Life Lessons for the Adult Child

Life Lessons for the Adult Child

Author: Judy Klipin

Publisher: Penguin Global

Published: 2010

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9780143026709

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What is an 'Adult Child'? a child who was forced to take on an 'adult' role in a family that did not have adequate or reliable adult role models an adult who, despite being grown up, has childlike qualities and behaviours that were developed in an unsafe environment During her work as a Life Coach, Judy Klipin began to notice some themes and challenges which are common to many of her clients. At first she was slightly taken aback how many of her clients had limiting beliefs centred on (amongst others) their need to be perfect, their inability to trust themselves and others, and their horror of asking for help. These limiting beliefs seemed to stem from childhoods punctuated by unpredictability, chaos and/or varying degrees of physical, emotional and spiritual neglect, resulting in grown up men and women who are 'Adult Children'.


Doing Life with Your Adult Children

Doing Life with Your Adult Children

Author: Jim Burns, Ph.D

Publisher: Zondervan

Published: 2019-03-26

Total Pages: 188

ISBN-13: 0310353793

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Are you struggling to connect with your child now that they've left the nest? Are you feeling the tension and heartache as your relationship dynamic begins to change? In Doing Life with Your Adult Children, bestselling author and parenting expert Jim Burns provides practical advice and hopeful encouragement for navigating this tough yet rewarding transition. If you've raised a child, you know that parenting doesn't stop when they turn eighteen. In many ways, your relationship gets even more complicated--your heart and your head are as involved as ever, but you can feel things shifting, whether your child lives under your roof or rarely stays in contact. Doing Life with Your Adult Children helps you navigate this rich and challenging season of parenting. Speaking from his own personal and professional experience, Burns offers practical answers to the most common questions he's received over the years, including: My child's choices are breaking my heart--where did I go wrong? Is it OK to give advice to my grown child? What's the difference between enabling and helping? What boundaries should I have if my child moves back home? What do I do when my child doesn't seem to be maturing into adulthood? How do I relate to my grown child's significant other? What does it mean to have healthy financial boundaries? How can I support my grown children when I don't support their values? Including positive principles on bringing kids back to faith, ideas on how to leave a legacy as a grandparent, and encouragement for every changing season, Doing Life with Your Adult Children is a unique book on your changing role in a calling that never ends.


Rules of Estrangement

Rules of Estrangement

Author: Joshua Coleman, PhD

Publisher: Random House

Published: 2024-09-03

Total Pages: 337

ISBN-13: 0593136888

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A guide for parents whose adult children have cut off contact that reveals the hidden logic of estrangement, explores its cultural causes, and offers practical advice for parents trying to reestablish contact with their adult children. “Finally, here’s a hopeful, comprehensive, and compassionate guide to navigating one of the most painful experiences for parents and their adult children alike.”—Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone Labeled a silent epidemic by a growing number of therapists and researchers, estrangement is one of the most disorienting and painful experiences of a parent's life. Popular opinion typically tells a one-sided story of parents who got what they deserved or overly entitled adult children who wrongly blame their parents. However, the reasons for estrangement are far more complex and varied. As a result of rising rates of individualism, an increasing cultural emphasis on happiness, growing economic insecurity, and a historically recent perception that parents are obstacles to personal growth, many parents find themselves forever shut out of the lives of their adult children and grandchildren. As a trusted psychologist whose own daughter cut off contact for several years and eventually reconciled, Dr. Joshua Coleman is uniquely qualified to guide parents in navigating these fraught interactions. He helps to alleviate the ongoing feelings of shame, hurt, guilt, and sorrow that commonly attend these dynamics. By placing estrangement into a cultural context, Dr. Coleman helps parents better understand the mindset of their adult children and teaches them how to implement the strategies for reconciliation and healing that he has seen work in his forty years of practice. Rules of Estrangement gives parents the language and the emotional tools to engage in meaningful conversation with their child, the framework to cultivate a healthy relationship moving forward, and the ability to move on if reconciliation is no longer possible. While estrangement is a complex and tender topic, Dr. Coleman's insightful approach is based on empathy and understanding for both the parent and the adult child.


How to Raise an Adult

How to Raise an Adult

Author: Julie Lythcott-Haims

Publisher: Henry Holt and Company

Published: 2015-06-09

Total Pages: 368

ISBN-13: 1627791787

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New York Times Bestseller "Julie Lythcott-Haims is a national treasure. . . . A must-read for every parent who senses that there is a healthier and saner way to raise our children." -Madeline Levine, author of the New York Times bestsellers The Price of Privilege and Teach Your Children Well "For parents who want to foster hearty self-reliance instead of hollow self-esteem, How to Raise an Adult is the right book at the right time." -Daniel H. Pink, author of the New York Times bestsellers Drive and A Whole New Mind A provocative manifesto that exposes the harms of helicopter parenting and sets forth an alternate philosophy for raising preteens and teens to self-sufficient young adulthood In How to Raise an Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims draws on research, on conversations with admissions officers, educators, and employers, and on her own insights as a mother and as a student dean to highlight the ways in which overparenting harms children, their stressed-out parents, and society at large. While empathizing with the parental hopes and, especially, fears that lead to overhelping, Lythcott-Haims offers practical alternative strategies that underline the importance of allowing children to make their own mistakes and develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary for success. Relevant to parents of toddlers as well as of twentysomethings-and of special value to parents of teens-this book is a rallying cry for those who wish to ensure that the next generation can take charge of their own lives with competence and confidence.


Recover from Your Childhood

Recover from Your Childhood

Author: Judy Klipin

Publisher:

Published: 2019-05-27

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9781928257622

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Many adults who had challenging childhoods find that their childhood fears impact on their lives as adults. If you behaved in a very responsible and reliable manner when you were a child and if, now that you are an adult, you often feel childlike and vulnerable in stressful situations, you are in all likelihood an adult child. Having a childhood that is unpredictable or inconsistent in any way often results in a range of characteristics and limiting beliefs which include a need to be perfect, an inability to trust others, and a horror of asking for help. It doesn't really matter what was going on in your family, or why you felt like you needed to be a grown-up when you were a child. What matters is that you did. Recover from your Childhoodwill take you on a journey of self-discovery and provide you with powerful tools to will guide you through a process of healing. It will bring you relief from the confusion and anxiety that may have been your constant companions, and it will guide you to a place of understanding and acceptance of yourself. This book will help you to change - not who you are, but how you are.


Grown and Flown

Grown and Flown

Author: Lisa Heffernan

Publisher: Flatiron Books

Published: 2019-09-03

Total Pages: 352

ISBN-13: 1250188954

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PARENTING NEVER ENDS. From the founders of the #1 site for parents of teens and young adults comes an essential guide for building strong relationships with your teens and preparing them to successfully launch into adulthood The high school and college years: an extended roller coaster of academics, friends, first loves, first break-ups, driver’s ed, jobs, and everything in between. Kids are constantly changing and how we parent them must change, too. But how do we stay close as a family as our lives move apart? Enter the co-founders of Grown and Flown, Lisa Heffernan and Mary Dell Harrington. In the midst of guiding their own kids through this transition, they launched what has become the largest website and online community for parents of fifteen to twenty-five year olds. Now they’ve compiled new takeaways and fresh insights from all that they’ve learned into this handy, must-have guide. Grown and Flown is a one-stop resource for parenting teenagers, leading up to—and through—high school and those first years of independence. It covers everything from the monumental (how to let your kids go) to the mundane (how to shop for a dorm room). Organized by topic—such as academics, anxiety and mental health, college life—it features a combination of stories, advice from professionals, and practical sidebars. Consider this your parenting lifeline: an easy-to-use manual that offers support and perspective. Grown and Flown is required reading for anyone looking to raise an adult with whom you have an enduring, profound connection.


The Power of Praying for Your Adult Children

The Power of Praying for Your Adult Children

Author: Stormie Omartian

Publisher: Harvest House Publishers

Published: 2022-10-04

Total Pages: 258

ISBN-13: 0736986596

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Keep Parenting Them Through Prayer Even though your relationships with your children may change once they enter adulthood, you can still impact the direction of their lives by asking your heavenly Father to shape them for His glory. This powerful book from bestselling author Stormie Omartian offers you encouragement and support as you continue to love, influence, and minister to your now-grown kids. You’ll learn how to ask for God’s divine intervention in the lives of your children as you pray that they will develop hearts hungry for God, His Word, and His ways flourish in their relationships, careers, and health stand strong against temptations, stumbling blocks, and worldly distractions No matter how old your children are, you can find peace knowing they are in God’s hands. The Power of Praying for Your Adult Children is an inspiring reminder to turn all your hopes and dreams for your family over to God, confident that He hears and answers your every request.


Fault Lines

Fault Lines

Author: Karl Pillemer, Ph.D.

Publisher: Penguin

Published: 2022-11-01

Total Pages: 289

ISBN-13: 0593539133

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Real solutions to a hidden epidemic: family estrangement. Estrangement from a family member is one of the most painful life experiences. It is devastating not only to the individuals directly involved--collateral damage can extend upward, downward, and across generations, More than 65 million Americans suffer such rifts, yet little guidance exists on how to cope with and overcome them. In this book, Karl Pillemer combines the advice of people who have successfully reconciled with powerful insights from social science research. The result is a unique guide to mending fractured families. Fault Lines shares for the first time findings from Dr. Pillemer's ten-year groundbreaking Cornell Reconciliation Project, based on the first national survey on estrangement; rich, in-depth interviews with hundreds of people who have experienced it; and insights from leading family researchers and therapists. He assures people who are estranged, and those who care about them, that they are not alone and that fissures can be bridged. Through the wisdom of people who have "been there," Fault Lines shows how healing is possible through clear steps that people can use right away in their own families. It addresses such questions as: How do rifts begin? What makes estrangement so painful? Why is it so often triggered by a single event? Are you ready to reconcile? How can you overcome past hurts to build a new future with a relative? Tackling a subject that is achingly familiar to almost everyone, especially in an era when powerful outside forces such as technology and mobility are lessening family cohesion, Dr. Pillemer combines dramatic stories, science-based guidance, and practical repair tools to help people find the path to reconciliation.


Recover from Burnout

Recover from Burnout

Author: Judy Klipin

Publisher:

Published: 2019-05-27

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9781928257608

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Chances are you're suffering from burnout. For some time, Master Coach Judy Klipin has waged what felt like a lonely battle, speaking up about the scourge of burnout that is approaching epidemic proportions in South Africa, one of the most stressed nations in the world. Men and women, young and old, from all walks of life have sought her help for their Burnout. Housewives, students, young adults in their first jobs, executive business-people, teachers, mothers, fathers, doctors, nurses, police officers, journalists... all complaining of feeling run-down, exhausted, overwhelmed and under-enthused about life in general and their lives in particular. Burnout is not only restricted to high-flying business executives, it can affect anyone. Burnout is not one thing, it is also a feeling of listlessness and ineptitude, a lack of enthusiasm and excitement, an existential emergency. Recover from Burnout will help you to understand why we get it, how to get better from it, and how not to get it again. You'll discover how to: - understand your burnout, - recognise and engage with the underlying fears and beliefs that underpin your drive to push your body, mind and spirit to breaking point, - change the beliefs and habits that have exhausted you, - regain your energy and enthusiasm, and - avoid falling back into the burnout traps.


Liking the Child You Love

Liking the Child You Love

Author: Jeffrey Bernstein

Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books

Published: 2009-06-09

Total Pages: 274

ISBN-13: 073821261X

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How to recognize and cope with Parent Frustration Syndrome (PFS): negative thoughts and feelings about your children"