Author: Jean P Dixon

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Published: 2020-09-09

Total Pages: 52

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Just Stop for a minute; Being Busy Doesn't Make You Heal! 'Stay lively, ' I'd been told several times. 'Time will heal your grief. Have you ever been given this advice by anyone close to you? If so, you have seemingly already concluded out that staying active doesn't help fix your grief. I went back to work six days after my hubby took his own life. I had a daughter to take care of, worry about most times, and try to support. I got back into my regular habit as soon as I could.Some months later, I was still on a charge to stay busy. After several weeks of preparation, getting international passports, organizing for pet-sitters, my daughter and I were in New York, USA, staying with buddies. One sunny day during that hectic trip, we found ourselves stuck in the house due to bad weather.All of a sudden, with no place to go and nothing that needed to be done, I just broke down and started crying. I realized that my busyness, my running-as-fast-as-I-could-from-one-place-to-the-next, was getting me nowhere when it came to my healing process.So if staying busy doesn't help us get through the grieving process, what does?Take the time to grieve! To grieve is to feel or express sorrow for the death or loss of someone or something.The first time I sat down to mourn (on purpose) was the day I remembered the time we got married. I pulled out all the romantic cards and images from when we dated, and I once again read his beautiful wishes for me and for us to have a wonderful life together. I cried over the fact that it didn't turn out how we planned.My daughter sat next to me, because I wanted to talk openly about how I felt and how much I missed her dad. I wanted to reveal that it was okay to be unhappy and mourn: it wasn't something to hide or be ashamed of. And it helped us both heal a little more.I'm an introvert at heart, and for a long time, I've been reserved about anything related to my husband's death and my healing process. Now, three and a half years later, a strange need to talk about my grief has come over me.If you've lost someone you love, you may find that talking about your loss and your feelings bring you some comfort. But if you aren't ready to open up and say the words out loud, start with writing them down.Part of my busyness at that time was accommodating: I didn't realize it then, but I was in the process of figuring out a unique plan, a new future for my daughter and I. How would that future look? Were we going to be okay at all? How will we live our lives daily without him?With every confident action we took (and that involved taking the time to mourn and grieve, ) we were helping our outlook and our future.That trip to New York did help us in many ways: I learned to slow down, and that even though remembering hurt, it was an inevitable process. We met marvelous people who stayed positive no matter what difficulties they faced, and our limits were broadened with every new picture.In the book The Grief Journal after a Big Loss: A Guide to Finding Strength when Grief leaves you shattered! Jean P. Dixon explains, "Notably when losses are traumatic, they may be challenging to address (even if you desire to) or even disclose to another. And yet the emotional and physical burden of suppressing painful memories without the release of sharing can prove far more devastating in the long run."Procrastinate NOT! Click the link below to place your order, right away!