Psychotherapist Paul Hauck, whose popular books have brought help and advice to countless readers, now shows how jealousy and possessiveness--often the most tragic emotions--can be overcome. Applying the principles of Rational Emotive Therapy (RET), Hauck demonstrates how jealousy is a learned emotion and can be unlearned once you understand why you are jealous and begin to think in new ways about yourself and others.
"The Jealousy Cure unlocks the positive power of jealousy for happy relationships." —Foreword Reviews "Solid counsel for those whose relationships are plagued by jealousy and the individuals it targets." —Library Journal starred review Could jealousy be a positive thing? In this groundbreaking book, Robert L. Leahy—author of the hugely popular self-help guide, The Worry Cure—invites you to gain a greater understanding of your jealous feelings, keep jealousy from hijacking your life, and create healthier relationships. We’ve all heard tales of the overly jealous spouse or significant other. Maybe we’ve even been that jealous person, though we may not want to admit it. It’s hard to imagine anyone sailing through life without either having feelings of jealousy or being the target of someone’s jealousy. But what if jealousy isn’t just a neurotic weakness? What if it signals that your relationship matters to you? In short—what if jealousy serves a purpose? In The Jealousy Cure, renowned psychologist Robert L. Leahy takes a more nuanced approach to tackling feelings of jealousy. In this compelling book, you’ll uncover the evolutionary origins of jealousy, and how and why it’s served to help us as a species. You’ll also learn practices based in emotional schema theory, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and mindfulness to help you overcome the shame jealousy can bring, improve communication with your partner, and ultimately make room for jealousy while also making your relationship more meaningful. You will learn that confronting jealousy in your relationship does not have to be a catastrophe, but can redirect you and your partner to build more trust, acceptance, and connection. We often feel jealous because we fear losing the things or people that matter to us the most. With this insightful guide, you’ll discover how jealousy can both help and hurt your relationship, and learn proven-effective skills to keep jealousy in its place. This book has been selected as an Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Book Recommendation— an honor bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.
Jealousy and possessiveness have the potential to destroy any relationship. Left unchecked, our jealousy can push our partner away, destroy our self-esteem, and rob us of the life and love we deserve. But thankfully, we each have the power to change.Written by the author of the popular guidebook Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy, and the founder of RetroactiveJealousy.com, the Overcoming Jealousy Workbook features eleven weeks of writing prompts and journaling exercises for confronting and overcoming jealousy in relationships. Drawing insights from cognitive behavioural therapy and cutting-edge psychological research, as well as ancient Buddhist and Stoic philosophy, this workbook is designed for any jealousy sufferer who wants to quickly get a handle on their problem, and emerge from the hell of jealousy and possessiveness. Whether approached as a standalone project, or as a supplement to another personal development book or program, the Overcoming Jealousy Workbook will help any jealousy sufferer better understand the roots of their feelings, and more importantly, the actions necessary to move forward, and save and strengthen their relationship.
Almost everyone will suffer from bouts of jealous behavior at some stage in life. But it's not the little moments of envy which are the problem, its the crippling forms of chronic jealousy we experience. In this book, you will learn the right emotional control mechanisms & rational outlook strategies to deal with these instances in a proper manner
ARE YOU TIRED OF CONSTANTLY THINKING ABOUT YOUR PARTNER'S PAST RELATIONSHIPS? Are you interested in letting go of obsessive jealous thoughts, anxiety, and curiosity about your partner's past? Wouldn't it feel great to be completely free from retroactive jealousy, and be able to move forward in your relationship without worry about the past? What if I told you that you already have the "cure" for overcoming retroactive jealousy? You do-all you need is the proper guidance. And that's where "Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy" comes in. Written from the perspective of one who has struggled with, and eventually overcome, obsessive jealousy surrounding a partner's past, Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy is the only guidebook you will ever need to let go of jealous thoughts, curiosity, and anxiety about your partner's past relationships/sexual history. AFTER READING YOU WILL: have access to a multi-step program that will help you to let go of your jealousy and anxiety begin incorporating coping exercises into your daily routine which will eliminate your jealous thoughts as soon as they appear feel a new sense of optimism and confidence in your ability to grow and overcome retroactive jealousy understand what your jealousy is really about, and have a concrete plan of action for overcoming it, and moving forward You might currently feel hopeless; like retroactive jealousy is something that you'll just be forced to "live with" until you die. You might even be severely depressed, mired in obsessive jealous thoughts and confusion. Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy will show you that you are suffering needlessly-and show you the way forward. In nineteen chapters, author Zachary Stockill outlines a series of time-tested effective strategies, practices, and exercises for confronting, and eventually overcoming, jealousy regarding your partner's past as painlessly, efficiently, and quickly as possible. A NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR: Several years ago, I experienced "crippling" retroactive jealousy. It disrupted my career, destroyed my relationship, and provoked months of anguish and depression. But thankfully, through a process of self-exploration, hard work, growth, and discovery, I overcame it. Based on my experience, and several years of research and talking to fellow sufferers about their condition, I wrote this book to give you a step-by-step program to help you do the same, and overcome retroactive jealousy as quickly and easily as possible. I know that this step-by-step program is effective because since 2013 my book has helped "thousands" of readers get over retroactive jealousy, save their relationships, and regain control. In retrospect, my jealousy was a blessing in disguise. As I write to you today, I am undoubtedly a stronger, more confident, more loving, and overall better man for having gone through it. It might not seem like it now, but you too can use your jealousy to your advantage. Seriously--as you overcome retroactive jealousy, you will emerge a stronger, more confident, more attractive, and more loving person and partner. And it's my pleasure to guide you every step of the way. So whether you're struggling with your girlfriend's past, wife's past, husband's past, or your boyfriend's past, you need to know that you have the power to move forward, and kiss jealous thoughts goodbye. You can get a hold on your brain, and patterns of constant curiosity and obsessive thinking. You can move forward in your relationship without the burden and strain of retroactive jealousy. You can be the partner you want to be-you just have to understand where retroactive jealousy comes from, and how to deal with it. SO LET'S GET STARTED! Get your copy of the most popular guidebook on the market for overcoming retroactive jealousy, and join thousands of readers who have regained control, and found peace."
Explains the causes of jealousy, indicates the point at which it becomes a dangerous obsession, and gives advice on coping with unreasonable possessiveness
Jealousy can invade every relationship, whether it be with husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, family or friends. If we love others and need their love in return we can all suffer from the pain of jealousy.Dr Hauck believes jealousy is a self-defeating emotion which drives away the love we crave. He explains what makes us feel jealous, and shows us how we can control it. He distinguishes between jealousy, envy, possessiveness and suspicion and offers practical advice on how we can overcome these in ourselves and in those we love.
Learn how to overcome jealousy in a relationship in 12 steps, starting today.Do you constantly worry that your partner may be cheating on you, or soon leave you? Do you get anxious when they're not around? Do you need constant affirmations and get upset when they don't arrive?Don't worry, I know what you're going through... I used to also be tormented by irrational jealous thoughts about my girlfriend's fidelity and struggled for years to overcome them.Clichés like "Just learn to trust her!" or "Stop, you'll ruin the relationship!" Are well intentioned but, as you probably know, pretty much meaningless. But, finally I discovered the secret of how to overcome my jealousy... And now I'm here to show you how you can do the same.Discover the two key emotions which fuel jealousy in a relationship, and how to get rid of them.Learn how to rewire your mind to think about your partner's interactions with the opposite sex in a whole new light."What you resist, persists." Stop being jealous by breaking the cycle of resistance to jealous thoughts and emotions.Learn how to stop interrogating your partner about their relationships with other people and focus on what really matters--your relationship.In short, learn how to not give a hoot anymore about your partner's relationships and/or interactions with the opposite sex, and get back to being the real you. As Kevin, one of my customers told me recently in an email: "Honestly I think reading your book took a troubled relationship from sure failure to a trusting friendship with potential of a lifetime together. After reading it once and only once, I was able to keep my imagination, and I mean imagination, in check using various chapters in your book that applied to me."
Are you tired of failed romantic relationships and friendships? Have your previous partners told you that you are "too possessive" or "jealous"? Do you feel yourself burn with jealousy when you see your partner talking with some attractive acquaintance? Do you go through your partner's things or demand detailed explanations of where they have been? Most people know this isn't the foundation for successful relationships, and they would like to stop reacting this way, but how? Author Jessica Riley outlines a 10-step plan for overcoming these hang-ups in her new e-book Trust Issues. Riley pulls no punches here - she gets straight to the heart of the problem from the first chapter. She addresses right from the start your thinking process, which is leading you to exhibit your possessive behavior.
