The end of a marriage that was intended to be lasting and loving can be emotionally traumatic. Even though divorce is a singularly painful process, 50 percent of marriages will end this way. The feelings that arise from words like "failure," "blame," and "loneliness" make recovery from divorce difficult. The Divorce Recovery Sourcebook is an empathetic guide to help newly divorced people overcome the burdens of the past, better cope with the problems of today, and have a positive focus on the future.
Provides practical information regarding the personal and legal aspects of divorce, mediation and litigation, property, child custody, alimony and monetary settlements, and advice on starting a new life.
Have you been traumatized by infidelity? The phrase "broken heart" belies the real trauma behind the all-too-common occurrence of infidelity. Psychologist Dennis Ortman likens the psychological aftermath of sexual betrayal to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in its origin and symptoms, including anxiety, irritability, rage, emotional numbing, and flashbacks. Using PTSD treatment as a model, Dr. Ortman will show you, step by step, how to: • work through conflicting emotions • Understand yourself and your partner • Make important life decisions Dr. Ortman sees recovery as a spiritual journey and draws on the wisdom of diverse faiths, from Christianity to Buddhism. He also offers exercises to deepen recovery, such as guided meditations and journaling, and explores heart-wrenchingly familiar case studies of couples struggling with monogamy. By the end of this book, you will have completed the six stages of healing and emerged with a whole heart, a full spirit, and the freedom to love again.
Beyond the Average Divorce is a core text that introduces students and scholars to the research literature on divorce and changes which occurs in family structures. Rather than a simplistic, static view that emphasizes means and averages in looking at 'typical' family reactions to divorce, this text emphasizes variability, fluidity, and change over time in the predivorce, divorce, and postdivorce process. The book also presents a dynamic theoretical model of divorce and how it is experienced and reacted to by family members in the complex variety of family situations.
A powerful workshop-in-a-book for healing from loss One day everything is fine. The next, you find yourself without everything you took for granted. Love has turned sour. The people you depended on have let you down. You feel you’ll never love again. But there is a way out. In The Abandonment Recovery Workbook, the only book of its kind, psychotherapist and abandonment expert Susan Anderson explores the seemingly endless pain of heartbreak and shows readers how to break free—whether the heartbreak comes from a divorce, a breakup, a death, or the loss of friendship, health, a job, or a dream. From the first shock of despair through the waves of hopelessness to the tentative efforts to make new connections, The Abandonment Recovery Workbook provides an itinerary for recovery. A manual for individuals or support groups, it includes exercises that the author has tested and developed through her decades of expertise in abandonment recovery. Anderson provides concrete recovery tools and exercises to discover and heal underlying issues, identify self-defeating behaviors of mistrust and insecurity, and build self-esteem. Guiding you through the five stages of your journey—shattering, withdrawal, internalizing, rage, and lifting—this book (a new edition of Anderson’s Journey from Heartbreak to Connection) serves as a source of strength. You will come away with a new sense of self—a self with an increased capacity to love. Praise for Susan Anderson’s The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: “If there can be a pill to cure the heartbreak of rejection, this book may be it.” — Rabbi Harold Kushner, bestselling author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People
Grief as a lifelong human experience is the scope of this absorbing book. Kenneth R. Mitchell and Herbert Anderson explore the multiple dimensions of the problem, including orgins of grief, loss throughout life, dynamics of grief, care for those who grieve, and the theology of grieving. This examination of the process of grief is enriched by vivid illustrations and case histories of individuals whose experiences the authors have shared.
When your partner betrays, what are the first steps to picking up the pieces of your shattered heart? Many unsuspecting people wake up every day to discover their loved one, the one person whom they are supposed to trust completely, has been living a life of lies and deceit because they suffer from a disease-sex addiction. This is a disease shrouded in secrecy and shame. This is your go-to-guide for what to do when you discover your partner is a sex addict. Each chapter is based on frequently asked questions by partners such as: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Is This Going to Get Better? How Do I Set Boundaries and Keep Myself Safe? and What Should I Tell the Kids?
It's over. The divorce is final, your ex is out of your house and--mostly--out of your life. Now what? Are you ready to get on with your life? Do you have dreams, plans, skills, energy for what comes next? And will you be making it happen, or letting it happen? MacGregor and Alberti have prepared a friendly, straightforward manual of advice and suggestions that assumes every woman is capable of handling life on her own. Help for emotional recovery (MacGregor is a "survivor," Alberti is a psychologist), practical matters (finances, home maintenance), dealing with your ex, helping your children to cope ("we didn't divorce you!"), and much, much more.
There are 23 million divorced people in the United States today. More than 80 percent of these people will remarry, and many of those marriages will fail. Divorce recovery experts Edward Tauber and Jim Smoke draw on their 30 years of experience as divorce counselors and a survey of more than 600 individuals to explore why people end up divorced again and what they can do to successfully remarry. To help readers avoid making the mistakes others have made, the authors present 13 wrong reasons to remarry, including: loneliness need to be needed to provide fathers or moms for kids to prove the divorce wasn't their fault they've found their "soul mates" Tauber and Smoke provide practical guidelines based on biblical principles to help people find partners who share values, have compatible personalities, agree on child-raising principles, and more. Includes helpful "Ready2Remarry" self test.
