The stories in Delicate Men explore the socialization and cultural norms men and boys in contemporary society face and what happens when an individual fails to live up to those expectations. And though these are individual lives and stories, a strong, common thread unites them all in their frustration, sometimes even guilt, for not being the men they think they are supposed to be
Bestselling classic and global phenomenon The Highly Sensitive Person has helped millions of people around the world. Now Elaine Aron’s colleague offers help and hope for men with high sensitivity and the unique problems they face. Highly sensitive people think deeply, empathize instinctively, and tend to behave in an ethical way that benefits everyone. Today, with the negative effects of “toxic masculinity” and aggressive behavior in evidence all around us, we need highly sensitive people—especially men—more than ever. Yet for men in particular, being highly sensitive brings distinct challenges, such as gender stereotypes that portray them as too emotional or not “manly” enough. Cognitive behavioral psychotherapist Tom Falkenstein offers the first psychological guide that specifically addresses highly sensitive men and those who care about them, and explores the unique advantages and obstacles they face. Drawing from his training with pioneer in the field Dr. Elaine Aron, and his own groundbreaking work, Falkenstein incorporates the most up-to-date research on high sensitivity—what it is and isn’t—how it relates to male identity, and provides one-of-a-kind advice and practical tools. Including an illuminating conversation with Dr. Aron, The Highly Sensitive Man is an invaluable book that will help redefine masculinity and reveal how high sensitivity can enrich men’s lives, their communities, and the lives of those who love them. “A book that cracks open the conversation about how men can blend their strength, sensitivity and unique gifts into a more modern and whole definition of what it is to be a man.” —Alanis Morissette, singer, songwriter, activist “Rooted in the rigorous science of sensory processing sensitivity . . . provides numerous ways we can grow into our own skins.” —Tracy Cooper, PhD, author of Thrill!: The High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person
Essays, lectures, and interviews—on everything from gender relations to Ingmar Bergman to adventure travel—from the renowned diarist. In this collection, the author known for “one of the most remarkable diaries in the history of letters” shares her unique perceptions of people, places, and the arts (Los Angeles Times). In the opening group of essays, “Women and Men,” Anaïs Nin provides the kind of sensitive insights into the feminine psyche and relations between the sexes that are a hallmark of her work. In “Writing, Music, and Films,” she speaks as an artist and critic—in book and film reviews, an essay on the composer Edgard Varèse, a lecture on Ingmar Bergman, and the story of her printing press. In the final section, “Enchanted Places,” Nin records her travels to such destinations as Fez and Agadir in Morocco, Bali, the New Hebrides, and New Caledonia—and she concludes with a charming vignette titled “My Turkish Grandmother.”
Leo Tolstoy became very interested in love and relationships. He saw the world around him, much like it is now, as the world is, filled with emptiness (if you pardon the ironic phrase). And yet he felt within him a draw and yearning, and, yes, an inner knowledge that there is more, and that there are answers to our questions. "Let us be diligent," that inner light says, as if together within ourselves, we have all we need, or ever would need to find the way forward. This is a paraphrase in my own words of the attitude of these later works by Leo Tolstoy, the great Russian novelist -- and great thinker -- regardless of region. The volume includes two works, the first 100,000 words of which is the treatise, What Shall We Do, perhaps a more accessible work to be acquainted with Tolstoy's soul-searching and concerns of systematic contemporary life. The second work is a shorter yet worthy essay, providing insights as the title suggests. This edition has been lovingly and carefully edited by Alan Lewis Silva.
This groundbreaking book reframes five hundred years of western Nicaraguan history by giving gender and sexuality the attention they deserve. Victoria González-Rivera decenters nationalist narratives of triumphant mestizaje and argues that western Nicaragua's LGBTQIA+ history is a profoundly Indigenous one. In this expansive history, González-Rivera documents connections between Indigeneity, local commerce, and femininity (cis and trans), demonstrating the long history of LGBTQIA+ Nicaraguans. She sheds light on historical events, such as Andres Caballero's 1536 burning at the stake for sodomy. González-Rivera discusses how elite efforts after independence to "modernize" open-air markets led to increased surveillance of LGBTQIA+ working-class individuals. She also examines the 1960s and the Somoza dictatorship, when another wave of persecution emerged, targeting working-class gay men and trans women, leading to a more stringent anti-sodomy law. The centuries prior to the post-1990 political movement for greater LGBTQIA+ rights demonstrate that, far from being marginal, LGBTQIA+ Nicaraguans have been active in every area of society for hundreds of years.
A vigorous reappraisal of American literature inspired by the First World War. American World War I literature has long been interpreted as an alienated outcry against modern warfare and government propaganda. This prevailing reading ignores the US army’s unprecedented attempt during World War I to assign men—except, notoriously, African Americans—to positions and ranks based on merit. And it misses the fact that the culture granted masculinity only to combatants, while the noncombatant majority of doughboys experienced a different alienation: that of shame. Drawing on military archives, current research by social-military historians, and his own readings of thirteen major writers, Keith Gandal seeks to put American literature written after the Great War in its proper context—as a response to the shocks of war and meritocracy. The supposedly antiwar texts of noncombatant Lost Generation authors Dos Passos, Hemingway, Fitzgerald, Cummings, and Faulkner addressed—often in coded ways—the noncombatant failure to measure up. Gandal also examines combat-soldier writers William March, Thomas Boyd, Laurence Stallings, and Hervey Allen. Their works are considered straight-forward antiwar narratives, but they are in addition shaped by experiences of meritocratic recognition, especially meaningful for socially disadvantaged men. Gandal furthermore contextualizes the sole World War I novel by an African American veteran, Victor Daly, revealing a complex experience of both army discrimination and empowerment among the French. Finally, Gandal explores three women writers—Katherine Anne Porter, Willa Cather, and Ellen La Motte—who saw the war create frontline opportunities for women while allowing them to be arbiters of masculinity at home. Ultimately, War Isn’t the Only Hell shows how American World War I literature registered the profound ways in which new military practices and a foreign war unsettled traditional American hierarchies of class, ethnicity, gender, and even race.
