Author: Nancy O'Connor

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Published: 1984

Total Pages: 214

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What this book is about: What it can do for YouWhen people die, their suffering is over, at least in life on earth. But those who are still living are faced with huge pressures, devastating trauma, important decisions, and pow-erful emotions. The survivors' suffering or grieving has just begun. The attention of friends and relatives has been fo-cused on the one who was dying. But now the ones most closely affected by the death need the concern and caring of family and friends.Most of us don't know what grief will be like until we experience it firsthand. We expect to be sad and hurt, but we may be surprised to feel other emotions, such as anger and guilt. We may discover that after someone dies, our relationships with others change. Our families and friendships may not be the same because of the changes we undergo after a loss.In recent years, research has shown that there are identi-fiable patterns of emotions in grief. Knowing what those are can help you recognize that the turmoil and pain you feel are part of healing the injury that death has inflicted.When a person can deal successfully with change, he or she can reach a higher level of growth, sensitivity and un-derstanding of self and others. The death of someone im-portant in our lives is a change: a major one, and sometimes a sudden one. But change, even painful change, is an important, necessary part of being alive.Loss of someone through death is a particularly painful change, especially if you felt deep love toward that person. The more intense and deep your love, dependence, and hopes are, the more it will hurt to lose her or him.There's no getting around the pain; you must get through it. You can't avoid it. This guide book gently shows you the way, relationship by relationship. It helps the entire family.