"This volume deals with the subject of betrayal, and is appropriate as a self-help aid for clients. It also contains useful suggestions for therapists dealing with those who have experienced betrayal of trust."--Lucy R. Ferguson, Ph.D., member, AFTNC Faculty Member and Dean Emerita, CSPP, Alliant University.
Some really great books just keep getting better! For seventeen years The Betrayal Bond has been the primary source for therapists and patients wrestling the effects of emotional pain and harm caused by exploitation from someone they trusted. Divorce, litigation, incest and child abuse, domestic violence, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. These are situations and relationships of incredible intensity or importance lend themselves more easily to an exploitation of trust or power. In The Betrayal Bond, Dr. Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships; why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. Dr. Carnes also gives a clear explanation of the bond that compels people to tolerate the intolerable, and for the first time, maps out the brain connection that makes being with hurtful people comparable to 'a drug of choice.' Most importantly, Carnes provides practical steps to identify compulsive attachment patterns and ultimately to change or end them for good. This new edition includes: New science for understanding how our brains can make a prison of bad relationships New assessments and insights based on 50,000 research participants A new section utilizing the latest findings in attachment research and narrative therapy to concretely rewrite and rescript bad experiences A redefinition of the factors contributing to addictive relationships
Responding Right When You've Been Wronged We all know what it’s like to be lied to, cheated, tricked, or swindled. Whether you want revenge or to protect yourself from future harm, Phil Waldrep understands your pain. Waldrep had no idea of the steep journey that lay ahead of him when two men walked into his office and revealed an unfolding story of a friend turned colleague who was living what amounted to a second life. For years following, Waldrep sought to heal the wounds of this broken relationship and confront the pain he felt in the aftermath of this betrayal. Along the way, he discovered God’s solutions to overcoming resentment. In Beyond Betrayal, you’ll learn about the biblical principles and practical tools that can help you identify betrayers in your life and name the pain you feel rediscover God as the healer of your wounds avoid bitterness and express your anger in healthy ways learn to remain open to trusting others again as you build new relationships choose forgiveness and develop strategies to prevent future betrayal Whether you’ve been hurt by a family member, friend, colleague, or trusted leader, you are not alone. Even Jesus was betrayed. You don’t have to let past hurts limit your future relationships—you can move beyond betrayal.
"A book of profound insight and wisdom, written not just for those who have been betrayed, but for anyone who wants to build deeper, more trusting relationships." SUSAN M. CAMPBELL, Ph.D. Author of THE COUPLES JOURNEY LOVE & BETRAYAL explores the many forms betrayal can take, from keeping secrets and negative gossip to breaking promises and sexual infidelity. In the process, you can discover how to heal the wounds of past betrayals, what steps to take to forgive both yourself and your betrayer, and how to cultivate a climate of love and trust in your current relationships.
A ground-breaking book that shares startling revelations that can help you break the pattern of betrayal. Jennifer P. Scneider, M.D., reveals to readers that your husband or lover uses his affairs as compulsively as an alcoholic uses alcohol, and that you may be codependent without knowing it. Inspired by personal and professional experience, Dr. Schneider examines codependency as it relates to addiction and addresses the anquish and helplessness that you feel. Dr. Schneider also explains how Twelve Step recovery programs can work for you, and she provides straightforward guidance to how to find such a group and how to choose a counselor. "Offers insight into the sex addict, firm recognition that it is a complusive disorder, and the comfort and understanding that they (the wives and girlfriends) are not alone, and not to be shamed or blamed." Melody Beattie Author of CODEPENDENT NO MORE
One of the world's top experts on betrayal looks at why we often can't see it right in front of our faces If the cover-up is worse than the crime, blindness to betrayal can be worse than the betrayal itself. Whether the betrayer is an unfaithful spouse, an abusive authority figure, an unfair boss, or a corrupt institution, we often refuse to see the truth order to protect ourselves. This book explores the fascinating phenomenon of how and why we ignore or deny betrayal, and what we can gain by transforming "betrayal blindness" into insight. Explains the psychological phenomenon of "betrayal blindness", in which we implicitly choose unawareness in order to avoid the risk of seeing treachery or injustice Based on the authors' substantial original research and clinical experience carried out over the last decade as well as their own story of confronting betrayal Filled with fascinating case studies involving unfaithful spouses, abusive authority figures and corrupt institutions, to name a few In a remarkable collaboration of science and clinical perspectives, Jennifer Freyd, one of the world's top experts on betrayal and child abuse, teams up with Pamela Birrell, a psychotherapist and educator with 25 years of experience.
Emily's life had three basic rules, love her family fiercely. Never expect forever and most importantly, shield her heart from pain. At a tender age she had learned love is not forever, sex destroys and if you don't invest your heart, it can never be broken. She played life safe. All it takes though, is one moment, a defining light in the perpetual darkness to bring life into your heart. For Emily, it was a night she would never forget, an ordinary evening of dancing, drinking and if she was in the mood, a brief one night stand. But then he beguiled her. His emerald eyes captivated and enslaved her to him. What Emily didn't anticipate was the mysterious giant to sit beside her and rock her foundations. His dirty mouth and sexy innuendos intrigued her. The green eyed Adonis took her for the ride of her life, on his motorbike. One she would never forget. He intertwined himself into her life and captured her soul.But the illusion of beauty can hide a broken past. And as the lovers fall deeper, the darkness leeches into the light, suffocating and destroying all within its path. Until there is nothing left but betrayal and shattered hearts. Due to sexual content, it may not be suitable for readers under the age of 18 years of age.
I thought I had a lot of questions before. Finding myself back in Besmet with the demon from my dreams, I'm finding it hard to deny the connection I feel toward him, despite the fact that he's certifiably insane. When did my life get so chaotic? My green magic isn't stable. My moods aren't stable. My ex isn't stable. Gran's not stable... oh who am I kidding? She's never been stable, so at least one of us is consistent. Luckily, I still have my guys; Cam, Fischer, Kai, and maybe Sloane. Honestly, I'm not sure that Sloane is capable of letting someone claim him, but he certainly makes my heart race. Secrets, lies, and prophecies are coming to light. Hopefully I put my trust in the right people because betrayal on it's own is terrible, but to be betrayed by those who swore to protect you? That would be devastating... This is a full-length RH romance, intended for adults 18 and over, which includes MMFMMM content. It ends on a cliffhanger and contains domestic violence including physical, mental, and sexual abuse and other themes that readers may find triggering. *This is the second book in a paranormal RH series.*
In this new, third edition of her award-winning book, Betrayal, Trust and Forgiveness, Dr. Beth Hedva combines best-practices in psychology with cross-cultural initiation rites and ancient mystery traditions to provide techniques for life-renewal and healing from betrayal wounds. Whether your lover let you down, your co-worker stabbed you in the back, or your life has been shattered by global events, you can get past the pain of betrayal and build a new life based on truth and Self-trust. Includes practical, step-by-step exercises to help readers apply Dr. Hedva's unique approach to turning challenges into positive growth experiences.
A partner's betrayal doesn't have to define your relationship. The key to working through a betrayal is learning how to communicate with your partner in a way that promotes truthfulness and understanding. Our book provides you with the knowledge needed to honestly discuss the issue with your partner and find a resolution to the problem.