From best-selling relationship expert comes a common-sense guide to help you and your partner increase your emotional intelligence, teaching you practical ways to express your feelings and strengthen your relationship. What makes a relationship healthy? Most men and women will respond that it's good communication to be able to openly express their own thoughts and feelings, and to better understand their partner's. Emotional Intelligence for Couples explains basic principles of emotional intelligence to equip you with common-sense ways to express your feelings, allowing you to enjoy greater intimacy, clearer communication, and a deeper connection than you have ever known. Discover answers to questions like: What actions and behaviors will make our relationship healthier? How can we practice healthy arguing and recognize healthy anger? How can we prevent our criticism, manipulation, and blame games? Why do I need personal boundaries?
Do you feel that you and your partner have lost your spark, are growing apart, or just don't communicate well? If any of this sounds familiar, then keep reading. Maybe you haven't had the courage to bring up these issues with your partner, and have been holding things in even though you know your relationship has problem areas. Perhaps you've heard dating advice that made you think the following: "I think we should schedule a date night." "Let's focus on our intimacy." "I think we should talk more." But the problem is, those kinds of solutions don't work on their own, because they're addressing symptoms of a struggling relationship, but not causes. Improving your emotional intelligence will give you the ability to identify the causes of your relationship problems--whether they're yours, your partners, or a combination--and to address the causes of those problems, instead of just the symptoms. All successful relationships are built on a strong core of emotional intelligence. This book will not only teach you how to build up and use that core of emotional intelligence, it will teach you how to apply it to your relationship and improve it in ways that make it more enjoyable, longer lasting, and easier to manage. Build up your emotional intelligence skills from the bottom up--ensuring you have the strong, well-rounded emotional skills needed to address any and all issues that may arise in your relationship. This is the most efficient and effective way of improving your relationships. Without it, you may continue your old habits that are causing your relationships to fail--wasting time and emotional currency with your partner looking for solutions to problems you don't fully understand. In this book, you will learn how to: Resolve conflict in emotionally charged situations Earn and receive trust Communicate better with your partner, even if they are the type that "shuts down" or is otherwise difficult to communicate with Have the courage to have difficult conversations with ease and calmness Not let relationship problems build up and fester Develop and express empathy for your partner Control your emotions in heated arguments See how other people see and interpret your behavior Increase your own self-awareness and work on you in order to bring a better "you" into your relationship Solve challenging relationship problems through practice exercises Carry over these emotional intelligence skills into every type of relationship in your life Whether married, dating, or single, this book will give you a true understanding of what emotional intelligence is, and how you can use it to strengthen your current and future relationships. Emotional intelligence is no "pop-psychology" fad. As an established scientific concept supported by over 60 years of research, it will be explained in this book in a way that's practical and easy to grasp. You can increase your EI, which you can then use to improve the relationships in your life. All you need are the strategies, tips, and habits offered in this book. Scroll up, and click "buy now" to get this book!
Intelligence That Comes from the Heart Every parent knows the importance of equipping children with the intellectual skills they need to succeed in school and life. But children also need to master their emotions. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child is a guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world. And as acclaimed psychologist and researcher John Gottman shows, once they master this important life skill, emotionally intelligent children will enjoy increased self-confidence, greater physical health, better performance in school, and healthier social relationships. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will equip parents with a five-step "emotion coaching" process that teaches how to: * Be aware of a child's emotions * Recognize emotional expression as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching * Listen empathetically and validate a child's feelings * Label emotions in words a child can understand * Help a child come up with an appropriate way to solve a problem or deal with an upsetting issue or situation Written for parents of children of all ages, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will enrich the bonds between parent and child and contribute immeasurably to the development of a generation of emotionally healthy adults.
#1 BESTSELLER • The groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be smart, with a new introduction by the author “A thoughtfully written, persuasive account explaining emotional intelligence and why it can be crucial.”—USA Today Everyone knows that high IQ is no guarantee of success, happiness, or virtue, but until Emotional Intelligence, we could only guess why. Daniel Goleman's brilliant report from the frontiers of psychology and neuroscience offers startling new insight into our “two minds”—the rational and the emotional—and how they together shape our destiny. Drawing on groundbreaking brain and behavioral research, Goleman shows the factors at work when people of high IQ flounder and those of modest IQ do surprisingly well. These factors, which include self-awareness, self-discipline, and empathy, add up to a different way of being smart—and they aren’t fixed at birth. Although shaped by childhood experiences, emotional intelligence can be nurtured and strengthened throughout our adulthood—with immediate benefits to our health, our relationships, and our work. The twenty-fifth-anniversary edition of Emotional Intelligence could not come at a better time—we spend so much of our time online, more and more jobs are becoming automated and digitized, and our children are picking up new technology faster than we ever imagined. With a new introduction from the author, the twenty-fifth-anniversary edition prepares readers, now more than ever, to reach their fullest potential and stand out from the pack with the help of EI.
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Over a million copies sold! “An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent—and long-lasting—marriage.”—Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman’s unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.
Grow up. Be a man. We've all heard that before, and we often get defensive when we hear it. And as modern men we often live our lives on the defensive - struggling in relationships, on the job and often feeling alone to figure it out ourselves. In the pages of this book, Owen Marcus leads us along an enlightening path toward the authentic self, one that embraces and respects gender and masculinity. Marcus reveals that men aren't immature or broken; they just need clarity, purpose, connection and the support of other men. Grow Up takes you through 9 stages of growing up where you will discover: Why professional success alone does not fulfill What may be missing and how to find it How we inadvertently self-sabotage and how to stop How to honor and attract women as your authentic self How to earn and maintain the respect of your peers How understanding your own Masculine Emotional Intelligence will lead you to a happier, more fulfilling life Owen Marcus has spent years studying and developing effective learning systems for men. Grow Up is the first time the lessons of his group trainings, lectures, seminars, and personal experience have been compiled into a single manuscript. Grow Up is not a "self-help book"; it's a playbook on how to live your own life. Imagine a life where you can dream, love, create and live in the moment with an ease you never thought possible. Take this book home, and watch the unfolding of the remarkable man in you.
Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John Gottman's many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage. Maintain a love map. Foster fondness and admiration. Turn toward instead of away. Accept influence. Solve solvable conflicts. Cope with conflicts you can't resolve. Create shared meaning. Dr. Gottman's unique questionnaires and exercises will guide couples on the road to revitalizing their marriage, or making a strong one even better.
As emotional intelligence is the key to success in life generally and in business, it is also a critical ingredient to the successful relationship. This book presents a program to help couples and individuals develop their EQ so that they will be more successful in relationships. The book is mostly intended for people in committed relationships, but will also help singles.
You hear and read a lot about ways to improve your relationship. But if you've tried these without much success, you're not alone. Many highly reactive couples—pairs that are quick to argue, anger, and blame—need more than just the run-of-the-mill relationship advice to solve their problems in love. When destructive emotions are at the heart of problems in your relationship, no amount of effective communication or intimacy building will fix what ails it. If you're part of a "high-conflict" couple, you need to get control of your emotions first, to stop making things worse, and only then work on building a better relationship. The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you'll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights. Other approaches will help you disclose your fears, longings, and other vulnerabilities to your partner and validate his or her experiences in return. You'll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most. This book has been awarded The Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Seal of Merit — an award bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.
Since the release of the very successful first edition in 2001, the field of emotional intelligence has grown in sophistication and importance. Many new and talented researchers have come into the field and techniques in EI measurement have dramatically increased so that we now know much more about the distinctiveness and utility of the different EI measures. There has also been a dramatic upswing in research that looks at how to teach EI in schools, organizations, and families. In this second edition, leaders in the field present the most up-to-date research on the assessment and use of the emotional intelligence construct. Importantly, this edition expands on the previous by providing greater coverage of emotional intelligence interventions. As with the first edition, this second edition is both scientifically rigorous, yet highly readable and accessible to a non-specialist audience. It will therefore be of value to researchers and practitioners in many disciplines beyond social psychology, including areas of basic research, cognition and emotion, organizational selection, organizational training, education, clinical psychology, and development psychology.
