With three kids, a husband, a business, and a never-ending pile of dirty dishes, Shirley is constantly seeking validation from everyone in her life. So when she sees a number on an informercial, she dials 1-900-VAL-DATE, thinking that should do the trick. And it does--in very unexpected ways. Part of the "Shirley You Can Do It" series that the author self published in 1996, selling 50,000 copies.
"From the bestselling author of She Must Be Mad comes Charly Cox's second set of poetry and prose. This is an account of a life lived online. Swiping for approval. Scrolling for gratification. Searching for connection. From the glow of a screen in the middle of the night, to the harsh glare of the hospital waiting room, Validate me is a raw and honest look at the highs and lows of a digital life."--from back cover.
Compulsive hoarding damages house structures, threatens safety and health, drains bank accounts, and estranges a hoarder from the rest of society. It goes way beyond just saving stuff. It goes deeper than just being a pack-rat. It is a very real disorder, and it affects more than the hoarder. In this brief memoir, Melissa shares her struggles growing up as the daughter of a hoarder, her reality TV experience and the events that followed, and her journey through the therapy she did not realize she needed. "Validate Me! (How my mom's hoarding kind of messed me up.)" opens your eyes to the most important "things" that get destroyed under the piles.
Cultivate deep connections wherever you go. Prevent 100% of conflict, misunderstanding, and loneliness. Healthy relationships involve our feelings being heard, understood, and validated. Unfortunately, this is the exception rather than the rule. Are you doing it wrong, and alienating people versus comforting them? Find out how to walk this fine line. Uncover the biggest obstacle to the intimate, healthy relationships that we desire and deserve. How to Listen, Hear, and Validate is all about our top communication struggle - our tendency to react instead of respond, and forget that our goal is to build bridges rather than walls. You’ll learn what you’ve been doing wrong, and why your efforts at getting closer to people - in deep or light manners - have failed. You’ll learn actionable techniques and frameworks to have the most productive conversations of your life - ones that will walk away with people praising how empathetic you are. Most importantly, you will gain profound insights on how to reprogram yourself into a natural communicator. No more unresolved issues, struggles to get close, or failures from ineffective communication. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. His struggles in his early relationships has inspired him to unravel practical ways to cultivate meaningful, reciprocative interactions. Establish vulnerable, fulfilling and satisfying relationships. •The big mistakes when we ‘listen’ to others •How to structure a style for effective validation and empathy •Scripts to validate others, to know exactly what to say •Simple tactics to make others feel loved and seen •How to use empathetic communication and active listening techniques Did you know? Most communication problems come from a lack of validation. Are we truly paying attention to the messages others are conveying, or are we just waiting for our turn to speak? Are we listening to reply, or listening to hear? After applying the proven techniques from this book, you’ll be able to increase love, respect and satisfaction to your relationship. You’ll become the person everyone wants in their life. Connect deeper and better. Raise the standard for your relationships.
On my list of things I never thought I’d hear myself say; ‘Werewolves’ are the best kissers’ is certainly at the top. But here I am, one sheriff-shifter boyfriend later, and it’s absolutely true. Who knew that all it took to fix my love life was a man who could walk on all fours? After the Pretender’s defeat, life in Mystic Falls has mostly moved on, but I can’t seem to shake this nagging feeling that something isn’t right. And whether by choice—or force—the other man who held a piece of my heart, Jack, is still missing. And now, with more mysterious disappearances emerging, it’s clear that things aren’t as peaceful as they seem. My investigative instincts tell me there’s a new monster on the loose—and if I don’t discover them, they’ll finish what the Pretender started and destroy everything I’ve come to love. But in order to save Mystic Falls, the only place I’ve ever belonged, I’ll have to face my past to pave a new way forward. Armed with my favorite boots, my furry familiar, and my posse of magical misfits, we’re going to kick some major bad guy booty. Who says it’s all downhill after forty? Monsters by Moonlight, is the second book in the Mischief in Mystic Falls featuring: a sassy, imperfect heroine. An exciting mystery. A group of magical misfits. And a few handsome supernatural love interests!
In this inspiring work, Johnson shares the wisdom, caring, and warmth that has assisted hundreds of women in uncovering their best potential by teaching them how to know themselves and how to love and nurture the self that they have come to know.
In the past thirty years, it has become evident that the U.S. military faces widespread and ongoing challenges related to harassment and sexual assault. Despite prevention efforts, estimated sexual assaults are increasing, reporting is decreasing, and the problem persists across all branches of the military. Servicewomen who have experienced and survived these abuses drive the analysis in this book, and their voices are central to these pages. In Hardship Duty: Women's Experiences with Sexual Harassment, Sexual Assault, and Discrimination in the U.S. Military, Stephanie Bonnes focuses on the puzzle of how sexual abuse remains highly prevalent in an organization that has dynamic policies, prevention strategies, and evolving education programs designed to combat sexual violence. Drawing primarily on in-depth interviews with fifty servicewomen, Hardship Duty uncovers how masculinity and misogyny are entangled in the organization's structure, policies, values, physical spaces, and culture in ways that create sexual abuse vulnerability. Bonnes demonstrates how privileging masculinity and denigrating femininity at the organizational level encourages harassment at the interpersonal level, how servicewomen are often forced to cope with harassment and sexual abuse on their own--despite policies designed to assist victims--and how women who do report are often treated like institutional enemies, harassed more, and face resistance from the institution. With multiple stories of sexual harassment and sexual assault from U.S. servicewomen, this book not only opens the doors to a normally closed institution, but it also gives voice to those who are marginalized and often silenced within it.
Over the past two decades considerable progress has been made in developing specialist psychosocial treatments for borderline personality disorder (BPD), yet the majority of people with BPD receive treatment within generalist mental health services, rather than specialist treatment centres. This is a book for general mental health professionals who treat people with borderline personality disorder (BPD). It offers practical guidance on how to help people with BPD with advice based on research evidence. After a discussion of the symptoms of BPD, the authors review all the generalist treatment interventions that have resulted in good outcomes in randomised controlled trials, when compared with specialist treatments, and summarise the effective components of these interventions. The treatment strategies are organised into a structured approach called Structured Clinical Management (SCM), which can be delivered by general mental health professionals without extensive additional training. The heart of the book outlines the principles underpinning SCM and offers a step-by-step guide to the clinical intervention. Practitioners can learn the interventions easily and develop more confidence in treating people with BPD. In addition, a chapter is devoted to how to help families - an issue commonly neglected when treating patients with BPD. Finally the authors discuss the top 10 strategies for delivering treatment and outline how the general mental health clinician can deliver these strategies competently.
