A much needed book for those with a desire to know and those in the throes of desire re: (in)fidelity in a committed relationship. It includes invaluable unbiased information, statistics, commentary, personal stories (including the author's) and surveys for examination. It is an honest, easy, concise read that gets to the crux of the matter, with bits of humor thrown in for good measure This is a book for everyone. It offers up guidelines to preserve integrity and respect before falling victim to the harmful backlash of infidelity. The purpose is to promote awareness, education, and personal accountability. This is your call to action, no matter which side of the fence you find yourself. This is where the change-up begins!
Help your clients’ relationships survive infidelity! In the Handbook of the Clinical Treatment of Infidelity, a panel of seasoned experts reflects on issues central to affairs, and on how to help couples heal and learn from them. First, editors Fred P. Piercy, Katherine M. Hertlein, and Joseph L. Wetchler provide an essential overview of infidelity theory, research, and treatment. They discuss the effect of infidelity on couples and delineate three types of infidelity—emotional, physical, and infidelity including aspects of both. They review the relatively new role of the Internet in infidelity and explore infidelity within the context of comarital relationships. Finally, they discuss the overarching theories and common models used in infidelity treatment. Also in the Handbook of the Clinical Treatment of Infidelity: Susan M. Johnson, the co-developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), discusses affairs through the lens of attachment theory, and shows how EFT provides a way to acknowledge and express pain, remorse, and regret, and to repair this attachment bond. David Moultrup takes a Bowenian approach to infidelity, focusing attention on the underlying dynamics of the emotional system Frank Pittman and Tina Pittman Wagers outline cultural myths about affairs and do their share of debunking Adrian Blow discusses how to help couples directly address their pain—and the challenges of the healing process Brian Case highlights the role of apology and forgiveness in the healing process Frank Stalfa and Catherine Hastings focus on the treatment of “accusatory suffering”—a spouse’s obsessive holding onto and retaliating for an affair long after it has ended, and despite the offending partner’s repeated apologies and attempts at restitution Don-David Lusterman discusses individuals who have suppressed or denied traumatic stress reactions to their partner’s affair, and how to help them Scott Johnson discusses myths about affairs, from who is cheating on whom, to whether men really have more affairs than women, to the blame-filled language of “affairs,” “betrayal,” and “infidelity,” asking us to think more systematically about affairs and to see the dynamics of extra dyadic relationships as more complex and nuanced than they are typically portrayed in the literature Joan Atwood provides an overview of Internet infidelity—the factors influencing one’s involvement in this type of infidelity, and some considerations for therapists Tim Nelson, Fred Piercy, and Doug Sprenkle report on the results of a multi-phase Delphi study that explored what infidelity experts say are the critical issues, interventions, and gender differences in the treatment of Internet infidelity Monica Whitty and Adrian Carr draw upon Klein’s object relations theory and discuss how this might influence the way people rationalize their Internet infidelity Emily Brown outlines the concept of the Split Self Affair—discussing its origins, characteristics, and implications for individuals and couples, and providing detailed information on how to work with these couples in therapy Michael Bettinger presents extra dyadic relationship as a fact, rather than a problem, within many gay male relationships—a discussion that shows how gay male polyamory can work as an alternative to the heterosexual model of emotional and sexual exclusivity in romantic dyadic relationships Katherine Hertlein and Gary Skaggs report on the results of a study that assessed the level of differentiation and one’s engagement in extra dyadic relationships The Handbook of the Clinical Treatment of Infidelity is essential reading for today’s (and tomorrow’s) clinicians who work with couples. Make it a p
Have you ever wondered if the Internet can really damage a relationship? Have you ever wondered whether there is a risk in having cyber-friends when you are committed to someone? Has your significant other ever cheated on you with someone on the Internet? Based on a study of sexual behavior of women and men in open and in closed relationships, The In-Factor Model can show you the unconscious process people follow online. Our findings seek to make you aware of the risk that cyber-friends and the Internet can bring to a relationship, as well as provide you with a notion of what committed adults are doing online. Moreover, if someone cheated on you with a cyber-friend, this book may help you understand how and why. Whats more, professionals working with couples and committed individuals can benefit from this book since it shows the process that people follow online. Clinicians can understand, explain, and come up with strategies for each level of the process to help their clients that go through infidelity online in a simple and clear way. If you are interested in the magic of the Internet, then this handy book is for you. www.amorsex.com
The volume opens with a historical overview of more than 60 years of research on the classification of personality traits. Subsequent chapters focus on theoretical questions that have guided the construction of the model, weigh the value and applicability of each of the five dimensions, and use the five-factor model as a point of departure for discussing broader issues concerning the development and dynamics of personality
Many Christian pundits agree, the world is at a historic precipice and the cusp of an unprecedented move of the Holy Spirit. It is Gods desire that, no church, Christian fellowship, group, team, ministry or association be left behind. However, both leaders and followers within Christianity tend to overlook a crucial factor that could undermine and upend the progress of their organizations in a fundamental way. This is the depth of trustworthiness reposed within those who work, serve, and worship alongside them, as they hunger and pursue the upcoming spiritual revival. More than three decades of working within church and leadership training outfits has taught the author, that measuring the fidelity within spiritual workers is as crucial as pursuing the vision of the organization itself. The dysfunction of unfaithfulness or infidelity is not just a marital problem, but is generally a corporate problem, affecting the attitudes of individuals towards: group goals, aspirations, dreams, visions and values. The potential for unfaithfulness hides within every corporate organization. Sometimes in the most unlikely places, such as churches, it can rear its ugly head. Confronting this issue is the responsibility of church group leaders, senior pastors, church workers and church members, who must expunge all forms of infidelity from their midst if their organizations are to survive, thrive and achieve lasting revival. Through using specific biblical principles, The Fidelity Factor tackles the subject of corporate church fidelity from a variety of angles, empowering the reader to identify this problem and thus contribute to building stronger organizations: those that can participate in the upcoming move of God.
From leading marital therapists and researchers, this unique book presents a three-stage therapy approach for clinicians working with couples struggling in the aftermath of infidelity. The book provides empirically grounded strategies for helping clients overcome the initial shock, understand what happened and why, think clearly about their best interests before they act, and move on emotionally, whether or not they ultimately reconcile. The volume is loaded with vivid clinical examples and carefully designed exercises for use both during sessions and at home. The book will be invaluable to clinicians who treat couples, including couple and family therapists and counselors, clinical psychologists, social workers, pastoral counselors, and psychiatrists. It may also serve as a supplemental text in graduate-level courses.
When one partner in a relationship is unfaithful to the other, it takes a lot of work by both parties involved to salvage the relationship. In today’s therapy-friendly climate, marriage/couples counseling is often a part of that rebuilding process. Many couples seek out professional therapy after an affair is out in the open, but often the act of infidelity is revealed while uncovering and discussing unrelated issues for which the couple is in counseling. And yet, amazingly, as common as this complex and difficult topic arises in therapy, there is relatively little professional literature devoted to understanding and "treating" infidelity. In this volume, Paul Peluso has assembled a truly impressive list of contributors from a range of disciplines and backgrounds, including marital therapy, family therapy, evolutionary psychology, marriage research, and cyberstudies, with the aim of filling this void.
A thoughtfully written and sensitive guide for anyone dealing with the devastating effects of an affair. For anyone who has been impacted by an affair, the effects can be nothing short of devastating. Licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Liz Currin has years of experience helping couples resolve and repair the damage wrought by the effects of an affair. Through Dr Currin's thoughtful style, readers of The Essential Guide to Surviving Infidelity will learn how affairs start, what to do if a partner is suspected of cheating, how to deal with the emotional impact of an affair, and many other essential steps in the healing process. In addition, Dr. Currin provides clears guideposts to healing a marriage (as well as oneself), moving on, engaging the power of forgiveness, and restoring trust.
Clinicians and educators in the marriage and family field will gain valuable insight into the relationship dynamics that cause marital stress and the interactional factors that may result in divorce from this excellent book. The perceptive theoretical, empirical, and clinical chapters included in Marital Instability and Divorce Outcome examine why certain elements in relationships result in divorce while others do not and assist professionals in evaluating these elements. Specifically, this provocative volume enables professionals to examine how a marriage has weathered developmental periods of stability and instability, whether or not it has the necessary resources to survive, and, in the event a divorce occurs, what will be the most likely post-divorce adjustment for the marriage partners. This informative volume aids professionals in their work with marital relationships, by covering a wide range of topics involved in assessing marital instability and divorce outcomes. The relationship circumstances that can lead to divorce are examined in an investigation of personality types which are prone to divorce and a comparison of patterns of relationships which are stable and those which are likely to result in divorce. The conditions that exist after a divorce are explored in a discussion on how to predict post-divorce adjustment and physical well-being of the marriage partners after divorce. Educators teaching marriage and family courses at all levels from high school to college and clinicians who work with marital, family, and child cases will find this helpful volume to be an invaluable resource for evaluating factors influencing marital instability and divorce outcome.
