A Perfectionist's Guide to Not Being Perfect
A Perfectionist's Guide to Not Being Perfect

Author: Bonnie Zucker

Publisher: American Psychological Association

Published: 2022-02-22

Total Pages: 243

ISBN-13: 1433838419

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It’s hard for teens to be happy when they’ve created a very narrow window of what defines success. The goal of this helpful book is to encourage teens to maintain their desire to achieve without striving to always be perfect and to appreciate and love who they are just as they are, not for what they do or accomplish. Finding a balance between work and play is key. Challenging perfectionism is about the pursuit of happiness. When teens can recognize that perfectionism is a disadvantage, they can become motivated to do something about it. For many, it may just be shifting the perfectionism a bit to land in a more positive place. It might be about deciding when and where to be slightly perfectionistic, when and where they can let go of high standards and all-or-nothing thinking, and when it’s okay to simply do a “good enough” job on something.

When Perfect Isn't Good Enough
When Perfect Isn't Good Enough

Author: Martin M. Antony

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

Published: 2009-02-01

Total Pages: 306

ISBN-13: 1608823644

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It's only natural to want to avoid making mistakes, but imperfection is a part of being human. And while perfectionists are often praised for their abilities, being constantly anxious about details can hold you back and keep you from reaching your full potential. In this fully revised and updated second edition of When Perfect Isn't Good Enough, you'll discover the root cause of your perfectionism, explore the impact of perfectionism on your life, and find new, proven-effective coping skills to help you overcome your anxiety about making mistakes. This guide also includes tips for dealing with other perfectionists and discussions about how perfectionism is linked to worry, depression, anger, social anxiety, and body image. As you complete the exercises in this book, you'll find it easier and easier to keep worries at bay and enjoy life — imperfections and all. This book has been awarded The Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Seal of Merit — an award bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.

Overcoming Perfectionism 2nd Edition
Overcoming Perfectionism 2nd Edition

Author: Roz Shafran

Publisher: Robinson

Published: 2018-05-10

Total Pages: 263

ISBN-13: 1472140559

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How to break the circle of 'never good enough' Striving for something can be a healthy and positive attribute; it's good to aim high. But sometimes whatever we do just isn't good enough; we want to be too perfect and start setting unrealistic goals. Such high levels of perfectionism, often driven by low self-esteem, can turn against success and develop into unhealthy obsession, triggering serious mental-health problems, such as anxiety, depression and eating disorders. Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), on which this self-help book is based, has been found to be a highly effective treatment and provides relief from that disabling sense of not being good enough. In this essential self-help guide, you will learn: - How clinical perfectionism manifests itself - Effective coping strategies with invaluable guidance on how to avoid future relapse OVERCOMING self-help guides use clinically-proven techniques to treat long-standing and disabling conditions, both psychological and physical. Many guides in the Overcoming series are recommended under the Reading Well Books on Prescription scheme. Series Editor: Professor Peter Cooper

Perfectionism
Perfectionism

Author: Lisa Van Gemert

Publisher: Anodyne, Incorporated DBA Great Potential Press, Incorporated

Published: 2017

Total Pages: 173

ISBN-13: 9781935067450

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For perfectionists of all types, whether children or adults, this practical guide explains myths about perfectionism and provides a new paradigm with practical steps to turn the negative into positive, build resilience, and develop optimism. Goals, perseverance, mindset, and self-talk are emphasized. The author, Lisa Van Gemert, is an educator and widely-known speaker and was Youth and Education Ambassador for Mensa. She understands perfectionism in herself as well as through her work.

What to Do When Good Enough Isn't Good Enough
What to Do When Good Enough Isn't Good Enough

Author: Thomas S. Greenspon

Publisher: Free Spirit Publishing

Published: 2007-03-15

Total Pages: 145

ISBN-13: 1575428792

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Perfectionism may seem like a worthy goal, but it’s actually a burden. When you believe you must be perfect, you live in constant fear of making mistakes. Most children don’t know what perfectionism is, yet many suffer from it. Nothing they do is ever good enough. School assignments are hard to start or hand in. Relationships are challenging, and self-esteem is low. Written to and for ages 9–13, this book helps kids understand how perfectionism hurts them and how to free themselves. Includes true-to-life vignettes, exercises, and a note to grown-ups.

Nobody's Perfect
Nobody's Perfect

Author: Ellen Flanagan Burns

Publisher: American Psychological Association

Published: 2021-12-03

Total Pages: 26

ISBN-13: 1433835347

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Jill walked over and stood next to Sally. She played right before Sally in the recital. "I liked your pieces," Jill said. Sally said, "But I messed up on the second one. It sounded really bad." "Oh, I didn't notice," Jill said. She shrugged, "I made a couple of mistakes too. It's no big deal" Sally thought Jill was just trying to be nice. She couldn't remember Jill every making a mistake when she played. In fact, she made it look so easy all the time. After another sip of punch and a chocolate chip cookie, Sally was ready to leave. She wasn't in a very good mood and most of all she didn't want to face Mrs. Pratt. Sally felt like she had let her down. Sally Sanders is a perfectionist—if can’t she be the best, she feels like a failure. Sally procrastinates, shies away from new things, and constantly compares herself to others, convinced she’s not good enough. With the help of her teachers and mother, Sally learns how to relax and try new things without worrying so much about being the best. She can just be herself, and that is all she needs.

The Everything Guide to Coping with Perfectionism
The Everything Guide to Coping with Perfectionism

Author: Ellen Bowers

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

Published: 2012-12-18

Total Pages: 304

ISBN-13: 144055160X

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Perfectionism is an admirable quality-- until it goes too far. Toxic perfectionism can result in obsessive behavior, damaged self-esteem, depression, and even physical ailments. Discover tips and techniques for recognizing the symptoms and introducing flexibility and balance into your life.

The Anxious Perfectionist
The Anxious Perfectionist

Author: Clarissa W. Ong

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

Published: 2022-03-01

Total Pages: 182

ISBN-13: 1684038472

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Is your perfectionism causing you anxiety, stress, and worry? If you identify as a perfectionist, you may not see your perfectionism as a problem. But striving for unrealistic standards, basing your self-worth on meeting those standards, and engaging in persistent self-criticism will ultimately lead to anxiety, stress, worry, burnout, and unhappiness. So, how can you distinguish between “helpful” and “hurtful” perfectionism and stop holding yourself and others to unrealistically high standards? Written by two clinical psychologists, The Anxious Perfectionist shines a much-needed light on the hidden costs of “being the best,” and offers essential skills based in acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) to help you cope with the anxiety that is driven by your perfectionism. You’ll learn how your “need to be perfect” can actually hinder your productivity, and keep you from reaching your goals. You’ll also learn skills to help you gain distance from negative self-talk and criticism, let go of unhelpful and self-limiting labels such as “success” or “failure,” and give yourself and others permission to make mistakes while still honoring your high aspirations. If you’re struggling with feelings of anxiety and stress, and suspect your perfectionism may be to blame, this guide will show you how to stop getting in the way of your own success, and live a life guided by your deepest values.

Perfectionism
Perfectionism

Author: Miriam Adderholdt, PH.D.

Publisher: Free Spirit Publishing

Published: 1992

Total Pages: 136

ISBN-13: 9781575428437

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Discusses the dangers of being a perfectionist, with tips for easing up on oneself, gaining control over life, and getting professional help.

Letting Go of Perfect
Letting Go of Perfect

Author: Jill L. Adelson

Publisher:

Published: 2009

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9781593633622

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Letting Go of Perfect: Overcoming Perfectionism in Kids pinpoints a crippling state of mentality among many kids today--the need to be absolutely perfect--and gives parents and teachers the guidance and support they need to help children break free of the anxieties and behaviors related to perfectionism.