The Stop Child Molestation Book has been called "groundbreaking," "hard-hitting," and "a must-read for every family in America." What makes this a break-through book is its plan of action to put an end to child molestation. Using new facts from their study of 16,000 people, Gene G. Abel, M.D.and Nora Harlow urge families to take three powerful steps to protect their children. "We want to stop child molestation in the United States before we die. Only a few years ago that goal seemed laughable. Now, the breakthroughs in testing, medicine, and therapies will stop the people who molest children. Child molestation — with its at least 39 million adult survivors and more than three million child victims — can end. The problem we face is getting the word out. Everything you need to know is in this book. We ask you to read it. We ask you to tell others. And, we ask you to become a hero and step forward to protect the children closest to you." -Gene G. Abel, M.D. and Nora Harlow
Know what signs indicate a child molester! Revealing the secret but successful strategies used by child molesters allows adults to intervene long before children are abused. The Socially Skilled Child Molester: Differentiating the Guilty from the Falsely Accused identifies how socially proficient molesters successfully ingratiate themselves into families and communities. The book closely examines their techniques and strategies while detailing the tools for prevention. The difficult issue of false accusation is tackled by learning the distinctions that clearly differentiate the actions of the guilty from those who are innocent. Practical recommendations for accurately assessing danger and managing safety are provided. The Socially Skilled Child Molester focuses on the sexual deviants who 'groom' family, friends, and their community to allow their activities, though arousing suspicion, to go on without restriction. This essential source reveals their tactics. Using composite representations of various types of child molesters, the author illustrates through case history and detailed research how these offenders succeed, while providing recommendations on how communities can stop enabling and protecting such individuals. The Socially Skilled Child Molester discusses in depth: ’groomers’ versus ’grabbers’ common misperceptions about child molesters the groomer profile—the different types groomer strategies for manipulation correctly differentiating between pedophiles and the falsely accused predicting risk the key concerns when interviewing child molesters the three levels of child molesters recidivism for the sexual deviant. The Socially Skilled Child Molester comprehensively brings together helpful strategies and vital information essential for parents, lawmakers, police, teachers, and therapists.
Stop abuse before it starts! Identifying Child Molesters: Preventing Child Sexual Abuse by Recognizing the Patterns of the Offenders will teach you to better protect children from potential child sexual molesters long before any abuse can actually occur. Here you'll learn to recognize and understand the seemingly invisible steps that typically precede child sexual abuse. These stories of molesters, their families, and their victims, will enable you to more accurately see through a potential molester's charming demeanor and better protect the children in your life. Understanding the behavior that molesters often exhibit when trying to obtain access to children is essential to protecting children from their advances. By becoming familiar with this terrain you will find the courage and strength to decide what must be done, and the skills to follow through with the necessary actions. Such responses will appropriately curtail an offender's access to children and subsequent opportunities to molest. Identifying Child Molesters will teach you: how to recognize those who might molest how molesters typically 'charm’adults how societal attitudes help to foster child sexual abuse what to do when encountering a potential molester what physical and emotional damage molestation can cause to victims how to graciously avoid potentially dangerous situations Identifying Child Molesters: Preventing Child Sexual Abuse by Recognizing the Patterns of the Offenders clearly spells out the techniques that child sexual molesters so successfully use to charm adults into giving them access to children. When these strategies are seen and understood, adults can take much more direct responsibility for preventing child sexual abuse than was previously possible. Anyone who lives or works with children needs to own this book. The information you'll encounter in Identifying Child Molesters might startle you, but it might also help you save the life of a child!
Shows how to identify sexual predators and protect children, discussing the most common characteristics of a sexual predator, different stages of abuse, and various types of predators.
“Anyone who had a troubled childhood ought to read this book.”—Anne H. Cohn, D.P.H., Executive Director, National Committee for Prevention of Child Abuse Do you have trouble finding friends, lovers, acquaintances? Once you find them, do they dump on you, take advantage of you, or leave? Are you in a relationship you know isn't good for you? Are you still trying to figure out what you want to do when you grow up? Are you drinking too much, eating too much or trying to numb your pain with drugs of any kind? These are just a few of the problems abused children experience when they become adults. You may not realize you were abused. You may think your parents didn't mean it, didn't know better, or that others had it much worse. You may not even have made the connection between the past and your current problems. Outgrowing the Pain is an important book for any adult who was abused or neglected in childhood. It's an important book for professionals who help others. It's a book of questions that can pinpoint and illuminate destructive patterns. The answers you discover can lead to a life filled with new insight, hope, and love. “The best book available to help survivors cope and understand.”—Dan Sexton, Director, Childhelp's National Abuse Hotline “An invaluable aid for adult survivors of child abuse.”—Suzanne M. Sgroi, M.D., Executive Director, New England Clinical Associates
This book presents a fresh look at stopping the cycle of child molestation by attacking the source, the child molester, instead of trying to deal with the end product of abuse, the victim/survivor. The book is broken into two parts. Chapters 1 through 4 address the issues of the child molestor and what can be done to stop the molestor's cycle of abusing children. Chapters 5 through 8 are to help those who are dealing with either the offender or the survivor of the child sexual abuse. Parents of sexually abused children may find the answers they are seeking. Spouses of offenders may come to understand a part of their offending spouse that has been a dark mystery. Various victims of sexual abuse should find this book of interest. It deals with the offenders of sexual abuse and what can and should be done to stop them. This is done by exposing the faulty logic used by offenders. It attacks their basic personality, life style, and erroneous thought processes. There is no attempt to justify the behavior of the child offender. There is no softening of the effect of the abusers' past behavior. It exposes the make-up of the offender and suggests a path of recovery from this dysfunctional behavior. This approach opens a door long closed to look beyond the therapeutic treatment of child molesters to reveal what works and what does not and why. The hope is to develop answers for the generic question many victims ask - "WHY?", as well as answer the specific question - "WHY ME?" Although a lot of research has been done on this subject, this book is not one of theory but of experiences. It relates to the therapeutic experience with examples. This should not be considered a 'How-to' book but more a guide for those wanting to recover. This book also addresses the concerns of those close to the offender. If you have been thrown into having to deal with child sexual abuse, you will find answers to many of your questions. What you can or should expect from the legal system, from therapy, from social welfare department is discussed. It addresses such questions as "Why didn't I see it?" or "How could they!?!" in a light seldom revealed. Some questions as "Will I ever be 'normal'?" or "Will anyone ever be able to love me for who I really am?" are on the minds of offenders and victims. Some of these answers lie within this book. A very fundamental area facing the issue and treatment of sexual abuse is gender. Historically, the male is the stereotypical abuser and the female is the stereotypical victim. This is one of the many myths of childhood sexual abuse. Female child molestors make up almost 40% of the child molesting population. For every two girls sexually abused slightly more than one boy is abused. While the book was written with stereotypical male offender in mind, it can be used by female child molestors and male victims. This book tries to address the gender problem by avoiding gender terms unless appropriate. Avoiding gender terms is not possible without some redefinition of the use of pronouns. The only non-gender singular possessive pronoun is its. This is also a non-human possessive term and inappropriate in describing the issues of already wounded individuals. The non-gender pronouns used throughout this book are they, them, their which are normally used as plural forms. In this book, these terms are used as non-gender singular as well as non-gender plural forms. While this is not proper usage, the narrative is easier to read than if the alternate forms of s/he or he/she or his/hers were used. There is no easy solution to this problem. Examples and experiences used to demonstrate a point may be a composite of experiences from various victims and offenders. The names used have been changed unless permission was granted otherwise. Gender terms used in the examples are correct. Abstr
Professional educator and mental health practitioner Norman E. Friedman gives parents and teachers a wise and powerful manual for recognizing and thwarting child predators. You'll learn all the must-have information you need to attempt to stop a predator in his tracks. While the first half of the book is a resource for adults, the second section is a virtual training manual for parents to teach their children how to keep themselves safe from harm. Parents will learn how to gain a comfort level that lets them teach self-protection without anxiety or embarrassment. Filled with lessons that can be taught to children as young as 18 months of age, this is a new and revolutionary way of helping to keep our children safe. Education and prevention of molestation is every parent's primary responsibility. And this wise and informational book can help you to meet the challenge. Experience Friedman's theory that, "The fight against child molesters begins by teaching the children."
"The sexual abuse of children impacts the most vulnerable members of society. It is the stories of all of these victims who suffered in silence that led us to join together to write this book, a book we hope will serve as a cautionary tale for children and adults alike. This book would not be possible without Kayla Harrison's brave revelations of the sexual abuse she suffered at the hands of her coach; it is these firsthand accounts that give all of us a chance to see explicitly how child sexual abuse can begin, persist, and is brought to an end. In the chapters that follow, we trace the course of Kayla's victimization and survival, weaving her story with our professional experience with hundreds of children, teens, and families to reveal what can be done to prevent and interrupt this damaging cycle"--
Written for mental health professionals, crisis hot line workers, educators and clergy, this resource discusses how to prevent and recognise child sexual abuse and what to do if abuse is suspected. The content covers many settings in which sexual abuse may occur, including the home, day care and group settings. A special section addresses abuse of minority children and those who are handicapped. The author has also included a glossary of terms relevant to the study and prevention of abuse.
