The People Pleaser's Guide to Loving Others without Losing Yourself
The People Pleaser's Guide to Loving Others without Losing Yourself

Author: Dr. Mike Bechtle

Publisher: Revell

Published: 2021-01-19

Total Pages: 224

ISBN-13: 1493428926

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We all want other people to like us and think well of us. But when we depend on the praise, admiration, or appreciation of others for our sense of self-worth, we become trapped in an exhausting and debilitating cycle of people-pleasing relationships where we always give and rarely receive. The most common advice we hear--Start putting your own needs first!-- doesn't work, because we do love helping other people! Thankfully, the solution to the people pleaser's "problem" isn't to fundamentally change who you are--it's to fundamentally change where you find your worth. In this freeing book, Dr. Mike Bechtle shows you stop letting your fears of rejection, criticism, invisibility, or inadequacy drive your actions and start rebuilding your sense of self-worth from the inside out. When you do, you'll discover that what you once thought of as a struggle is actually a strength.

When It's Never about You
When It's Never about You

Author: Ilene S. Cohen Ph D

Publisher: Harte Publishing

Published: 2017

Total Pages: 206

ISBN-13: 9780999311509

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Everyone loves a people-pleaser. They're always willing to help, to stay late, to fill in, to "go along." But if you're one of them, you often end up feeling violated, ignored, disrespected, and disconnected--from life and others. Silently enduring the ongoing and relentless invalidation of who you are and what you want will reliably wreak havoc on your health and the health of your relationships.psychotherapist, Ilene S. Cohen, uses real-world examples and activities to help you take a systemic look at people-pleasing. You'll learn... How to reclaim a strong and balanced sense of self--while still being a "good person." How to break the harmful behavior patterns that keep you from being heard, listened to and respected. Specific strategies for transforming yourself from selfless to "self-full."How to go from feeling "vanished" to being clearly differentiated.How to get what you want and need--while actually earning even more respect from others.

People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys
People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys

Author: Dr. Mike Bechtle

Publisher: Baker Books

Published: 2012-10-01

Total Pages: 214

ISBN-13: 1441239626

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Strange as it may seem, other people are not nearly as committed to our happiness as we are. In fact, sometimes they seem like they're on a mission to make us miserable! There's always that one person. The one who hijacks your emotions and makes you crazy. The one who seems to thrive on drama. If you could just "fix" that person, everything would be better. But we can't fix other people--we can only make choices about ourselves. In this cut-to-the-chase book, communication expert Mike Bechtle shows readers that they don't have to be victims of other people's craziness. With commonsense wisdom and practical advice that can be implemented immediately, Bechtle gives readers a proven strategy to handle crazy people. More than just offering a set of techniques, Bechtle offers a new perspective that will change readers' lives as they deal with those difficult people who just won't go away.

Stop People Pleasing
Stop People Pleasing

Author: Patrick King

Publisher: PublishDrive

Published: 2019-08-13

Total Pages: 123

ISBN-13:

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Break your crippling addiction to approval and learn to be less “nice”. Do you keep your mouth shut for fear of falling out of people’s graces? Feel that you need to please and serve to stay in your social circles? You have the need to please, and all the associated beliefs. Stop bitterness, resentment, and anxiety from always saying yes. Stop People Pleasing is a frank look at people-pleasing tendencies - where they come from, how they manifest, and exactly what to do about them. Most importantly, the book emphasizes real, actionable tactics to change your relationship with yourself and others. This book was written by a recovering people-pleaser, so you can be sure that there is a real understanding of your struggles. Reprogram your beliefs and learn to accept yourself. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. Find your voice, stand up for yourself, and put yourself first. •The psychological and often traumatic origins of people-pleasing tendencies. •The harmful beliefs you subconsciously possess and how to alter them. •How to learn new, empowering habits. Learn the deep origins of your need to please, and how to set healthy boundaries. •How to set boundaries, and avoid porous ones. •A plethora of strategies to say no and make your thoughts known. •Understand your guilt and get better with confrontation.

Pleasing People
Pleasing People

Author: Lou Priolo

Publisher: P & R Publishing

Published: 2007

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9781596380554

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Are you a people pleaser? Are you addicted to a€œapprovala€? from others, and would do just about anything to get that approval? Biblical counselor Lou Priolo exposes all the prideful manifestations of this problem and, as always, offers solid, systematic Biblical solutions! Even readers who feel that they do not have this problem should read this helpful book, because what you dona€t know can and will hurt you and others.\n

The Empath's Survival Guide
The Empath's Survival Guide

Author: Judith Orloff

Publisher: Sounds True

Published: 2017-04-04

Total Pages: 188

ISBN-13: 1622038312

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What is the difference between having empathy and being an empath? “Having empathy means our heart goes out to another person in joy or pain,” says Dr. Judith Orloff “But for empaths it goes much farther We actually feel others’ emotions, energy, and physical symptoms in our own bodies, without the usual defenses that most people have.” With The Empath’s Survival Guide, Dr. Orloff offers an invaluable resource to help sensitive people develop healthy coping mechanisms in our high-stimulus world—while fully embracing the empath’s gifts of intuition, creativity, and spiritual connection. In this practical and empowering book for empaths and their loved ones, Dr. Orloff begins with self-assessment exercises to help you understand your empathic nature, then offers potent strategies for protecting yourself from overwhelm and replenishing your vital energy For any sensitive person who’s been told to “grow a thick skin,” here is your lifelong guide for staying fully open while building resilience, exploring your gifts of deep perception, raising empathic children, and feeling welcomed and valued by a world that desperately needs what you have to offer.

Tiny Buddha's Guide to Loving Yourself
Tiny Buddha's Guide to Loving Yourself

Author: Lori Deschene

Publisher: Hay House, Inc

Published: 2013-10-07

Total Pages: 306

ISBN-13: 1781802750

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This new collection of stories from TinyBuddha.com creator Lori Deschene, shares 40 unique perspectives and insights on topics related to loving yourself. Featuring stories from Tiny Buddha readers, the book provides an honest look at what it means to overcome critical, self-judging thoughts to create a peaceful, empowered life. This is not a book of one-size-fits-all wisdom from experts in the field of self-love (though it includes some research-based suggestions); it's a book of vulnerable reflections and epiphanies from people, just like all of us, who are learning to love themselves, flaws and all. This book's themes are well chosen, with subjects that you will instantly relate to including: realizing you're not broken, accepting your flaws, releasing the need for approval, forgiving yourself, letting go of comparisons and learning to be authentic. Each chapter ends with action-oriented suggestions, based on the wisdom in the stories so you'll quickly be able to implement the powerful changes towards a more positive outlook on yourself.

Safe People
Safe People

Author: Henry Cloud

Publisher: Zondervan

Published: 1995-05-20

Total Pages: 148

ISBN-13: 9780310495017

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Finding safe people provides the foundation for building healthy, lasting relationships. Here's how to identify safe people. This workbook applies the lessons of 'Safe People' to help people find those relationships that will help them grow.