From the authoritative expert in personality disorders, Search for the Real Self is a thorough dissection of how one’s real self is developed, how it relates to the outer world, and how personality disorders are understood and treated in our modern society. Personality disorders—borderline, narcissistic, and schizoid—have become the classic psychological disorders of our age. Outwardly successful, charming and powerful, personality-disordered individuals have long confounded their colleagues, family, lovers and employees—as well as mental health professionals. The author helps the reader understand them. After describing how the healthy real self develops and functions, he explains what can go wrong. Drawing on case histories, he shows how the false self behaves in relationships and on the job, and then delineates appropriate treatments, offering real hope for cure.
Seeing yourself as God sees you is essential to overcoming your deepest struggles, having healthy relationships, living in freedom, and fulfilling your life purpose. Yet most of us look at ourselves with warped mirrors, believing lies that lead to shame, guilt, fear, insecurity, and spiritual stagnation. The lies of our past keep us stuck, struggling with the same issues and habits for years. But according to the first three chapters of Ephesians, that's not how God sees us at all. Pastor and author Chip Ingram wants to open your eyes to your true self, the "new you" that God sees, the person who is immeasurably valuable and beautiful. In this Scripture-soaked book, he shows you how getting God's perspective - satisfies your search for significance - undoes your shame - makes you secure - frees you from comparing yourself with others - helps you discover your calling - and more Are you ready to see yourself as God sees you? Then let Chip Ingram show you how to silence the lies of your past and experience your true identity.
Trauma is a situation where one is not in control of one's life. This book is about becoming the author and authority, rather than a hostage, of your life. We think of trauma as the big and obvious events, such as major catastrophes like 9/11 or a tsunami, or as childhood abuse and neglect. These are important of course, but there is another potential trauma that is rarely talked about. It happens at a time that we do not remember and cannot discuss. This is 'symbiotic trauma', the trauma of coming into a less than welcoming world at the beginning of life. It is a trauma that happens before memory, in that pre-verbal time of our existence, and it influences us profoundly, including our capacity for dealing with later traumas. This handbook will take you on a journey of hope. Trauma can be healed and resolved. You can't do all the work of healing your trauma on your own, but this handbook gives you some basics to help you on your way, and gives you some pointers to finding the appropriate help. Vivian Broughton has been a psychotherapist in private practice since 1989. She has developed her current work along the model proposed by Franz Ruppert in which unresolved trauma, particularly early attachment trauma and the entanglement with earlier systemic traumas, underlies all of our psychological difficulties.
"If you're reading this, consider yourself lucky- you've stumbled across one of the best books ever written. Walter Staples has put so much wisdom and so many practical strategies for success into this book that it could have been three books. What a treasure chest for anyone serious about greater success and more happiness in every area of their life." Jack Canfield Coauthor of Chicken Soup for the Soul "This book has an important message-how to master the process of personal empowerment to help ourselves and others live fuller, more productive lives." Denis Waitley, Ph.D. Author of The Psychology of Winning and Seeds of Greatness "When you become master of your inner world, you become master of your outer world." So states Walter Staples in his new book. The author wants the reader to experience a spiritual awakening in order to develop a whole new sense of self, which affects every aspect of life. Everything is rooted in basic psychological principles, yet few people have been exposed to formal psychological education. As a consequence, most people live their lives without knowing who they really are, without knowing their true self. Everything necessary to find the true self comes from within: an open mind, curiosity, and ambition. This is the instruction book to use to achieve that goal. Dr. Staples is one of America's leading authorities on human potential and personal empowerment. An active speaker, he is the author of the international best seller, Think Like a Winner!, and Power to Win!, both published by Pelican.
In the expanded edition of this profound exploration of Christian identity, David G. Benner illuminates the spirituality of self-discovery. He exposes the false selves that you may hide behind and calls you to discover the true self that emerges from your uniqueness in Christ. Deepen your experience of God through discovering the gift of being yourself.
OPRAH’S BOOK CLUB PICK AN INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER “A roadmap on the journey to truth and authenticity… [The Way of Integrity] is filled with aha moments and practical exercises that can guide us as we seek enlightenment.” –Oprah Winfrey Bestselling author, life coach, and sociologist Martha Beck explains why “integrity”—needed now more than ever in these tumultuous times—is the key to a meaningful and joyful life As Martha Beck says in her book, “Integrity is the cure for psychological suffering. Period.” In The Way of Integrity, Beck presents a four-stage process that anyone can use to find integrity, and with it, a sense of purpose, emotional healing, and a life free of mental suffering. Much of what plagues us—people pleasing, staying in stale relationships, negative habits—all point to what happens when we are out of touch with what truly makes us feel whole. Inspired by The Divine Comedy, Beck uses Dante’s classic hero’s journey as a framework to break down the process of attaining personal integrity into small, manageable steps. She shows how to read our internal signals that lead us towards our true path, and to recognize what we actually yearn for versus what our culture sells us. With techniques tested on hundreds of her clients, Beck brings her expertise as a social scientist, life coach and human being to help readers to uncover what integrity looks like in their own lives. She takes us on a spiritual adventure that not only will change the direction of our lives, but also bring us to a place of genuine happiness.
Dissolve the distractions of ego to find our authentic selves in God In his bestselling book Falling Upward, Richard Rohr talked about ego (or the False Self) and how it gets in the way of spiritual maturity. But if there's a False Self, is there also a True Self? What is it? How is it found? Why does it matter? And what does it have to do with the spiritual journey? This book likens True Self to a diamond, buried deep within us, formed under the intense pressure of our lives, that must be searched for, uncovered, separated from all the debris of ego that surrounds it. In a sense True Self must, like Jesus, be resurrected, and that process is not resuscitation but transformation. Shows how to navigate spiritually difficult terrain with clear vision and tools to uncover our True Selves Written by Father Richard Rohr, the bestselling author of Falling Upward Examines the fundamental issues of who we are and helps us on our path of spiritual maturity Immortal Diamond (whose title is taken from a line in a Gerard Manley Hopkins poem) explores the deepest questions of identity, spirituality, and meaning in Richard Rohr's inimitable style.
First Published in 1985. This informative volume examines the clinical research linking normal separation-individuation with object relations theory and developmental psychopathology. It focuses on the core problem-the lack of a concept of the self-integrated with object relations theory. By adding a theory of the self to object relations theory, the book both enlarges and more acutely focuses the therapeutic perspective, thereby enhancing work with patients. It also further enables therapists to clarify their own real selves. Dr. Masterson's thesis is that, for the real self to finally emerge from the symbiotic union and assume its full capacities, identification, acknowledgment, and support are required from the mother and father in early development and from the therapist in psychotherapy. Dr. Masterson describes and illustrates the therapeutic technique of communicative matching and provides the necessary acknowledgment while maintaining therapeutic neutrality. Part I reviews psychoanalytic theory of the ego and the emerging real self; its structure, function, development, and its psychopathology and treatment. Part II explores the relationship between maternal libidinal acknowledgment and the development of the real self by a crosscultural comparison of child raising in Japan, Israel, and the United States. It then describes the influence of social and cultural factors on the functioning of the real self in the United States. Part III on Creativity and the Real Self draws upon fairy tales, Jean Paul Sartre, Edvard Munch, and the life and work of the novelist Thomas Wolfe to show how for some artists creativity becomes a crucial vehicle in their search to establish a real self. This section illuminates the nature of personal and artistic creativity and describes how a professional interest in the functioning of the real self leads inevitably to an interest in the ultimate of self-expression-creativity. Of special interest are the numerous case illustrations drawn from Masterson's extensive clinical work showing how acknowledgment and support enable the real self to fully emerge from the symbiotic union and to assume its full capacities.)
Who am I? The answer seems like it should come quick and easy. But in reality, this is one of the most difficult questions ever asked. Society deludes us, family can misguide us, and the little we do know about ourselves we lose in the pursuit of unfulfilling goals. If you're reading this, it's because you are ready to discover the real you. The you that cries out for nurturing. The you that leads to true satisfaction and real fulfillment. Whether career, relationships, or family, you have the power to create the life you want. You can learn to take charge of your thoughts and shape your reality. You can learn to embrace and live in the present moment. This book will give you the tools to find your authentic self, define success, achieve your goals, and live a fulfilling life. Nobody can give you the answer, but someone can help you find them.
Why do I need to find my true self? Finding your true self allows you to live an authentic life that empowers you to become a better and more positive form of yourself. Discovering your actual self is a personal path that involves introspection, self-reflection, and self-discovery. Each individual's experiences, beliefs, values, and personality attributes define their identity. As a result, the process of self-discovery is very individualized and subjective. Moreover, social expectations, cultural standards, and peer pressure may all have an impact on an individual's self-perception, making it difficult to distinguish between their genuine self and the image they display to the world. As a result, the road to discovering one's actual self necessitates breaking free from outside influences and connecting with one's deepest thoughts and feelings. Additionally, the process of self-discovery is continual and ever-changing; as people grow and develop, their priorities, values, and beliefs may evolve, resulting in a transformation in identity. As a result, discovering one's inner self necessitates a consistent effort to investigate and comprehend oneself, making it a highly unique and individual journey. The following are the book's key concepts: Self-awareness: is the examination of one's true self. Authenticity: investigates the principles of honesty in your daily life. Acceptance: investigates how you accept yourself and your role in the larger world. Growth: enables you to go from seed to full blossom by reading the book and doing the tasks it provides. Connection: enables your evolution to continue outside of yourself and onto other individuals you would not have met otherwise. The following are the book's features: Around 30 pages of Understanding Your Actual Self via various writing assignments Approximately 15 pages of learning how to Overcome Hurdles to discovering your actual self Around 30 pages of advice on the Obstacles You May Face and How to Defeat Them About 40 pages of information on how to develop a Healthy Abundance Mindset and improve your general view and path in life At the end of the book, there are ten Reflective Questions regarding your journey to discover your actual self Finding one's authentic self is a search that can last a person's whole life, and it can manifest itself in a wide variety of ways during the course of that existence. It's possible that our goals, values, and beliefs may change as we continue to mature and develop, and that this will need us to reevaluate who we are and what we hope to achieve in this life. It is essential to keep in mind that discovering one's own self is not about arriving at a certain destination or accomplishing a predetermined objective. Instead, it is a process of coming to know oneself and discovering new things about oneself, which calls for continual contemplation, introspection, and investigation of oneself. While one's search for self may never end, each step is important. Every incident, hardship, and failure may be a chance to grow, learn, and understand ourselves and the world. The path of discovering one's actual self is, in the end, a profoundly private and unique experience for each person, and there is no universally applicable solution to the question of when or how it will come to a close. The important thing is to have an open mind, maintain a sense of curiosity, and be prepared to accept change and progress as natural components of the trip. Let "Finding Your True Self: A Guide to Discovering Your Authentic Self and Living a Fulfilling Life," assist you on your life's journey today!
