The memoir of a woman who leaves her faith and her marriage and sets out to navigate the terrifying, liberating terrain of a newly mapless world Born and raised in a tight-knit Orthodox Jewish family, Tova Mirvis committed herself to observing the rules and rituals prescribed by this way of life. After all, to observe was to be accepted and to be accepted was to be loved. She married a man from within the fold and quickly began a family. But over the years, her doubts became noisier than her faith, and at age forty she could no longer breathe in what had become a suffocating existence. Even though it would mean the loss of her friends, her community, and possibly even her family, Tova decides to leave her husband and her faith. After years of trying to silence the voice inside her that said she did not agree, did not fit in, did not believe, she strikes out on her own to discover what she does believe and who she really is. This will mean forging a new way of life not just for herself, but for her children, who are struggling with what the divorce and her new status as “not Orthodox” mean for them. This is a memoir about what it means to decide to heed your inner compass at long last. To free the part of yourself that has been suppressed, even if it means walking away from the only life you’ve ever known. Honest and courageous, Tova takes us through her first year outside her marriage and community as she learns to silence her fears and seek adventure on her own path to happiness.
"A taut, complex portrait of a marriage haunted by secrets, in which a woman finds herself traveling to Greece in search of her missing, estranged husband"--
Helps couples use separation to learn, develop, and then recommit to their relationship with adjusted expectations, perspectives, skills, and a stronger sense of themselves. A step-by-step process pinpoints 10 essential tasks necessary to maneuver through what is most often a highly stressful experience.--From amazon.com.
"How am I supposed to keep going when all I want to do is hide? How does separation work. What are the ins-and-outs and complexities of divorce? Am I going to get through this?" Ruth Clements divorce turned her world upside down, and now she guides the reader, with compassion and practical advice, on how to survive the maelstrom. Showing that there is always hope, and giving tips on how to deal with the practicalities of separation and divorce, Clements has written a guide that is warm, entertaining and practical. This book will show you that there is a way through and will be your companion on the journey.
He’s gone. You’re separated and in the in-between season of marriage and divorce, where only a select few fully understand your struggles. In this season, when you don’t know what the next best step is and loneliness can overwhelm you, sometimes it is best to simply not take any step at all. Silently reflecting and turning to God in those quiet, doubtful moments can create hope and clarity that solidifies your next step; this is especially true when you are separated from your spouse. Unlike so many books with opinions on whether divorce or reconciliation is the answer, Hopelessly Hopeful During Separation: 28 Daily Devotionals of Hope for Those Experiencing Marital Separation instead speaks words of hope with no judgment on what you decide to do next. In this season of separation let Hopelessly Hopeful During Separation hold your hand and remind you to pause for the Holder of Hope, Jesus Himself. The short daily devotionals encourage you to look to Jesus for hope throughout this season. You are not alone. Endorsements: I was only two months old the day my father separated from my mother. Too young to recognize her tears. Too young to understand the deepening hurt as her separation turned into divorce. I wish my mom would have had Mollie’s book. I wish you didn’t need it. But if you’re in that emotional “no man’s land” that is too often separation, this is unlike any book I’ve ever read. I’ve never seen a book specifically for this painful, confusing season that is so personal. So real. So faith encouraging, yet so hard to read in places because of its honesty. But important to read. Not all at once. But day after tough day. Twenty-eight days of hope, reality, and encouragement. Full of hard-earned wisdom. Like Mollie says, “You’re not alone.” May the Lord reveal for you a path to health, healing, and life over the next four weeks and beyond. John Trent, Ph.D. President, StrongFamilies.com Author of LifeMapping and co-author of The Blessing God has a purpose for us. Our trials and troubles result in suffering which the apostle Paul in Romans 5:3-4 says causes us to “grow in perseverance.” In Mollie’s devotional, Hopelessly Hopeful During Separation, she reveals stories about how faith can be strengthened through the trial of a relationship gone south. Leveraging her God-given gifts, she shows how you can conquer that failure. Mollie is now using her personal testimony as an inspiration to others. Her writing inspired me as I went through a divorce twenty-five years ago, so I understand her pain. This devotional will continue to be a place for me to go to for encouragement. Diane Paddison Founder and Executive Director of 4word Author of Work, Love, Pray and Be Refreshed...a year of devotions for women in the workplace and Former Global Executive Team of two Fortune 500 and one Fortune 1000 companies Separation is a state of limbo in which you are vacillating between hopeful and hopeless. All kinds of feelings, questions, and confusion arise. These devotionals from true-life stories reveal that you are not alone and that can provide you a community of hope—hope that is found in the Lord. Paula Silva President, Cofounder FOCUS Ministries, Inc.
Reclaim you life and your self! The weeks following your separation may prove to be the most difficult weeks of your life. But with a little help and support, you'll find the strength you need to get through the divorce process and move on. Author Loriann Hoff Oberlin, M.S., understands the rough road to starting over. A survivor herself, she shares her personal experience as well as her professional expertise as she shows you how to rebuild your life, step by step. Surviving Separation and Divorce, 2nd Edition provides you with markers for the legally and emotionally taxing journey ahead, including how to: Rebuild your self-esteem Explore reconciliation--or not Help your children get through the transition Deal with lawyers and the court system Manage money and finances Return to and thrive in the workforce Develop an active social life Consider remarriage With this completely revised and updated classic at your side, you'll summon your inner strength, let go of the past, and build a better future--starting today.
This book is a developmental model for highly effective practice in the multidisciplinary field of separation and divorce. Written by a clinical social worker and a psychologist, the authors wrote the book as a new point of entry, another vector for understanding how to help when human relationships falter. Separation and and/or divorce is the most hard enough and when children are involved the stakes are immeasurable. This book tries to address all of these issues in a non-confrontation or judgmental manner to help families work together for a successful resolve. There is also a fine line that an attorney must walk in their struggle to do their best with every client without judgment. This aspect is also addressed in the book.
Separation Process Essentials provides an interactive approach for students to learn the main separation processes (distillation, absorption, stripping, and solvent extraction) using material and energy balances with equilibrium relationships, while referring readers to other more complete works when needed. Membrane separations are included as an example of non-equilibrium processes. This book reviews and builds on material learned in the first chemical engineering courses such as Material and Energy Balances and Thermodynamics as applied to separations. It relies heavily on example problems, including completely worked and explained problems followed by "Try This At Home" guided examples. Most examples have accompanying downloadable Excel spreadsheet simulations. The book also offers a complementary website, http://separationsbook.com, with supplementary material such as links to YouTube tutorials, practice problems, and the Excel simulations. This book is aimed at second and third year undergraduate students in Chemical engineering, as well as professionals in the field of Chemical engineering, and can be used for a one semester course in separation processes and unit operations.
