Girl Behind the Fence: Codependency

Girl Behind the Fence: Codependency

Author: Mozelle Martin, Ph.D.

Publisher: Mozelle Martin Press

Published: 2019-07-07

Total Pages: 82

ISBN-13:

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

Per Mental Health America, over 40 million Americans, mostly women, have actually been diagnosed or labeled as "codependent". In fact, a study using the Beck Depression Inventory and the Codependency Assessment Tool, revealed that 14.4 million (36%) of these Americans were also undergoing simultaneous treatment for depression. The study found that the more they answered "yes" to questions like those below, the more impaired they were by their codependency, and the more severe their depression. The next factors measured in this study were that of self-worth and authenticity. It was found that the lower their self-worth, the more they alienated themselves, the less self-awareness they had, and the more severe their depression was. As a natural continuance, the more severe the depression, the less independent they were, and therefore, the more codependent and debilitating their symptoms were. As you can see, it's truly a vicious circle. ​ Codependent relationships can be between friends, romantic partners, or family members and often, the relationship includes emotional, verbal, or physical abuse. Friends and family members of a codependent person often recognize that something is wrong but will often not try to help because they would lose their "benefits" should the codependent person become healthy. Like any mental or emotional health issue, treatment requires time and effort, and a strong (but non-enabling and non-codependent) support system, including this book. ​ The bad news is that the severity of codependency increases when the symptoms go ignored. The good news is that with the right help you can regain control of your life, set and maintain health boundaries, seek-out your authentic and independent self, reach goals, practice your passions, reclaim your career, and much more. That is why this book exists.


Girl Behind the Fence: Depression

Girl Behind the Fence: Depression

Author: Mozelle Martin, Ph.D.

Publisher: Mozelle Martin Press

Published: 2019-10-27

Total Pages: 125

ISBN-13:

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

You no longer have to beone of over 300 million people struggling with depression. Depression affects over 18 million adults in the United States alone, and over 300 million worldwide. Yet many people are too embarrassed to seek help, tell themselves they are over-reacting, or don't know that depression is considered a serious medical disorder of the brain. In fact, under the umbrella of depression there are also other diagnoses such as: bipolar disorder, postpartum depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder. The National Institute of Mental Health shared these shocking statistics: Because of depression, workers miss a combined total of 490 million work days per year which causes a combined annual economic loss for businesses of over $100 billion. Bipolar Disorder affects 6.3 million people in the United States alone. Depression is the leading cause of suicide - with one person dying by suicide every 13 minutes. Postpartum Depression affects 15% of new mothers within a month of delivering their baby. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)affects 8 million adults each year. Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death with an average of 1,400,000 suicide attempts each year which is an average of 3,600 people attempting to end their life each day. The World Health Organization (WHO) rates severe depression in the same disability category as terminal cancer, stating that depression is the # 1 cause of disability for ages 15 - 44. While it's important to understand that everybody feels down at times, if your "down days" interrupt yourself-care, relationships, or career, you are likely depressed. The more you answer "yes" to the included questionnaire, the more likely you could be clinically diagnosed with depression. Therefore, inside of this book are the stories of women from around the world who have struggled with depression, just like you. Their personal stories, tips, and tools may be just what you need to help conquer the "down days".


Codependency, One Girl's Story

Codependency, One Girl's Story

Author: Lori Klauser

Publisher: iUniverse

Published: 2010-04-27

Total Pages: 108

ISBN-13: 1450216900

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

From 1996-2004 Lori lived with her boyfriend who had a substance abuse problem. This is a detailed description of what Lori lived through all those years and how she finally found the strength to move on.


Codependency For Dummies

Codependency For Dummies

Author: Darlene Lancer

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons

Published: 2015-02-23

Total Pages: 375

ISBN-13: 1118982088

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

Your trusted guide to value yourself and break the patterns of codependency Codependency For Dummies, 2nd Edition is the most comprehensive book on the topic to date. Written in plain English and packed with sensitive, authoritative information, it describes the history, symptoms, causes, and relationship dynamics of codependency. The majority of the book is devoted to healing and lays out a clear plan for recovery with exercises, practical advice, and daily reminders to help you know, honor, protect, and express yourself. New to this edition are chapters on working the Twelve Steps to recover from codependency and how therapists/coaches/nurses are affected by codependency. Codependence is primarily a learned behavior from our family of origin. Some cultures have it to a greater degree than others—some still see it as a normal way of living. Yet the costs of codependence can include distrust, faulty expectations, passive-aggressiveness, control, self-neglect, over-focus on others, manipulation, intimacy issues, and a slew of other harmful traits. Codependence causes serious pain and affects the majority of Americans—not just women and loved ones of addicts. Codependency For Dummies, 2nd Edition offers authoritative and trusted guidance on ways to raise your self-esteem, detach and let go, set boundaries, recognize healthy vs. dysfunctional relationships, overcome guilt and resentment, and much more. Helps you break the pattern of conduct that keeps you in harmful relationships Provides trusted guidance to create healthy boundaries, coping skills, and expectations Offers advice for eliminating feelings of guilt, blame, and feeling overly responsible Explains the difference between care-giving and codependent care-taking If you're trapped in the cycle of codependency and looking for help, Codependency For Dummies, 2nd Edition offers trusted advice and a clear plan for recovery.


A Fresh Cup of Counseling

A Fresh Cup of Counseling

Author: Thomas L. Norris

Publisher: Wipf and Stock Publishers

Published: 2021-11-12

Total Pages: 357

ISBN-13: 1666711551

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

Today's counseling clients want more than traditional therapy. They want something new, bold, and effective, and A Fresh Cup of Counseling serves just that. While the power of clinical applications in spiritual counseling has long been discussed by field experts, little has been written about the subject--until now. Packed with theoretical and practical knowledge about this power, the book offers a breakthrough guide to spiritual counseling with ideas, training, and real-life case studies for students and professionals alike. Written by Rev. Dr. Tom Norris--a spiritual counselor and Universalist minister with fifty years of experience in social work, psychotherapy, group therapy, marriage and family therapy, and hypnotherapy--this book is a treasure trove of contemporary clinical and scientific knowledge, starting from a purely psychosocial and psychological perspective and diving into the evolution of the spiritual therapeutic discipline. In the process, it pulls from Buddhist, Judeo-Christian, Native American, Islamic, Yin Yang, Neopagan, Shamanic, Hindu, and other religions, using their practices and ideals (from past lives and chakra balancing to meditation and Ultraterrestrials) to demonstrate the power of spirituality in the holistic healing process. The result? A dynamic psycho-spiritual expedition that helps counselors and their clients unleash positive, lasting transformation.


Many Brave Fools

Many Brave Fools

Author: Susan E. Conley

Publisher: Trafalgar Square Books

Published: 2019-04-05

Total Pages: 227

ISBN-13: 1570769265

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

A moving memoir of a courageous codependent woman who found hope and healing on the back of a horse. Codependency, a compulsive behavior sometimes known as “relationship addiction,” is often characterized by a dysfunctional, one-sided relationship that is emotionally destructive―even abusive. For years Susan Conley found herself trapped, married to an addict whose health, welfare, and safety she valued far above her own. Over time, Conley watched as she lost contact with her own needs, desires, and sense of self. But then at forty-two, after yet another crisis came to an anticlimactic resolution that left nothing healed and little to hope for, she decided, having never so much as touched a horse, to take up riding. Here, with humor and honesty, Conley chronicles her experiences, sharing how her pledge to rediscover herself following her divorce was aided, abetted, and challenged by the horses in her life. “They were as large a part of my recovery as were any of the self-help books I read, personal development workshops I did, and 12-step meetings I attended,” she writes. “The struggle to heal the wounds of a dysfunctional marriage was actually made easier via the real wounds received from horseback riding.” Many Brave Fools explores the ways in which horses enriched Conley’s life, and how the process of making herself into a rider also helped her become the person she most wanted to be: not the “ex-wife of an addict,” but a responsive, confident, even courageous woman, entering the prime of her life.


We Have Always Lived in the Castle

We Have Always Lived in the Castle

Author: Shirley Jackson

Publisher:

Published: 1962

Total Pages: 188

ISBN-13:

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

We Have Always Lived in the Castle is a deliciously unsettling novel about a perverse, isolated, and possibly murderous family and the struggle that ensues when a cousin arrives at their estate.


Same Dress, Different Day

Same Dress, Different Day

Author: Juliet Van Heerden

Publisher:

Published: 2015-06-23

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9781942923060

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

People affected by a loved one's addiction suffer silently in church pews. I was one of them. I'm Juliet. Sometimes I wish I could be someone else, with another name altogether, someone whose life is more comedy than tragedy. During the twelve years I was married to a cocaine-addicted Christian, I was overwhelmed with isolation and shame as I sat next to my ex-husband in church week after week. No one fathomed our family skeletons. How could I tell anyone? God stirred my spirit to seek personal healing and give voice to my reality. Through Him, I found freedom from silence and redemption for the life dreams I thought were forever lost. Same Dress, Different Day: A Spiritual Memoir of Addiction and Redemption chronicles my journey from victim to victor as I struggled to break free from codependency's suffocating cycle. I learned to see my Savior as the soul mate and provider my chemically dependent spouse could never be. God's healing grace is not only for the addicted, but also for the broken ones who love them.


The Christian Codependence Recovery Workbook

The Christian Codependence Recovery Workbook

Author: Stephanie Tucker

Publisher:

Published: 2012-09-01

Total Pages: 228

ISBN-13: 9781936451050

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

This second revised version offers a group leader's manual updated material. The Christian Codependence Recovery Workbook: From Surviving to Significance takes you through a truth-finding journey to reveal your system of love, life and relationships. It practically addresses the manifest behaviors, emotions and needs of the codependent, while simultaneously introducing the precious truths of God's love. This workbook doesn't just diagnose the problem, but offers the healing principles of the Lord Jesus Christ in a fresh and profound way. When applied, you will have the opportunity to walk in freedom and grace, rather than bondage and control. Above all, this journey allows you to find freedom, purpose and identity in Christ. This book is written for anyone who wants to grow closer to the Lord, and to embrace healthy and whole relationships.


Families Shamed

Families Shamed

Author: Rachel Condry

Publisher: Routledge

Published: 2013-01-10

Total Pages: 241

ISBN-13: 1134013027

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

This book examines the experiences of relatives of those accused or convicted of serious crimes such as murder, manslaughter, rape and sex offences. A broader literature exists on prisoners' families, but few studies have looked specifically at those related to serious offenders, or considered their experience other than as prison visitors. Many of the difficulties faced by 'mundane' prisoners' families are magnified for the relatives of serious offenders, first by the length of sentence, and secondly by the seriousness and stigmatizing impact through association of the offence itself. Families Shamed draws upon intense qualitative research which combines long, searching interviews with the relatives of serious offenders with ethnographic fieldwork over a period of several years. The book focuses on how relatives made sense of their experiences, individually and collectively: how they described the difficulties they faced; whether they were blamed and shamed and in what manner; how they understood the offence and the circumstances which had brought it about; and how they dealt with the contradiction inherent in supporting someone and yet not condoning his or her actions. This is the first book to tell the story of serious offenders' families, the difficulties they face, and their attempts to overcome them. At the same time a focus on offenders' families also draws our attention to the ways in which women are affected by crime, illuminating the broader effects of crime and the criminal justice process on the proportionately greater number of women involved. It contributes also to wider debates about the social organization of the meanings of crime, and questions the tenability of some core policy assumptions about offenders and their families; the relationship between the state and the family, and its bearing especially on expectations about family responsibilities.