Arousal
Arousal

Author: Michael J. Bader

Publisher: Macmillan

Published: 2003-01-18

Total Pages: 308

ISBN-13: 9780312302429

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Sexual fantasies. Everyone has them, but no one knows what they mean. People are curious about and often confused by the things that arouse them, yet they are often too ashamed to reveal their most private fantasies to their partners or even their therapists. In this fascinating and provocative book, Dr. Michael J. Bader offers a groundbreaking new theory of sexual desire, one that will liberate men and women and enable them to better understand their sexual preferences. Drawing on his twenty-five years as a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst, Dr. Bader demonstrates that rather than being programmed by biology or society, sexual fantasies and preferences are really psychological antidotes to unconscious dangers. Armed with this novel theory, men and women will no longer need to feel ashamed about what arouses them or confused about what arouses others. Dr. Bader sensitively tells the stories of his patients and explains the meaning of their sexual fantasies. In terms refreshingly free of jargon, he reveals how his profound new theory can be used to decipher a wide variety of sexual fantasies and behavior, ranging from ordinary preferences about positions in bed to flamboyant scenarios worthy of the Marquis de Sade. And yet, Dr. Bader's exciting new theory transcends the realm of individual psychology. Readers will come away with a radically new understanding of such issues as sexual chemistry and boredom, cybersex, pornography, and the differences in how men and women get excited. Both erudite and accessible, Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies is an important landmark in the literature of sexuality.

Arousal
Arousal

Author: Michael J. Bader

Publisher: Macmillan

Published: 2003-01-18

Total Pages: 308

ISBN-13: 1466838957

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Sexual fantasies. Everyone has them, but no one knows what they mean. People are curious about and often confused by the things that arouse them, yet they are often too ashamed to reveal their most private fantasies to their partners or even their therapists. In this fascinating and provocative book, Dr. Michael J. Bader offers a groundbreaking new theory of sexual desire, one that will liberate men and women and enable them to better understand their sexual preferences. Drawing on his twenty-five years as a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst, Dr. Bader demonstrates that rather than being programmed by biology or society, sexual fantasies and preferences are really psychological antidotes to unconscious dangers. Armed with this novel theory, men and women will no longer need to feel ashamed about what arouses them or confused about what arouses others. Dr. Bader sensitively tells the stories of his patients and explains the meaning of their sexual fantasies. In terms refreshingly free of jargon, he reveals how his profound new theory can be used to decipher a wide variety of sexual fantasies and behavior, ranging from ordinary preferences about positions in bed to flamboyant scenarios worthy of the Marquis de Sade. And yet, Dr. Bader's exciting new theory transcends the realm of individual psychology. Readers will come away with a radically new understanding of such issues as sexual chemistry and boredom, cybersex, pornography, and the differences in how men and women get excited. Both erudite and accessible, Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies is an important landmark in the literature of sexuality.

Arousal
Arousal

Author: Michael Bader

Publisher: Random House

Published: 2003

Total Pages: 274

ISBN-13: 0753507390

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Most people know what their sexual fantasies are but few of us have an insight into why they work. In this groundbreaking exploration of the libido, Dr Michael Bader draws on 25 years experience as a psychotherapist to offer a new theory of sexual desire: that our sexual imaginations are a 'portable first-aid kit for our psyches'. His analysis - that our fantasies are neither kinky nor perverse, but dependent on a need for psychological safety - enables us to understand the complex dynamics that determine our sexual preferences. Dr Bader uses case studies from his own practice to build up a convincing argument that our fantasies - from the conventional to the seemingly bizarre - work as an antidote to the non-sexual fears and anxieties each of us carries over from childhood. Bader's non-judgemental findings are revelatory and empowering, bringing fresh thinking to a subject we smugly thought we had finished analysing. Arousal enables both female and male readers to understand their own and their partner's sexual desires. It offers radical ideas about sexual chemistry and explores the different ways in which men and women get excited. Both accessible and enlightening, Arousal is an important, jargon-free landmark in sexual psychology that is invaluable to anyone interested in human relationships.

Male Sexuality
Male Sexuality

Author: Michael J. Bader

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield Publishers

Published: 2009

Total Pages: 174

ISBN-13: 9780742560697

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At first glance the sexual male seems easy to understand, but beneath the surface lie complexities that disrupt lives and relationships. Respected psychologist Michael Bader takes an honest look at the nuances of male sexuality, addressing issues such as sexual boredom, internet sex, and sexual fantasies that can leave women bewildered and men ashamed. Illustrated with engaging examples from his practice, Male Sexuality gives readers, both women and men, deeper understanding of male behavior. Through increased awareness of the psychology behind the sex, Bader aims to enhance individual self-esteem and improve communication in relationships.

Private Thoughts
Private Thoughts

Author: Wendy Maltz

Publisher: New World Library

Published: 2012-10-16

Total Pages: 219

ISBN-13: 1608682129

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Private Thoughts provides more than just these women’s fantasies, however. It combines new research with the advice of a seasoned sex therapist. The result is an exciting contribution to the field of sexuality. Drawing insights from Wendy’s research and advice from her clinical experience as a sex therapist, the book gently guides women to explore their own fantasy style and to recognize the origins of their fantasies. It gives women permission to enjoy their fantasies while also helping them to recognize how some fantasies may be masking emotional pain, which could be detrimental to them and to their relationships.

Beyond My Control
Beyond My Control

Author: Nancy Friday

Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.

Published: 2009-04-01

Total Pages: 290

ISBN-13: 1402227272

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The bestselling author of My Secret Garden exposes the wild and sexy fantasies that many of us have but are afraid to share. For over thirty years, Nancy Friday has written about eros, love, beauty, and seduction. Now she returns to the territory she pioneered during the sexual revolution—exploring our most taboo sexual desires. Fans of Fifty Shades of Grey will love this provocative collection of real fantasies from dozens of women—and for the first time, men. Friday knows that forbidden sex "gets us higher faster" and explores love, lust and power through erotic tales of domination, masturbation, S&M, threesomes, and more. Beyond My Control: Forbidden Fantasies in an Uncensored Age shows that our forbidden fantasies are not compensation for a lackluster sex life, but are a critical component of our fullest selves—and how our secret desires can lead to exhilarating and satisfying sexual freedom. Praise for Nancy Friday "YOU'LL BLUSH, YOUR PULSE WILL RACE."—The New York Times "Delicious... women can share in their sisters' secrets and not feel that they are alone."—Los Angeles Times "Nancy Friday's work... demonstrate[s] beyond doubt that the emancipation of women's bodies begins with the emancipation of our minds." —Faye Wattleton, former president, Planned Parenthood Federation of America

In the Garden of Desire
In the Garden of Desire

Author: Wendy Maltz

Publisher: Broadway

Published: 1998-05-04

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9780767901611

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Delving into the uncharted territory of women's sexual imaginations, acclaimed sex expert Wendy Maltz and journalist Suzie Boss expand the boundaries of what we know about female desire and satisfaction. Drawing on intimate interviews with women of all ages and lifestyles, Maltz and Boss take readers on a journey of passion, pleasure, and self-discovery as they: Describe the origins of women's sexual fantasies Identify the six most common fantasy roles--the Pretty Maiden, the Victim, the Wild Woman, the Dominatrix, the Beloved, and the Voyeur Illuminate the diverse functions of sexual fantasies from stimulating orgasm to improving one's self-image Help women discover their own fantasy style and change unwanted fantasies Offer advice on how and when to talk about one's fantasies with one's partner In this candid and inspiring book, women--and their lovers--will learn how to use the power of their imaginations to heighten sexual expression and self-awareness and achieve new levels of intimacy.

He Comes Next
He Comes Next

Author: Ian Kerner

Publisher: Harper Collins

Published: 2009-10-13

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 006174655X

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Transform Yourself from "Passion Victim" to Passionista! In the smash hit She Comes First, Ian Kerner singlehandedly waged battle against male sexual "ill-cliteracy," and women everywhere benefited from his "viva la vulva" philosophy of female pleasure. Now, in Passionista, it's time to learn all about what turns men on—and makes them stay on. In this point-by-point, "blow-by-blow" guide, Kerner makes giving as much fun as receiving as he covers every angle of male sexuality, unlocks the secrets of satisfaction, and offers knowledgeable answers to the questions every woman wonders about. His advice is the closest you'll ever come to waking up in a guy's skin and knowing what truly makes him sexually tick. Written in the same witty, insightful, and utterly readable voice that has made She Comes First and Be Honest—You're Not That Into Him Either so popular, Passionista is the empowered woman's guide to enjoying sex to the fullest—and ensuring that he does the same.