An extramarital affair is, according to Dr. Herbert Stream, a form of neurotic behavior that reflects the person's unresolved chlidhood conflicts and present level of maturity. Using numerous case histories that provide excellent illustrations, he describes conflicted marriages and the expectations, dissapointments, and frustrations of those who use affairs as a means of escape. Issues such as mate choice, types of marriages, spouses' reactions, and unconsious compliance add depth and complexity to this important and often provocative subject.
There is hope for recovery from the devastation of extramarital affairs. In "Torn Asunder," Carder provides an overall recovery process from sexual and non-sexual affairs.
ExtraMarital Affair: A Dangerous Game Many people Play provides information on real-life experiences among married persons, including those having affairs, leaders preying on children, adults having steamy sexual affairs in the church, and those using witchcraft to find or rob persons of their spouses. This book also gives thorough insights on the counselor, the counseling process, and legal issues to be considered when practicing extramarital affairs. This book is entertaining and informative while dealing with a very important issue that should never be taken lightly. The book encompasses some dramatic scenes narrated in story-telling format of actual events among married persons carrying out this practice. Another section compiles data from the Internet that is presented to reveal crucial issues especially in relation to sexual abuse of children. The author also shares information garnered over years of activities that happened within circles he has been in. The stories are supported with discussions, looking at the cultural issues, theological reflection and counseling implications of an extramarital affair. Based on the clear and informative approach used throughout the book, readers will find themselves being able to relate to the various sections of the book quite easily. This book is great for persons within the church who are ready to WIN in their marriage and family life. In addition, whether you are married, aspiring to marry, a counseling student or a person preparing for ministry...this book is a must-have given the pertinent information it contains.
Marital and family therapist Moultrup unravels the meanings and functions of infidelity to reveal the complex roots of extramarital affairs and their ramifications for both the marital relationship and therapy. Beginning with family systems theory, he branches out to encompass individual psychodynamics and behavior therapy in fashioning an integrative, multisystem model of assessment and treatment. No bibliography. Annotation copyrighted by Book News, Inc., Portland, OR
Riveting vignettes show the inner and outer lives of women engaged in extramarital affairs. In spotlighting the many influences that spur women to cheat—from marital discord, childhood histories and sociopolitical history to pop and postmodern culture—Dr. Praver neither condemns nor condones such affairs. Instead, she aims to help wives and husbands question their own desires and actions, recognize their own roles in marital problems, and become inspired to find creative solutions. This work is an intimate and comprehensive examination of wives' desires for extramarital affairs. It includes vignettes from younger and older wives, as well as working, stay-at-home and remarried wives, from those with and without children, and from those who turn to same-sex affairs. The authoritative and scholary underpinnings are presented in a reader-friendly style that will appeal to all women, as well as to clinicians and academics. Readers who are involved in or considering extramarital affairs will feel supported, validated, and inspired to enter into a dialogue for change. This book and its vivid case studies, filled with dialogue that allows readers a front-row seat in the therapy room, inspire one to listen and learn without harsh perjorative judgments. While the issues here are profound, the book is always evocative and enjoyable.
A funny, raucous, and delightfully dirty history of 1,000 years of bedroom-hopping secrets and scandals of Britain's royals. Insatiable kings, lecherous queens, kissing cousins, and wanton consorts-history has never been so much fun. Royal unions have always been the stuff of scintillating gossip, from the passionate Plantagenets to Henry VIII's alarming head count of wives and mistresses, to the Sapphic crushes of Mary and Anne Stuart right on up through the scandal-blighted coupling of Prince Charles and Princess Diana. Thrown into loveless, arranged marriages for political and economic gain, many royals were driven to indulge their pleasures outside the marital bed, engaging in delicious flirtations, lurid love letters, and rampant sex with voluptuous and willing partners. This nearly pathological lust made for some of the most titillating scandals in Great Britain's history. Hardly harmless, these affairs have disrupted dynastic alliances, endangered lives, and most of all, fed the salacious curiosity of the public for centuries. Royal Affairs will satiate that curiosity by bringing this arousing history alive.
When it comes to adultery, never say, “It won’t happen to me.” Just when you think your marriage is safe from adultery is when you may be the most vulnerable. With eye-opening stories, clinical insights, and up-to-date data, Dave Carder reveals what adulterers learned the hard way—and what they want the rest of us to know to save us the pain. Dave Carder, counselor and author of the bestselling Torn Asunder (100,000 in print), is a sought-after expert on issues of adultery. Here he helps you make your marriage adultery-proof by showing you: How attractions can lead to affairs Ways you may be vulnerable to affairs The common ingredients of adultery How to restore intimacy to your marriage How to make wise, protective decisions Marriage is too sacred to be taken casually. Affairs are a very real threat, and they can destroy lives and families. For this reason, Anatomy of an Affair should be on every church leader’s and marriage counselor’s required reading list, and in the home of every married couple. Includes charts and assessments to understand and guard against affairs. This book is the revised edition of Close Calls (2008)
"A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”
"Causes and Consequences of Extra-Marital Affairs" delves into the intricate web of infidelity, examining the reasons behind these clandestine liaisons and their far-reaching impact. From exploring the emotional and physical temptations facilitated by technology to dissecting the psychological motives that drive individuals to seek solace outside their marriages, this book provides a comprehensive understanding of the complex world of extramarital affairs. With insights into the devastating effects on both the cheating spouse and the betrayed partner, it delves into the profound consequences on marriages, families, and social networks. As it navigates the path of healing and prevention, this book offers a vision for forging stronger, more resilient relationships. Through expert guidance, it unravels the secrets, lessons, and pathways towards a future marked by trust, communication, and healthier bonds.
Exploring the Dimensions of Human Sexuality, Fourth Edition addresses all aspects of sexuality—biological, spiritual, psychological, and sociocultural—and presents the information both factually and impartially.Throughout the text, students will find an emphasis on health and well-being based on the assumption that we are all sexual beings and that sexuality should be viewed in its totality. Students are encouraged to explore the varied dimensions of human sexuality and see how each affects their own personal sexuality, sexual health, and sexual responsibility.
