The Emotionally Destructive Marriage
The Emotionally Destructive Marriage

Author: Leslie Vernick

Publisher: WaterBrook

Published: 2013-09-17

Total Pages: 242

ISBN-13: 0307731197

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Something Has to Change… You can’t put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit. For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward. Based on decades of counseling experience, her intensely practical, biblical advice will show you how to establish boundaries and break free from emotional abuse. Learn to: · identify damaging behaviors · gain the skills to respond wisely · promote healthy change · stay safe · understand when, why, and even how to leave · recognize that God sees and hates what is happening to you Trying harder to be a perfect fantasy wife won’t help fix what’s wrong your marriage. Discover instead how you can initiate effective changes to stop the cycle of destruction and restore hope for the future. “Women in an emotionally abusive marriage do not need another book on how to have a good marriage; those books rub salt in raw wounds. No, they desperately need this book so that they can diagnose just how bad their marriage is and then, with Leslie’s clear expertise, develop a plan that will either begin to turn their marriage around...or give them a wise route of escape.” —Dee Brestin, author of Idol Lies and The Friendships of Women

The Emotionally Destructive Relationship
The Emotionally Destructive Relationship

Author: Leslie Vernick

Publisher: Harvest House Publishers

Published: 2007-08-15

Total Pages: 259

ISBN-13: 0736933522

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Leslie Vernick, counselor and social worker, has witnessed the devastating effects of emotional abuse. Many, including many in the church, have not addressed this form of destruction in families and relationships because it is difficult to talk about. With godly guidance and practical experience, Vernick offers an empathetic approach to recognizing an emotionally destructive relationship and addresses the symptoms and the damage with biblical tools. Readers will understand how to: Reveal behaviors that are meant to control, punish, and hurt Confront and speak truth when the timing is right Determine when to keep trying, when to get out Get safe and stay safe Build an identity in Christ This practical and thorough resource will help countless individuals, families, and churches view abuse from God's perspective and understand how vital it is for victims to embrace His freedom from the physical, emotional, spiritual, and generational effects of emotionally destructive relationships.

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship
The Emotionally Abusive Relationship

Author: Beverly Engel

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons

Published: 2002-11-29

Total Pages: 272

ISBN-13: 0471374474

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"Engel doesn't just describe-she shows us the way out." -Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail Praise for theemotionally abusive relationship "In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offersstep-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse. . . helping bothvictims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful andtraumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individualsand for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotionalabuse." -Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse "This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotionalabuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showingeach party what emotional abuse is, how it affects therelationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamicrelationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp thetools for change and really use them." -Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and owner of BPDCentral.com The number of people who become involved with partners who abusethem emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves isphenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form ofabuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world'sleading experts on the subject, shows us what it is and what to doabout it. Whether you suspect you are being emotionally abused, fear that youmight be emotionally abusing your partner, or think that both youand your partner are emotionally abusing each other, this book isfor you. The Emotionally Abusive Relationship will tell you how toidentify emotional abuse and how to find the roots of yourbehavior. Combining dramatic personal stories with action steps toheal, Engel provides prescriptive strategies that will allow youand your partner to work together to stop bringing out the worst ineach other and stop the abuse. By teaching those who are being emotionally abused how to helpthemselves and those who are being emotionally abusive how to stopabusing, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship offers the expertguidance and support you need.

How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong
How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong

Author: Leslie Vernick

Publisher: WaterBrook

Published: 2009-09-15

Total Pages: 226

ISBN-13: 0307458490

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Experience the Blessings of an Imperfect Marriage. We all–at one time or another–have the opportunity to act right when our spouse acts wrong. There are no perfect marriages or perfect spouses. We know that having a good marriage requires effort and hard work. Yet we often don’t know how to continue to love when we are angry, hurt, scared, or just plain irritated. Nor are we sure what that kind of love is supposed to look like. Should we be patient? Forgive and forget? Do something else entirely? Acting right when your spouse acts wrong will not necessarily guarantee a more satisfying marital relationship, nor will it automatically make your spouse change his or her ways–although both could occur. It will, however, help you see how God is stretching you in the midst of your marital difficulties, teach you to respond wisely when wronged, and lead you into a deeper relationship with Christ as you yield your will to his plan for your life and learn to be more like him.

Escaping Emotional Abuse
Escaping Emotional Abuse

Author: Beverly Engel

Publisher: Citadel

Published: 2020-12-29

Total Pages: 370

ISBN-13: 0806540508

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The world-renowned therapist and author of the groundbreaking self-help classic, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, delves into the most destructive and powerful weapon of the abuser: shame. And reveals its most powerful antidote... In The Emotionally Abused Woman, therapist Beverly Engel introduced the concept of emotional abuse, one of the most subtle, yet devastating forms of abuse within a relationship. Now Engel exposes the most destructive technique the abuser uses to break our spirit and gain control--and guides readers on how to free themselves from the shame that can keep them from the life (and the love) they deserve. Emotionally abused people are gradually stripped of self-esteem, dignity, and humanity--making them feel unworthy and utterly powerless to escape. But they possess a potent tool with which to combat shame: self-compassion. In these pages, Engel shows how to access it. Using her highly effective Shame Reduction Program, she helps readers jumpstart the process of recovery by offering specific steps to help heal, regain self-confidence--and ultimately become empowered enough to leave--for good. An invaluable resource for both men and women who suffer from emotional abuse, as well as therapists and advocates, Escaping Emotional Abuse is a supportive, nurturing guide for anyone seeking to break the chains of shame, and gain the emotional freedom to create healthier, lasting relationships.

Should I Stay Or Should I Go
Should I Stay Or Should I Go

Author: Theresa J. Covert

Publisher: GD Publishing Limited

Published: 2020-12-27

Total Pages: 122

ISBN-13: 9781914103483

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If You're Struggling To Decide If You Should Stay or Go ... PLEASE READ THIS Dear Friend, If you are struggling to decide if it's worth fighting for your relationship or if it's time to leave, and you're serious about finding that answer...this book is the most important book you'll ever read. But First, A Warning: Before we go further, let me make something abundantly clear: This book does not contain a "magic wand" that will bring you instant answers without having to do any work. What I'm about to share with you takes both time and effort and has worked wonders for me and my private clients. And I believe it can help you too. The exact process I'll be sharing with you has taken several of my clients from a state of frustration and feeling "stuck", to crystal clarity as to what they should do. But this only works for those who are willing look deep inside themselves and are committed to finding true happiness. So with that said, let me tell you... Exactly What You're Getting First of all, this is different from any other "relationship" book you've ever read. This book is all about YOU. It's about helping you get clear on what will serve you best and deliver the most happiness without any regrets. Plus, this is a simple read. At 176 pages, you can read it in an afternoon. And you'll immediately begin to see the path toward the happiness you deserve and have been looking for. It's About MORE Than Just This One Decision What you'll take from this book will serve you in all your relationships for the rest of your life. What you'll be learning can be applied to all your relationships, and most important to the one you have with yourself. Here's a fraction of what you're getting... - What to do when you have love for him...but aren't in love with him. - What you should do if "he needs to change" but seems to be fine with mediocrity. - The real cause of the shift from wedded bliss to loneliness. - The most important thing you need to do now so you don't remain stuck in indecision. - Why it's CRITICAL you choose wisely with whom you discuss your struggling marriage and why the wrong choice can end a marriage worth saving. - The ONE single thing you need to focus on at all times to find the clarity and confidence you want. - Why up to 74% of marriages are failing right now and what to do about it for your own life so you're not just another statistic. - The single biggest thing that keeps women stuck in indecision and how to overcome it. - How to identify what's not working in the relationship that is actually working for you. - How to interrupt the same recurring painful patterns and why nothing ever seems to get resolved. - Five specific tips to give your marriage any hope of feeling good again that you can implement in your marriage starting today. - How to know if hope actually exists for your struggling marriage or if it is beyond recovery. - The very first thing you should do if and when you realize the marriage is over. - You have to choose between "happiness" and staying together, right?Wrong! How to pave the path to happiness inside your marriage if that's what you want. And so much more... This Approach Doesn't Require Your Partner To Participate I set out to develop a process that an individual can use to clearly determine if they should recommit to the relationship or lay the foundation to lovingly leave.

Destructive Relationships
Destructive Relationships

Author: Dr. Jill Murray

Publisher:

Published: 2002

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9781588720269

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Whether it's dealing with a critical parent, an unkind spouse, unappreciative children, or a demanding boss, Dr. Jill Murray presents way to help readers recognize the patterns of destructive relationships and provides strategies for positive change.

If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad?
If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad?

Author: Avery Neal

Publisher: Citadel Press

Published: 2018-03-27

Total Pages: 273

ISBN-13: 0806538627

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Free yourself from toxic relationships with “the new gold standard in abuse recovery” from the founder of the Women’s Therapy Clinic (Jackson MacKenzie, author of Whole Again). Foreword by Lois P. Frankel, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author of Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office ARE YOU A VICTIM OF SUBTLE ABUSE? Are you always the one apologizing? Constantly questioning and blaming yourself? Do you often feel confused, frustrated, and angry? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you’re not alone. Nearly half of all women—and men—in the United States experience psychological abuse without realizing it. Manipulation, deception, and disrespect leave no physical scars, but they can be just as traumatic as physical abuse. In this groundbreaking book, Avery Neal, founder of the Women’s Therapy Clinic, helps you recognize the warning signs of subtle abuse. As you learn to identify patterns that have never made sense before, you are better equipped to make changes. From letting go of fear to setting boundaries, whether you’re gathering the courage to finally leave or learning how to guard against a chronically abusive pattern, If He’s So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad? will help you enjoy a happy, healthy, fulfilling life, free of shame or blame. “This book can open eyes for people who may have lost pieces of themselves along the way. Great examples and exercises. It is a companion from start to finish.” —Dr. Jay Carter, author of Nasty People “No-nonsense insights and practical ways to regain control of and empower your life.” —Dr. George Simon, international bestselling author of In Sheep’s Clothing

The Emotionally Abused Woman
The Emotionally Abused Woman

Author: Beverly Engel, M.F.C.C.

Publisher: Ballantine Books

Published: 1992-01-21

Total Pages: 258

ISBN-13: 0449906442

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“A sensible book, full of insight and hope,”* that offers support and guidance in freeing emotionally abused women from the cycle of abuse and establishing new healthy patterns of relating to others. *Booklist • Does your husband or lover constantly criticize you and put his needs before yours? • Do you sometimes wonder if your best friend is truly a friend? • Does your boss try to control your every move? • Does your fear of being left alone keep you in chronically hurtful relationships? If any of these questions sound familiar, you could very well be suffering from emotional abuse—the most widespread but also the most hidden abuse that women experience. This type of abuse is just as damaging as physical or sexual abuse. But there is help in this invaluable compassionate sourcebook. As a marriage, family, and child therapist who has grappled with these issues herself, Beverly Engel guides you through a step-by-step recover process, helping you shed the habits begun in childhood and take the first few steps toward healthy change. Using numerous examples drawn from case history and her own therapeutic expertise, Engel will show you how to • Recognize and understand the abusers in your life • Identify the patterns that have kept you emotionally trapped • Complete your unfinished business • Decide whether to walk away from an abusive relationship or take a stand and stay • Heal the damage of abuse by building self-esteem • Break the cycle of abuse and open yourself to the promise of healthy relationships

Crazy Love
Crazy Love

Author: Leslie Morgan Steiner

Publisher: Macmillan + ORM

Published: 2009-03-31

Total Pages: 202

ISBN-13: 142996233X

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The New York Times bestseller: “[A] brutally honest memoir of a brave, smart, fresh-faced young woman’s descent into domestic hell.” —Monica Holloway, author of Driving with Dead People At 22, Leslie Morgan Steiner seemed to have it all: a Harvard diploma, a glamorous job at Seventeen magazine, a downtown New York City apartment. Plus a handsome, funny, street-smart boyfriend who adored her. But behind her façade of success, this golden girl hid a dark secret. She’d made a mistake shared by millions: she fell in love with the wrong person. At first Leslie and Conor seemed as perfect together as their fairy-tale wedding. Then came the fights she tried to ignore: he pushed her down the stairs of the house they bought together, poured coffee grinds over her hair as she dressed for a critical job interview, choked her during an argument, and threatened her with a gun. Several times, he came close to making good on his threat to kill her. With each attack, Leslie lost another piece of herself. Gripping and utterly compelling, Crazy Love takes you inside the violent, devastating world of abusive love. Conor said he’d been abused since he was a young boy, and love and rage danced intimately together in his psyche. Why didn’t Leslie leave? She stayed because she loved him. Find out for yourself if she had fallen truly in love—or into a psychological trap. Crazy Love will draw you in—and never let go. “Compulsively readable.” —People “A must read for anyone in a consuming relationship.” —Iris Krasnow, New York Times–bestselling author