From the initial stages of trying to agree who can do what with whom, through advanced issues such as coping with logistics and seeking compersion, every relationship sooner or later confronts jealousy – and some relationships do not survive the confrontation. Between these covers you will find forty-two exercises with supporting text, developed by a professional relationship counselor and refined by hundreds of clients trying to find their own paths through jealousy. They range from basic (Exercise Two, Clarify Your Relationship Orientation) through challenging (Exercise Thirty-Four, Imagine Looking Through Their Eyes and Being In Their Shoes). All can be done solo, with a partner, or under the supervision of a helping professional, and all can be done before a problem emerges or in the throes of a jealousy crisis. Along the way, you will find solutions to the issues that bedevil even the most happily open relationships.
Jealousy and possessiveness have the potential to destroy any relationship. Left unchecked, our jealousy can push our partner away, destroy our self-esteem, and rob us of the life and love we deserve. But thankfully, we each have the power to change.Written by the author of the popular guidebook Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy, and the founder of RetroactiveJealousy.com, the Overcoming Jealousy Workbook features eleven weeks of writing prompts and journaling exercises for confronting and overcoming jealousy in relationships. Drawing insights from cognitive behavioural therapy and cutting-edge psychological research, as well as ancient Buddhist and Stoic philosophy, this workbook is designed for any jealousy sufferer who wants to quickly get a handle on their problem, and emerge from the hell of jealousy and possessiveness. Whether approached as a standalone project, or as a supplement to another personal development book or program, the Overcoming Jealousy Workbook will help any jealousy sufferer better understand the roots of their feelings, and more importantly, the actions necessary to move forward, and save and strengthen their relationship.
ARE YOU TIRED OF CONSTANTLY THINKING ABOUT YOUR PARTNER'S PAST RELATIONSHIPS? Are you interested in letting go of obsessive jealous thoughts, anxiety, and curiosity about your partner's past? Wouldn't it feel great to be completely free from retroactive jealousy, and be able to move forward in your relationship without worry about the past? What if I told you that you already have the "cure" for overcoming retroactive jealousy? You do-all you need is the proper guidance. And that's where "Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy" comes in. Written from the perspective of one who has struggled with, and eventually overcome, obsessive jealousy surrounding a partner's past, Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy is the only guidebook you will ever need to let go of jealous thoughts, curiosity, and anxiety about your partner's past relationships/sexual history. AFTER READING YOU WILL: have access to a multi-step program that will help you to let go of your jealousy and anxiety begin incorporating coping exercises into your daily routine which will eliminate your jealous thoughts as soon as they appear feel a new sense of optimism and confidence in your ability to grow and overcome retroactive jealousy understand what your jealousy is really about, and have a concrete plan of action for overcoming it, and moving forward You might currently feel hopeless; like retroactive jealousy is something that you'll just be forced to "live with" until you die. You might even be severely depressed, mired in obsessive jealous thoughts and confusion. Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy will show you that you are suffering needlessly-and show you the way forward. In nineteen chapters, author Zachary Stockill outlines a series of time-tested effective strategies, practices, and exercises for confronting, and eventually overcoming, jealousy regarding your partner's past as painlessly, efficiently, and quickly as possible. A NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR: Several years ago, I experienced "crippling" retroactive jealousy. It disrupted my career, destroyed my relationship, and provoked months of anguish and depression. But thankfully, through a process of self-exploration, hard work, growth, and discovery, I overcame it. Based on my experience, and several years of research and talking to fellow sufferers about their condition, I wrote this book to give you a step-by-step program to help you do the same, and overcome retroactive jealousy as quickly and easily as possible. I know that this step-by-step program is effective because since 2013 my book has helped "thousands" of readers get over retroactive jealousy, save their relationships, and regain control. In retrospect, my jealousy was a blessing in disguise. As I write to you today, I am undoubtedly a stronger, more confident, more loving, and overall better man for having gone through it. It might not seem like it now, but you too can use your jealousy to your advantage. Seriously--as you overcome retroactive jealousy, you will emerge a stronger, more confident, more attractive, and more loving person and partner. And it's my pleasure to guide you every step of the way. So whether you're struggling with your girlfriend's past, wife's past, husband's past, or your boyfriend's past, you need to know that you have the power to move forward, and kiss jealous thoughts goodbye. You can get a hold on your brain, and patterns of constant curiosity and obsessive thinking. You can move forward in your relationship without the burden and strain of retroactive jealousy. You can be the partner you want to be-you just have to understand where retroactive jealousy comes from, and how to deal with it. SO LET'S GET STARTED! Get your copy of the most popular guidebook on the market for overcoming retroactive jealousy, and join thousands of readers who have regained control, and found peace."
"The Jealousy Cure unlocks the positive power of jealousy for happy relationships." —Foreword Reviews "Solid counsel for those whose relationships are plagued by jealousy and the individuals it targets." —Library Journal starred review Could jealousy be a positive thing? In this groundbreaking book, Robert L. Leahy—author of the hugely popular self-help guide, The Worry Cure—invites you to gain a greater understanding of your jealous feelings, keep jealousy from hijacking your life, and create healthier relationships. We’ve all heard tales of the overly jealous spouse or significant other. Maybe we’ve even been that jealous person, though we may not want to admit it. It’s hard to imagine anyone sailing through life without either having feelings of jealousy or being the target of someone’s jealousy. But what if jealousy isn’t just a neurotic weakness? What if it signals that your relationship matters to you? In short—what if jealousy serves a purpose? In The Jealousy Cure, renowned psychologist Robert L. Leahy takes a more nuanced approach to tackling feelings of jealousy. In this compelling book, you’ll uncover the evolutionary origins of jealousy, and how and why it’s served to help us as a species. You’ll also learn practices based in emotional schema theory, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and mindfulness to help you overcome the shame jealousy can bring, improve communication with your partner, and ultimately make room for jealousy while also making your relationship more meaningful. You will learn that confronting jealousy in your relationship does not have to be a catastrophe, but can redirect you and your partner to build more trust, acceptance, and connection. We often feel jealous because we fear losing the things or people that matter to us the most. With this insightful guide, you’ll discover how jealousy can both help and hurt your relationship, and learn proven-effective skills to keep jealousy in its place. This book has been selected as an Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Book Recommendation— an honor bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.
Psychotherapist Paul Hauck, whose popular books have brought help and advice to countless readers, now shows how jealousy and possessiveness--often the most tragic emotions--can be overcome. Applying the principles of Rational Emotive Therapy (RET), Hauck demonstrates how jealousy is a learned emotion and can be unlearned once you understand why you are jealous and begin to think in new ways about yourself and others.
Learn how to get over Retroactive Jealousy in 12 Steps without spending a fortune on therapy. Is your mind caught in a vicious circle of repetitive thoughts about your partner's past love life?Are you extremely bothered by the fact that they once engaged in casual sex? Or were in love with someone else?Are you constantly wondering how to get over your girlfriend's past? Or boyfriend, husband, wife's? Don't Worry, I Know What You're Going Through...I was also once afflicted by retroactive jealousy issues -- irrational jealous thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past -- and struggled FOR MONTHS to overcome them.Platitudes like "Just move on," or "The past is the past" were well intentioned but, as you probably know, completely meaningless.BUT finally, after months of battling, I discovered the secret of how to overcome my girlfriend's past sexual exploits...My retroactive jealousy book will help squash all jealousy of your partner's past, for good. Inside I will teach you the ultimate retroactive jealousy cure -- how to overcome retroactive jealousy in a relationship 12 SIMPLE STEPS.Learn which TWO KEY EMOTIONS are fueling your retrospective jealousy, AND how to get rid of them.REWIRE your mind to think about your partner's past in a whole new positive light. "What you resist, persists!"Learn how to BREAK the cycle of resisting these jealous thoughts and feeling worse because of it.Stop interrogating your loved one about their past behaviour and zero in on what really matters -- THE PRESENT.In short, learn how to not care AT ALL about your husband, boyfriend, wife or girlfriend's sexual or romantic history.Learn How To Stop Being Jealous In Your Relationship In 14,300 words, 12 steps, 3 sections: Part 1: Understanding Retroactive Jealousy IssuesDiscover just what a retroactive jealousy disorder is. As Yoda used to say "Named must your fear be, before banish it you can." Part 2: Rewiring The MindThe next four steps tackle how you're thinking about your partner's sexual history and rewires these thoughts to reframe them in a much more positive light. As you'll find out, retroactive jealousy and insecurity go hand in hand. Part 3: Practical ExercisesYou can't overcome retroactive jealousy in a relationship by thinking about it. In this last section I give you four hands-on practical exercises that you can do every day to kill all your anxiety about your partner's past. Join The 100s Of Satisfied Customers Who've Beaten Retroactive Jealousy OCDHere's what just one of my happy customers had to say about my book about overcoming retroactive jealousy:"Something must have deeply echoed with my subconscious....as well as my rational mind and these feelings were GONE. Years of making myself depressed and hurting my peace and energy over imaginary stuff.....gone.... Thank you! You are a good man."-- Pat. O. St Louis (see original email from Pat here: goo.gl/ovqwhu) Get your thoughts back under control and end the "mini-movies" about the past and let go of your angry, judgmental, and jealous emotions and feel at peace once again. Onward!-- Jeff
Learn how to overcome jealousy in a relationship in 12 steps, starting today.Do you constantly worry that your partner may be cheating on you, or soon leave you? Do you get anxious when they're not around? Do you need constant affirmations and get upset when they don't arrive?Don't worry, I know what you're going through... I used to also be tormented by irrational jealous thoughts about my girlfriend's fidelity and struggled for years to overcome them.Clichés like "Just learn to trust her!" or "Stop, you'll ruin the relationship!" Are well intentioned but, as you probably know, pretty much meaningless. But, finally I discovered the secret of how to overcome my jealousy... And now I'm here to show you how you can do the same.Discover the two key emotions which fuel jealousy in a relationship, and how to get rid of them.Learn how to rewire your mind to think about your partner's interactions with the opposite sex in a whole new light."What you resist, persists." Stop being jealous by breaking the cycle of resistance to jealous thoughts and emotions.Learn how to stop interrogating your partner about their relationships with other people and focus on what really matters--your relationship.In short, learn how to not give a hoot anymore about your partner's relationships and/or interactions with the opposite sex, and get back to being the real you. As Kevin, one of my customers told me recently in an email: "Honestly I think reading your book took a troubled relationship from sure failure to a trusting friendship with potential of a lifetime together. After reading it once and only once, I was able to keep my imagination, and I mean imagination, in check using various chapters in your book that applied to me."
As the saying goes "breakups don't have to leave you broken." And The Breakup Recovery Workbook will prove it to you. As painful and disruptive as a breakup or divorce can be, it can also represent an enormous opportunity for personal growth and transformation. There's a reason breakup and divorce survivors frequently describe the experience as "a blessing in disguise," months or years after the fact. But what distinguishes these survivors from those who remain mired in their post-breakup pain for months, years, even decades? Taking ownership, and taking action. Enter The Breakup Recovery Workbook.Written by acclaimed author and coach Zachary Stockill (BBC News, HuffPost), The Breakup Recovery Workbook contains eight weeks of journaling exercises and writing prompts for gaining clarity, inspiration, and perspective in the wake of a breakup or divorce. Based in part on the author's Overcoming Jealousy Workbook, each week of writing exercises is focused on a different theme, all aimed at healing the pain of loss, gaining crucial new insight into healing, and designing a brighter future.With as little as ten to fifteen minutes a day, this workbook will help you to:-quickly start to recover from the initial shock and/or pain from your breakup-"stop the bleeding," and take the crucial initial steps toward long-term healing-learn the "6 Simple Rules of Breakup Recovery," guaranteed to give you the best chance at a speedy recovery-get valuable new insight into your childhood and previous dating experiences and how they shape and influence your current reality-explore proven, time-tested mindfulness and visualization techniques aimed at encouraging and facilitating peace of mind-remember all of the wonderful things that make you "you," and begin to get your "old self" back-work on your self-esteem, take back the power, and access an enhanced new sense of confidence and self-assuredness-put together a specific, detailed action plan aimed at improving your physical health and mental well-being-internalize and crystalize the lessons from your last relationship, in preparation for your next, more suitable relationship in the future-build an incredible new single life for yourself (in preparation for an incredible new relationship whenever you're ready for it)-immediately start healing the pain of loss, and gaining a new sense of possibility and excitement about your futureDrawing insights from self-help, cognitive behavioural therapy, as well as ancient Buddhist and Stoic philosophy, The Breakup Recovery Workbook is designed for anyone going through a breakup or divorce who's looking for clarity and peace of mind, and willing to take action to get it. While there is no escaping the initial pain of a breakup or divorce, this pain becomes more and more manageable the more we absorb the lessons from our past, take stock of where we are in the present, and plan for a better tomorrow.Believe it or not, breakups don't have to leave you broken--breakups can leave you better. And if you're willing to put in the work, The Breakup Recovery Workbook will prove it to you. So let's get started! Order The Breakup Recovery Workbook today, start healing the pain of loss, and start planning for a better tomorrow.
The definitive classic that has helped more than 400,000 people defeat obsessive-compulsive behavior, with all-new material from the author An estimated 5 million Americans suffer from obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and live diminished lives in which they are compelled to obsess about something or to repeat a similar task over and over. Traditionally, OCD has been treated with Prozac or similar drugs. The problem with medication, aside from its cost, is that 30 percent of people treated don't respond to it, and when the pills stop, the symptoms invariably return. In Brain Lock, Jeffrey M. Schwartz, M.D., presents a simple four-step method for overcoming OCD that is so effective, it's now used in academic treatment centers throughout the world. Proven by brain-imaging tests to actually alter the brain's chemistry, this method doesn't rely on psychopharmaceuticals. Instead, patients use cognitive self-therapy and behavior modification to develop new patterns of response to their obsessions. In essence, they use the mind to fix the brain. Using the real-life stories of actual patients, Brain Lock explains this revolutionary method and provides readers with the inspiration and tools to free themselves from their psychic prisons and regain control of their lives.
