Stop People Pleasing
Stop People Pleasing

Author: Patrick King

Publisher: PublishDrive

Published: 2019-08-13

Total Pages: 123

ISBN-13:

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Break your crippling addiction to approval and learn to be less “nice”. Do you keep your mouth shut for fear of falling out of people’s graces? Feel that you need to please and serve to stay in your social circles? You have the need to please, and all the associated beliefs. Stop bitterness, resentment, and anxiety from always saying yes. Stop People Pleasing is a frank look at people-pleasing tendencies - where they come from, how they manifest, and exactly what to do about them. Most importantly, the book emphasizes real, actionable tactics to change your relationship with yourself and others. This book was written by a recovering people-pleaser, so you can be sure that there is a real understanding of your struggles. Reprogram your beliefs and learn to accept yourself. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. Find your voice, stand up for yourself, and put yourself first. •The psychological and often traumatic origins of people-pleasing tendencies. •The harmful beliefs you subconsciously possess and how to alter them. •How to learn new, empowering habits. Learn the deep origins of your need to please, and how to set healthy boundaries. •How to set boundaries, and avoid porous ones. •A plethora of strategies to say no and make your thoughts known. •Understand your guilt and get better with confrontation.

Not Nice
Not Nice

Author: Aziz Gazipura

Publisher: Center for Social Confidence

Published: 2017

Total Pages: 504

ISBN-13: 9780988979871

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Are You Too Nice?If you find it hard to be assertive, directly ask for what you want, or say "no" to others, then you just might be suffering from too much niceness.In this controversial book, world-renowned confidence expert, Dr. Aziz Gazipura, takes an incisive look at the concept of nice. Through his typical style, Dr. Aziz uses engaging stories, humor, and disarming vulnerability to cut through the nice conditioning and liberate the most bold, expressive, authentic version of you. You'll discover how to: => Easily say "no" when you want to and need to.=> Confidently and effectively ask for what you want.=> Speak up more freely in all your relationships.=> Eliminate feelings of guilt, anxiety, and worry about what others will think.

Boundary Boss
Boundary Boss

Author: Terri Cole, MSW, LCSW

Publisher: Sounds True

Published: 2021-04-20

Total Pages: 204

ISBN-13: 1683647696

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Break Free From Over-Functioning, Over-Delivering, People-Pleasing, and Ignoring Your Own Needs So You Can Finally Live the Life You Deserve! Most of us were never taught how to effectively express our preferences, desires or deal-breakers. Instead, we hide our feelings behind passive-aggressive behavior, deny our own truths, or push our emotions down until we get depressed or so frustrated that we explode, potentially destroying hard-won trust and relationships. The most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in common: the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. This ability is, hands down, the biggest game changer when it comes to creating a healthy, happy, self-determined life. In Boundary Boss, psychotherapist Terri Cole reveals a specific set of skills that can help you stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others (without guilt or drama) and get empowered to consciously take control of every aspect of your emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life. Since becoming a Boundary Boss is a process, Cole also offers actionable strategies, scripts, and techniques that can be used in the moment, whenever you need them. You will learn: • How to recognize when your boundaries have been violated and what to do next • How your unique “Boundary Blueprint” is unconsciously driving your boundary behaviors, and strategies to redesign it • Powerful boundary scripts so in the moment you will know what to say • How to manage “Boundary Destroyers”—including emotional manipulators, narcissists, and other toxic personalities • Where you fall on the spectrum of codependency and how to create healthy, balanced relationships This book is for women who are exhausted from over-giving, overdoing, and even over-feeling. If you’re getting it all done but at the expense of yourself, give yourself the gift of Boundary Boss.

When It's Never about You
When It's Never about You

Author: Ilene S. Cohen Ph D

Publisher: Harte Publishing

Published: 2017

Total Pages: 206

ISBN-13: 9780999311509

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Everyone loves a people-pleaser. They're always willing to help, to stay late, to fill in, to "go along." But if you're one of them, you often end up feeling violated, ignored, disrespected, and disconnected--from life and others. Silently enduring the ongoing and relentless invalidation of who you are and what you want will reliably wreak havoc on your health and the health of your relationships.psychotherapist, Ilene S. Cohen, uses real-world examples and activities to help you take a systemic look at people-pleasing. You'll learn... How to reclaim a strong and balanced sense of self--while still being a "good person." How to break the harmful behavior patterns that keep you from being heard, listened to and respected. Specific strategies for transforming yourself from selfless to "self-full."How to go from feeling "vanished" to being clearly differentiated.How to get what you want and need--while actually earning even more respect from others.

Captivate
Captivate

Author: Vanessa Van Edwards

Publisher: Penguin

Published: 2017-04-25

Total Pages: 322

ISBN-13: 0399564489

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Do you feel awkward at networking events? Do you wonder what your date really thinks of you? Do you wish you could decode people? You need to learn the science of people. As a human behavior hacker, Vanessa Van Edwards created a research lab to study the hidden forces that drive us. And she’s cracked the code. In Captivate, she shares shortcuts, systems, and secrets for taking charge of your interactions at work, at home, and in any social situation. These aren’t the people skills you learned in school. This is the first comprehensive, science backed, real life manual on how to captivate anyone—and a completely new approach to building connections. Just like knowing the formulas to use in a chemistry lab, or the right programming language to build an app, Captivate provides simple ways to solve people problems. You’ll learn, for example… · How to work a room: Every party, networking event, and social situation has a predictable map. Discover the sweet spot for making the most connections. · How to read faces: It’s easier than you think to speed-read facial expressions and use them to predict people’s emotions. · How to talk to anyone: Every conversation can be memorable—once you learn how certain words generate the pleasure hormone dopamine in listeners. When you understand the laws of human behavior, your influence, impact, and income will increase significantly. What’s more, you will improve your interpersonal intelligence, make a killer first impression, and build rapport quickly and authentically in any situation—negotiations, interviews, parties, and pitches. You’ll never interact the same way again.

Stop People Pleasing
Stop People Pleasing

Author: Chase Hill

Publisher:

Published: 2020-10-22

Total Pages: 170

ISBN-13: 9781087921501

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Amazon USA #1 New Release Amazon USA #1 Best Seller in Gestalt Psychology A step-by-step 14-day action plan to help you stop people pleasing, be more assertive, and start saying no without feeling guilty.

How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty ...
How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty ...

Author: Connie V Hatch

Publisher: Random House

Published: 2011-05-31

Total Pages: 161

ISBN-13: 1446460991

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'How to Say no without feeling guilty teaches practical skills for embracing what's important and getting rid of what is keeping us from living the lives we want to live. It's a book to consult over and over again. I highly recommend it' John Gray By learning to say no without feeling guilty, you will find time you never dreamed you had. Even more important, you will learn to say yes to all those things that you hold most dear to your heart. Your life will become yours again. As you learn to say no, you become more available, compassionate, effective, energetic and generous to the people, organisations and causes dear to you. With the authors' help you will be able to identify what is truly important in your life and realise that vision. Whether your dream is to write a great novel, have more leisure time, or travel the world, both your life and the world around you will be better off because you have learned to say no.How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty devotes a chapter each to saying no: --at work;--to kids, family and friends;--to invitations, dates and romantic entanglements;--to requests for money whether from friends or charities;--to high maintenance people;as well as a chapter on all-purpose no's, difficult no's with extra bite, and excuses.

The People Pleaser's Guide to Loving Others without Losing Yourself
The People Pleaser's Guide to Loving Others without Losing Yourself

Author: Dr. Mike Bechtle

Publisher: Revell

Published: 2021-01-19

Total Pages: 224

ISBN-13: 1493428926

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We all want other people to like us and think well of us. But when we depend on the praise, admiration, or appreciation of others for our sense of self-worth, we become trapped in an exhausting and debilitating cycle of people-pleasing relationships where we always give and rarely receive. The most common advice we hear--Start putting your own needs first!-- doesn't work, because we do love helping other people! Thankfully, the solution to the people pleaser's "problem" isn't to fundamentally change who you are--it's to fundamentally change where you find your worth. In this freeing book, Dr. Mike Bechtle shows you stop letting your fears of rejection, criticism, invisibility, or inadequacy drive your actions and start rebuilding your sense of self-worth from the inside out. When you do, you'll discover that what you once thought of as a struggle is actually a strength.

When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable
When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable

Author: Karen Ehman

Publisher: Zondervan

Published: 2021-08-03

Total Pages: 224

ISBN-13: 0310347599

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Are you overwhelmed by others' unrealistic expectations of you? Do you feel torn in dozens of directions as you try to make everyone around you happy? If you're ready to end the cycle of approval seeking, New York Times bestselling author and recovering people pleaser Karen Ehman is here to help! When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable shares the refreshing, heartfelt lessons that Karen learned firsthand during her own journey of breaking free from people pleasing in order to live out her God-given purpose. Let Karen be your new go-to guide as you learn to successfully break the destructive pattern of people pleasing and start fully embracing the life God has called you to lead. With equal parts humor and vulnerability, Karen explores why it's so easy to fall into people-pleasing behaviors and reminds us that we can't fulfill our divine purpose if we're too busy living everyone else's. She offers her timely advice for living with less overwhelm and with more peace and purpose, sharing words of wisdom that will help you: Prioritize what God says above what other people think Live your life without worrying about the opinions and expectations of others Cultivate a strategy for knowing when to say yes and how to say no Create and maintain healthy boundaries with the pushers, pouters, guilt bombers and others who try to call the shots in your life Learn to navigate the tension between pleasing God and loving your community Join Karen as she encourages you to walk closely--and confidently--with our loving Creator, despite the opinions and expectations of others. It's time to end the people-pleasing game and finally enjoy the peaceful and purposeful life that you deserve.