This helpful, incisive analysis of marriage in America discusses the false assumptions of modern marriage and how to make a marriage work. It is imperative to realize, the authors argue, that the marital relationship is an interlocked system in itself, not a function of individual partners. They offer techniques for appraising one's own marriage, discuss the use of counselors and the dangers of unilateral therapy, and outline the major elements of a satisfactory marriage.
This is a book on marriage and understanding successful marriage's love languages like Gary Chapman's book. True marriages are a blessing, but the consequences that come from a bad marriage are not experiences anyone wishes to live with as these could be cancerous to personal health, families, societies and nations. As every day realities set in, some marriages come across to the dispassionate observer as simply struggling to thrive. Some marriages may appear to be in good health but lack substance. While some fall apart along the way, most seem to be enduring marriage rather than enjoy it. Many individuals seem to be struggling to come to terms with the reality that their dreams of a blissful, peaceful, profitable and harmonious union have been eroded with the passage of time. The surprises are just incredible?There's a significant difference between a true marriage and its counterfeits. Marriage or Mirage is a book for all individuals who are ready and willing to make great marriages. A profoundly compelling book that unravels the secrets to having a marriage that works lastingly through the vicissitudes of life. It's not a book that attempts to mock challenging or failing marriages but rather a resource to help show what marriage is not. It primarily shows you how to know if there's a marriage in your house or a mirage. It reveals and addresses devastating occurrences that make illusionary mirages out of many marriages today. It also illustrates what the Originator's view of marriage is and spells out the roles assigned to each party in the marriage partnership to prevent the occurrence of mirages.A must-read! With this book, spouses in a discordant marriage are armed with the knowledge of what to do to redeem their marriages and those enduring marriage would discover how their marriages could become a delight rather than an exercise of endurance. Even those experiencing a separation are given by this work the keys to form future workable marriages. It also points out to individuals planning a divorce some truth they need to consider before saying never again! Young couples about getting married are fore-armed with the laws of union which they must continually exercise to build a lasting marriage. Above all, it will help stakeholders see how to make a marriage work such that all dreams of living happily ever after can become a reality-which is the end desired for all true marital journeys.
Marriages are in trouble today. That is clear. Effective mothods of combating this trend are less evident. Counselors, pastors and social workers need more than mere theories or mere moralizing. They need a practical and comprehensive model for understanding couples and their problems. They need a throughly Christian perspective that is biblical, compassionate and human. Everett Worthington provides this in an integrated, biblically based theory of marriage and marriage therapy with analysis at three levels: the individual, the couple and the family. The model he has constructed, with techniques drawn from the major psychological schools, is standard enough to guide counselors in actual interventions and powerful enough to produce change. A thoroughgoing overview of the assessment process includes practical, workable guidelines for: creating realistic, mutually-agreeable goals for counselor and clients; estimating the number of sessions needed to reach those goals; and planning the actual assessment, intervention and termination sessions. Next Worthington offers specific techniques for enhancing cooperative change, intimacy, communication, conflict resolution and forgiveness within the marriage. But keeping couples from slipping back into old patterns is one of the counselor's most difficult tasks. So Worthington concludes with suggestions for solidifying change and effectively concluding the counseling relationship. Here is a text that will be a standard for counselors, pastors and mental health professionals in the years to come.
When Minard Alvaro McAlister began his practice of law in the mid-fifties, his divorce work was only an occasional matter. Yet, beginning in the1960s, a rush of people from all strata of society were beginning to see divorce as less of a stigma and more of a solution. In Anatomy of Marriage, McAlister uses his lifetime of work experience to relate the process of divorce from the attorneys point of view and examines many of the reasons why marriages fail.
“Many people say you can fix a broken marriage, but Mark and Jill show you how.” —Dr. Juli Slattery, psychologist, author, and president of Authentic Intimacy No marriage is perfect. But every marriage can get better. Do you feel like the spark is gone? Like a critical spirit has invaded your marriage? Like you want more intimacy, but something is in the way? You could be suffering from the Perfection Infection. The Perfection Infection happens when we cultivate unrealistic expectations of ourselves and our spouse, gradually leading to intimacy-killing behavior, also known as the “Seven Slow Fades.” That was the case for Jill and Mark Savage, and it eventually led to infidelity. In No More Perfect Marriages they speak honestly about their struggles, how they came back from betrayal, and the principles keeping their marriage strong today. They guide you in everything you need to know to kick the Perfection Infection right out and return to intimacy. In their warm, honest, personable style, Jill and Mark discuss: How the Perfection Infection invades a marriage—even a good marriage How to detect and correct the Seven Slow Fades How to set and communicate realistic expectations What to do if your spouse just won’t change How to guard your marriage from the Perfection Infection for good Hurting marriages can heal, and good marriages can become great. It takes work, yes, but No More Perfect Marriages will give you the insights, language, and roadmap you need for the journey. So start today. GROUP RESOURCES: A leader’s guide is included in the back of the book. FREE video curriculum and additional group resources are available for No More Perfect Marriages at www.NoMorePerfect.com. _____ “[Replaces] the Hollywood mirage of a storybook romance with a healthy blueprint of a real and rock-solid relationships. If you're looking for an authentic story, practical how-to, and hope to build true and lasting love, you've found it." — Michele Cushatt, author, Undone: A Story of Making Peace With An Unexpected Life “… Will empower readers to create healthier responses when facing marital challenges… Excited [to add it] to our recommended resources for couples." — Michelle Nietert, licensed counselor “Vulnerable, honest, and helpful… If you want to improve, save, restore, or renew your marriage, read this book.” — Mike Baker, sr. pastor, Eastview Christian Church, Normal, Illinois “Encouraging and very practical!” — Shaunti Feldhahn, social researcher and bestselling author of For Women Only and For Men Only
