My wife cheated on me. The texts, pics, dates, and liaisons with other men created the most horrific moments of my life. Being married to a love and sex addict was traumatizing, but I survived, and so can you. Rediscovering your identity, finding help, and recovering will be some of the toughest but winnable battles of your life. The Betrayed Husband's Survival Guide shares practical tips and advice as the author shares his story of recovery from betrayal by a sexually addicted spouse.
“Your world has collapsed; your life dreams have crashed. It feels as if your heart has been wounded deeply—shattered—broken beyond repair. You wonder when your heart will stop bleeding. I understand. I too have stumbled along the same path of betrayal that you are on right now. Walk with me through the background stories of my personal experience with infidelity. I vulnerably share my private journal entries and short vignettes of how I survived my husband's betrayal. You will identify with my pain and confusion during the difficult stages of recovery. My story of survival is dramatic, hopeful, and instructive; it will help you as you process through the wide variety of emotions and if you choose, you can eventually move beyond the hurt and devastation that this nightmare has caused. It is possible to survive nightmares in the heart, and upon awakening, a new life will be waiting for you.”-Patti SnodgrassAuthor Patti Snodgrass shares the intimate details of her personal journey with infidelity and what it took to overcome her suffering. Patti's story of survival brings clarity and sanity to the emotional injuries caused by an unfaithful spouse and offers immeasurable hope to those whose hearts has been wounded by an act of betrayal. Candid journal entries are interspersed with engaging chapters, where, among other directives, readers are encouraged to be angry but also embrace a wide range of emotions on a journey towards recovery. Patti questions the past and ponders what might have been, but also brings clarity in being able to identify the truth behind the transgression in order for one to begin moving on. Snodgrass' main objective is to bring stability and hope to the wounded heart. In a very meaningful way, this resource is a guide to the aftershocks of infidelity. It's a true compass to help those in the midst of their own wilderness walk to know that they're not alone—that they will survive. With spirited encouragement Snodgrass provides fellow survivors a tremendous lifeline. Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide for the Betrayed is a dramatic, hopeful, and instructive guide that helps readers work through the wide variety of emotions and move beyond the hurt. Yes you are changed forever, but this is not fatal, and the journey chronicled in this book will help the wounded survive nightmares of the heart.
An affair is a major crisis in your relationship, but one which you can survive. For some couples, once an infidelity and its after effects are behind them, the marriage is actually stronger than before. For others, coming to terms with what the affair was really about can enable a couple to break up with less anger and create a settlement that will offer their children the best hope for a healthy adjustment after the divorce. Infidelity is a step-by-step guide that will help you cope with the emotional impact of an affair and either choose to break up or begin to build a new model for your marriage.
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity -- but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters -- their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Combining solid advice that champions self-respect, along with hilarious cartoons satirizing the pomposity of cheaters, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on Stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, Rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, Why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more. Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.
This book is extraordinary and unique. The book provides raw, explicit honesty and a great deal of hard-earned wisdom about the whole issue of affairs.
Cheated on…Battered by emotion…You don't know where to turn. You feel betrayed, devastated, embarrassed, angry, and completely heartbroken. You ask yourself, "How can I stop infidelity from ruining my life?" "How do I cope with this nightmare? You don't realize there is a roadmap that explains what you are going through. That roadmap is Cheating in a Nutshell. Knowledge is Power and Understanding is Liberating. Whatever shade of infidelity you're dealing with, it is powerfully painful – and the feelings that come with it are hardly ever simple. Understanding your pain will change your way of thinking almost immediately. This book is for you if: --You just learned your partner cheated on you --You have been staying with a cheating partner --You were betrayed in a past relationship and seek a deeper understanding of your feelings In Cheating in a Nutshell, Wayne and Tamara Mitchell explain the source of your pain. There is a way out of this darkness, and the first step is to understand the structure of this awful experience. "The focus is on the betrayed, not the cheater, and if you've been cheated on, I agree with other reviewers: This is the best book, the only one you need." – Reader Review It's never too late to understand why you feel as you do. Read Cheating in a Nutshell.
Infidelity, gaslighting, and deception shatter the most sacred part of a committed relationship, the attachment. The foundation upon which your relationship house is built is demolished in an instant, leaving unsuspecting partners in rubble and twisted wires trying to make sense of what just happened. This is Betrayal Trauma. With the experience and wisdom of twenty-four years working with betrayed partners and utilizing the methods developed, Michele Saffier and Allan J. Katz offer you a self-guided process of healing, unlike any other-a heroes' journey. On your heroes' journey, you will face into the depth of pain and suffering that follows in the wake of the hurricane and you will emerge whole, yet broken but stronger for the brokenness. You will reclaim your balance, wisdom and dignity, allowing you to make the most difficult decisions with a clear and strong mind.
If you have been injured by a significant other's betrayal, use the tools described in this book to determine the options you have, interrupt triggers, calm down your stress levels, and become clear on what you can request. Your greatest wounding is to believe that nothing that you experienced with your significant other was real. You experience an out-of-the-blue grief response to the sudden loss of what you thought was your life. At some point you need to mourn the relationship you thought you had. Reactions such as anger, sadness, numbness or craving to go out and cheat yourself show the humongous loss. The betrayal wound causes you to no longer trust your significant other and yourself. You have many questions: Was my relationship with the one who betrayed me an illusion? What’s my sense of reality that I did not see the dual life of the one who betrayed me sooner? How could I have entrusted myself and my family to a person I did not know? You have been wounded on so many levels. At the same time, betrayal trauma is not your fault. Pick up this manual for keys to unlocking freedom and a clear vision to moving forward. "This book is a got to get for anybody who wants to improve their skills and work through their own betrayal trauma, and it’s for men who clearly don’t have enough resources. I just can’t thank you, Sibylle, enough for helping this very special population heal. It’s amazing and thanks again." Carol A. Juergensen Sheets, LCSW, Author "Help Her Heal"
"When Brian told me of his affair, my whole world was shattered. Since the affair, and since the difficult recovery period, I have excelled in amazing ways in every area of my life. I look and feel better than I did when I was in my twenties. I have more energy, more zeal and more enthusiasm for life. Since I have gotten over my insecurities, I experience far better relationships with my husband, children and others. I also have more fun. No matter what tragedies happen in our lives, we always have a choice, not a choice over what will happen to us, but a choice over how we will react to it. Will we become bitter or better? I chose to become better, and now my greatest tragedy has also become my greatest personal victory." – Anne Bercht "Would I want to go back to our marriage before the affair? Not a chance! Would I have liked to have gotten to this point some other way? Absolutely! Would I recommend an affair to others so they can reach a greater love and better marriage? Absolutely not! If you have experienced an affair, is rebuilding your marriage worth it? You bet it is! As long as you love each other and are willing to do the work." – Brian Bercht
