The Gay Man's Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage
The Gay Man's Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage

Author: Michael Dale Kimmel

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield

Published: 2017-06-09

Total Pages: 300

ISBN-13: 1442268026

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Legal gay marriage is still a relatively new phenomenon. As gay men who are now able to get married, we find ourselves in a bit of a quandary: for many male couples, sex is a lot more important for us than it is for heterosexuals. Two married men often have a stronger desire for sex - wanting more of it and with a wider variety of partners - than married opposite-sex couples. How does this work within the structure of a monogamous marriage? Is an open relationship a better structure for gay marriage? Assuming that gay marriages will emulate heterosexual marriages is neither a valid nor a helpful assumption. But, as gay men, where does that leave us? There are currently no “rule books” for how a marriage between two men could or should work. While there are lots of books about how to plan your gay wedding, there are virtually none that address what to do after the honeymoon is over (literally and figuratively). This book fills that void. It offers married gay couples (and gay men considering marriage) an easy-to-follow, practical framework that they can use to help create, adjust and structure their marriages. Using helpful examples and first-hand quotes throughout, Openly-gay psychotherapist Michael Dale Kimmel offers a roadmap for gay men who want to be married but have questions and concerns about monogamy and monotony.

Choices
Choices

Author: Blake Spears

Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform

Published: 2016-08-06

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9781536890792

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This is a compendium of two studies and a follow-up article. The most recent study, Choices, (2016) focuses on younger gay men's perspectives on monogamy, non-monogamy and marriage. It is both a quantitative (576 respondents) and qualitative (222 respondents) study. It describes trends toward greater monogamy, the emergence of 'monogamish' relationships, and provides insights, profiles, and descriptions of both monogamous, as well as non-monogamous couples. Beyond Monogamy, (2010) is a study based on in-depth interviews with 86 long-term non-monogamous couples - when and how they opened up their relationships, how they handle jealousy and emotional involvement, what information they disclose to their partners, typical rules, and their suggestions for how to make non-monogamy work. Creating Healthy Open Relationships, (2013) is a follow-up article to Beyond Monogamy. It offers suggestions on managing jealousy, addressing conflict, and building trust. The two studies confirm the viability of healthy, successful, long-term monogamous and non-monogamous relationships. In addition, the studies illustrate that both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships require a great deal of communication, commitment, and hard work. We think the information in these studies can be of great help to couples, regardless of what choices they make about monogamy and non-monogamy.

Choices
Choices

Author: Lanz Lowen

Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform

Published: 2016-08-03

Total Pages: 202

ISBN-13: 9781535038652

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This is a compendium of two studies and a follow-up article. The most recent study, Choices, (2016) focuses on younger gay men's perspectives on monogamy, non-monogamy, and marriage. It is both a quantitative (576 respondents) and qualitative (222 respondents)study. It describes trends toward greater monogamy, the emergence of 'monogamish' relationships, and provides insights, profiles, and descriptions of both monogamous, as well as non-monogamous gay couples. Beyond Monogamy, (2010) is a study based on in-depth interviews with 86 long-term non-monogamous male couples. It offers the perspectives of long-term non-monogamous couples - when and how they opened up their relationships, how they handle jealousy and emotional involvement, what information they disclose to their partner, typical rules, and their suggestions for how to make non-monogamy work. Creating Healthy Open Relationships is a follow-up article to Beyond Monogamy. It offers suggestions on managing jealousy, addressing conflict, and building trust. The two studies confirm the viability of healthy, successful, long-term monogamous and non-monogamous relationships. And that both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships require a great deal of communication, care, and hard work. We think the information in these studies can be of great help to couples, regardless of what choices they make about monogamy and non-monogamy.

Polyamorous Elders
Polyamorous Elders

Author: Kathy Labriola

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield

Published: 2022-11-08

Total Pages: 271

ISBN-13: 1538169282

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This book explores the unique group of elders, ages fifty-five and older, who practice some form of consensual nonmonogamy. It covers both the joys and challenges of multiple relationships for elders and explores how their relationships develop and evolve. Polyamorous elders have the complexities of juggling multiple relationships, as well as navigating all the issues of aging: managing medical conditions and disabilities (their own and/or their partners’); assuming caregiving responsibilities for aging relatives; grieving the deaths of parents, siblings, and partners; retiring from careers and starting new lives; and potentially moving into some form of senior living. Drawing from her extensive clinical and personal experience working with this population, Kathy Labriola provides anecdotes from polyamorous elders’ lives, including the constellation of relationships surrounding each individual, couple, or triad. This guide will help health care and mental health clinicians, researchers, and professionals, as well as polyamorous elders and their loved ones, better understand the concerns and diverse lifestyles of this population to better represent and support them.

Guide All LGBTQ Couples Need
Guide All LGBTQ Couples Need

Author: Theodore Sylva

Publisher:

Published: 2021-04-27

Total Pages: 44

ISBN-13:

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A same-sex wedding is identical to an opposite-sex wedding in the most important way -- legal status -- thanks to the landmark Supreme Court decision that recognized marriage equality for all 50 states in 2015. Still, couples planning same-sex weddings might want gender-specific advice and inspiration for their ceremonies and receptions. This book was written with the intention of being an in-depth, easy-to-understand guide to the vastly complex Gay Rights movement in the United States and globally. With the recent legalization of Same-Sex Marriage in the United States, it is important to examine the process that led to the monumental decision made by the Supreme Court in 2015.

Boy Crazy
Boy Crazy

Author: Michael Shelton

Publisher: Alyson Books

Published: 2008

Total Pages: 232

ISBN-13:

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In Boy Crazy, author Michael Shelton addresses not only these questions but the idea of monogamy itself. Why is monogamy at the top of the list of expectations for a relationship? Who decided that monogamy was the cornerstone of a successful, healthy relationship, and why? Using examples from nature, history, therapists and healthcare providers, and a range of everyday men, Shelton explores the concept of monogamy-whether or not it is even necessary and what makes it particularly difficult for members of the gay male community. A clear proponent of open relationships, Shelton offers advice on how best to conduct an open relationship, as well as an exploration of the different kinds of open relationships, what makes them work and what definitely doesn't. In addition, he discusses an array of sexual dysfunctions and possible solutions ranging from therapy to medication. In the first book to use cutting-edge sexual and neurological research to examine monogamy, Shelton offers a thorough, scientific, and at times quite amusing perspective on men, monogamy, and what makes a convergence of the two so problematic for so many. Book jacket.

My Guy
My Guy

Author: Martin Kantor

Publisher: Sourcebooks Casablanca

Published: 2002

Total Pages: 248

ISBN-13:

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Offers gay men a constructive approach to having lifelong love and companionship.

The Monogamy Gap
The Monogamy Gap

Author: Eric Anderson

Publisher: Oxford University Press

Published: 2012-03-21

Total Pages: 388

ISBN-13: 0199943907

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Whether straight or gay, most men start their relationships desiring monogamy. This is rooted in the pervasive notion that monogamy exists as a sign of true love. Yet despite this deeply held cultural ideal, cheating remains rampant. In this accessible book, Eric Anderson investigates why 78% of men he interviewed have cheated despite their desire not to. Combining 120 interviews with research from the fields of sociology, biology, and psychology, Anderson identifies cheating as a product of wanting emotional passion for one's partner, along with a steadily growing desire for emotionally-detached recreational sex with others. Anderson coins the term "the monogamy gap" to describe this phenomenon. Anderson suggests that monogamy is an irrational ideal because it fails to fulfil a lifetime of sexual desires. Cheating therefore becomes the rational response to an irrational situation. The Monogamy Gap draws on a range of concepts, theories, and disciplines to highlight the biological compulsion of our sexual urges, the social construction of the monogamous ideal, and the devastating chasm that lies between them. Whether single or married, monogamous or open, straight or gay, readers will find The Monogamy Gap to be an enlightening, intellectually compelling, and provocative book.

Sonia's Journey: from Chinese Communist to American Polyamorist
Sonia's Journey: from Chinese Communist to American Polyamorist

Author: Sonia Song

Publisher: Outskirts Press

Published: 2023-06-30

Total Pages: 400

ISBN-13: 1977232604

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Polyamory, one form of open relationships, is rapidly entering mainstream consciousness. Among the many books on polyamory, Sonia Song’s story is unique in that it is the first one that has been written on this subject by a new immigrant from another culture. A contemporary of New China, Sonia’s amazing journey, from Beijing to Berkeley and to Hawaii, with the massive backdrop of historic events in China and the U.S. over more than half a century, unfolds like a scroll, depicting how these two vastly diverse cultures shaped her way of thinking and choices. Sonia’s book is warm and engaging. Reading her fascinating memoir feels like sitting down with a new friend who invites you into her most intimate and vulnerable moments over a cup of tea.

Just Married
Just Married

Author: Stephen Macedo

Publisher: Princeton University Press

Published: 2015-06-09

Total Pages: 315

ISBN-13: 1400865859

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The case for marriage equality and monogamy in a democratic society The institution of marriage stands at a critical juncture. As gay marriage equality gains acceptance in law and public opinion, questions abound regarding marriage's future. Will same-sex marriage lead to more radical marriage reform? Should it? Antonin Scalia and many others on the right warn of a slippery slope from same-sex marriage toward polygamy, adult incest, and the dissolution of marriage as we know it. Equally, many academics, activists, and intellectuals on the left contend that there is no place for monogamous marriage as a special status defined by law. Just Married demonstrates that both sides are wrong: the same principles of democratic justice that demand marriage equality for same-sex couples also lend support to monogamous marriage. Stephen Macedo displays the groundlessness of arguments against same-sex marriage and defends marriage as a public institution against those who would eliminate its special status or supplant it with private arrangements. Arguing that monogamy reflects and cultivates our most basic democratic values, Macedo opposes the legal recognition of polygamy, but agrees with progressives that public policies should do more to support nontraditional caring and caregiving relationships. Throughout, Macedo explores the meaning of contemporary marriage and the reasons for its fragility and its enduring significance. His defense of reformed marriage against slippery slope alarmists on the right, and radical critics of marriage on the left, vindicates the justice and common sense of the emerging consensus. Casting new light on today's debates over the future of marriage, Just Married lays the groundwork for a stronger institution.