Are you sick of being told "Smile-look on the bright side"? Do you feel guilty when you admit you're having a bad day? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you are a victim of the "don't worry, be happy" mentality that is pervading America. Dr. Held, convinced that having to smile through life's problems only adds insult to injury, is here to tell you that you have the right, the need, to kvetch! As she walks you through the five steps of creative kvetching, Dr. Held will show you that the right kind of complaining can help you to feel better and attract others to you instead of driving them away. So get ready to take off your smiley face and be liberated from the "tyranny of the positive attitude."
I hope you will enjoy reading articles in this book as much as I did. I hope the book will inspire and have positive impact on your realizing your potential and capability and inspire you to do something that you haven’t tried before. Each of you came across this book as I did come across Dr. Peang-Meth’s first article by chance—but it is by choice that I put his articles together into a book, and I hope that you, by choice, too, will own this book. All proceeds from the book will contribute to further promote other Khmer scholars’ writings in the social science field so that their scholarships, their visions, can be shared and used to contribute to nation-building of the Khmer motherland. Furthermore, it is my hope to augment the understanding of Khmer intergenerations—the elder Khmer scholars who survived Pol Pot’s killing fields and the young Khmer scholars who are faced with national and international challenge in the twenty-first century—both groups that need to explore and exchange what are the “Khmer” that they have in common, in interests and values, to build peace and security, promote democracy and economic growth for all Khmers in Cambodia, as well as for the people in less developed and developing countries, so they can enjoy “life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness” and realize their potential and capacity to compete within their countries, between nation-states in the regions, and in the world. Sovathana Sokhom
The pace of modern life is accelerating. To keep up, we must keep on moving and adapting – constantly striving for greater happiness and success. Or so we are told. But the demands of life in the fast lane come at a price: stress, fatigue and depression are at an all-time high, while our social interactions have become increasingly self-serving and opportunistic. How can we resist today's obsession with introspection and self-improvement? In this witty and bestselling book, Danish philosopher and psychologist Svend Brinkmann argues that we must not be afraid to reject the self-help mantra and 'stand firm'. The secret to a happier life lies not in finding your inner self but in coming to terms with yourself in order to coexist peacefully with others. By encouraging us to stand firm and get a foothold in life, this vibrant anti-self-help guide offers a compelling alternative to life coaching, positive thinking and the need always to say 'yes!'
Everyone has teased, nagged, betrayed, or lied to another person. Likewise, everyone has been the unfortunate object of such unpleasant behaviors. In this intriguing book, social psychologist Robin M. Kowalski examines the intricacies of six annoying interpersonal behaviors: complaining, teasing, breaches of propriety, worry and reassurance-seeking, lying, and betrayal. She considers the functions of these behaviors, the types of people who are inclined to do them, the consequences for victims and perpetrators, and the ways in which such behaviors might be curtailed.Complaining, Teasing, and Other Annoying Behaviors provides for the first time a multifaceted picture of common annoying behaviors. The book answers these questions and many others:• Why do people tease?• What are the consequences of annoying behaviors for the people involved?• Is there a positive side to irritating behaviors?• Are people more likely to lie to those close to them or to strangers?• Do excuses and apologies diminish the hurtful effect of unpleasant behaviors?• What is the relation of gender and culture to specific annoying acts?
In Resilience as a Framework for Coaching: A Cognitive Behavioural Perspective, Michael Neenan presents an in-depth understanding of resilience and shows how coaches can help their clients to develop and enhance their own resilience. By focusing on the beliefs, emotions and behaviours that promote or hinder the development of resilience, Neenan provides coaches with plenty of discussion points for inclusion in their sessions. The book, written in an engaging and accessible style, includes a chapter showing the unfolding of a five-session course of resilience coaching with lengthy dialogue excerpts between the coach and the client, accompanied by a commentary on the coach’s interventions. Throughout the book there are plenty of case studies and examples of resilience in action. The book ends with a recap on resilience pinpointing some of the key features of a resilient mindset. Written by an established expert in the field of resilience and cognitive behavioural coaching, Resilience as a Framework for Coaching represents an essential resource for those wishing to train in this discipline. The book will appeal to coaches, coaching psychologists, psychotherapists and clinical, health and counselling psychologists with an interest in coaching, human resource professionals, counsellors and trainees in these disciplines.
Happiness is big business. Books, consultants, psychologists, organizations, and even governments tout happiness secrets that are backed by scientific findings. The problem is that all of this science is done by and for cis white men. And some of the most vocal of these happiness experts were announcing that women could become happier by espousing "traditional" values and eschewing feminism. Skeptical of this hypothesis, Ariel Gore took a deep dive into the optimism industrial complex, reading the history, combing the research, attending the conferences, interviewing the thought leaders, and exploring her own and her friends' personal experiences and desires. Fuck Happiness is a nuanced, thoughtful examination of what happiness means and to whom, how it's played a role in defining modern gender roles and power structures, and how we can all have a more empowered relationship with the pursuit of joy in our lives.
Queer Blues is the only guide to focus on the triggers of depression specific to the gay and lesbian community and to offer concrete strategies to overcome them. The authors explain the many forms of depression and explore its unique impact on lesbians and gay men. If you're a lesbian or a gay man struggling with depression, this book offers you real tools for real change. A self-test helps you determine your own level of depression and assess its impact on your life. With this information, go on to explore the reciprocal relationship between mood and self-esteem. Examine your core beliefs about self-worth and identify self-sabotaging habits that may make you vulnerable to both insecurity and depression. A final section provides tested, practical methods distilled from the authors' more than twenty-five years of clinical experience to help you build a plan to effectively manage your depression.
Almost all of us know someone with cancer. And, of course, we want nothing more than to offer comfort and support, and foster hope. But we don’t always know how—and may feel uncomfortable asking. Following her own treatment for cancer, Lori Hope created a survey for cancer survivors addressing issues they wanted their families, friends, and caregivers to understand. The results of the newly expanded survey are presented with honesty, insight, and humor, and complemented by scores of compelling personal stories from survivors of diverse ages and backgrounds. If you are a caregiver, Help Me Live will help you communicate more effectively and respond more compassionately. And if you are a survivor, it will help you feel validated, empowered, and, ultimately, hopeful.
"The best general introduction to positive psychology available." Dr Alex Linley, University of Leicester, UK "Dr Ilona Boniwell is recognized as Europe’s leading researcher, innovator and thinker in the expanding world of positive psychology. Positive Psychology in a Nutshell offers something for everyone with an interest in discovering how to live optimally. This brilliant littlebook is packed with scientific evidence identifying the key ingredients that help to create a happy life. Read it and learn how to change yours for the better." Dr Cecilia d'Felice, Consultant Psychologist, Author and Columnist for The Times and The Metro "Positive Psychology in a Nutshell is a little gem of a book, beautifully and engagingly written, and having the marks of a cogent teacher who has mastered the contemporary structure, bounds and outreach of her field. This is a 'must read', and a welcome antidote for all thoseengaged in the caring professions." Richard Whitfield, Human Development Specialist, Educator, Poet and Chairman of Trustees of the Face-to-Face Trust "As good an introduction to positive psychology as you can read. A must-read book for all those involved in the education and health industries." Dr Anthony Seldon, Master, Wellington College, Berkshire, UK "Positive Psychology in a Nutshell is a comprehensive, user friendly, thoughtful introduction and critique of the field. Simply put, it is the best overview out there that can be read in a couple of sittings. Those with no psychology background find it fascinating and informative; those with serious credentials find it to be a credible overview and critique of the field." Dr Carol Kauffman, Co-founder and Director of the Coaching and Positive Psychology Initiative, Harvard Medical School, USA "In a nutshell, I could scarcely put down this intelligent, balanced and irresistible introduction to positive psychology!" Dr Sean Cameron, Co-Director, Practitioner Doctorate in Educational Psychology, University College London, UK "It is very readable, seductively so, and is no doubt as good an introduction to the subject as you can get ... Emotional wellbeing is complex and there are useful insights here to shore up the flabby phrases tossed around by politicians ... There are some parts of this book I will use and anyone who wants to find out about positive psychology should start here." Mike Shooter is a child psychiatrist and President of BACP, UK When you hear the words 'positive psychology' or 'the science of well-being', do you wonder what it's all about? 'What makes us fulfilled?' and 'Is happiness necessary for a good life?' Discover the latest thinking on the topics of happiness, flow, optimism, motivation, character strengths and love, and learn how to apply it to your life. Ilona Boniwell presents an engaging overview of the science of optimal functioning and well-being, which combines real readability with a broad academic base applied to day-to-day life. Now fully updated and enhanced with new material on how to: Change your mindset Practice mindfulness Develop better resilience Enhance your well-being at work Adopt positive leadership Introducing positive psychology in a friendly, straightforward way, this international bestseller is peppered with many simple tools and tips for daily living that will help you love your life.
This book is a compilation of twelve interviews with brief therapy experts and some of the field's most influential innovators (O'Hanlon, de Shazer, White, and Meichenbaum to name a few). The interviews, conducted to explore technical, theoretical, and ethical aspects of the theory and practice of brief therapy, offer the give-and-take spontaneity that can only be found in an interview style. The selection of the content is based on both the expertise of the interviewees as well as those issues of most concern to the field: managed care and economics, ethics, and being solution-focused.
