With their trademark insight, humor, and candid personal perspectives, Bill and Pam Farrel reveal the truths about the sexual relationship in marriage and what husbands and wives need to know to keep the embers burning. Sex is like fireworks!—why a little skill turns marriage into red-hot monogamy How sex works best emotionally, physically, and physiologically How to avoid the pleasure thieves that steal your chance for fulfillment The Farrels present difficult-to-discuss topics and biblical truths in universal language with sensitivity, fun, and understanding. For newlyweds, golden anniversary celebrants, and all couples in between—this book inspires the gift of romance and passion to fuel lives with love.
Co-authored with best-selling writer Jo Robinson, Hot Monogamy guides individuals and couples through a personal experience which unfolds secrets to long-lasting love. Based on research and 30 years clinical experience, this practical guide helps you understand yourself as well as the path to your partner's heart!
Offering a revelatory new perspective on loving relationships, the author of "Hot Monogamy" guides readers through the natural stages of love, high and low, and shows how not to break up before the breakthrough.
Whether straight or gay, most men start their relationships desiring monogamy. This is rooted in the pervasive notion that monogamy exists as a sign of true love. Yet despite this deeply held cultural ideal, cheating remains rampant. In this accessible book, Eric Anderson investigates why 78% of men he interviewed have cheated despite their desire not to. Combining 120 interviews with research from the fields of sociology, biology, and psychology, Anderson identifies cheating as a product of wanting emotional passion for one's partner, along with a steadily growing desire for emotionally-detached recreational sex with others. Anderson coins the term "the monogamy gap" to describe this phenomenon. Anderson suggests that monogamy is an irrational ideal because it fails to fulfil a lifetime of sexual desires. Cheating therefore becomes the rational response to an irrational situation. The Monogamy Gap draws on a range of concepts, theories, and disciplines to highlight the biological compulsion of our sexual urges, the social construction of the monogamous ideal, and the devastating chasm that lies between them. Whether single or married, monogamous or open, straight or gay, readers will find The Monogamy Gap to be an enlightening, intellectually compelling, and provocative book.
Men Are Like Waffles—Women Are Like Spaghettihas helped thousands of couples understand each other better. I will continue to recommend this book as a "must read." —Gary Chapman, bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages® Pam and Bill Farrel have the ability to take an everyday menu of spaghetti and waffles and transform biblical, practical wisdom into a word picture that has encouraged, equipped, and inspired couples worldwide. —Dr. Kevin Leman, bestselling author of The Birth Order Book and Sheet Music Let Your Differences Make You Irresistible to Each Other While a man tends to deal with one problem or purpose at a time (moving from waffle square to waffle square), a woman's thoughts generally flow together (like spaghetti noodles). Once you discover how your spouse processes feelings and thoughts, you're on your way to a happy and healthy relationship! Join more than 300,000 other readers as you learn to energize your communication with strategies that work, ignite romance with new ideas to spice up your marriage, and empower your parenting with your combined insights and influence. Find all the ingredients for creating a fabulous recipe of loving, working, and winning together!
This is written for everyone, whether embarking on a first serious love affair, newly married, feeling the seven-year itch, or wanting an already long-term partnership to become a life-long romance. This book takes the reader through a progressive and well-tried programme of sex therapy.
Do you want a marriage or partnership that sizzles and inspires others? Do you want to dive into an entirely new level of intimacy? Are you ready to do the work? Like for real? The The Birds and Bees of Joyful Monogamy has arrived in your lap at the perfect time. Sometimes Couples authors get dedicated to one point of view or perspective, and you end up needing to read five to ten books to gather the best material, research and work that exists. Look no further - this book provides a wealth of the predominant research on happy marriages and couples and then puts muscle behind that information with risky, sexy and in-depth exercises designed to transform your relationship.If you think your partner may not join you on the adventure of this hands-on book, no worries. You will create value by doing the work yourself. And, if you have the delight of diving in with a partner who is ready for date nights that deepen your connection and set you up for a lifetime of a passionately alive partnership, then ENJOY!Lynne Sheridan has a unique perspective in that she has been an international transformational trainer for 27 years, working with tens of thousands of people in creating what matters, wealth, success and yes, happy relationships. At the same time, she is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, working with clients who really want to do the work to have their partnership thrive. And after conducting Couples Retreats for nearly fifteen years, she has ample material and evidence to back her practices.In the Prologue, Lynne makes it clear that this isn't a self-help book where the author peddles philosophy from a pedestal, she's been in the muck with all of us: "In fact, my third year of marriage was hell. I imagined from the author of a book on relationship bliss, but it's the truth. And the truth sometimes is painful to acknowledge and even harder to admit. But I have also learned that once you acknowledge a painful truth, you can create something else. That year of hell became the compost for the development of incredible growth, over a decade of successful Couples Retreats and scores of couples knowing what's possible in their relationships. It makes sense-put any seed in total shit, and something amazing will blossom out of the dung. It isn't a pretty process, but the yield is amazing. There is no doubt about it; that year of hell was the beginning of the turning point for my marriage and our relationship. I didn't know it then, but it would have made it easier to get through if I would have known that somehow gems would be mined from the minefield that became a lot of our conversations."Dream University founder and best-selling author Marcia Weider says: "Lynne has a way of making complicated material accessible and usable. She also has the unique ability to take what appears to be conflicting or differing perspectives and weave them together, showing patterns and similarities that allow for a deeper understanding of ourselves and significant others.What that means is that not only will you glean fresh insights but also a real understanding of the inner workings of your relationships. And through the powerful exercises in each chapter, you will be able to immediately put in to use what you are learning. With Lynne's guidance, you will have more than a conceptual awareness of the material but also simple practices to live and embody this wisdom."Best-selling author Raymond Aaron says: "Sometimes when it comes to relationship advice, authors have a way of getting caught in one perspective. Lynne has found a way to weave together cutting-edge research on relationships, and bring it to life with experiential processes for you to follow. At the same time, Lynne gives very real examples from others, as well as from her own life, with humbling vulnerability. You can count on Lynne being candid, clear, and saying it like it is, and giving you permission and ways to practice doing the same."
There are three major myths of human nature: humans are divided into biological races; humans are naturally aggressive; and men and women are truly different in behavior, desires, and wiring. In an engaging and wide-ranging narrative, Agustín Fuentes counters these pervasive and pernicious myths about human behavior. Tackling misconceptions about what race, aggression, and sex really mean for humans, Fuentes incorporates an accessible understanding of culture, genetics, and evolution, requiring us to dispose of notions of “nature or nurture.” Presenting scientific evidence from diverse fields—including anthropology, biology, and psychology—Fuentes devises a myth-busting toolkit to dismantle persistent fallacies about the validity of biological races, the innateness of aggression and violence, and the nature of monogamy and differences between the sexes. A final chapter plus an appendix provide a set of take-home points on how readers can myth-bust on their own. Accessible, compelling, and original, this book is a rich and nuanced account of how nature, culture, experience, and choice interact to influence human behavior.
From Dr. Patricia Love, a ground-breaking work that identifies, explores and treats the harmful effects that emotionally and psychologically invasive parents have on their children, and provides a program for overcoming the chronic problems that can result.
Can a couple have sex with other people in a way that deepens their own love for one another? And what essential role might professionals from the adult entertainment industry play in the process? Geri and Jay Hart provide the answers in Monogamy with Benefits: How Porn Enriches Our Relationship, the heartfelt true story of their secret quest for an extraordinary kind of intimacy. Geri and Jay are two fit, attractive executives who've come together in mid-life following divorces from spouses who didn't share their need to continue growing sexually. Seeking to avoid the pitfalls of their previous relationships, the two lovers decide to be fearlessly honest with one another about their deepest sexual needs and desires. This leads them to embark together upon a progressive and highly unconventional journey of discovery that unfolds around the U.S. in strip clubs, legal brothels, a swinger's gathering, a sex expo and, ultimately, on the set of the couple's own professionally produced adult video. By seeing what works for their relationship, as well as what doesn't, Geri and Jay share sensational adventures they never would have experienced individually, making them all the more eager to spend the rest of their lives together. Admittedly, the approach described in Monogamy with Benefits isn't for everyone, but at a time when an estimated 50% of married individuals engage in infidelity, this book is sure to provoke discussion about how and why traditional social mores and laws inhibit many couples' ability to "stray together." About the authors: Geri and Jay Hart are the pen names of a married woman and man who serve in executive positions at two well-known organizations in the U.S. They frequently participate in civic and charitable events and appear in their local media. Although their careers keep Geri and Jay well occupied individually, their top priority is being together. During shared times they enjoy exercising, traveling, eating healthy food, and--of course--exploring and savoring their sexuality. Follow them on Twitter @SexyHappyCouple.
