A proper marriage is very wonderful and very beautiful, however, it is possible to stay married and be doing the "right thing" too long. God does not want us to be a "sacrificial victim" for the "sake of the marriage". As painful as this may sound when dealing with a marriage, divorcing or "making one into two" is necessary and needed to save and preserve life. God's priority is to save the people of the marriage, not necessarily the marriage itself. If God hates divorce, then he must have his approval on the marriage. If God hates the marriage, he must have his approval on the divorce. Divorce itself is not wrong, but when it's used for selfish pleasure, it is! The real question is, "which divorce does God hate?" To which divorce did God say, "I hate divorce"?
You Can Love God and Still Get a Divorce. And get this, God will still love you. Really. Are you in a destructive marriage? One of emotional, physical, or verbal abuse? Infidelity? Neglect? If yes, you know you need to escape, but you're probably worried about going against God's will. I have good news for you. You might need to divorce to save your life and sanity. And God is right beside you. In "The Life-Saving Divorce" You'll Learn: - How to know if you should stay or if you should go.- The four key Bible verses that support divorce for infidelity, neglect, and physical and/or emotional abuse. - Twenty-seven myths about divorce that aren't true for many Christians. - Why a divorce is likely the absolute best thing for your children. - How to deal with friends and family who disapprove of divorce. - How to find safe friends and churches after a divorce. Can you find happiness after leaving your destructive marriage? Absolutely yes! You can get your life back and flourish more than you thought possible. Are you ready? Then let's go. It's time to be free. This book includes multiple first-person interviews. Explains psychological abuse, gaslighting, the abuse cycle, Christian divorce and remarriage, children and divorce, domestic violence, parental alienation, mental abuse, and biblical reasons for divorce. Includes diagrams such as the Duluth Wheel of Power and Control (the Duluth Model) and the Abuse Cycle, as well as graphs based on Paul Amato's 2003 study analyzing Judith Wallerstein's book, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce. Includes quotes by Leslie Vernick, Lundy Bancroft, Shannon Thomas, David Instone-Brewer, Natalie Hoffman, LifeWay Research, Kathleen Reay, Gottman Institute, Glenda Riley, Martin Luther, John Calvin, Steven Stosny, Michal Gilad, Leonie Westenberg, Nancy Nason-Clark, Julie Owens, Marg Mowczko, Justin Holcomb, Barna Group, Justin Lehmiller, Alan Hawkins, Brian Willoughby, William Doherty, Brad Wright, Bradford Wilcox, Sheila Gregoire, E Mavis Hetherington, John Kelly, Betsey Stevenson, Justin Wolfers, Norm Wright, Virginia Rutter, Judith Herman, and Bessel van der Kolk. Recommended reading list includes: Henry Cloud, John Townsend Boundaries books, Richard Warshack books.
Consecutive polygamy (as many husbands or wives as you like but only one at a time) is now an accepted norm in contemporary society. Hardly surprising, since the social, legal, moral and financial restraints holding marriages together for a lifetime have been steadily eroded in a relativist age where anything goes. What is surprising is that divorce and remarriage are becoming as common inside the church as outside, even among Christian leaders and especially in the Evangelical stream. Believers have been outspoken about such issues as abortion and homosexuality though their Lord Jesus said nothing about either. He did say quite a lot about the subject of this book but there is either a reluctance to take his teaching at face value or an eagerness to enlarge his ‘exception’ until it becomes the rule. This volume primarily appeals to those for whom the Bible is the final authority in all matters of belief and behaviour, especially those who preach to, teach and counsel others. The author believes that the church should be leading the world uphill rather than following the world downhill. David Pawson has a worldwide teaching ministry, particularly for church leaders. He is known to many through Christian broadcasting and is the author of numerous books.
God uses divorce to save lives! Many divorced people have felt that they have let God down. Those who need to divorce feel that they are going against God's will. But no more! God Himself has spoken on their behalf. The Lord said to the author, "Son, sit down, I want to teach you about divorce." Divorce: God's Will? is the result of God's command to help people come out from under the condemnation of religion and to experience His love. This book is full of hope and compassion! It reveals God's true heart to those who are in a bad marriage and those who have gone through a divorce. There is so much love and power that flows from these pages that it literally releases the reader from condemnation and brings their heart to total peace. Since God's Word, the Bible, is the foundation for marriage and divorce, the author has plainly established and made clear from the Bible that God is for divorce. God cares more for the man and woman who make up the marriage than He cares for the marriage itself. Divorce: God's Will? covers everything from staying in a bad marriage too long, to that ever-elusive subject, Submission. This book is destined to be the psychologist's, clergy's, and family/marriage counselor's most referenced companion. You can learn more about Divorce: God's Will? at www.divorcehope.com.
New from Best-Selling Author John Piper From Genesis to Revelation, the providence of God directs the entire course of redemptive history. Providence is "God's purposeful sovereignty." Its extent reaches down to the flight of electrons, up to the movements of galaxies, and into the heart of man. Its nature is wise and just and good. And its goal is the Christ-exalting glorification of God through the gladness of a redeemed people in a new world. Drawing on a lifetime of theological reflection, biblical study, and practical ministry, pastor and author John Piper leads us on a stunning tour of the sightings of God's providence—from Genesis to Revelation—to discover the allencompassing reality of God's purposeful sovereignty over all of creation and all of history. Piper invites us to experience the profound effects of knowing the God of all-pervasive providence: the intensifying of true worship, the solidifying of wavering conviction, the strengthening of embattled faith, the toughening of joyful courage, and the advance of God's mission in this world.
Illumination Book Award WinnerUplifting, practical and inspiring this award-winning divorce recovery book helps you with real-life issues and takes you on a journey that can change your life for the better. Selected as an exemplary Christian self-help book by the Illumination Book Awards, Peace after Divorce walks you through a process that helps you cope with and heal from divorce. Learn Ways To: Move beyond the pain of separation and divorce; Deal with loneliness and divorce grief; Win the battle with your thoughts, Choose healing actions; Cope more effectively with your ex or soon-to-be ex; Help children cope with separation and divorce; Enjoy life after divorce as a single adult; and more.Don't Become One of the Walking Wounded! Click to Order Your Copy Now. For individual or group use. Christian divorce recovery curriculum and leader materials are available through After Divorce Ministries.
Through a careful exploration of the background literature of the Old Testament, the ancient Near East and ancient Judaism, Instone-Brewer constructs a biblical picture of divorce and remarriage that is directly relevant to modern relationships.
Divorce and remarriage are major pastoral issues facing every church. Yet when we turn to Scripture for guidance, we often hear conflicting messages about its teachings. David Instone-Brewer shows how the New Testament provides faithful, realistic and wise guidance of crucial importance and practical help for the church today.
How to survive the life, death, and rebirth of marriage. Forgiveness removes any walls between you and God. Forgiveness is vertical as well as horizontal. —Myles Munroe (excerpt from Single, Married, Separated, and Life After Divorce) God Understands Divorce is a comprehensive compilation of real-life marriage situations that explain how quickly relationships can deteriorate, how to bring life back to terminally ill marriages—and how to let go. Whether you are divorced or thinking about it, you will discover:· How and why God understands divorce.· How to cope and become refreshed and respected.· A variety of real-life scenarios designed to change your perspective.· An interactive, friendly conversation to help revive the best part of you.· The eight steps to reconciliation. Critical marital issues discussed include: Infidelity and Impotence; Drug and Alcohol Abuse; Personal Growth; Finances and Parenting; Personal Happiness; Intolerance, Physical and Emotional Abuse; Incompatibility. God Understands Divorce brings you full circle—back into the loving arms of a loving God.
Editor H. Wayne House introduces a lively debate on varying Christian views of divorce and remarriage. Contributors include J. Carl Laney, William Heth, Thomas Edgar and Larry Richards.
