All Adam has to do is look at a woman, and he already knows how to make her melt. He knows the perfect compliments, the best suggestions, and just the right promises to make sure that every new fling ends up in his bed by morning. Morning brings a new set of promises, but as soon as she’s out the door they all shatter. Adam is a master of ghosting. He’s not interested in another night, and he’s made a habit of ignoring the desperate messages on ChatSir as they beg for another date. By the evening, he’s back on the Flirtello dating app, looking for another girl to repeat the process. When girls start ghosting him for a change, it feels like a best-case scenario-- at least until the messages start drying up before the date itself. As more and more and more girls grow tired of his messages, Adam is forced to wonder: is it really disinterest driving them away, or is there something sinister going on just behind the screen?
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'A sweet, genuinely funny, banter-filled delight of a rom-com. I absolutely loved this modern day You've Got Mail' Kerry Winfrey, author of Waiting for Tom Hanks Love can happen when you least expect it . . . Dumped by his fiancée, Miles is reduced to couch-surfing across Manhattan and using a local café as his office. Also, he no longer believes in love - not exactly a good look in his line of work. Zoey's eccentric L.A. boss sent her to New York to 'grow'. But beneath her chill Cali exterior, Zoey's terrified to venture beyond the café across the street. Miles and Zoey have absolutely nothing in common. The only thing they share is their daily battle for the café's day-old biscotti. They don't know they're both ghost-writing 'authentic' profiles for rival online dating services. Until they meet online, pretending to be other people . . . As their clients head for dating disaster, Miles and Zoey spend their virtual time falling for one another, but will their online connection turn into a perfect match when they realise who they are IRL? The perfect love letter to Nora Ephron, Carrie Fisher and all the wonderful rom-coms that act as a pick-me-up when we most need it. 'Skilton puts a multicultural millennial spin on You've Got Mail in this laugh-out-loud romance. Rom-com fans will find this one well worth their time' Publishers Weekly 'An energetic romance that would make Nora Ephron proud' Kirkus Reviews *Mismatched in Manhattan is alternatively titled Ghosting: A Love Story in the US
Callahan takes readers on a gripping tour of cheating in America and makes a powerful case for why it matters. The author blames the dog-eat-dog economic climate of the past 20 years for corroding values.
The #1 New York Times Bestseller “An engaging look at the often head-scratching, frequently infuriating mating behaviors that shape our love lives.” —Refinery 29 A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from Aziz Ansari, the star of Master of None and one of this generation’s sharpest comedic voices At some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection. This seems standard now, but it’s wildly different from what people did even just decades ago. Single people today have more romantic options than at any point in human history. With technology, our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering. So why are so many people frustrated? Some of our problems are unique to our time. “Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza?” “Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods? Combos?!” “My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan. Who’s Nathan? Did he just send her a photo of his penis? Should I check just to be sure?” But the transformation of our romantic lives can’t be explained by technology alone. In a short period of time, the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically. A few decades ago, people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood. Their families would meet and, after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer, they would get married and soon have a kid, all by the time they were twenty-four. Today, people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate. For years, Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern Romance, the book, he decided he needed to take things to another level. He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita. They analyzed behavioral data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit, which drew thousands of messages. They enlisted the world’s leading social scientists, including Andrew Cherlin, Eli Finkel, Helen Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry Turkle, and Robb Willer. The result is unlike any social science or humor book we’ve seen before. In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting-edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.
A Washington Post Notable Book of 2017. Deborah Tannen's bestselling You Just Don't Understand: Conversations Between Women and Men made us aware of the deep and subtle meanings behind the words we say. She has since explored the way we talk at work, in arguments, to our mothers and our daughters. Now she turns to that most intense, precious and potential minefield: women's friendships. Best friend, old friend, good friend, new friend, neighbour, fellow mother at the school gate, workplace confidante: women's friendships are crucial. A friend can be like a sister, daughter, mother, mentor, therapist or confessor. She can also be the source of pain and betrayal. From casual chatting to intimate confiding, from talking about problems to sharing funny stories, there are patterns of communication and miscommunication that affect friendships. Tannen shows how even the best of friends - with the best intentions - can say the wrong thing, how the ways women friends talk can bring friends closer or pull them apart, but also how words can repair the damage done by words. She explains the power of women friends who show empathy and can just listen; how women use talk to connect - and to subtly compete; how fears of rejection can haunt friendships; how social media is reshaping relationships. Exploring what it means to be friends, helping us hear what we are really saying, understanding how we connect to other people; this illuminating and validating book gets inside the language of one of most women's life essentials - female friendships.
I’ll Get Back to You is the first book to teach you how to stop texts and emails from interfering with your relationships and your life. The issue with emails and texts is that they do not have instant feedback, like direct contact, where you can understand and clarify in real-time. The immediate feedback loop of the past has broken down, leaving us with broken communication loops. It’s created the Dyscommunication Crisis. You never know if the message will be misunderstood or returned. The worst is an unreturned message. You’ve been texting your boyfriend for over twenty-four hours, and he hasn't responded. You’ve been texting your child all day and haven’t received a response. The result is identical. We conclude something is wrong and justify it using the worst-case scenario. Unanswered messages have a significant psychological toll. Polls support this: 1. 67% of people suffer from agitation or anxiety. 2. 67% resort to worst-case scenarios to explain. 3. 71% of people fall into negative loops of thinking. 4. 46% admit to making a mistake they regret. Even when messages are returned, the exchange is not always complete. The message might be vague, or you may misinterpret it, resulting in similar issues. It’s a broken communication loop, and, unlike in the past, there's no direct input to clear things up. I’ll Get Back to You ensures that they read your message, not just scan it. There are solutions to ensure your messages are fully understood and promptly returned. There are interesting stories about relationships, dating, family, and work, along with self-improvement worksheets. I’ll Get Back to You offers practical solutions: - Tested tactics so messages are promptly returned. - Procedures in writing messages so they are understood. - Strategies to follow up on unreturned messages. - Proven ways to calm your mind quickly to reduce stress. There will be no more waiting, worrying, and miscommunication. I’ll Get Back to You has the answers and solutions that will improve your relationships and life.
A series of whimsical essays by the New York Times "Social Q's" columnist provides modern advice on navigating today's murky moral waters, sharing recommendations for such everyday situations as texting on the bus to splitting a dinner check.
