The author examines the various ways in which codependents "set themselves up" for misery. Through the use of worksheets and self-help experiments, he provides detailed guidelines on recovery.
This book offers solutions to anyone who has felt victimized, ostracized or left behind by life. Surprising as it may sound, many people take comfort in their own misery. Feeling too good for too long (or even feeling good at all) can be scary for people, explains Anne Katherine. "Achievement creates anxiety. Intimacy leads to fear. Happiness produces uneasiness. Pleasure causes pain. The solution to this dilemma: what feels good has to be stopped. I call this an addiction to misery." Katherine's fascination and perspective book provides immediate assistance to those people who think they might be making choices that keep them at a "carefully calibrated level of existence--beneath bliss and above despair."
Drawing upon their years of counseling experience, the bestselling author team of Martha and William Pieper explain how parenting styles based on discipline and excessive expectations condition children to equate unhappiness with love. This often persists into adulthood, leading to behaviors including eating disorders, compulsive gambling, disastrous romantic choices, substance abuse, and more. This book supplies readers with powerful tools, including self-assessments, checklists, diaries, and exercises, to overcome their need for unhappiness.
Almost Addicted will help you assess your or your loved one's drug use and evaluate its impact on relationships, work, and personal well-being. Do you think your pot smoking is hindering your relationships? Does it feel as if you're just a tad too dependent on the pills your doctor prescribed for pain? Almost Addicted will help you assess your or your loved one's drug use and evaluate its impact on relationships, work, and personal well-being.Most people who abuse illegal drugs don't fit the image of the dysfunctional, hustling addict who can't fit into normal society. Between the estimated 10 percent of the population who are true addicts and those who don't use drugs at all falls a group of regular drug users who oftentimes don't realize how much their use is affecting their daily lives.According to J. Wesley Boyd, MD, of Harvard Medical School, and Eric Metcalf, MPH, these people are almost addicted. Whether their drug of choice is legal or illegal, an upper or a hallucinogen, an almost addicts' drug use is negatively impacting their quality of life--but falls short of meeting the diagnostic criteria for substance abuse or dependence.For the first time, Boyd and Metcalf describe what it is to be almost addicted and provide almost addicts and their loved ones with the knowledge and guidance to address and evaluate their condition. In this book, readers will find the tools toidentify and assess their patterns of drug use;evaluate its impact on relationships, work, and personal well-being;develop strategies and goals for abstaining from or cutting back on drugs;measure the results of applying these strategies; andmake informed decisions about next steps, including getting professional help if needed.
Unrecognized needs for unhappiness are created when parenting styles based on discipline, permissiveness, neglect and/or excessive expectations condition children to equate unhappiness with love. These learned needs for unhappiness persist into adulthood and lead to maladaptive behaviors including eating disorders, compulsive gambling, disastrous romantic choices, substance abuse, problems at work, work-life balance issues, and more. Addicted to Unhappiness supplies readers with powerful tools, including self-assessments, checklists, diaries, and exercises, to overcome their needs for unhappiness.Readers will also learn how to navigate inevitable moments of backsliding without becoming discouraged.This book is an invaluable guide for all those wishing to improve the quality of their lives.
"The Addicted Brain" explains clearly and vividly what has been learned about how and why some people become addicted and abuse drugs or other substances, the relatively long-term changes these substances can make in the brain, and the progress being made on treatments.
When the Sisters of Misery, a secret clique of the most popular, powerful girls in school, unleash their wrath on her beautiful cousin Cordelia, Maddie Crane must choose between Cordelia and the allure of this elite club.
Are you overwhelmed by others' unrealistic expectations of you? Do you feel torn in dozens of directions as you try to make everyone around you happy? If you're ready to end the cycle of approval seeking, New York Times bestselling author and recovering people pleaser Karen Ehman is here to help! When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable shares the refreshing, heartfelt lessons that Karen learned firsthand during her own journey of breaking free from people pleasing in order to live out her God-given purpose. Let Karen be your new go-to guide as you learn to successfully break the destructive pattern of people pleasing and start fully embracing the life God has called you to lead. With equal parts humor and vulnerability, Karen explores why it's so easy to fall into people-pleasing behaviors and reminds us that we can't fulfill our divine purpose if we're too busy living everyone else's. She offers her timely advice for living with less overwhelm and with more peace and purpose, sharing words of wisdom that will help you: Prioritize what God says above what other people think Live your life without worrying about the opinions and expectations of others Cultivate a strategy for knowing when to say yes and how to say no Create and maintain healthy boundaries with the pushers, pouters, guilt bombers and others who try to call the shots in your life Learn to navigate the tension between pleasing God and loving your community Join Karen as she encourages you to walk closely--and confidently--with our loving Creator, despite the opinions and expectations of others. It's time to end the people-pleasing game and finally enjoy the peaceful and purposeful life that you deserve.
In Changepower! 37 Secrets to Habit Change Success, author Meg Selig guides readers through a step-by-step process that will help them achieve any habit change goal. Whether the reader wants to break a hurtful habit like smoking or overeating, or build a healthy habit like exercising or speaking up, Changepower! provides a springboard for change. Selig helps habit-changers move beyond willpower and succeed with changepower - the synergy that comes from combining willpower with other resources, useful outside supports, and wise strategies. In Changepower!, she shows habit-changers how to beef up both their willpower and their changepower to achieve habit change success. The key is revving up motivation. Selig reveals the most powerful motivators for change - pain motivators, the Eight Great Motivators, and even not-so-noble motivators. Research has shown that most changes take place in stages rather than overnight. Selig provides a step-by-step plan for each stage, leaving plenty of room for flexibility depending on each person’s needs. First-person stories, pithy quotes, and how-to exercises provide inspiration, humor, and encouragement as readers embark on their habit change journeys.