In the mid-1980s, after the Indochina Wars, a shortage of men meant that many single women in Vietnam found themselves without suitable marital prospects. A number of these women chose to pursue single motherhood by “asking for a child” (xin con)—asking men to get them pregnant out of wedlock. Xin con appeared to be a radical departure from traditional Vietnamese kinship values and practices, which were based in Confucian patriarchal and patrilineal reproductive interests. However, this innovative solution was rooted in both pre- and postwar values, practices, and notions of gender, kinship, love, and sexuality. This ethnography explores the practice of xin con among single mothers in the postwar era and today, and considers the ways their reproductive agency was embraced rather than rejected by the Vietnamese state as it entered the global market economy. Rather than condemning or trying to restrict older single women’s reproductive agency, government officials enacted policies that would accommodate both the women and the state—a strategy that represents an intriguing alignment of Confucian heritage, Communist ideology, and governing tactics and demonstrates the social power of women.
"Navigating Love and Motherhood: Dating and Relationships as a Single Mother" is a heartfelt guide that addresses the unique challenges faced by single mothers on the journey of love and motherhood. From financial management to self-care, mental health, and building support networks, this book provides comprehensive insights and practical advice. The carefully crafted chapters delve into the intricacies of single motherhood, offering guidance on everything from budgeting and dating to self-care practices and fostering positive relationships. In "Navigating Love and Motherhood," single mothers will find a roadmap to financial independence, strategies for balancing relationships and parenting, and empowering insights on self-care and personal development. The book emphasizes the importance of mental health, exploring mindfulness techniques, hormonal balance, and the profound impact of positive parenting on a single mother's well-being. This book is more than a guide; it's a companion for single mothers navigating the often challenging but rewarding path of love and motherhood. With a thoughtful blend of practical advice and empathetic understanding, it stands as a supportive resource, empowering single mothers to embrace their identities, overcome obstacles, and cultivate a fulfilling life for themselves and their children. Whether you're seeking financial guidance, relationship insights, or self-care strategies, "Navigating Love and Motherhood" is a comprehensive guide that speaks directly to the unique experiences and triumphs of single mothers. About the Author: Dr. Sandra Wilfred Dr. Sandra Wilfred is a renowned relationship expert with a passion for empowering single mothers to navigate the complexities of love and motherhood with confidence and grace. With a background in psychology and years of experience working with individuals and families, Dr. Wilfred brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to her writing. As a single mother herself, Dr. Wilfred understands firsthand the challenges and triumphs of raising children while navigating the world of dating and relationships. Her compassionate approach, combined with her professional insight, makes her a trusted guide for single mothers seeking guidance on financial management, self-care, and mental health. Through her work as an author and speaker, Dr. Wilfred has touched the lives of countless single mothers, offering practical advice, empowering insights, and unwavering support. Her dedication to helping single mothers thrive in love and parenthood shines through in every word she writes. Dr. Sandra Wilfred is not just a relationship expert; she is a beacon of hope and inspiration for single mothers everywhere. "Embrace the wisdom within these pages, reignite the flames of love, and return home with renewed confidence and peace, knowing you have the tools to navigate the complexities of single motherhood with grace and resilience." Scroll up and press the BUY button
Lives on the Edge offers a penetrating, deeply disturbing look into the other America inhabited by single mothers and their children. Its powerful and moving portraits force us to confront the poverty, destitution, and struggle for survival that await single mothers in one of the richest nations in the world. One in five children and one in two single mothers live in destitution today. The feminization and "infantilization" of poverty have made the United States one of the most dangerous democracies for poor mothers and their children to inhabit. Why then, Valerie Polakow asks, is poverty seen as a private affair - "their problem, not ours" - and how can public policy fail to take responsibility for the consequences of our politics of distribution? Searching for an answer, Polakow considers the historical and ideological sources for society's attitudes toward single mothers and their children, and shows how our dominant images of "normal" families and motherhood have shaped our perceptions, practices, and public policies. Polakow's account traces the historical legacy of discrimination against the "dangerous classes" and the "undeserving poor" - a legacy that culminates in the current public hostility towards welfare recipients. Polakow moves beyond the cold voice of statistics to take us into the daily lives of single mothers and their children. The stories of young black teenage mothers, of white single mothers, of homeless mothers are presented with clarity and quiet power. In a detailed look inside the classroom worlds of their children, Polakow explores what life is like if one is very young and poor, and consigned to otherness in the landscape of school. School is a place thatmatters - it is also a place where children are defined as "at risk" or "at promise". Polakow's astute analysis of poor children's pedagogy provides a critical challenge to educators. Written by an educator and committed child advocate, Lives on the Edge draws on social, historical, feminist, and public policy perspectives to develop an informed, wide-ranging critique of American educational and social policy. Polakow's recommendations in the areas of social policy and education point to useful cross-cultural models as well as successful small-scale programs in place in the United States. Yet Polakow constantly reminds us that "small facts speak to large issues". By providing us with a living sense of the other America, she helps us to realize that "their" America is no "other" than ours. Stark, penetrating, and unflinching, this work challenges our cherished myths of justice and democracy.
U.S. welfare rights activists have long envied women in Sweden, who benefited from social policies that made the incidence of poverty among children and solo mothers among the lowest in the world. This situation has begun to change with the rise of neoliberalism in Sweden from the late 1970s to the middle of the 1990s; social policy that had once dramatically improved the lives of solo mothers began to give way to policies that privatized their problems. Solo mothers in the United States were worse off, as conservative policymakers launched a clamorous campaign to restore the "traditional nuclear family" as the only guarantor of women's and children's well-being, blaming solo mothers for everything from juvenile crime to their own poverty. In this revealing and timely book, sociologist and former legal services attorney, Celia Winkler, charts the policies in Sweden and the United States that transformed the social and economic situation of solo mothers, who are an early warning of more general danger: the canary in the coal mine.
"Empowering Single Mothers on their Journey" is a poignant and inspiring book that delves into the lives of single mothers, exploring their unique experiences and celebrating their resilience. From unexpected motherhood to embracing independence, this book unravels the challenges faced by unmarried women and widows who navigate the path of single parenthood. It sheds light on the hidden struggles, silent battles, and untold stories of these remarkable women, who break stereotypes and redefine parenthood. With chapters focusing on co-parenting, finances, self-discovery, and community support, this book provides valuable insights, strategies, and encouragement for single mothers, empowering them to embrace their journey with strength and triumph over adversity.
At the age of thirty-nine, Sarah Kowalski heard her biological clock ticking, loudly. A single woman harboring a deep ambivalence about motherhood, Kowalski needed to decide once and for all: Did she want a baby or not? More importantly, with no partner on the horizon, did she want to have a baby alone? Once she revised her idea of motherhood—from an experience she would share with a partner to a journey she would embark upon alone—the answer came up a resounding Yes. After exploring her options, Kowalski chose to conceive using a sperm donor, but her plan stopped short when a doctor declared her infertile. How far would she go to make motherhood a reality? Kowalski catapulted herself into a diligent regimen of herbs, Qigong, meditation, acupuncture, and more, in a quest to improve her chances of conception. Along the way, she delved deep into spiritual healing practices, facing down demons of self-doubt and self-hatred, ultimately discovering an unconventional path to parenthood. In the end, to become a mother, Kowalski did everything she said she would never do. And she wouldn't change a thing. A story of personal triumph and unconditional love, Motherhood Reimagined reveals what happens when we release what's expected and embrace what's possible.
Shirl is a single mother who urges her son's baby-sitter to swat him when he misbehaves. Helena went back to work to get off welfare, then quit to be with her small daughter. Kathy was making good money but got into cocaine and had to give up her two-year-old son during her rehabilitation. Pundits, politicians, and social critics have plenty to say about such women and their behavior. But in this book, for the first time, we hear what these women have to say for themselves. An eye-opening--and heart-rending--account from the front lines of poverty, Through My Own Eyes offers a firsthand look at how single mothers with the slimmest of resources manage from day to day. We witness their struggles to balance work and motherhood and watch as they negotiate a bewildering maze of child-care and social agencies. For three years the authors followed the lives of fourteen women from poor Boston neighborhoods, all of whom had young children and had been receiving welfare intermittently. We learn how these women keep their families on firm footing and try--frequently in vain--to gain ground. We hear how they find child-care and what they expect from it, as well as what the childcare providers have to say about serving low-income families. Holloway and Fuller view these lives in the context of family policy issues touching on the disintegration of inner cities, welfare reform, early childhood and pro-choice poverty programs.
Based on the scholarship of a global team of diverse authors, this wide-ranging handbook surveys the history and current status of pro-women thought and activism over millennia. The book traces the complex history of feminism across the globe, presenting its many identities, its heated debates, its racism, discussion of religious belief and values, commitment to social change, and the struggles of women around the world for gender justice. Authors approach past understandings and today’s evolving sense of what feminism or womanism or gender justice are from multiple viewpoints. These perspectives are geographical to highlight commonalities and differences from region to region or nation to nation; they are also chronological suggesting change or continuity from the ancient world to our digital age. Across five parts, authors delve into topics such as colonialism, empire, the arts, labor activism, family, and displacement as the means to take the pulse of feminism from specific vantage points highlighting that there is no single feminist story but rather multiple portraits of a broad cast of activists and thinkers. Comprehensive and properly global, this is the ideal volume for students and scholars of women’s and gender history, women’s studies, social history, political movements and feminism.
