This Illustrated Guide for Couples Ends 12 Hurtful Arguments Once and for All! Conflict within relationships is complex and challenging to overcome. In her 20 years of working with couples, clinical psychologist Michelle Brody found a way to make change simpler. Her secret: clear and lighthearted illustrations that help couples literally see what’s driving their battles and blocking their bond, so they can chart a course together to stop the fights. The Money Fight “You’re such a cheapskate!” “You spend way too much!” The Sex Fight “Not tonight. I’m not in the mood.” “You haven’t been in the mood since 1975!” The Parenting Differences Fight “You’re too overprotective!” “Is skydiving next?!” Stop the Fight! includes more than 300 illustrations to help couples unlock the destructive cycles that drive the birthday fight, the difficult relatives fight, and other familiar battles. Going beyond common relationship advice, the tools in Stop the Fight! will help you understand the big picture and create lifelong change.
This Illustrated Guide for Couples Ends 12 Hurtful Arguments Once and for All! Conflict within relationships is complex and challenging to overcome. In her 20 years of working with couples, clinical psychologist Michelle Brody found a way to make change simpler. Her secret: clear and lighthearted illustrations that help couples literally see what’s driving their battles and blocking their bond, so they can chart a course together to stop the fights. The Money Fight “You’re such a cheapskate!” “You spend way too much!” The Sex Fight “Not tonight. I’m not in the mood.” “You haven’t been in the mood since 1975!” The Parenting Differences Fight “You’re too overprotective!” “Is skydiving next?!” Stop the Fight! includes more than 300 illustrations to help couples unlock the destructive cycles that drive the birthday fight, the difficult relatives fight, and other familiar battles. Going beyond common relationship advice, the tools in Stop the Fight! will help you understand the big picture and create lifelong change.
Relationship woes are complex and destructive, and often deeply hurtful. Over years of research, clinical psychologist Dr Michelle Brody has found that the same 12 fights play out time and time again between couples, such as the âe~Partner Improvementâe(tm) Fight, the âe~You Donâe(tm)t Care About Meâe(tm) Fight, and the âe~Difficult Relativesâe(tm) Fight. By addressing these areas, couples can immediately grasp the destructive cycles in their relationships. But advice and strategies alone aren't enough to help couples solve their relationship problems: they need to see with their own eyes why they are trapped in damaging cycles of behaviour in order to find a way back to each other. Dr Brody has already used her illustrations to help thousands of couples in her clinics, and this unique book presents her psychological findings through playful yet pertinent illustrations. Itâe(tm)s a one-of-a-kind relationship manual âe" fresh, concise, easy to use, and results oriented.
"A master class on team dynamics in a picture book -- yes! Only someone with Michelle Brody’s experience and wisdom could do that! Read this book and learn from the best!" -- Amy Hayes, Global Head of Learning and Development at Meta (Facebook) We all experience workplace conflict. Now, SEE the solution in a new way. What if workplace teams that are pulled apart by conflict could be “drawn together” by actual drawings – playful but pointed illustrations that help us see ourselves (and each other) in normalizing, lighthearted ways to rapidly trigger breakthroughs in team tension? Using a “visual method” developed for couples therapy, high-stakes and high-emotion team situations are captured in mindset-changing pictures so that teams can deescalate conflict, engage responsibility, and achieve real resolution. In her groundbreaking new book Own Your Armor, executive coach and psychologist Dr. Michelle Brody presents a dramatically different, refreshing, and proven way to improve ineffective workplace dynamics and repair toxic cultures. She helps us see our “people dynamics” problems in new ways so we can craft lasting solutions. A Book Like No Other, Now for Your Unique Team There are a lot of books for leaders on “how to fix your team” when they are difficult, which suggests that the team is the problem and the leader is the change agent, pushing or pulling strategic levers to improve the situation. Own Your Armor approaches team dynamics with a completely different set of assumptions: -- The problem isn’t just the team, -- The solution isn’t just the leader’s, and -- The levers aren’t “strategic.” The levers are psychological, and they belong to us all. Team dynamics are co-created and are circularly reinforced over time. Unwinding them requires everyone (leaders and team members) to recognize their contribution to the culture problem and to rejoin the team with their best self. In the engaging pages of this book, which is filled with instructive illustrations and framed by 10 principles for “owning your armor” in the workplace, Brody shares the true causes of why teams experience bad culture and offers a practical way to talk about moving a team toward greater health. Revolutionary Change for Workplace Culture “I love my job, but the culture here stinks ...” “I work with some seriously difficult people ...” “Managing ‘people issues’ is the hardest part of my job as a leader ...”. Fixing an unhealthy work culture isn’t easy, but it’s impossible if we don’t get at what is causing it. The root of team dynamics problems is nearly always a pileup of everyone’s defensive armor. “We can all show up as our regular selves at work,” Brody explains, “but when we’re under threat, we put on some armor.” Passive-aggressiveness, micromanaging, finger-pointing, and resource-grabbing are all forms of armor that good people sometimes resort to when under threat. Once people start armoring up, mistrust in a team grows, causing more need for armor, and locking up the culture even more. “For a team to take off armor to restore good communication, armor has to be owned.” Own Your Armor shows how to help everyone on a team to: -- Own your threats -- Own your armor -- Own your impact. The result? Your team will build trust, reduce defensiveness, shift stuck mindsets, defuse vicious cycles, and unlock individual and team strengths to finally get the dream team everyone wants. Note to the reader: Own Your Armor is an immersive, illustrated eBook in a fixed format – like a textbook, reference book, or graphic novel – and is therefore optimally viewed on larger desktop or laptop screens, rather than on smartphone screens or small ebook readers.
Revealing where the real conflict lies in a relationship—and resolving it * Breaking the Argument Cycle is a book for all those who've ever found themselves arguing with their significant other, again and again, about money, sex, or even a seemingly trivial topic—when, at its core, the conflict is about something completely different. A longtime marriage and family therapist, Sharon Rivkin has helped hundreds of couples fix their relationships by understanding why they fight. Here, she shows how anyone can use the tools of therapy to break the cycle of destructive fighting—namely, by resolving the core issues of early arguments, which have their roots in childhood and get repeated over time. Presenting real-life stories and easy exercises, Rivkin sets forth a simple, three-step process—Peel, Reveal, Heal—to empower couples to identify and then resolve their core issues themselves, shedding light on what they're really arguing about. This is then followed up with healing exercises. By thus breaking the argument cycle, confusion and chaos turn into clarity and healing—and everyone can learn how and why they get hooked into an argument, how to unhook, and how to develop lasting tools to turn conflict into intimacy . . . even after years of fighting.
In our world today, a surprising amount of friendships, businesses, and marriages are failing, simply because two or more people cannot figure out how to be at peace. Arguing is the culprit, leading to precious time being wasted, resentment, polarization of contrary viewpoints, and it usually doesn't even bring people an inch closer to forming a plan, or making a final decision. This book will take you through the steps of argument prevention, covering some essential truths, as well as exploring some more constructive alternatives to arguing. It also gives pointers on how you can stop arguments that have already started.Time is precious. It is our most valuable resource. Let's quit wasting our precious days, hours and minutes with pointless bickering. You (and your loved ones) deserve better than that!Any step you take towards harmony will have a dramatic return-on-investment in relationships that matter most to you.
How do two well-meaning people who genuinely care about each other end up in a damaged, unsatisfying relationship? Every couple faces conflict. Most of the time, the root of the problem is that we’re not getting our needs met. And most of the time, we first try to remedy this with reasonable requests—or hints—and a kind tone. But when that fails, we feel disempowered, which leads to sighs, eye rolls, silences, subtle put-downs, insults, and even threats. These are power moves. And while we often use them without realizing it and without intention, the result is the same—our partner feels disempowered and will try to re-empower themselves. And so the endless, and endlessly destructive, dynamic takes hold. Relationship expert Mira Kirshenbaum, bestselling author of Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay, reveals a better way: a three-step method for conflict-free problem solving. By recognizing each partner’s power moves, we can instead find mutually satisfying ways to heal our hurts and meet each other’s needs. Non-judgmental, compassionate, and wise, this is an indispensable guide to help couples end the negative cycle and get back to the loving understanding that brought them together in the first place. “Mira Kirshenbaum’s words of wisdom are an inspiration to everyone who reads them.” —Deepak Chopra
A thorough revision with a new video of couples in action, using the PREP method for strengthening marriage and avoiding divorce court The third edition of the best-selling classic on marriage enhancement and divorce prevention, features the latest research and changes of heart in our culture and society. New and revised, Fighting for Your Marriage is based on the widely acclaimed PREP (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) approach. Groundbreaking studies have found that couples can use the strategies of this approach to handle conflict more constructively, protect their happiness, and reduce the odds of breaking up. The book is based on more than twenty years of university research Explores how to apply the PREP approach to any marriage Shows couples how to talk more and fight less, deepen and protect their friendship, and keep the fun alive Reveals what it takes to have a more intimate, sensual relationship and how to clarify and act on priorities The authors have included a wealth of techniques and down-to-earth guidance for all couples who seek to promote greater character and pleasure in their long-term relationships.
For some people, an argument with a loved one is a catastrophe, a sign that a relationship must surely be over, for others a heated discussion is a way of letting off steam, a way of ensuring that passion is kept alive. But what is 'normal' communication for couples? How can you get past the raised voices or silent disapproval, to listen and understand what is really being said by your partner? Relationships change over time, and the way we communicate does too. This practical, readable and sometimes humorous book, based on over 60 years of cumulative experience from Relate, the marriage guidance experts, will help couples to break free of old patterns of behaviour and avoid using words as weapons when the going gets tough. It will help encourage upfront discussion rather than resorting to nagging, and will give you the skills you need to understand what your partner is really trying to say to you - to bring discussion rather than confrontation back into your relationships.
UNFU*K YOURSELVES. It's life-changing magic.Once you actually read this book, it will change your love life more than you could imagine. You'll discover how to unfu*k yourselves in 7 days, the power to make fu*ked-up issues disappear like magic, get rid of love-wrecking dramas, fight less, love more, be happier, be a lover, not a leaver!
