Based on original research from nearly 1,600 women from the kink community, this book takes you on a journey into the motivations, meanings, and benefits of kink, in these women’s own words. Women and Kink presents a diverse range of personal and intimate stories about life, love, relationships, kink, sex, self-discovery, growth, resilience, community, and more. The book offers insight into the breadth of the kink community, with chapters discussing different aspects of kink and forms of engagement, both individually and within relationships. Filled throughout with personal vignettes and examples, the authors provide commentary, reflection questions, and thought-provoking considerations to readers who are looking to explore a new area of their life. By exploring personal stories of love, alternative sexualities, and reasons for participating in the "unconventional," the book supports and empowers each reader to build a relationship and life that best suits their needs. It is also an illuminating resource for sex therapists, counselors, and other mental health professionals interested in developing a kink-affirmative practice.
Winner of the MLA's 2016 Alan Bray Prize for Best Book in GLBTQ Studies How BDSM can be used as a metaphor for black female sexuality. The Color of Kink explores black women's representations and performances within American pornography and BDSM (bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism) from the 1930s to the present, revealing the ways in which they illustrate a complex and contradictory negotiation of pain, pleasure, and power for black women. Based on personal interviews conducted with pornography performers, producers, and professional dominatrices, visual and textual analysis, and extensive archival research, Ariane Cruz reveals BDSM and pornography as critical sites from which to rethink the formative links between Black female sexuality and violence. She explores how violence becomes not just a vehicle of pleasure but also a mode of accessing and contesting power. Drawing on feminist and queer theory, critical race theory, and media studies, Cruz argues that BDSM is a productive space from which to consider the complexity and diverseness of black women's sexual practice and the mutability of black female sexuality. Illuminating the cross-pollination of black sexuality and BDSM, The Color of Kink makes a unique contribution to the growing scholarship on racialized sexuality.
A New York Times Notable Book Kink is a groundbreaking anthology of literary short fiction exploring love and desire, BDSM, and interests across the sexual spectrum, edited by lauded writers R.O. Kwon and Garth Greenwell, and featuring a roster of all-star contributors including Alexander Chee, Roxane Gay, Carmen Maria Machado, and more. A Most-Anticipated book of 2021 as selected by * Marie Claire * O, The Oprah Magazine * Cosmopolitan * Time * The Millions * The Advocate * Autostraddle * Refinery29 * Shape * Town & Country * Book Riot * Literary Hub * Kink is a dynamic anthology of literary fiction that opens an imaginative door into the world of desire. The stories within this collection portray love, desire, BDSM, and sexual kinks in all their glory with a bold new vision. The collection includes works by renowned fiction writers such as Callum Angus, Alexander Chee, Vanessa Clark, Melissa Febos, Kim Fu, Roxane Gay, Cara Hoffman, Zeyn Joukhadar, Chris Kraus, Carmen Maria Machado, Peter Mountford, Larissa Pham, and Brandon Taylor, with Garth Greenwell and R.O. Kwon as editors. The stories within explore bondage, power-play, and submissive-dominant relationships; we are taken to private estates, therapists’ offices, underground sex clubs, and even a sex theater in early-20th century Paris. While there are whips and chains, sure, the true power of these stories lies in their beautiful, moving dispatches from across the sexual spectrum of interest and desires, as portrayed by some of today’s most exciting writers.
Drawing on a number of traditions, the authors shows us how to constructively use spells -- for protection and for reversing negative magical work -- and provides instruction for working with water, baths, incense, oils, herbs, as well as with spoken and written spells. By the author of the popular SPIRITUAL CLEANSING.
An approachable, shame free, introduction to kink and BDSM from Mentor and Coach, Mona Darling modeled after the activity books you loved as a kid. Solid advice on bringing kink and BDSM into your life mixed with puzzles, mazes, color pages and word finds.
Highly acclaimed Decoding Your Kink - Guide to Explore Share and Enjoy Your Wildest Sexual Desires, gets rave reviews! "Visionary...Masterful...Groundbreaking...Cutting Edge...Worth its Weight in Diamonds ... Highly Recommended...A Must Read" These are some of the exclamations from prominent sex positive psychologists, therapists and Kink sex educators who offered pre-publication reviews of Decoding Your Kink. Decoding Your Kink, by leading Fetish Sex educator, researcher and sex-positive therapist Galen Fous MTP, offers ground-breaking psychological insight into the emerging global renaissance of sexual exploration, orientation and identity particularly in the realm of Kink. The book includes extensive guidelines to embrace one's authentic sexuality, decode an array of Kink fantasies, and access the ecstatic sexual depths inherent in anyone's wildest sexual desires. Techniques are offered to negotiate honestly for what one desires, create profound trust between partners, and begin to resolve old shame, trauma and fear about one's authentic sexuality. Decoding Your Kink provides easy to follow practices for individuals and partners to safely share their deepest intimacies. Once trust is built, partners may access mind shattering orgasmic states offered by conscious expression of their most taboo Kinky yearnings. Also included in the book are revealing and provocative analysis of people's kinkiest fantasies gleaned from over 2000 participants in the innovative Discover Your Personal Erotic Myth Survey. Fous developed this anonymous 40-question survey in support of his research into the nature of a recently visible sexual identity he defines as Fetishsexuality, aka Kink. "This book conveys what I have learned about Conscious Kink and D/s-BDSM sexuality over the last 15 years as a Fetish-positive therapist, researcher and public advocate for sex-positive values. It includes reporting and case studies from the 100's of singles and couples I've supported who desired to come to terms with old experiences of shame, fear and trauma, and understand how to embody their edgiest sexual fantasies. I share hard earned insights from my personal journey into the Kink lifestyle as well." Galen Fous MTP "Galen Fous is a visionary, providing a clear and courageous roadmap for anyone looking to undo the shackles of societally induced sexual shame and go on a journey to discover his or her own Personal Erotic Myth." - Dr. Michael Aaron, NYC sex therapist. "Galen Fous smooths the path and leads you through the predicaments, pleasures, enticements and outrageous glories of Kink. His genuine, unique voice is outstanding and heartwarming. A must read!" Limor Blockman, PhD, Clinical Sex Therapist, Playboy Radio Host, www.DrLimor.com "Nobody struggles more with the feeling that their erotic desires are 'wrong' or 'broken' than the man or woman who otherwise fits easily into mainstream culture - the heterosexual man and woman into dominance and submission and BDSM. 'Decoding Your Kink' is worth its weight in diamonds to such strugglers, offering them a sensible and nurturing path to self-knowledge, self-acceptance and the erotic intensity we all crave and too few ever obtain." - Janet W. Hardy, coauthor, The Ethical Slut, The New Bottoming Book and more "Galen Fous' unique insights on a subject much maligned and misunderstood is a primer for individuals interested in exploring the world of kink. It provides guidelines, case studies and personal experiences to assist the reader in shedding their shame and discovering their authentic sexuality." - Susana Mayer, Ph.D., Clinical Sexologist, theEroticliterarysalon.com
Get ready to go deep with these delightful and delicious short shorts from top BDSM eroticist Alison Tyler. Every kind of bondage is fully explored in this fun and romantic romp of kinky confections. Playful inspirational and filled with surprises The Big Book of Kink is a supremely pleasurable read. One of the most prolific editors and writers of erotic fiction today Alison Tyler has assembled powerfully seductive stories of women and men in the throes of pleasurable restraint intricately secured by ropes locked in handcuffs or bound simply by a lover's command. From start to finish this solid collection of BDSM stories earns its kinky merit badge for its explicit erotic tales of pleasure and pain.
When the mildly kink-themed trilogy 50 Shades of Grey became popular reading in 2012, the media speculated that feminism was in reverse, as the public went mad over bondage and discipline, domination and submission and sadomasochism (BDSM). The novels provoked academic debate about BDSM and the issues it raises for feminists. Is the female dominant truly powerful or is she just another objectified body? Does lesbian BDSM avoid the problematic nature of heterosexual kink, or is it actually more subject to the "male gaze" of feminist theory? And what is it about kink that has creators of pop culture--from Anne Rice to the producers of Scrubs--using it to attract audiences? Examining the tropes of kink in books, TV shows, film and the music industry, this work addresses these and other questions that depictions of BDSM raise for the feminist audience. The author interweaves her own research and experiences in the BDSM scene with the subculture's portrayal in the media. Instructors considering this book for use in a course may request an examination copy here.
While the world of kink and BDSM is far from new, the language we use to discuss it is constantly evolving and growing while we gain a better understanding of ourselves and the world around us. What was once a binary system with assumed roles based on gender, we now have fluidity and questions before assumption, or at least we're doing what we can to help that shift so that all consenting adults are included rather than shamed or outcast because they don't fit the mold. This dictionary, the "Kinktionary," is created with this positive growth in mind. A dictionary that updates our old definitions while also providing space for new words and phrases as you come across them. Every section has designated space so you can continue to update definitions as they change, add new words that may be added to our lexicon, and watch your dictionary grow along with you. Newbies fear not, with over 400 words and phrases contained in "Kinktionary" you're sure to start with a solid foundation for your kink journey. Already an experienced kinkster? Keep "Kinktionary" on hand for quick reference material and add to it to your heart's content. So, get out your favorite pens, start clipping images of your favorite gear or inspiration for play you love, this isn't your standard school dictionary; in this book you're encouraged to write, draw, scribble, and make it your own!
Kinky Sex Tips For Curious Girls provides a fun, shame-free introduction to kink and BDSM, modeled after the activity books you loved as a kid. It mixes solid advice about kink and BDSM with puzzles, games, and coloring pages. Each chapter is based on the most commonly asked questions Natasha is asked when coaching women who are new to exploring kink and BDSM. In addition to the kinky activity and color pages, there is a template for a modern day slave contract (yes, including options for people with real life obligations like work and kids) as well as pair of negotiation forms similar to the one Natasha uses when taking in new clients. Whether you are just trying to spice things up a little - or dive in deep - this book will help you understand yourself and your partner - while providing hours of entertainment!Natasha Strange has been a professional dominatrix since 1995, specializing in creative sadistic escapism. Offering sessions in a wide variety of disciplines, she has cultivated a deep understanding of what draws people to kink. Miss Strange loves deep and longer term relationships with submissives above all, so she can truly invade their brain and bring their kinks to life. She believes that most people who indulge in kink and BDSM are searching to fulfill emotional needs. As a dominant she uses those emotional goals as a guide when addressing physical desires.She is well known for her love of sissification and emasculation, and loves to transform macho men into her sissified playthings. Few things bring her more joy then spanking, caning or whipping a pantied masculine ass. When not tormenting her adoring submissives, she is a BDSM coach and and kink educator helping destigmatize non-standard sexual desires. As the co-owner of Sub Rosa, a fully equipped boutique fetish space located in Portland Oregon, she and her business partner, Mistress Viola Parker, strive to create an inviting space for others to learn and practice safe, sane, consensual kink and BDSM.You can read more about her at www.KittenWithAWhip.com and about her fetish space, Sub Rosa at www.SubRosaPDX.com.
