Whether seeking recognition, spirituality, or some other kind of self improvement, we are endlessly striving to become something 'better'. But even if we obtain what we are looking for, we cannot refrain from creating another quest. Always driven to distraction in pursuit of our goals, we have never been able to enjoy-or even live-the life that was ours. In The Seeking Self, the author suggests that self-transformation can only occur if we are able to stop interfering with the experience of who we naturally are.
Whether seeking recognition, spirituality, or personal success, we are endlessly striving to become something "better." But even if we obtain what we are looking for, we cannot refrain from creating another quest. Driven to distraction in pursuit of our goals, we are never able to enjoyor even livethe life we have. This provocative book explores the harmful side of our cultural and personal preoccupation with seeking. Psychologist Richard Lind suggests that there are no alternatives to seeking because our culture is singularly obsessed with personal development. Modern individuals have been taught since youth to believe that the quest for an ideal, future state is the sure road to happiness. Yet, as Lind shows, ideal goals remain out of reach. Instead of bringing inner peace, the compulsive quest for selfimprovement creates psychic fragmentation, inner conflict, and personal suffering. It leads individuals to feel that their lives are never good enough, and results in the manipulation of the self and others. Rather than advocating without qualification the value of "growth," "development," and "progress," Dr. Lind suggests that selftransformation can only occur if we are able to stop interfering with the experience of who we naturally are. Supporting his case with historical examples and insights from diverse wisdom traditions, Lind shows how inner fulfillment can only be obtained by giving up "empty desires" and "empty striving," and by becoming directly present again to the world of living experience.
A highly-entertaining account of two young professors attempt to improve themselves through the techniques of the burgeoning self-optimization movement, including drugs, surgical implants, the administering of electric shocks and stripping naked in public.
This little book is a powerful reminder that your true nature is the most precious resource that you have to help yourself. Presented in the unique form of a dialogue between a therapist and a client, it encourages self-reflection and the daily practice of inner silence as powerful ways to nurture this true self and your full healing capacity. Tenets of psychology, philosophy, and spirituality are subtly woven into easily-understood messages of hope and change.
This manual presents the first empirically studied, integrative treatment approach developed specifically for co-occurring PTSD and substance abuse. For persons with this prevalent and difficult-to-treat dual diagnosis, the most urgent clinical need is to establish safety--to work toward discontinuing substance use, letting go of dangerous relationships, and gaining control over such extreme symptoms as dissociation and self-harm. The manual is divided into 25 specific units or topics, addressing a range of different cognitive, behavioral, and interpersonal domains. Each topic provides highly practical tools and techniques to engage patients in treatment; teach "safe coping skills" that apply to both disorders; and restore ideals that have been lost, including respect, care, protection, and healing. Structured yet flexible, topics can be conducted in any order and in a range of different formats and settings. The volume is designed for maximum ease of use with a large-size format and helpful reproducible therapist sheets and handouts, which purchasers can also download and print at the companion webpage. See also the author's self-help guide Finding Your Best Self, Revised Edition: Recovery from Addiction, Trauma, or Both, an ideal client recommendation.
An inclusive and open exploration of our connection with something greater than ourselves and our search for the spiritual - a provocative and accessible read for those making up their own minds about God, faith, spirituality, and the nature of belief in 21st-century life.
“Feel better, get done more and become a nicer person” In this age of social media, fake news, individualism and information overload, the certainties we relied on in the past are gone. In our quest for assurance and support, the only seemingly dependable pillar left is other people. So we look to them. But they are unsettled too. And by looking to them, we create and perpetuate our own vicious stress-cycle. As a result, we lose our sensible selves. And we go bananas. But there is good news. If we look around us, there are people who withstand the collective lunacy and stay grounded. They do something that most of us have a hard time doing: they stay themselves. And the best news is that what they can do, you can do too. It doesn’t require any special talents or supernatural powers. It only requires doing. In this amiable, open and accessible book, Jeroen Kraaijenbrink takes you on his personal journey out of Bananaland. Drawing from cognitive psychology, martial arts, Saint Benedict, personal experience, and a wide range of other sources, the book offers a nine-step approach with some remarkably practical advice for keeping a cool head in the collective lunacy. “Free yourself from the collective lunacy and reclaim your calm and sensible self”
In recent times, there has been a substantial push by people to escape the metropolis for lifestyles in small coastal, country, or mountainside locales. This book explores the narratives emerging from amenity-left migration using methods developed within the 'strong' cultural sociology.
Transform dating and the often-fraught search for a fulfilling relationship into a fun, exciting adventure using mindfulness techniques and practices. Dating is a 2 billion dollar industry. Everyone, it seems, is looking for love but for so many it is an endless struggle. In Seeking Soulmate: Ditch the Dating Game and Find Real Connection, Brooklyn-based therapist Chamin Ajjan offers a fresh perspective to this universal pursuit. With a friendly, funny, and informative approach, Ajjan applies the evidence-based theories of Cognitive Behavior Therapy and mindfulness meditation practice to the negative behaviors, thoughts, and patterns that cause dating distress. Every stage of the dating process, from finding someone to date, to developing a relationship, has its own particular difficulties. Seeking Soulmate shares case vignettes, relatable characters, and personal experiences from Ajjan's clinical experience to illustrate how the personal insight gained with practicing mindfulness can transform the anxiety, negative thoughts, and overall hopelessness that accompanies the unsuccessful pursuit of love into fun, rewarding, exciting dating adventures. Ajjan provides an explanation for dating difficulties, a foundation for practice, and practical exercises to create real change. These methods are available to everyone, regardless of age, socioeconomic status, ethnic, cultural, or religious background, or sexual orientation. Seeking Soulmate will help you develop the most important benefit of mindful dating: the ability to let your genuine, most attractive self emerge. This is how real relationships with the actual staying power are formed.
Seeking a self sufficient way At my age, I wanted to be able to decide when to paint the house, mow the lawn, put up a fence, hang clothes outside on a few laundry lines, and where to park the car on my property. After all, no one else was helping pay the mortgage and taxes. The yard is the life and support system of the homestead. There are no unwanted weeds on the farm; all plants are on the menu of the poultry and livestock or used in the kitchen or compost piles. But a life with less stress and healthier food is the inspiration that drives most homesteaders. Happiness, discovery, satisfaction, relaxation and peacefulness, all weaved into countless memorable moments every single day, that's gardening! Of course it wouldn't be a country homestead without an outside shower.
