The Profession of Widowhood

The Profession of Widowhood

Author: Katherine Clark Walter

Publisher: Catholic University of America Press

Published: 2018-09-21

Total Pages: 447

ISBN-13: 0813230195

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The Profession of Widowhood explores how the idea of ‘true’ widowhood was central to pre-modern ideas concerning marriage and of female identity more generally. The medieval figure of the Christian vere vidua or “good” widow evolved from and reinforced ancient social and religious sensibilities of chastity, loyalty and grief as gendered ‘work.’ The ideal widow was a virtuous woman who mourned her dead husband in chastity, solitude, and most importantly, in perpetuity, marking her as “a widow indeed” (1 Tim 5:5). The widow who failed to display adequate grief fulfilled the stereotype of the ‘merry widow’ who forgot her departed spouse and abused her sexual and social freedom. Stereotypes of widows ‘good’ and ‘bad’ served highly-charged ideological functions in pre-modern culture, and have remained durable even in modern times, even as Western secular society now focuses more on a woman’s recovery from grief and possible re-coupling than the expectation that she remain forever widowed. The widow represented not only the powerful bond created by love and marriage, but also embodied the conventions of grief that ordered the response when those bonds were broken by premature death. This notion of the widow as both a passive memorial to her husband and as an active ‘rememberer’ was rooted in ancient traditions, and appropriated by early Christian and medieval authors who used “good” widowhood to describe the varieties of female celibacy and to define the social and gender order. A tradition of widowhood characterized by chastity, solitude, and permanent bereavement affirmed both the sexual mores and political agenda of the medieval Church. Medieval widows—both holy women recognized as saints and ‘ordinary women’ in medieval daily life—recognized this tradition of professed chastity in widowhood not only as a valuable strategy for avoiding remarriage and protecting their independence, but as a state with inherent dignity that afforded opportunities for spiritual development in this world and eternal merit in the next.


Finding Love After Loss

Finding Love After Loss

Author: Marti Benedetti

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield

Published: 2021-10-11

Total Pages: 169

ISBN-13: 1538152142

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Guides readers through the emotions and practical concerns of finding love after the death of a partner. Romantic love, in all its permutations, forms one of the most fascinating of human interactions. It also can be one of life’s thorniest challenges, especially in a world where relationships often unfold online and, recently, where a pandemic barred face-to-face contact with people outside one’s immediate household. Among those seeking romance in increasing numbers is a group that stands apart: the women who, slammed by the death of a spouse, bravely pursue new love. Finding Love After Loss: A Relationship Roadmap for Widows goes to the trenches to interview widows who have embarked, nervously but with hope, on this quest. Their frank and revealing interviews, along with wisdom from relationship experts, provide guidance to other women trying to navigate the relationship scene when their last date might have been decades ago. Where do widows find new partners? How much should they share in their online profile? What do they tell their friends and family? What about getting naked for the first time with a new man? Who pays when the bill appears at a restaurant? More than any time in U.S. history, the country’s widows are seeking another chance at romance. The sheer number of widows—11 million, with an average age in the fifties—makes them a formidable force. They are living longer and have broader views on sex and money. Yet it is difficult for them to find their footing. Many of them have been away from the courtship arena for decades. They may make their return to dating with children and in-laws in tow. They are confused by the new rules and unclear on the expectations but convinced that they are capable of loving again. This book, written by a widow and a co-author who dated a widower, details just how powerful, sometimes daunting, and exhilarating the journey to new love can be. It also unveils the extraordinary ways that widows are reshaping the romance landscape: by tossing traditional marriage vows by the roadside, by skipping marriage entirely, or even by committing to a new partner but living apart. This isn’t your grandmother’s widowhood scene, not by a long shot. Finding Love After Loss examines the crazy, sad, and even zany contributions that people left behind by the death of a partner bring to new relationships. At the same time, it reveals both the amazing resilience of women who have lived through great loss and the irresistible pull of human connection.


Widowhood is Not a Profession

Widowhood is Not a Profession

Author: Oscar Lucy

Publisher: Independently Published

Published: 2024-03-19

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13:

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NOT JUST FOR WIDOWS This book is beautiful for anyone who has lost someone so dear and so much a part of their lives that they become temporarily immobilized after their loss. For anyone wondering what they would do without that person, Widowhood is Not a Profession is for you. In this guide, author Oscar Lucy offers a poignant and empowering exploration of life after loss. This captivating memoir invites readers into the raw and honest journey of rebuilding after the unimaginable happens. When Oscar Lucy unexpectedly finds herself widowed, she is trust into a world she never imagined navigating alone. Suddenly faced with grief, loneliness and uncertainty, she grapples with the profound challenges of rebuilding her life from the ground up. But amidst the darkness, she discovers a resilience she never knew she possessed. Through heartfelt storytelling and candid reflection, Oscar Lucy share her intimate experience of widowhood and invites readers to walk on a journey of self discovery and transformation. As readers immerse themselves in the pages of "Widowhood is Not a Profession", they will discover that it is more than just a roadmap for navigating grief-- it's a celebration of love.


Greek Religion and Culture, the Bible, and the Ancient Near East

Greek Religion and Culture, the Bible, and the Ancient Near East

Author: Jan N. Bremmer

Publisher: BRILL

Published: 2008

Total Pages: 445

ISBN-13: 9004164731

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This book greatly enhances our knowledge of the interrelationship of Greek religion & culture and the Ancient Near East by offering important analyses of Greek myths, divinities and terms like a ~magica (TM) and 'paradise', but also of the Greek contribution to the Christian notion of atonement.


Happily Even After

Happily Even After

Author: Carole Fleet

Publisher: Cleis Press

Published: 2012-05-15

Total Pages: 288

ISBN-13: 1936740133

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The award-winning author of Widows Wear Stilettos and grief recovery expert helps women cope with the legal and financial difficulties associated with the death of a spouse as well as going back to work, and eventually dating again. 10,000 first printing.


Widows 101

Widows 101

Author: Susan Barber

Publisher: iUniverse

Published: 2011-07-22

Total Pages: 112

ISBN-13: 1462035175

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Imagine working for years at your " dream job" only to have it taken away from you suddenly. What if the Boss changed your job description from " partner and party planner" to permanent cubicle resident with no benefits or chance of reinstatement? That's what it is like to become a widow. People don't know how to talk to you anymore. They exclude you from conversations that might involve the mention of couples. They are uncomfortable Becoming a widow isnt like becoming a wife. Becoming a wife requires major planning. But becoming a widow is often a surprise, and even with advance planning some people are still stunned. Its difficult to prepare for widowhood. In Widows 101, author Susan Barber uses her personal experience with her husbands death to provide practical tips for surviving the death of a spouse. Delivered with a gentle, lighthearted approach, Widows 101 touches upon core elements widows will need to address after losing their husbands, such as remaking yourself and redefining what you want dealing with grief making adjustments in your personal and social life handling your spouses personal effects attending to the details of your new life alone communicating your wishes for your own funeral . Widows 101 helps you prepare for the changes in your life as you confront widowhood. Learn how to make the changes work for you instead of against you as you navigate one of lifes most difficult periods.


Widowhood in Medieval and Early Modern Europe

Widowhood in Medieval and Early Modern Europe

Author: Sandra Cavallo

Publisher: Routledge

Published: 2014-07-30

Total Pages: 249

ISBN-13: 1317882768

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This new collection of essays brings together brand new research on widowhood in medieval and early modern Europe. The volume opens with an introductory chapter by the Editors which looks generally at the conditions and constructions of widowhood in this period. This is followed by a range of essays which illuminate different dimensions of widowhood across Europe - in England, Italy, France, Germany and Spain. A particular attraction of the volume is the attention given to widowers, and the comparisons made between the male and female experience of widowhood. It is an exciting reinterpretation of the subject which will do much to undo the traditional stereotype of the widow. Contributing to the volume are: Jodi Bilinkoff, Giulia Calvi, Sandra Cavallo, Isabelle Chabot, Julia Crick, Amy Erikson, Dagmar Freist, Elizabeth Foyster, Margaret Pelling, Pamela Sharpe,Tim Stretton, Barbara Todd, and Lyndan Warner.


Confessions of a Mediocre Widow

Confessions of a Mediocre Widow

Author: Catherine Tidd

Publisher: Sourcebooks

Published: 2014-01-07

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9781402285226

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"I spent my 11th wedding anniversary planning my husband's funeral. If I could just figure out how to make that rhyme, it would be the beginning of a great country song." Confessions of a Mediocre Widow is a roller coaster look at one widow's journey through the odyssey of grief and the many missteps, crying jags, fights, hilarity, pedicures, and lying required to get through it. Catherine Tidd shares the story of what it was to honor her husband, to get her three kids (all under 6) through the day (with perhaps more sugar and television than might have been necessary), and come to terms with his loss, in a way that's real, rough, and honest.


A Widow's Story

A Widow's Story

Author: Joyce Carol Oates

Publisher: Harper Collins

Published: 2011-02-15

Total Pages: 479

ISBN-13: 0062082639

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Unlike anything Joyce Carol Oates has written before, A Widow’s Story is the universally acclaimed author’s poignant, intimate memoir about the unexpected death of Raymond Smith, her husband of forty-six years, and its wrenching, surprising aftermath. A recent recipient of National Book Critics Circle Ivan Sandrof Lifetime Achievement Award, Oates, whose novels (Blonde, The Gravedigger’s Daughter, Little Bird of Heaven, etc.) rank among the very finest in contemporary American fiction, offers an achingly personal story of love and loss. A Widow’s Story is a literary memoir on a par with The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion and Calvin Trillin’s About Alice.


Widows and their families

Widows and their families

Author: Peter Marris

Publisher: Routledge

Published: 2013-11-05

Total Pages: 187

ISBN-13: 1136531858

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One of the first books to be published in the UK on bereavement, this ground-breaking study presents the results of a survey of widows in London. Focussing on younger women whose husbands had died the book deals first with grief and mourning then examines the consequences of bereavement through the help of relatives and friends and the changes it brings about to the widow's family life. Throughout the book the consequences of widowhood are discussed with relevance to psychological theory and to national policy. Originally published in 1958.