Author: G. R. M. Devereux

Publisher:

Published: 2014-05-31

Total Pages: 136

ISBN-13: 9781499739039

An Incredible Vintage Guide to Making Marriage Work. THE BEGINNINGS OF COURTSHIP--FAVOURABLE OPPORTUNITIES--INTELLECTUAL AFFINITY--ARTISTIC FELLOWSHIP--ATHLETIC COMRADESHIP--AMATEUR ACTING--SOCIAL INTERCOURSE--DIFFERENT IDEAS OF ETIQUETTE II INTRODUCTIONS--RECOGNITION OF AFFINITY, OR LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT--HOW TO FOLLOW UP AN ACQUAINTANCE--KINDLY OFFICES OF RELATIONS AND FRIENDS III INTERCOURSE BETWEEN UNCONFESSED LOVERS--THE QUESTION OF PRESENTS--EXCHANGE OF HOSPITALITY--THE MAN WHO LIVES AT HOME--THE MAN IN ROOMS IV INTERCOURSE WITH (1) THE HOME GIRL; (2) THE BACHELOR GIRL; (3) THE BUSINESS GIRL; (4) THE STUDENT OR PROFESSIONAL GIRL--FRIENDS WHO BECOME LOVERS V FLIRTS, MALE AND FEMALE--HE CHANGES HIS MIND ON THE VERGE OF A PROPOSAL--HOW SHE ACCEPTS THE SITUATION--HOW SHE MAY GIVE ENCOURAGEMENT OR WARD OFF AN UNWELCOME OFFER VI THE QUESTION OF AGE--YOUNG LOVERS--YOUNG MEN WHO WOO MATURITY--OLD MEN WHO COURT YOUTH--MIDDLE-AGED LOVERS VII PROPOSALS: PREMEDITATED, SPONTANEOUS, PRACTICAL, OR ROMANTIC--NO RULE POSSIBLE--TACT WANTED IN CHOICE OF OPPORTUNITY--UNSEEMLY HASTE AN INSULT TO A WOMAN--KEEN SENSE OF HUMOUR DANGEROUS TO SENTIMENT--SOME THINGS TO AVOID--VAGUELY WORDED OFFERS--WHEN SHE MAY TAKE THE INITIATIVE VIII ENGAGEMENTS--THE ATTITUDE OF PARENTS AND GUARDIANS--MAKING IT KNOWN IN THE FAMILY, TO OUTSIDE FRIENDS--CONGRATULATIONS--THE CHOICE AND GIVING OF THE RING--MAKING ACQUAINTANCE WITH FUTURE RELATIONS-IN-LAW, PERSONALLY OR BY LETTER IX HIS VISITS TO HER HOME--THE ENGAGED COUPLE IN PUBLIC--IN SOCIETY--VISITING AT THE SAME HOUSE---GOING ABOUT TOGETHER, ETC.--THE QUESTION OF EXPENSES X LOVE-LETTERS--LONG OR SHORT ENGAGEMENTS--BROKEN ENGAGEMENTS--CLANDESTINE ENGAGEMENTS--JUSTIFIABLE IN CERTAIN CASES--WHERE THE MOTHER SHARES THE SECRET--FRIENDS WHO ACT AS GO-BETWEEN XI FOREIGN ETIQUETTE OF ENGAGEMENTS--BETROTHAL MUCH MORE SERIOUS THAN IN ENGLAND XII MARRIAGE--FIXING THE DAY--PREPARATIONS--SELECTING THE BRIDESMAIDS AND THEIR DRESSES--BUYING THE WEDDING-GOWN--THE TROUSSEAU--INVITATIONS XIII WEDDING PRESENTS--CHOOSING AND FURNISHING THE HOUSE--WHAT THE BRIDEGROOM SUPPLIES--THE BRIDE'S SHARE IN THE MATTER XIV THE NATURE OF THE CEREMONY, RELIGIOUS OR CIVIL--BANNS OR LICENSE--LEGAL FORMALITIES--SETTLEMENTS, ETC. XV THE WEDDING-DAY--WHAT IS EXPECTED OF (1) THE BRIDE; (2) THE BRIDESMAIDS; (3) THE BRIDEGROOM; (4) THE BEST MAN; (5) THE BRIDE'S PARENTS--AT THE BRIDE'S HOUSE--DRESSING--STARTING FOR THE CHURCH--THE TYING OF THE KNOT--SOCIAL ASPECT--RECEPTION OR BREAKFAST XVI THE GUESTS--THE WEDDING PRESENTS ON VIEW--STARTING FOR THE HONEYMOON--DRESS AND LUGGAGE--WHERE TO GO AND HOW LONG TO STAY--INEVITABLE TEST OF TEMPERAMENT--POSSIBLE DISAPPOINTMENTS AND DISILLUSION, PASSING OR PERMANENT XVII THE RETURN HOME--A PLUNGE INTO THE PRACTICAL--HOUSEKEEPING--WEDDING CALLS--THE NEWLY-MARRIED COUPLE AT HOME AND IN SOCIETY XVIII MIXED MARRIAGES--DIFFERENCES OF COLOUR, NATIONALITY, AND RELIGION--SCOTCH MARRIAGES--MARRIAGE OF MINORS AND WARDS IN CHANCERY XIX FOREIGN ETIQUETTE OF MARRIAGE--VARIOUS CUSTOMS XX RUNAWAY MATCHES--RE-MARRIAGE OF WIDOWS AND WIDOWERS--THE CHILDREN--THE HOME--DRESS--COMPARISONS XXI MARRYING FOR LOVE; FOR MONEY; FOR A HOME; FOR A HOUSEKEEPER--CONCLUDING REMARKS