Grown and Flown
Grown and Flown

Author: Lisa Heffernan

Publisher: Flatiron Books

Published: 2019-09-03

Total Pages: 291

ISBN-13: 1250188954

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PARENTING NEVER ENDS. From the founders of the #1 site for parents of teens and young adults comes an essential guide for building strong relationships with your teens and preparing them to successfully launch into adulthood The high school and college years: an extended roller coaster of academics, friends, first loves, first break-ups, driver’s ed, jobs, and everything in between. Kids are constantly changing and how we parent them must change, too. But how do we stay close as a family as our lives move apart? Enter the co-founders of Grown and Flown, Lisa Heffernan and Mary Dell Harrington. In the midst of guiding their own kids through this transition, they launched what has become the largest website and online community for parents of fifteen to twenty-five year olds. Now they’ve compiled new takeaways and fresh insights from all that they’ve learned into this handy, must-have guide. Grown and Flown is a one-stop resource for parenting teenagers, leading up to—and through—high school and those first years of independence. It covers everything from the monumental (how to let your kids go) to the mundane (how to shop for a dorm room). Organized by topic—such as academics, anxiety and mental health, college life—it features a combination of stories, advice from professionals, and practical sidebars. Consider this your parenting lifeline: an easy-to-use manual that offers support and perspective. Grown and Flown is required reading for anyone looking to raise an adult with whom you have an enduring, profound connection.

Understanding the Borderline Mother
Understanding the Borderline Mother

Author: Christine Ann Lawson

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield

Published: 2002

Total Pages: 350

ISBN-13: 0765703319

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Some readers may recognize their mothers as well as themselves in this book. They will also find specific suggestions for creating healthier relationships. Addressing the adult children of borderlines and the therapists who work with them, Dr. Lawson shows how to care for the waif without rescuing her, to attend to the hermit without feeding her fear, to love the queen without becoming her subject, and to live with the witch without becoming her victim.

How Not to Turn into Your Mother
How Not to Turn into Your Mother

Author: Linda Sunshine

Publisher: Andrews McMeel Publishing

Published: 2009-01-01

Total Pages: 161

ISBN-13: 0740789570

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Every time I yell at my kids, my mother's voice comes out." --Kelly Ripa How Not to Turn into Your Mother is an uproarious view of the mother-daughter relationship, featuring "What Not to Do!" "A Defense Manual for Daughters," and "Alternative Solutions If You've Already Turned into Your Mother." How many times do I have to tell you . . . How many times have you caught yourself saying or doing the exact same thing your mother said/did (you know, the thing you swore you'd never say/do)? It's something you try to avoid your whole life-turning into your mother. Have you ever looked into the mirror and found your mother (or worse, her body) staring back at you? This tongue-in-cheek book offers hilarious advice and tips on how to avoid the snare of actually becoming her. And it's not too late; it even contains a special section if you've already turned into her. Chapters such as "Can Mom Read Your Mind? Yes! And Here's How She Does It!" "Seeking Self-Help: Stop Mothering Yourself," and even "The Benefits of Sulking" are all included. How Not to Turn into Your Mother also features the "Power Struggles Between Mommy and You" chart, which follows the stages of development in your relationship from prenatal to old age, as well as a sample mother-daughter contract (should you need to go that far).

Will I Ever be Good Enough?
Will I Ever be Good Enough?

Author: Karyl McBride

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

Published: 2008

Total Pages: 275

ISBN-13: 1416551328

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The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helpsyou recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.An estimated 1.5 million American women have narcissistic personality disorder, which makes them so insecure and overbearing, insensitive and domineering that they can psychologically damage their daughters for life. Daughters of narcissistic mothers learn that maternal love is not unconditional, and that it is given only when they behave in accordance with their mothers' often unreasonable expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters consequently have difficulty overcoming their insecurities and feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, sadness, and emotional emptiness. They may also have a terrible fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy love relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism, or to self-sabotage and frustration.Herself the recovering daughter of a narcissistic mother, Dr. McBride includes her personal struggle, which adds a profound level of authority to her work, along with the perspectives of the hundreds of suffering daughters she's interviewed over the years. Their stories of how maternal abuse has manifested in their lives -- as well as how they have successfully overcome its effects -- show you that you're not alone and that you can take back your life and have the controlyouwant.Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to:(1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life (2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into a strong desire to overachieve or a tendency to self-sabotage (3) Construct a step-by-step program to reclaim your life and enhance your sense of self, a process that includes creating a psychological separation from your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse. You will also learn how not to repeat your mother's mistakes with your own daughter.Warm and sympathetic, filled with the examples of women who have established healthy boundaries with their hurtful mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.

Discovering the Inner Mother
Discovering the Inner Mother

Author: Bethany Webster

Publisher: HarperCollins

Published: 2021-01-05

Total Pages: 304

ISBN-13: 0062884468

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Sure to become a classic on female empowerment, a groundbreaking exploration of the personal, cultural, and global implications of intergenerational trauma created by patriarchy, how it is passed down from mothers to daughters, and how we can break this destructive cycle. Why do women keep themselves small and quiet? Why do they hold back professionally and personally? What fuels the uncertainty and lack of confidence so many women often feel? In this paradigm-shifting book, leading feminist thinker Bethany Webster identifies the source of women’s trauma. She calls it the Mother Wound—the systemic disenfranchisement of women by the patriarchy—and reveals how this cycle is perpetuated by wounded mothers who unconsciously pass on damaging beliefs and behaviors to their daughters. In her workshops, online courses, and talks, Webster has helped countless women re-examine their lives and their relationships with their mothers, giving them the vocabulary to voice their pain, and encouraging them to share their experiences. In this manifesto and self-help guide, she offers practical tools for identifying the manifestations of the Mother Wound in our daily life and strategies we can use to heal ourselves and prevent our daughters from enduring the same pain. In addition, she offers step-by-step advice on how to reconnect with our inner child, grieve the mother we didn’t have, stop people-pleasing, and, ultimately, transform our heartache and anger into healing and self-love. Revealing how women are affected by the Mother Wound, even if they don’t personally identify as survivors, Discovering the Inner Mother revolutionizes how we view mother-daughter relationships and gives us the inspiration and guidance we need to improve our lives and ultimately create a more equitable society for all.

The Reproduction of Mothering
The Reproduction of Mothering

Author: Nancy Chodorow

Publisher: Univ of California Press

Published: 1999-11-02

Total Pages: 283

ISBN-13: 0520221559

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This text had a major impact on both feminists and psychoanalysts when it was first published, and it continues to shape the thinking of analysts and feminists today.

My Mother's Rules
My Mother's Rules

Author: Lynn Toler

Publisher: Agate Publishing

Published: 2007

Total Pages: 194

ISBN-13: 1932841229

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"Autobiography of Judge Lynn Toler describing her sometimes difficult upbringing and the life-lessons she learned from her mother"--Provided by publisher.

The Emotionally Absent Mother, Second Edition: How to Recognize and Cope with the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect (Second)
The Emotionally Absent Mother, Second Edition: How to Recognize and Cope with the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect (Second)

Author: Jasmin Lee Cori

Publisher: The Experiment, LLC

Published: 2017-04-18

Total Pages: 353

ISBN-13: 1615193839

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The groundbreaking guide to self-healing and getting the love you missed “Years ago, I was on vacation and read The Emotionally Absent Mother. That book was one of many that woke me up. . . . I began the process of reparenting and it’s changed my life.”—Dr. Nicole LePera, New York Times–bestselling author of How to Do the Work Was your mother preoccupied, distant, or even demeaning? Have you struggled with relationships—or with your own self-worth? Often, the grown children of emotionally absent mothers can’t quite put a finger on what’s missing from their lives. The children of abusive mothers, by contrast, may recognize the abuse—but overlook its lasting, harmful effects. Psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori has helped thousands of men and women heal the hidden wounds left by every kind of undermothering. In this second edition of her pioneering book, with compassion for mother and child alike, she explains: Possible reasons your mother was distracted or hurtful—and what she was unable to give The lasting impact of childhood emotional neglect and abuse How to find the child inside you and fill the “mother gap” through reflections and exercises How to secure a happier future for yourself (and perhaps for your children).

Not Becoming My Mother
Not Becoming My Mother

Author: Ruth Reichl

Publisher: Penguin

Published: 2009

Total Pages: 136

ISBN-13: 9781594202162

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Bestselling author Reichl embarks on a clear-eyed, openhearted investigation of her mother's life, piecing together the journey of a woman she comes to realize she never really knew.

Raising Boys
Raising Boys

Author: Steve Biddulph

Publisher: Random House Digital, Inc.

Published: 2008

Total Pages: 226

ISBN-13: 158761328X

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"A guide to the stages and issues in boys' development from birth to manhood"--Provided by publisher.