268 young people share how they coped with their parents' divorce. Includes comments from 20 counselors who work with youth whose parents are divorcing.
In a simple question-and-answer format, the book gently explains what divorce is, why parents decide to divorce, new living arrangements, how to handle feelings, and other basics to help children understand what's happening in their lives
Adult children are often overlooked and forgotten when their parents divorce later in life, but in these pages they will find comfort and understanding for the many feelings, frustrations, and challenges they face. For more than two decades, a silent revolution has been occurring and creating a seismic shift in the American family and families in other countries. It has been unfolding without much comment, and its effects are being felt across three to four generations: more couples are divorcing later in life. Called the “gray divorce revolution,” the cultural phenomenon describes couples who divorce after the age of 50. Overlooked in the issues that affect couples divorcing later in in life are the adult children of divorcing parents. Their voices open this book, and they are the voices of men and women, 18 to 50 years old. Some of them are single; some are married. Some have children of their own. All of them are in different stages of shock, fear, and sudden, dramatic change. In Home Will Never Be the Same: A Guide for Adult Children of Gray Divorce, Carol Hughes and Bruce Fredenburg share their deep understanding gained during the innumerable hours they have spent with these women and men in their clinical practices. The result is a valuable resource for these too often forgotten adult children, many of whom find that, whenever they express their feelings and experiences, the most important people in their lives frequently ignore and dismiss them. As the divorce rate for older adults soars, so too does the number of adult children who are experiencing parental divorce. Yet, these adult children frequently say that they are the only ones who are aware of what they are going through, no one understands what they are experiencing, and they feel painfully alone.
Seventy now-adult children of divorce give their candid and often heart-wrenching answers to eight questions (arranged in eight chapters, by question), including: What were the main effects of your parents' divorce on your life? What do you say to those who claim that "children are resilient" and "children are happy when their parents are happy"? What would you like to tell your parents then and now? What do you want adults in our culture to know about divorce? What role has your faith played in your healing? Their simple and poignant responses are difficult to read and yet not without hope. Most of the contributors--women and men, young and old, single and married--have never spoken of the pain and consequences of their parents' divorce until now. They have often never been asked, and they believe that no one really wants to know. Despite vastly different circumstances and details, the similarities in their testimonies are striking; as the reader will discover, the death of a child's family impacts the human heart in universal ways.
When you share custody of children, divorce can be a short-term tension headache or a lifelong migraine. If you don’t want to blow all your money on pills, the two of you need to get along. I Do, Part 2 is a funny, honest trounce through life post-divorce, helping people who produced a child together, then split, learn to navigate their complicated new lives. Filled with practical advice for making nice with your ex and co-parenting without killing each other, I Do, Part 2 will help former mates find common ground, determine their parenting roles (somebody has to be bad cop), seamlessly weave in a new wife or husband, and create the biggest cheering section at your kid’s soccer game.
How do you deal with it? - Blame - Whose fault? - Self esteem - Family breakups - Caught in the battle zone - Parents - how do I deal with them? -Anger - Forgiveness - Spiritual zone.
When an adult child's marriage ends, lots of folks are hurt. The divorcing couple, of course, and their children. Until now, however, little attention has been paid to the parents of the divorcees. Temlock's examination of this sensitive topic offers parents a friendly guidebook packed with helpful information and suggestions from parents who've "been there." Her five-stage model of the divorce process for parents (Accepting the News, Rescuing Your Child, Responding to Changes, Stabilizing the Family, Refocusing and Rebuilding) will help readers stay grounded through the emotional upheavals they'll share with their children and grandchildren. This practical manual puts an arm around the shoulder of parents of divorcing adults and supports them through the difficult days of the divorce process and its aftermath.
Written in a light-hearted manner for kids and teens, this divorce survival guide for kids is authored by two teens who share tips and tricks they learned over more than ten years, while moving from mom's to dad's house. They decided to write it after realizing that when their friend's parents were divorcing, they were the 'go-to' divorce kids for advice...and they realized they were sharing the same information each time. So, they wanted to share the information with all kids that are going through this difficult time, but in a kid-to-kid kind of way. In an easy to read format you'll find tips for what to expect, getting used to two homes, dealing with the divorce drama, what to do when you don't know what to do, and tips for sharing homework and school information between parents and teachers. So many things you didn't have to think of when your parents were together!Most importantly, this book shows kids that they're not alone and others have successfully survived their parents divorce. So why go through it with trial and error when you can read this brief guide and get all the tips you'll need to survive?! Deliberately kept short so you can get back to your friends, facebook, twitter and everything else kids do today!
How can children successfully survive the trauma of divorce? In friendly, heart-to-heart language, Archibald Hart offers divorced parents specific ways to help children cope with the psychological and social damage that comes with divorce.
Packed with research, insights, and illuminating (and often funny) examples from Paris’s own divorce experience, this book is a “practical and reassuring guide to parting well.” —Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project Engaging and revolutionary, filled with wit, searing honesty, and intimate interviews, Splitopia is a call for a saner, more civil kind of divorce. As Paris reveals, divorce has improved dramatically in recent decades due to changes in laws and family structures, advances in psychology and child development, and a new understanding of the importance of the father. Positive psychology expert and author of Happier, Tal Ben-Shahar, writes that Paris’s “personal insights, stories, and research” create “a smart and interesting guide that can be extremely helpful for those going through divorce.” Reading this book can be the difference between an expensive, ugly battle and a decent divorce, between children sucked under by conflict or happy, healthy kids. This is “a compelling case that it’s high time for a new definition of Happily Ever After—for everyone” (Brigid Schulte, author of Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time).