The People Pleaser's Guide to Loving Others without Losing Yourself

The People Pleaser's Guide to Loving Others without Losing Yourself

Author: Dr. Mike Bechtle

Publisher: Revell

Published: 2021-01-19

Total Pages: 224

ISBN-13: 1493428926

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

We all want other people to like us and think well of us. But when we depend on the praise, admiration, or appreciation of others for our sense of self-worth, we become trapped in an exhausting and debilitating cycle of people-pleasing relationships where we always give and rarely receive. The most common advice we hear--Start putting your own needs first!-- doesn't work, because we do love helping other people! Thankfully, the solution to the people pleaser's "problem" isn't to fundamentally change who you are--it's to fundamentally change where you find your worth. In this freeing book, Dr. Mike Bechtle shows you stop letting your fears of rejection, criticism, invisibility, or inadequacy drive your actions and start rebuilding your sense of self-worth from the inside out. When you do, you'll discover that what you once thought of as a struggle is actually a strength.


Losing Control

Losing Control

Author: Roy F. Baumeister

Publisher: Academic Press

Published: 1994-11-07

Total Pages: 328

ISBN-13:

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

Self-regulation refers to the self's ability to control its own thoughts, emotions, and actions. Through self-regulation, we consciously control how much we eat, whether we give in to impulse, task performance, obsessive thoughts, and even the extent to which we allow ourselves recognition of our emotions. This work provides a synthesis and overview of recent and long-standing research findings of what is known of the successes and failures of self-regulation. People the world over suffer from the inability to control their finances, their weight, their emotions, their craving for drugs, their sexual impulses, and more. The United States in particular is regarded by some observers as a society addicted to addiction. Therapy and support groups have proliferated not only for alcoholics and drug abusers but for all kinds of impulse control, from gambling to eating chocolate. Common to all of these disorders is a failure of self-regulation, otherwise known as "self-control." The consequences of these self-control problems go beyond individuals to affect family members and society at large. In Losing Control, the authors provide a single reference source with comprehensive information on general patterns of self-regulation failure across contexts, research findings on specific self-control disorders, and commentary on the clinical and social aspects of self-regulation failure. Self-control is discussed in relation to what the "self" is, and the cognitive, motivational, and emotional factors that impinge on one's ability to control one's "self." Discusses the importance of the concept of self-regulation to general issues of autonomy and identity Encompasses self-control of thoughts, feelings, and actions Contains a special section on the control of impulses and appetites First book to integrate recent research into a broad overview of the area


Top Five Regrets of the Dying

Top Five Regrets of the Dying

Author: Bronnie Ware

Publisher: Hay House, Inc

Published: 2019-08-13

Total Pages: 322

ISBN-13: 1401956009

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

Revised edition of the best-selling memoir that has been read by over a million people worldwide with translations in 29 languages. After too many years of unfulfilling work, Bronnie Ware began searching for a job with heart. Despite having no formal qualifications or previous experience in the field, she found herself working in palliative care. During the time she spent tending to those who were dying, Bronnie's life was transformed. Later, she wrote an Internet blog post, outlining the most common regrets that the people she had cared for had expressed. The post gained so much momentum that it was viewed by more than three million readers worldwide in its first year. At the request of many, Bronnie subsequently wrote a book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, to share her story. Bronnie has had a colourful and diverse life. By applying the lessons of those nearing their death to her own life, she developed an understanding that it is possible for everyone, if we make the right choices, to die with peace of mind. In this revised edition of the best-selling memoir that has been read by over a million people worldwide, with translations in 29 languages, Bronnie expresses how significant these regrets are and how we can positively address these issues while we still have the time. The Top Five Regrets of the Dying gives hope for a better world. It is a courageous, life-changing book that will leave you feeling more compassionate and inspired to live the life you are truly here to live.


Losing Our Way

Losing Our Way

Author: Bob Herbert

Publisher: Anchor

Published: 2014-10-07

Total Pages: 297

ISBN-13: 0385535899

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

From longtime New York Times columnist Bob Herbert comes a wrenching portrayal of ordinary Americans struggling for survival in a nation that has lost its way In his eighteen years as an opinion columnist for The New York Times, Herbert championed the working poor and the middle class. After filing his last column in 2011, he set off on a journey across the country to report on Americans who were being left behind in an economy that has never fully recovered from the Great Recession. The portraits of those he encountered fuel his new book, Losing Our Way. Herbert’s combination of heartrending reporting and keen political analysis is the purest expression since the Occupy movement of the plight of the 99 percent. The individuals and families who are paying the price of America’s bad choices in recent decades form the book’s emotional center: an exhausted high school student in Brooklyn who works the overnight shift in a factory at minimum wage to help pay her family’s rent; a twenty-four-year-old soldier from Peachtree City, Georgia, who loses both legs in a misguided, mismanaged, seemingly endless war; a young woman, only recently engaged, who suffers devastating injuries in a tragic bridge collapse in Minneapolis; and a group of parents in Pittsburgh who courageously fight back against the politicians who decimated funding for their children’s schools. Herbert reminds us of a time in America when unemployment was low, wages and profits were high, and the nation’s wealth, by current standards, was distributed much more equitably. Today, the gap between the wealthy and everyone else has widened dramatically, the nation’s physical plant is crumbling, and the inability to find decent work is a plague on a generation. Herbert traces where we went wrong and spotlights the drastic and dangerous shift of political power from ordinary Americans to the corporate and financial elite. Hope for America, he argues, lies in a concerted push to redress that political imbalance. Searing and unforgettable, Losing Our Way ultimately inspires with its faith in ordinary citizens to take back their true political power and reclaim the American dream.


Keeping Your Head After Losing Your Job

Keeping Your Head After Losing Your Job

Author: Robert Leahy

Publisher: Behler Publications, LLC

Published: 2013-09-24

Total Pages: 290

ISBN-13: 1933016620

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

A self-help book to help the unemployed and their families cope more effectively during a time when they feel helpless.


Consensuality

Consensuality

Author: Helen Wildfell

Publisher: Microcosm Publishing

Published: 2015-06-22

Total Pages: 129

ISBN-13: 1621060454

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

There are infinite possibilities in human relationships, but the fairytale ideal of companionship does not exist for most people. In Consensuality, Helen Wildfell and her co-adventurers detail the process for creating or finding a healthy, successful relationship as well as common pitfalls and how to avoid them, like gender identity, sexual boundaries, power struggles, and emotional dysfunction. Overcoming regret and resentment, the authors describe a journey towards a respectful social environment. Their experiences lead to lessons of self-empowerment and communication tips for building healthy partnerships. We recognize their preferences and boundaries. We discuss how those fit with our own preferences and boundaries. Filled with personal descriptions of the complex layers in human interaction, the book combines gender studies with memoir to truly make the personal political.


Working with Difficult People, Second Revised Edition

Working with Difficult People, Second Revised Edition

Author: Amy Cooper Hakim

Publisher: Penguin

Published: 2016-12-06

Total Pages: 352

ISBN-13: 1101993111

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

A revised edition of the classic guide on how to best resolve conflict in today's technologically advanced workplace. Your work day is filled with them--people who frustrate, impede, maneuver, undermine, plot, connive, and whine. This indispensable guide details specific techniques for handling all of them, with easy-to-follow scenarios for every situation. Updated and revised to reflect modern issues including technology, generation gaps, and language barriers, this guide describes 10 kinds of culprits, from tyrants and bullies (regular and cyber) to the pushy and presumptuous to connivers and camouflagers; and offers helpful strategies and phrases for diffusing workplace tensions and effectively resolving conflicts.


Losing Someone You Love

Losing Someone You Love

Author: Tracy A. Phillips

Publisher: Enslow Publishing, LLC

Published: 2009-01-01

Total Pages: 108

ISBN-13: 9780766030671

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

Explores the emotions involved in the wake of a loved one's death and offers suggestions on how to help children and teens cope with their grief.


Straight Talk about Death for Teenagers

Straight Talk about Death for Teenagers

Author: Earl A. Grollman

Publisher: Beacon Press

Published: 1993-04-01

Total Pages: 164

ISBN-13: 9780807025017

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

If you are a teenager whose friend or relative has died, this book was written for you. Earl A. Grollman, the award-winning author of Living When a Loved One Has Died, explains what to expect when you lose someone you love.


Handbook of Bereavement

Handbook of Bereavement

Author: Margaret S. Stroebe

Publisher: Cambridge University Press

Published: 1993-03-26

Total Pages: 564

ISBN-13: 9780521448536

DOWNLOAD EBOOK

Focusing on methodologically sound, theoretically oriented, and empirically derived knowledge, the authors provide a structured framework for researchers and practitioners.