Elements of Intimacy
Elements of Intimacy

Author: Caffyn Jesse

Publisher:

Published: 2019-07-04

Total Pages: 104

ISBN-13: 9781077923492

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Grounded in years of experience as a teacher and practitioner of sacred intimacy, Caffyn Jesse guides us in understanding how our biophysical need for love, and our autonomic nervous system reactions to the threat of being unloved, can lead us into dysfunctional patterns and roles that make our relationships feel hurtful, fruitless, partial or provisional. To truly live into our capacity for love and our longing for belonging, Jesse guides, we can stop accepting as "good enough" all normative patterns of love and belonging based on threat management, fear and greed. Elements of Intimacy offers practical strategies and poetic inspiration for identifying reactive patterns and using them as gateways into more spacious, archetypal energies. We can learn to interact in ways that foster intimacy, and empower a dance of loving connection based on goodwill and welcome. We can choose kindness, practice gratitude and generosity, and attune our energy with the biosphere of belonging. As we learn to create a neurological feedback loop that supports a wonderful world within and around us, we find ourselves welcoming more and more joy and intimacy into our lives.

IDIOT LOVE and the Elements of Intimacy
IDIOT LOVE and the Elements of Intimacy

Author: David Stromberg

Publisher: Springer Nature

Published: 2020-05-05

Total Pages: 177

ISBN-13: 3030426955

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This book turns our search for intimacy on its head, suggesting that our way to creativity in love may be through idiocy. The book takes its readers on a journey through the work of Plato and Melanie Klein in theorizing the dynamics of intimacy while exploring some of the paradoxical aspects of love in works by Fyodor Dostoevsky and French filmmaker Catherine Breillat. Revisiting core concepts of how we think about relationships, the book lays out a model for relational breakdown—the idiot lovecycle—in which we are constantly in the flux between seeing ourselves and seeing the other. Effecting close readings of literary, philosophical, and psychoanalytical sources, the book draws on parallels between these fields of inquiry while tracing their shared intellectual genealogy, suggesting that the tension between Narcissus and Cassandra, with its inherent conflicts, is also the space through which love emerges from intimacy.

Intimacy and Desire
Intimacy and Desire

Author: Dr David Schnarch

Publisher: Scribe Publications

Published: 2010

Total Pages: 449

ISBN-13: 1921640324

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In this groundbreaking book, Dr. David Schnarch, one of the foremost experts on sexuality and relationships, explains why normal healthy couples in long-term relationships have sexual desire problems, regardless of how much they love each other or how well they communicate. In-depth examples of couples he has counselled reveal his unique understanding of common-but-difficult sexual desire problems that affect couples of all ages. Combining compassion and clinical wisdom, Dr. Schnarch explains how to use his revolutionary Four Points of Balance approach to resolve low desire, mismatched desire, sexual boredom, and the emotional gridlock that accompanies these problems. Intimacy and Desire provides a roadmap for how couples can transform common sexual desire problems into self-exploration and personal development that leads to psychological and spiritual growth, stronger relationships, and more powerful and meaningful desire for each other. It provides time-proven comprehensive solutions that help couples reconnect with each other sexually, and take their intimacy and passion to new, previously unexplored heights.

The Essential Elements of Sex
The Essential Elements of Sex

Author: Eryn-Faye Frans LL B.

Publisher: iUniverse

Published: 2012-12

Total Pages: 267

ISBN-13: 1475955294

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The Essential Elements of Sex; provides you with the building blocks you need for the sex life you have always hoped for and dreamed about in your marriage. We are facing an epidemic of divorce in the church, and the dirty little secret is that these marriages are falling apart because we, as Christians, are woefully unprepared for the most taboo aspect of our relationship—sex. The Essential Elements of Sex outlines information crucial to the foundation of sexual intimacy and describes the nine essential elements necessary to build a strong, sustainable partnership. Eryn-Faye Frans combines the authoritative research of some of the most renowned experts in the field with her own experience coaching thousands of individuals and couples across North America. In The Essential Elements of Sex, she provides a biblically based, scientifically established understanding of the issues men and women face in the bedroom. She debunks myths about sexual intimacy, provides answers to commonly asked questions, offers tips and how-tos, and suggests practical exercises that can improve communication, intimacy and appreciation for each other.

Intimacy
Intimacy

Author: Osho

Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin

Published: 2007-04-01

Total Pages: 191

ISBN-13: 1429907665

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One of the greatest spiritual teachers of the twentieth century shares his wisdom about building loving relationships in Intimacy: Trusting Oneself and the Other. “Hit-and-run” relationships have become common in our society as it has grown more rootless, less tied to traditional family structures, and more accepting of casual sex. But at the same time, there arises an undercurrent of feeling that something is missing—a quality of intimacy. This quality has very little to do with the physical, though sex is certainly one possible door. Far more important is a willingness to expose our deepest feelings and vulnerabilities, with the trust that the other person will treat them with care. Ultimately, the willingness to take the risk of intimacy has to be grounded in an inner strength that knows that even if the other remains closed, even if that trust is betrayed, we will not suffer any permanent damage. In this gentle and compassionate guide, Osho takes his readers step-by-step through what makes people afraid of intimacy, how to encounter those fears and go beyond them, and what they can do to nourish themselves and their relationships to support more openness and trust. Osho challenges readers to examine and break free of the conditioned belief systems and prejudices that limit their capacity to enjoy life in all its richness. He has been described by the Sunday Times of London as one of the “1000 Makers of the 20th Century” and by Sunday Mid-Day (India) as one of the ten people—along with Gandhi, Nehru, and Buddha—who have changed the destiny of India. Since his death in 1990, the influence of his teachings continues to expand, reaching seekers of all ages in virtually every country of the world.

Strengthening Marital Intimacy
Strengthening Marital Intimacy

Author: Ronald E. Hawkins

Publisher: Baker Publishing Group (MI)

Published: 1991

Total Pages: 140

ISBN-13: 9780801043550

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Hawkins says that intimacy, or "oneness with healthy separateness", is vital to a God-honoring marriage, and husband and wife become closer only through commitment to God and one another. Hawkins stresses three areas that must be strengthened--spirit, soul, and body.

How to Be an Adult in Relationships
How to Be an Adult in Relationships

Author: David Richo

Publisher: Shambhala Publications

Published: 2021-11-02

Total Pages: 313

ISBN-13: 1611809541

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This beloved book has touched hundreds of thousands of lives with its profound and actionable advice. Retaining the core message of becoming more mindful in our relationships, this edition includes new and revised material that addresses how we live and love today. A new preface touches on David Richo’s experience with the book over time and outlines the key updates, including attention to online dating and modern communication styles as well as new perspectives on anger and ending relationships. “Most people think of love as a feeling,” says Richo, “but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present.” How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships. Adult love is based on a mutual commitment to what Richo calls the “five A’s”: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing. Brimming with practical exercises for couples and singles, How to Be an Adult in Relationships offers heartening insights into a lifelong journey of love. Topics include: • Becoming conscious of our relationship patterns and how they relate to childhood • Recognizing and attracting someone who can show adult love • Understanding the phases relationships go through • Creating and maintaining healthy boundaries • Overcoming fears of abandonment and engulfment • Expressing anger and other emotions in adult and loving ways • Surviving break-ups with our self-esteem intact • Understanding love as a spiritual journey

Loving Bravely
Loving Bravely

Author: Alexandra H. Solomon

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

Published: 2017-02-02

Total Pages: 204

ISBN-13: 1626255830

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As seen on The TODAY Show! “A godsend to anyone searching for, but struggling to find, true love in their lives.” —Kristin Neff, PhD, author of Self-Compassion "Empowering and compassionate, and its lessons are universal." —Publishers Weekly Real love starts with you. In order to attract a life partner and build a healthy intimate relationship, you must first become a good partner to yourself. This book offers twenty invaluable lessons that will help you explore and commit to your own emotional and psychological well-being so you can be ready, resilient, and confident in love. Many of us enter into romantic relationships full of expectation and hope, only to be sorely disappointed by the realization that the partner we’ve selected is a flawed human being with their own neuroses, history, and desires. Most relationships end because one or both people haven’t done the internal work necessary to develop self-awareness and take responsibility for their own experiences. We’ve all heard “You can’t love anyone unless you love yourself,” but amid life’s distractions and the myth of perfect, romantic love, how exactly do you do that? In Loving Bravely, psychologist, professor and relationship expert Alexandra H. Solomon introduces the idea of relational self-awareness, encouraging you to explore your personal history to gain an understanding of your own relational patterns, as well as your strengths and weaknesses in relationships. By doing so, you’ll learn what relationships actually require, beyond the fairytale notions of romance. And by maintaining a steady but gentle focus on yourself, you’ll build the best possible foundation for making a loving connection. By understanding your past relationship experiences, cultivating a strong sense of self-awareness, and determining what it is you really want in a romantic partner—you’ll be ready to find the healthy, lasting love your heart desires.

Out of Touch
Out of Touch

Author: Michelle Drouin

Publisher: MIT Press

Published: 2022-02-01

Total Pages: 285

ISBN-13: 0262046679

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A behavioral scientist explores love, belongingness, and fulfillment, focusing on how modern technology can both help and hinder our need to connect. A Next Big Idea Club nominee. Millions of people around the world are not getting the physical, emotional, and intellectual intimacy they crave. Through the wonders of modern technology, we are connecting with more people more often than ever before, but are these connections what we long for? Pandemic isolation has made us even more alone. In Out of Touch, Professor of Psychology Michelle Drouin investigates what she calls our intimacy famine, exploring love, belongingness, and fulfillment and considering why relationships carried out on technological platforms may leave us starving for physical connection. Drouin puts it this way: when most of our interactions are through social media, we are taking tiny hits of dopamine rather than the huge shots of oxytocin that an intimate in-person relationship would provide. Drouin explains that intimacy is not just sex—although of course sex is an important part of intimacy. But how important? Drouin reports on surveys that millennials (perhaps distracted by constant Tinder-swiping) have less sex than previous generations. She discusses pandemic puppies, professional cuddlers, the importance of touch, “desire discrepancy” in marriage, and the value of friendships. Online dating, she suggests, might give users too many options; and the internet facilitates “infidelity-related behaviors.” Some technological advances will help us develop and maintain intimate relationships—our phones, for example, can be bridges to emotional support. Some, on the other hand, might leave us out of touch. Drouin explores both of these possibilities.

Building Intimate Relationships
Building Intimate Relationships

Author: Rita DeMaria

Publisher: Routledge

Published: 2013-08-21

Total Pages: 311

ISBN-13: 1135454396

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First Published in 2003. Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis, an informa company.