The Dysfunctional Relationships of Givers and Takers
The Dysfunctional Relationships of Givers and Takers

Author: Michael A. Church

Publisher: Author House

Published: 2011-08-08

Total Pages: 191

ISBN-13: 1463423993

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In your relationships does it matter if you and your partner are a giver or a taker? Are there different types of givers and takers? Whats the secret to a good marriage? How can you save a rocky marriage? What is the best way to get counseling and what should you expect from counseling? What if a serious psychological disorder is involved in your relationship? The authors, professional psychologists, answer these and many more questions by examining clinical case studies from their counseling practice. The authors present an original model that divides both givers and takers into four different types, and they use the model to analyze their case studies and illustrate why relationships can succeed or fail. They also discuss various personality disorders (such as, obsessive-compulsive, narcissistic, dependent, paranoid, borderline, and antisocial), and how such conditions can complicate treatment of dysfunctional relationships. This book is an essential first step for anyone concerned about a relationship, or who just wants to learn more about the dynamics of relationships from the perspective of givers and takers.

Why It Can't Work
Why It Can't Work

Author: Thomas Fiffer

Publisher: CreateSpace

Published: 2015-04-25

Total Pages: 134

ISBN-13: 9781511899055

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Are you unhappy in your relationship? Do you and your partner constantly fight? Has the person who's supposed to be your source of comfort, support, and joy become someone you both love and despise? What you're going through is well beyond the normal relationship challenges most people experience, because you're stuck in a dysfunctional relationship. You may also feel you're the only one this is happening to, that everyone else fares better with their partners, that there's something wrong with you, and worst of all that you deserve to be treated badly--because your partner has convinced, cajoled, bullied, and sometimes battered you into believing you're the cause. Fortunately, you're not alone, and help is here from someone who has lived what you're living. Thomas G. Fiffer, Executive Editor for The Good Men Project whose articles have over 5 million page views, has written extensively about dysfunctional relationships and gathered his wisdom in "Why It Can't Work: Detaching from dysfunctional relationships to make room for true love." The author survived two marriages defined--and ultimately destroyed--by dysfunctional dynamics and has learned how to break the patterns that prevented him from being happy and forming healthy emotional and romantic attachments. "Why It Can't Work" shows you how to recognize the problem, identify the source, and take decisive action--either to right your relationship or abandon it. Through an ordered sequence of enlightening articles collectively shared over 300,000 times on Facebook, the author gently but assertively reveals the painful truths about dysfunctional relationships, reminding us that romantic partnerships are supposed to be a healthy source of love and support, and letting us know it's OK to walk away when they aren't. If you or someone you know is involved in a dysfunctional relationship, reading "Why It Can't Work" will light the way back to happiness and peace.

The Dysfunctional Library
The Dysfunctional Library

Author: Jo Henry

Publisher: American Library Association

Published: 2017-12-12

Total Pages: 306

ISBN-13: 0838916708

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By tackling the dysfunctional library head on, managers as well as library workers who find themselves in a toxic situation will be poised to better meet library goals and move the library forward.

IRRELATIONSHIP: How we use Dysfunctional Relationships to Hide from Intimacy
IRRELATIONSHIP: How we use Dysfunctional Relationships to Hide from Intimacy

Author: Mark B. Borg

Publisher: Central Recovery Press, LLC

Published: 2015-09-28

Total Pages: 258

ISBN-13: 1942094019

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No matter how committed two people are to being together, why can't they get away from feeling something is missing? In this important and transformative guide, three experienced practitioners identify the widespread dysfunctional dynamic they call "irrelationship," a psychological defense system two people create together to protect themselves from the fear and anxiety of real intimacy in a relationship. Drawing on their wide clinical and life experience, the authors examine behavioral "song-and-dance routines" repeatedly performed by couples affected by irrelationship. Readers will find a valuable framework for understanding their challenges with action-oriented tools to help them navigate their way to fulfilling relationships. Mark B. Borg, Jr., PhD, is a community psychologist and psychoanalyst, and a supervisor of psychotherapy at the William Alanson White Institute. Grant H. Brenner, MD, is a board-certified psychiatrist in private practice, specializing in treating mood and anxiety disorders and the complex problems that may arise in adulthood from childhood trauma and loss. Daniel Berry, RN, MHA, has practiced as a Registered Nurse in New York City since 1987 and has worked for almost two decades in community-based programs.

The Betrayal Bond
The Betrayal Bond

Author: Patrick Carnes

Publisher: Health Communications Incorporated

Published: 2019-02-12

Total Pages: 338

ISBN-13: 0757318231

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Some really great books just keep getting better! For seventeen years The Betrayal Bond has been the primary source for therapists and patients wrestling the effects of emotional pain and harm caused by exploitation from someone they trusted. Divorce, litigation, incest and child abuse, domestic violence, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. These are situations and relationships of incredible intensity or importance lend themselves more easily to an exploitation of trust or power. In The Betrayal Bond, Dr. Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships; why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. Dr. Carnes also gives a clear explanation of the bond that compels people to tolerate the intolerable, and for the first time, maps out the brain connection that makes being with hurtful people comparable to 'a drug of choice.' Most importantly, Carnes provides practical steps to identify compulsive attachment patterns and ultimately to change or end them for good. This new edition includes: New science for understanding how our brains can make a prison of bad relationships New assessments and insights based on 50,000 research participants A new section utilizing the latest findings in attachment research and narrative therapy to concretely rewrite and rescript bad experiences A redefinition of the factors contributing to addictive relationships

Unhealthy Helping
Unhealthy Helping

Author: Shawn Burn

Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform

Published: 2016-05-16

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9781533347534

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"Helping and giving are good but some types are unintentionally unhelpful and unhealthy. Unhealthy Helping contains psychology-based explanations and solutions for people who help and give in ways that are harmful to themselves, others, or their relationships. Psychology professor and Psychology Today blogger Shawn Meghan Burn explores codependent and dysfunctional helping and giving relationships, how to tell the difference between unhealthy and healthy helping and giving, the social and psychological sources of codependence and unhealthy helping and giving, and how even the best intentions can go unexpectedly wrong (and what to do about it). Unhealthy Helping will help you find that helping and giving sweet spot where your help is truly helpful and your giving is healthy for others, your relationships, and for you."--Back cover.

Love Is a Choice
Love Is a Choice

Author: Robert Hemfelt

Publisher: Thomas Nelson

Published: 2003-02-02

Total Pages: 288

ISBN-13: 1418513725

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Do you want to reclaim your independence? Are you looking for guidance as you learn to set boundaries that actually serve you? If you're ready to let go of unhealthy relationships and begin your journey to healing, join Drs. Frank Minirth, Paul Meier, and Robert Hemfelt in Love Is a Choice as they walk you through their ten proven steps to recovering from codependency. In Love Is a Choice, Drs. Minirth, Meier, and Hemfelt combine decades of research with timeless biblical wisdom to show you that the most effective means of overcoming codependent relationships is to establish or deepen your relationship with Christ Himself. Love Is a Choice will teach you why God wants us to be independent and why you deserve to have healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Throughout Love Is a Choice, Drs. Minirth, Meier, and Hemfelt will lead you through their method to overcoming codependency once and for all. Along the way, Love Is a Choice will give you the tools and encouragement you need to: Discover the root causes of codependency Surround yourself with a loving, supportive community See yourself in a new light Uncover your unmet emotional needs It's time to break the cycle of codependency. Let Love Is a Choice be your guide every step of the way.

The Completion Process
The Completion Process

Author: Teal Swan

Publisher: Hay House, Inc

Published: 2016-08-23

Total Pages: 225

ISBN-13: 1401951449

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Few of us have lived through the kind of suffering Teal Swan endured: 13 years of ritual abuse at the hands of a cult. But all of us have been fractured by trauma in one way or another. Your wounds may be visible as bodily scars; or they may show up in the form of anxiety, depression, or PTSD; or you may simply be struggling in your life for reasons you don’t simply understand. The good news is that you can heal your wounds. The Completion Process invites you on a profound journey of self-exploration and self-restoration to reclaim the lost parts of you and return to a joyous life, no longer inhibited by the past or terrified of the future. Drawing on her wide range of extrasensory abilities, including clairvoyance, clairsentience, and clairaudience, Teal offers a revolutionary 18-step process for healing any past hurt or present problem. Learn how to: • Create a haven in your mind where it’s safe to re-enter a difficult memory • Validate painful emotions • Let your feelings shift naturally toward relief • Close the memory of trauma and begin a "new life" This is not only healing work; it’s also the work of enlightenment. It will leave you with a stronger sense of value and hope in the world, and the assurance that life can be good again.

Making The Best Of A Dysfunctional Relationship
Making The Best Of A Dysfunctional Relationship

Author: Sarah M. Shaw

Publisher: Speedy Publishing LLC

Published: 2013-08-18

Total Pages: 32

ISBN-13: 1630223131

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Dysfunctional relationships occur all the time and it does take a bit of work to get things back on track. "Making The Best Of A Dysfunctional Relationship" is a book that can help people that are seeking a viable solution to their relationship woes and to find the most amicable solution to their problems. The author starts out by defining what a dysfunctional relationship is before going into the various solutions that can be used to fix the problem. Of course the situations that cannot be fixed are also highlighted. Having a healthy relationship is extremely difficult and takes a lot of commitment on the part of both persons. It also takes a lot of understanding and compromise. Lack of this, among other things can lead to a dysfunction in the relationship. By bearing these things in mind and having an open mind to receive constructive criticism, the relationship can be a healthy and long lasting one. About the Author: Sarah M. Shaw knows what it takes to have a healthy relationship as she grew up in a household where her she saw her parents working hard to maintain their relationship. The great thing is that they did not allow their problems to affect any of their children negatively. If they were caught arguing, they would sit the children down and explained that persons would disagree from time to time but that the skill was getting things sorted out in an amicable fashion. She carried this into her adult life and found that she had quite a bit of success when she applied the same principles to her own relationships. Some worked better than others and she finally found her true match in her husband Phil, to whom she has been happily married for over ten years. Her ultimate goal is to get everyone to be as happy as she is and so she chose to write a book to help those with dysfunctional relationships to work their problems out.

How to Be an Adult in Relationships
How to Be an Adult in Relationships

Author: David Richo

Publisher: Shambhala Publications

Published: 2021-11-02

Total Pages: 313

ISBN-13: 1611809541

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This beloved book has touched hundreds of thousands of lives with its profound and actionable advice. Retaining the core message of becoming more mindful in our relationships, this edition includes new and revised material that addresses how we live and love today. A new preface touches on David Richo’s experience with the book over time and outlines the key updates, including attention to online dating and modern communication styles as well as new perspectives on anger and ending relationships. “Most people think of love as a feeling,” says Richo, “but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present.” How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships. Adult love is based on a mutual commitment to what Richo calls the “five A’s”: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing. Brimming with practical exercises for couples and singles, How to Be an Adult in Relationships offers heartening insights into a lifelong journey of love. Topics include: • Becoming conscious of our relationship patterns and how they relate to childhood • Recognizing and attracting someone who can show adult love • Understanding the phases relationships go through • Creating and maintaining healthy boundaries • Overcoming fears of abandonment and engulfment • Expressing anger and other emotions in adult and loving ways • Surviving break-ups with our self-esteem intact • Understanding love as a spiritual journey