Summary of Carl Knickerbocker's The Parallel Parenting Solution

Summary of Carl Knickerbocker's The Parallel Parenting Solution

Author: Everest Media,

Publisher: Everest Media LLC

Published: 2022-10-10T22:59:00Z

Total Pages: 25

ISBN-13:

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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 High-quality coparenting is about parents supporting each other in their roles as parents, which helps them be better parents. Low-quality coparenting is about parents undermining each other in their roles as parents, which hurts them as parents. In the case of divorce, high-quality coparenting involves a parent supporting their ex in their role as a parent. Low-quality coparenting involves a parent undermining their ex in their role as a parent. -> The two types of Coparenting are high-quality and low-quality. High-quality Coparenting is about parents supporting each other in their roles as parents, which helps them be better parents. Low-quality Coparenting is about parents undermining each other in their roles as parents, which hurts them as parents. #2 There is such thing as high-quality Coparenting, and it’s called Parallel Parenting. It is an approach to post-divorce parenting in which the relational dynamic promotes each parent being able to parent as their best selves in the role of parent without regard to one another. #3 Co-parenting is about supporting each other in our parental roles, not undermining each other or trying to convince ourselves that we’re right and our ex is wrong. That’s how you end up with low-quality coparenting and bad parent-child relationships. #4 HCPs are psychologically abnormal. Normal techniques do not work with them because they are psychologically abnormal.


The Parallel Parenting Solution: Eliminate Confict With Your Ex, Create The Life You Want

The Parallel Parenting Solution: Eliminate Confict With Your Ex, Create The Life You Want

Author: Carl Knickerbocker Jd

Publisher: Independent Publishing Corporation

Published: 2021-06-26

Total Pages: 174

ISBN-13:

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"I could not stop reading and highlighting! Thank you for writing it! Finally someone that understands and gets that it is impossible to coparent with a high conflict person!" -L. Deshea "This information was liberting to hear...this is exactly what I am and have been going through. I have purchased your book on Amazon and started reading it. I want to offer a sincere thank you...I am learning a lot about aligning myself with the parallel parenting ideal. Thank you for your posts and for your book. It has truly changed my life." -S. Delgado "Thank you for writing this book. It is good to not only know that I am not alone in this, but to have a safe, healthy plan for my son and myself moving forward." -J. Dillard "I want to see these changes for all families in my lifetime!" -A. Ngyen The Parallel Parenting Solution was written for people who want to eliminate the unnecessary drama of Coparenting with a high-conflict ex-particularly in the wake of a hard-fought divorce battle. Coparenting does not have to take a toll on mental health, deplete your finances, compromise your values, or threaten your safety. For those experiencing the effects of Trendy-Trendy Coparenting as a living hell, your experience is valid. We've been there and lived it. But have no fear. There is hope, and it's called Parallel Parenting. It's based on the premise that all parties can achieve the highest outcomes for themselves and their families when they are free to work in parallel, rather than being thrown into the chaotic emotional enmeshment soup that is Trendy-Trendy Coparenting. Understanding the exploitative and conflict-producing fantasy known as Trendy-Trendy Coparenting as sold to us by the divorce industry vultures is as important as understanding the down-to-earth tactics of how to deal with your high-conflict ex. This book will teach you both. Families who want to heal after a divorce should not start with pie-in-the-sky expectations. They should start in reality. That's where Parallel Parenting exists, and we hope you will join us there.


Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex

Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex

Author: Amy J. L. Baker

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

Published: 2014-05-01

Total Pages: 224

ISBN-13: 160882960X

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Protect your child from alienation and loyalty conflicts. During and after a difficult divorce, it’s easy for your relationship with your kids to become strained—especially if you are dealing with a toxic ex who bad-mouths you in front of your children, accuses you of being a bad parent, and even attempts to “replace” you with a new partner in your children’s lives. Your children may become confused, conflicted, angry, anxious, or depressed—and you may feel powerless. But there is help. In this guide, you’ll discover a positive parenting approach to dealing with a hostile ex-spouse. You'll learn the best ways to protect your children from painful loyalty conflicts, how to avoid parental alienation syndrome, and techniques for talking to your children in a way that fosters honesty and trust. Co-parenting with a toxic ex can be challenging, but with the right tools you can protect your kids and make your relationship with them stronger than ever.


Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other

Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other

Author: Lauren J. Behrman

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

Published: 2018-05-01

Total Pages: 239

ISBN-13: 1626259062

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Hate your ex but love your kids? If so, this much-needed guide offers practical tips and strategies to help you manage intense emotions, deal with shame and blame, and create a peaceful, loving environment for your children. Let’s face it—divorce is tough. In a high-conflict divorce, your ex may attempt to undermine your relationship with your children, blame you for the failed marriage, and be hostile toward you in general. Unfortunately, this negativity can affect your kids, too. You need to break the cycle of rage and conflict now, for their sake. This book can help. Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other offers powerful skills based in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and values-based parenting to help you both take control of your emotions. You’ll get tools to help you identify cycles of conflict, as well as strategies for breaking these cycles before they get out of hand. You’ll also learn strategies to effectively communicate with one another and your children in a way that is healthy and productive. If you’re going through a high-conflict divorce, you need real tools to help you manage the pain and anger that can follow. This book will show you the skills you need to go from ex to co-parent, and start rebuilding your—and your child’s—life.


Child Custody Made Simple

Child Custody Made Simple

Author: Webster Watnik

Publisher:

Published: 2003

Total Pages: 584

ISBN-13: 0964940434

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Discusses a variety of issues concerning child custody, including court structures, living arrangements, recommendations on avoiding court battles, and advice on working with lawyers.


How to be a Good Divorced Dad

How to be a Good Divorced Dad

Author: Jeffery M. Leving

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons

Published: 2012-03-06

Total Pages: 192

ISBN-13: 1118237501

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Positive advice for divorced dads and their families The country's leading authority on fathers' rights Jeffery M. Leving presents a definitive how-to resource for divorced dads of any age, background, and marriage history. Leving offers targeted guidance and suggests techniques for staying connected with children and dealing with ex-wives—and in some cases a new girlfriend or the wife's new boyfriend—during the divorce and afterwards. This upbeat book offers good news for divorced dads and counters many of the myths that paint divorcing fathers as alienated, irresponsible, or absent. Includes advice for overcoming limited access to children with cooperative responses and legal remedies if necessary Reveals how to avoid depression and feelings of guilt that can cause a divorced dad to give up and lose connection with his kids Offers ideas for responding to an ex-wife's remarriage, moving, unfounded accusations, and other common issues Contains guidance for engaging in new relationships and possibly remarriage How to Be a Good Divorced Dad is practical and down-to-earth and offers dozens of real life examples of dads who have discovered the importance of staying involved in their children's lives.


Putting Children First

Putting Children First

Author: JoAnne Pedro-Carroll

Publisher: Penguin

Published: 2010-05-04

Total Pages: 354

ISBN-13: 1101427388

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An internationally renowned authority on children and divorce reveals the latest research-based strategies for helping children survive and thrive before, during, and long after their parents divorce. The breakup of a family can have an enduring impact on children. But as Dr. JoAnne Pedro-Carroll explains with clarity and compassion in this powerful book, parents can positively alter the immediate and long-term effects of divorce on their children. The key is proven, emotionally intelligent parenting strategies that promote children's emotional health, resilience, and ability to lead satisfying lives. Over the past three decades, Pedro-Carroll has worked with families in transition, conducted research, and developed and directed award- winning, court-endorsed programs that have helped thousands of families navigate divorce and its aftermath. Now she shares practical, research-based advice that helps parents: -gain a deeper understanding of what their children are experiencing -develop emotionally intelligent parenting strategies with the critical combination of boundless love and appropriate limits on behavior -reduce conflict with a former spouse and protect children from conflict's damaging effects -learn what recent brain research reveals about stress and children's developing capabilities Filled with the voices and drawings of children and the stories of families, Putting Children First delivers a positive vision for a future of hope and healing.


Promises to Keep: How Jackie Robinson Changed America

Promises to Keep: How Jackie Robinson Changed America

Author: Sharon Robinson

Publisher: Scholastic Inc.

Published: 2016-11-29

Total Pages: 68

ISBN-13: 1338153706

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The bestselling classic biography of Jackie Robinson, America's legendary baseball player and civil rights activist, told from the unique perspective of an insider: his only daughter. Sharon Robinson shares memories of her famous father in this warm loving biography of the man who broke the color barrier in baseball -- and taught his children that the only measure of life is the impact you have on others lives'. Promises to Keep is the story of Jackie Robinson's hard-won victories in baseball, business, politics, and civil rights. It looks at the inspiring effect the legendary Brooklyn Dodger had on his family, his community ... his country. Told from the unique perspective of Robinson's only daughter, this intimate and uplifting book includes photos from the Robinson family archives and family letters never published before. Jackie Robinson is one our great national heroes. Promises to Keep reminds us what made him a champion -- on and off the field!


Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent

Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent

Author: Margalis Fjelstad

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield

Published: 2020-11-03

Total Pages: 235

ISBN-13: 1538127644

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Being partnered with a narcissist or borderline personality can be hard enough, but learning how to shield children from the fallout is paramount. Here, the authors show readers how to manage parenting when a narcissistic or borderline partner is part of the equation. Life in a narcissistic family system is at best challenging, and too often filled with chaos, isolation, emotional outbursts, and rigid controlling behaviors. It is too often devoid of peace and emotional safety. In the worst outcomes, children in these families grow up with low self-worth, issues with trust and belonging, and a lack of self-compassion. They are at significant risk of carrying the cycle forward and having poor adult relationships. This book offers a way to intervene and disrupt the cycle of negative outcomes for children. Written by two family therapists who bring a combined total of sixty years of clinical practice with individuals and families, the book pulls no punches, giving clear-headed advice, easy to follow actions to help children, and an abundance of teaching examples. Instead of the doom and gloom scenarios often presented about life with a narcissist or borderline, this book provides a much more positive outlook, and most importantly, it offers hope and a path to an entirely different outcome for the family members. Supported by current research in neuroscience, mindfulness and parenting information, the book focuses on teaching resilience and self-compassion to raise emotionally healthy children, even in a narcissistic family system. It starts by helping parents get a clear understanding of what they face with a narcissistic or borderline partner. There is no room here for denial, but there are also many options to explore. It explains how and why the narcissistic family system functions so poorly for raising healthy children, and pinpoints the deficits while providing information on how to intervene more effectively for the benefit of the children. Using their years of experience, the authors present ideas for staying together as well as knowing when to leave the relationship and how best to do that. Emphasis throughout the book is on supporting and strengthening the reader with encouragement, concrete ideas, skills and compassionate understanding.


BIFF for Co-Parents

BIFF for Co-Parents

Author: Bill Eddy

Publisher: Unhooked Books

Published: 2020-09-29

Total Pages: 200

ISBN-13: 9781950057108

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In divorce and co-parenting, not only do parents need to deal with their own emotions, they may be faced with a daily barrages of hostile calls, texts, social media blasts, and/or emails. How can you regain a sense of control and peace for your own sake and for the kids? For more than a decade, the BIFF method of responding to hostile and misinforming emails, texts and conversations, has grown in use by thousands of people dealing with a person with a high conflict personality. This third book in the BIFF Communication series is especially devoted to parents dealing with issues in and after separation and divorce as they co-parent their children, complete with instructions in the four-step BIFF method and numerous examples for dealing with co-parent situations. When parents use this approach, not only do they feel good about their end of the written or verbal conversation, but it tends to influence the other parent to communicate more productively as well. While it's simple and practical, it's not natural for most of us because we are hooked by the emotional intensity. This book can help you reduce the conflict and regain your sanity by learning what to write and what not to write. Brief, Informative, Friendly and Firm. The BIFF is a communication game changer--it works!