What Love Is
What Love Is

Author: Carrie Jenkins

Publisher: Basic Books

Published: 2017-01-24

Total Pages: 191

ISBN-13: 046509886X

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A rising star in philosophy examines the cultural, social, and scientific interpretations of love to answer one of our most enduring questions What is love? Aside from being the title of many a popular love song, this is one of life's perennial questions. In What Love Is, philosopher Carrie Jenkins offers a bold new theory on the nature of romantic love that reconciles its humanistic and scientific components. Love can be a social construct (the idea of a perfect fairy tale romance) and a physical manifestation (those anxiety- inducing heart palpitations); we must recognize its complexities and decide for ourselves how to love. Motivated by her own polyamorous relationships, she examines the ways in which our parameters of love have recently changed-to be more accepting of homosexual, interracial, and non-monogamous relationships-and how they will continue to evolve in the future. Full of anecdotal, cultural, and scientific reflections on love, What Love Is is essential reading for anyone seeking to understand what it means to say "I love you." Whether young or old, gay or straight, male or female, polyamorous or monogamous, this book will help each of us decide for ourselves how we choose to love.

If Love Could Think
If Love Could Think

Author: Alon Gratch

Publisher: Harmony

Published: 2005-10-25

Total Pages: 259

ISBN-13: 0307338126

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A groundbreaking book about why the one thing we all fear—ambivalence—is the one thing we must accept to find lasting love. If Love Could Think is an entertaining and practical book that addresses with warmth and intelligence the age-old question relevant to any stage of a relationship: why does love go wrong, and what can we do to make it right? After many years of treating patients with relationship problems, psychologist Alon Gratch has identified seven common patterns of failed love. These patterns include, for example, narcissistic love, when a person has so idealized the partner and the relationship that they can’t possibly continue to measure up; one-way love, when a person loves someone who doesn’t return that love; triangular love, when a third party, be it a mother, an affair, or a job is involved in the relationship; and forbidden love, the kind of relationship that is generally off-limits, such as when a teacher dates a student. In If Love Could Think, Gratch shows us that all of these patterns stem from one fundamental problem—our own ambivalence. With his trademark combination of depth and humor, and using many individual stories as engaging examples, Gratch walks us through the ways we get stuck in these patterns. In each case we are looking for perfect or ideal love. Every pattern creates an obstacle so we don’t have to face our own ambivalence about the relationship or the other person. But humans aren’t perfect, so no matter how wonderful love can be, there is no such thing as pure love. Ambivalence implies the existence not only of love but also of anger, disapproval, or disappointment. As Dr. Gratch shows, there are really only two choices: accept ambivalence as part of any loving relationship, or continue to repeat the patterns of illusory love. Happily, using a simple yet powerful three-step approach, If Love Could Think helps readers to use their own minds to break these patterns of failed relationships and find real and lasting love.

Work Won't Love You Back
Work Won't Love You Back

Author: Sarah Jaffe

Publisher: Bold Type Books

Published: 2021-01-26

Total Pages: 432

ISBN-13: 1568589387

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A deeply-reported examination of why "doing what you love" is a recipe for exploitation, creating a new tyranny of work in which we cheerily acquiesce to doing jobs that take over our lives. You're told that if you "do what you love, you'll never work a day in your life." Whether it's working for "exposure" and "experience," or enduring poor treatment in the name of "being part of the family," all employees are pushed to make sacrifices for the privilege of being able to do what we love. In Work Won't Love You Back, Sarah Jaffe, a preeminent voice on labor, inequality, and social movements, examines this "labor of love" myth—the idea that certain work is not really work, and therefore should be done out of passion instead of pay. Told through the lives and experiences of workers in various industries—from the unpaid intern, to the overworked teacher, to the nonprofit worker and even the professional athlete—Jaffe reveals how all of us have been tricked into buying into a new tyranny of work. As Jaffe argues, understanding the trap of the labor of love will empower us to work less and demand what our work is worth. And once freed from those binds, we can finally figure out what actually gives us joy, pleasure, and satisfaction.

Everything I Know About Love
Everything I Know About Love

Author: Dolly Alderton

Publisher: HarperCollins

Published: 2020-02-25

Total Pages: 314

ISBN-13: 0062968807

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New York Times Bestseller "There is no writer quite like Dolly Alderton working today and very soon the world will know it.” —Lisa Taddeo, author of #1 New York Times bestseller Three Women “Dolly Alderton has always been a sparkling Roman candle of talent. She is funny, smart, and explosively engaged in the wonders and weirdness of the world. But what makes this memoir more than mere entertainment is the mature and sophisticated evolution that Alderton describes in these pages. It’s a beautifully told journey and a thoughtful, important book. I loved it.” —Elizabeth Gilbert, New York Times bestselling author of Eat, Pray, Love and City of Girls The wildly funny, occasionally heartbreaking internationally bestselling memoir about growing up, growing older, and learning to navigate friendships, jobs, loss, and love along the ride When it comes to the trials and triumphs of becoming an adult, journalist and former Sunday Times columnist Dolly Alderton has seen and tried it all. In her memoir, she vividly recounts falling in love, finding a job, getting drunk, getting dumped, realizing that Ivan from the corner shop might just be the only reliable man in her life, and that absolutely no one can ever compare to her best girlfriends. Everything I Know About Love is about bad dates, good friends and—above all else— realizing that you are enough. Glittering with wit and insight, heart and humor, Dolly Alderton’s unforgettable debut weaves together personal stories, satirical observations, a series of lists, recipes, and other vignettes that will strike a chord of recognition with women of every age—making you want to pick up the phone and tell your best friends all about it. Like Bridget Jones’ Diary but all true, Everything I Know About Love is about the struggles of early adulthood in all its terrifying and hopeful uncertainty.

How to Fall in Love with Anyone
How to Fall in Love with Anyone

Author: Mandy Len Catron

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

Published: 2017-06-27

Total Pages: 211

ISBN-13: 1501137468

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“A beautifully written and well-researched cultural criticism as well as an honest memoir” (Los Angeles Review of Books) from the author of the popular New York Times essay, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This,” explores the romantic myths we create and explains how they limit our ability to achieve and sustain intimacy. What really makes love last? Does love ever work the way we say it does in movies and books and Facebook posts? Or does obsessing over those love stories hurt our real-life relationships? When her parents divorced after a twenty-eight year marriage and her own ten-year relationship ended, those were the questions that Mandy Len Catron wanted to answer. In a series of candid, vulnerable, and wise essays that takes a closer look at what it means to love someone, be loved, and how we present our love to the world, “Catron melds science and emotion beautifully into a thoughtful and thought-provoking meditation” (Bookpage). She delves back to 1944, when her grandparents met in a coal mining town in Appalachia, to her own dating life as a professor in Vancouver. She uses biologists’ research into dopamine triggers to ask whether the need to love is an innate human drive. She uses literary theory to show why we prefer certain kinds of love stories. She urges us to question the unwritten scripts we follow in relationships and looks into where those scripts come from. And she tells the story of how she decided to test an experiment that she’d read about—where the goal was to create intimacy between strangers using a list of thirty-six questions—and ended up in the surreal situation of having millions of people following her brand-new relationship. “Perfect fodder for the romantic and the cynic in all of us” (Booklist), How to Fall in Love with Anyone flips the script on love. “Clear-eyed and full of heart, it is mandatory reading for anyone coping with—or curious about—the challenges of contemporary courtship” (The Toronto Star).

I Could Sing of Your Love Forever
I Could Sing of Your Love Forever

Author: Lindsay Terry

Publisher: Thomas Nelson Publishers

Published: 2008

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9781418519698

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Author and hymnologist Terry sits down one-on-one with the writers of today's most inspiring and powerful worship songs in this collection of interviews. Lyrics, melody lines, and chord changes to some of their songs are also included.

The Book that Made Me
The Book that Made Me

Author: Judith Ridge

Publisher: Candlewick Press

Published: 2017-03-14

Total Pages: 257

ISBN-13: 0763696714

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Essays by popular children's authors reveal the books that shaped their personal and literary lives, explaining how the stories they loved influenced them creatively, politically, and intellectually.

A Fish Could Love a Bird
A Fish Could Love a Bird

Author: Sheila Clarke

Publisher: iUniverse

Published: 2010-10-29

Total Pages: 365

ISBN-13: 1450261574

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A FISH COULD LOVE A BIRD recounts the interracial marriage between Lauren, a Caucasian Canadian artist, and Chen, a Chinese Malaysian physician, who met at the University of British Columbia. The newly-weds will live with his parentsWong, a rubber plantation owner, and Tan, who runs a beauty salon. Lauren, coming directly from a privileged life in Vancouver with her BFA degree in her suitcase, faces crucial challenges entering the home and culture of a Chinese family. Feeling like an alien, she is battered by superstitions, treated with mysterious potions from the apothecary and pressured from the beginning to have a boy baby. As eldest son, Chen is torn between the bounden duty to his parents and the expectations of his feisty, energetic wife. The novel gives a close look at many facets of Malaysian lifefrom hot ginger compresses to devils peeking in windows. In the face of overwhelming socio-cultural differences, can the marriage of Lauren and Chen survive?

A Man You Could Love
A Man You Could Love

Author: John Callahan

Publisher: Fulcrum Publishing

Published: 2007

Total Pages: 476

ISBN-13: 9781555916206

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Ranging from the forests of the Pacific Northwest to the power corridors of Washington, D.C., this novel chronicles the story of a crusading politician and the political coming-of-age and loss of innocence of the baby boomers, taking place from the 1960s through the disputed 2000 presidential election.