Donaldson, Randy Flood and Elaine Eldridge uncover a proven action plan that violent men can use to change their behavior. Filled with insightful questionnaires and actual case histories, the essential how-to book Stop Hurting the Woman You Love, will help end abusive patterns in favor of healthier, happier relationships.
“Every woman who is struggling to understand the mistreatment she is experiencing in her relationship should begin by reading [this] wonderful book.”—Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That? What do you do when the one you love hurts you? Have you been searching for answers to difficult questions about your relationship? Do you feel confused about why your partner seems loving one moment and angry the next? Summoning the courage to ask these challenging questions can seem daunting. You know something is wrong in your relationship, but you are not sure what. If you are beginning to wonder if you are experiencing abuse, this book can offer you support, information, and, most of all, hope as you look for answers. Written by two women with a wealth of experience supporting victims of abuse, When Love Hurts introduces exercises and resources to help you make sense of your relationship, addressing all forms of abuse, including verbal, emotional, financial, sexual, and physical. This practical guidebook is a supportive and nonjudgmental friend to those who don’t know where to turn and is filled with stories from women who have been in the same position. By drawing on your own wisdom and that of the many others who have shared your experience, When Love Hurts can help you find the answers you have been looking for.
Discusses "loving too much" as a pattern of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors which certain women develop as a reponse to various problems in their family backgrounds.
Making a girlfriend obey has several benefits. Training her can be a long road when your desired outcome is the perfect girl who does as she's told, who worships you with all of her love, and who would never cheat on you or think of doing anything that displeases you. Please don't think this book is a book for misogynistic male archetypes who seek only to control their universe and who have mommy issues. This book is for the 'real' man who knows his place, his girlfriend's place, and who wants the world to be playground. A true man showers his girlfriend with love when she obeys and submits to him and punishes her when she disobeys and gets out of line. There has to be law and order in every relationship. There has to be someone who is in control, who has the upper-hand, and, let me suggest, if it's not you (the man in the relationship), then it is probably her. You must learn to dominate and this means teaching her to submit. If you don't, you'll never have a truly satisfying relationship that is tighter than glue. This book is going to teach you techniques for making her obey and submit to you. It is going to provide you with a lot of sound practical advice and help you along this wonderful journey of training her to obey and submit. I want you to get excited, because a girl who obeys and does as she's told is a happy girl, one who loves you, one who truly cares about you and your happiness. This is what makes her happiest. If you have gone through a lot of relationships, had little luck with girls, then this book will be eye-opening and refreshing for you because you'll finally learn what you've been doing wrong and how to correct it. You will be correcting yourself by learning how to correct her. A girl who obeys you and who is submissive is the perfect girlfriend, isn't she (?), since a girl who doesn't is bitchy and controlling and constantly a problem for you. I welcome you. Grab Your Copy Now!
In his ground-breaking work, author Paul Kivel helps men confront the political, social, and personal forces that generate and reward misogyny, hatred, anger, and violent behavior. Sexual harassment, child abuse, incest, rape, murder, war--it's impossible today to hear a news report and not be informed of violent acts perpetrated by men. Acknowledging that there are no easy answers to the problem of male violence--particularly in a world that seems to thrive on aggression and physical force--Men's Work reaches straight to its root causes. In his ground-breaking work, author Paul Kivel helps men confront the political, social, and personal forces that generate and reward misogyny, hatred, anger, and violent behavior. Combining years of personal study and reflection with his work with men in the Oakland Men's Project, Men's Work presents an innovative and workable approach to stopping male violence. Kivel shows men how to reclaim the power and responsibility needed to unlearn the lessons of control and aggression.Paul Kivel is a nationally known expert on men's issues. Through his work at the Oakland Men's Project, he helps men confront and change violent behaviors and teaches alternatives to violence in their relationships. He also trains teachers, therapists, probation officers, and agency staff who work with men, exploring such topics as male/female relationships, alternatives to violence, family violence, and sexual assault. Kivel resides in Oakland, California.
When Michael Clark was arrested for domestic violence and his wife moved out, he saw his world falling apart. He knew this was not the person he wanted to be. He was eager to change, but didn't know how. Everything he'd tried in the past to control his behavior had fallen short.Part memoir, part how-to, From Villain to Hero is unique among domestic violence and domestic abuse books. Michael's true story provides readers rare, first-hand insight into a person's journey from being a violent and abusive partner to becoming a safe and emotionally healthy one. Along the way, he reveals the essential principles needed to stop domestic violence and abuse that he discovered on his transformative path toward healing and change.From Villain to Hero is a must read domestic violence book for men and women who are motivated to stop hurting the ones they love. And, if you've ever wondered why a person commits an act of domestic violence, or what it takes to change that behavior, this book boldly and honestly answers those questions by someone who has been there and done that.
A fully revised and updated edition to a classic bestseller, The Macho Paradox is the first book to show how violence against women is a men's issue—and how all genders can come together to stop it. From the #MeToo movement to current discussions about gender norms in schools, sports, politics, and media culture, The Macho Paradox incorporates the voices and experiences of the women, men, and others who have confronted the problem of gender violence from all angles. Bestselling author Jackson Katz is a pioneering educator and activist on the topic of men's violence against women. In this revised edition of his heralded book, Katz outlines the ways in which cultural ideas about "manhood" contribute to men's sexually harassing and abusive behaviors and that men have a positive role to play in challenging and changing the sexist cultural norms that too often lead to gender violence. This important book for abused women covers topics ranging from mental and emotional abuse to sexual harassment to domestic violence and is a vital read for women with controlling partners or as a self-help book for men. Praise for The Macho Paradox: "A candid look at the cultural factors that lend themselves to tolerance of abuse and violence against women."—Booklist "If only men would read Katz's book, it could serve as a potent form of male consciousness-raising."—Publishers Weekly "These pages will empower both men and women to end the scourge of male violence and abuse. Katz knows how to cut to the core of the issues, demonstrating undeniably that stopping the degradation of women should be every man's priority."—Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
The Choices Program: How To Stop Hurting The People Who Love You teaches partners how to put an end to verbal and physical abuse in their relationships. Drawing on many years as a clinical psychologist and director of a dedicated domestic violence counseling program, Dr. Adams provides an original and effective step-by-step program for men and women who want to stop hurting their loved ones. The Choices Program is a powerful tool for anyone struggling to end destructive behavior in their relationships. The Choices Program is currently used by individuals and couples, professional counselors, domestic violence counseling programs, and within correctional and military settings to teach the skills and concepts needed to stop hurting the people we love the most. William E. Adams, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist who has provided counseling to thousands of men and women who chose to make meaningful changes in themselves, and in their relationships with the people who love them.
In The Nectar of Pain, Zebian sheds light on the feelings and experiences that emerge from a painful heartbreak. She writes that the process of cleansing oneself of that pain—day by day, hour by hour, and second by second—is the real work of healing. With uncommon warmth and wisdom, Zebian empowers all who have lost to let go of anger and transform their suffering into the softness, sweetness, and beauty of nectar. She holds her readers by the hand as they heal.
