Coping with Infuriating, Mean, Critical People
Coping with Infuriating, Mean, Critical People

Author: Nina W. Brown

Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing USA

Published: 2006-10-30

Total Pages: 204

ISBN-13: 0313070407

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For all of us forced to deal with an infuriating, mean, critical person, seasoned counselor Nina Brown has a word of warning. You must accept that your usual coping strategies are not effective, and will not be effective, with this person, she advises. You cannot expect them to react and behave as adults. So what's a victim to do? Start with the suggestions in this book. In Coping with Infuriating, Mean, Critical People, Brown explains why many people, who may not display all of the characteristics necessary for a formal, full-blown narcissist diagnosis, still display what she calls a destructive narcissistic pattern that results in much the same anguish for those with whom the individual interacts. Thankfully, she also provides specific methods that will help victims of this behavior deal with the narcissistic colleague, supervisor or boss, parent, or intimate other. Only the extremely lucky among us have never faced or felt the effects of narcissistic behaviors and attitudes, displayed by colleagues, bosses, friends, parents, or lovers. These individuals may boast and brag constantly, take credit for other people's work, expect favors but return few or none, never listen (but always know all the answers), be sure of what is right and best regardless of the topic. They devalue others, micromanage, are hypercritical and mistrustful. Other characteristics of this harmful personality include an inflated sense of importance, although achievements are exaggerated and actual outcomes don't support feelings of superiority. They are exploitative, without empathy, and believe they are envied by all. Brown's excellent advice will help you cope.

Understanding Narcissists
Understanding Narcissists

Author: Nina W. Brown

Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing USA

Published: 2022-01-24

Total Pages: 228

ISBN-13: 1440876827

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This book identifies the behaviors and attitudes reflective of excessive self-interest and self-centered people and provides a framework for reducing the negative effects that these individuals have on their family, friends, and colleagues. This book will guide readers to understand the various indices of observable and destructive narcissistic behaviors and attitudes that are exhibited in everyday interactions with self-inflated people, focusing on the larger societal impacts of those behaviors. Further, the text makes suggestions for effectively managing the negative impact of the Destructive Narcissistic Pattern (DNP), which includes such attributes as anger and shame, and instructs readers how to grow and develop Healthy Adult Narcissism (HAN) consisting of empathy, wisdom, humor, and zest. This book differs from others on the same topic by illustrating the various ways that excessive self-esteem is portrayed in the media as well as presenting the perspective that there are many different ways to exhibit the varied self-inflated, self-centered behaviors and attitudes in everyday adult behaviors and relationships. By the end, this text aims to encourage healthy valuations of self and others that create a sense of purpose; personal satisfaction; and enduring, meaningful relationships.

Understanding and Loving a Person with Borderline Personality Disorder
Understanding and Loving a Person with Borderline Personality Disorder

Author: Stephen Arterburn

Publisher: David C Cook

Published: 2017-10-01

Total Pages: 174

ISBN-13: 1434712354

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This book is for anyone who thought they were good friends with someone, only to be yelled at unexpectedly, for anyone who has a coworker who twists others’ words, or for anyone who has a spouse who is violent and accusatory. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental illness that can make loved ones feel as if it is their fault. Stephen Arterburn and Dr. Robert Wise wants readers to know it’s not their fault and there is hope. In this book, they offer readers advice on how to relate to people with BPD at home, work, and church. Readers don’t need to feel alone any longer. Help is on the way.

The Addiction Treatment Planner
The Addiction Treatment Planner

Author: Robert R. Perkinson

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons

Published: 2022-03-29

Total Pages: 676

ISBN-13: 1119707935

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Clarify, simplify, and accelerate the treatment planning process so you can spend more time with clients The Addiction Treatment Planner, Sixth Edition: provides all the elements necessary to quickly and easily develop formal treatment plans that satisfy the demands of HMOs, managed care companies, third-party payers, and state and federal agencies. This valuable resource contains treatment plan components for 48 behaviorally based presenting problems including depression, intimate relationship conflicts, chronic pain, anxiety, substance use, borderline personality, and more. You'll save hours by speeding up the completion of time-consuming paperwork, without sacrificing your freedom to develop customized treatment plans for clients. This updated edition includes new and revised evidence-based objectives and interventions, new online resources, expanded references, an expanded list of client workbooks and self-help titles, and the latest information on assessment instruments. In addition, you'll find new chapters on some of today's most challenging issues- Opiod Use Disorder, Panic/Agoraphobia, Loneliness, and Vocational Stress. New suggested homework exercises will help you encourage your clients to bridge their therapeutic work to home. Quickly and easily develop treatment plans that satisfy third-party requirements. Access extensive references for treatment techniques, client workbooks and more. Offer effective and evidence-based homework exercises to clients with any of 48 behaviorally based presenting problems. Enjoy time-saving treatment goals, objectives and interventions- pluse space to record your own customized treatment plan. This book's easy-to-use reference format helps locate treatment plan components by presenting behavioral problem or DSM-5 diagnosis. Inside, you'll also find a sample treatment plan that conforms to the requirements of most third-party payors and accrediting agencies including CARF, The Joint Commission (TJC), COA, and the NCQA. The Additction Treatment Planner, Sixth Edition: will liberate you to focus on what's really important in your clinical work.

Uptight and In Your Face
Uptight and In Your Face

Author: Nina W. Brown

Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing USA

Published: 2010-11-02

Total Pages: 192

ISBN-13: 0313385564

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Dealing with uptight, high-stress people in your workplace, family, or home can be an enormous challenge, but this book provides invaluable insight and practical advice enabling readers to handle these "problem" personality types successfully. It is often stated that communication is the most important aspect of creating an effective relationship or achieving goals when working with another individual or within a team. But how does one communicate with someone who is too intense, anxious, or self-absorbed to hear anything you're trying to say? In Uptight and In Your Face: Coping with an Anxious Boss, Parent, Spouse, or Lover the author presents an invaluable tutorial to successfully interact with the most frustrating and taxing people in your life. This text examines the five most common types of uptight people to illustrate how the underlying patterns of intensity, anxiety, and self-absorption are displayed. Considerable attention is given to help readers understand how they may be contributing to their own distress. The final chapters present numerous coping and self-development strategies that will help reduce or eliminate many of the detrimental effects of interacting with high-stress people. Descriptions of complex psychological concepts are explained in everyday language.

The Americanization of Narcissism
The Americanization of Narcissism

Author: Elizabeth Lunbeck

Publisher: Harvard University Press

Published: 2014-03-10

Total Pages: 378

ISBN-13: 0674726146

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American social critics in the 1970s seized on narcissism as the sickness of the age. But they missed the psychoanalytic breakthrough that championed it as the wellspring of ambition, creativity, and empathy. Elizabeth Lunbeck's history opens a new view on the central questions faced by the self struggling amid the crosscurrents of modernity.

Dead-End Lovers
Dead-End Lovers

Author: Nina W. Brown

Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing USA

Published: 2008-07-30

Total Pages: 184

ISBN-13: 0313355975

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Establishing and maintaining a meaningful, satisfying, and enduring intimate relationship can be elusive for many people. Time and again, they are drawn to lovers with whom the relationship is futile, ending with hurt feelings and regrets. In this work, Nina Brown shares her longtime experience as a professional counselor to help those who ask: Why do I keep picking unsuitable lovers? Brown calls them dead-end lovers, and in this work she shows us, not only how to spot them early and avoid them, but also what it is—what psychological needs we have —that attracts us to them. Guided by decades of counseling those with relationship problems, Brown includes 17 clear signals of unsuitability, and tells us how to spot the five types of unsuitable lovers: Hurting and Needy, Risk-Taking and Rebellious, Charming and Manipulative, Self-absorbed, or Exotic and Different. To help us understand why we are drawn to them, she explains the personal psychological lures and attractions we may have—from Being a Saver, to Searching for Excitement, Craving Attention and Admiration, Finding a Mirror, and Rebellion against Convention. She also explains why entering into a relationship expecting to change another person is most often just an exercise in futility. Perhaps most important, Brown details how we can move ahead and find true intimacy by pinpointing the components of a satisfying and meaningful intimate relationship, increasing interpersonal effectiveness, strengthening our psychological boundaries, resisting lures, managing emotions, and becoming aware of potential personal romantic illusions.

Sexual Forensics
Sexual Forensics

Author: Don Jacobs

Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing USA

Published: 2014-04-21

Total Pages: 182

ISBN-13: 1440804311

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This book taps neuroscience and neuropsychology to provide hard facts about brain conditions and the behavior that emerges from powerful brain chemistry—a fascinating read for adolescents, parents, and teachers alike. Sexual Forensics: Lust, Passion, and Psychopathic Killers provides a fascinating examination of "neurotruths" that are relevant and applicable to 21st-century parenting and social relationships, and explains workplace "brainmarks" that enable predictive solutions to practical problems. Author Don Jacobs, a researcher who has been studying psychopathy for over 25 years, describes how psychopathy has evolved as a brain condition, documenting how the vast majority of the spectrum represents normalcy, and only 20 to 30 percent of humankind characterizes corruptors or violent, pathological individuals. The book examines examples of individuals who have demonstrated significant achievement, influence, wealth, or corruptive behavior in differently abled profiles, and provides student autobiographies that enable rare scientific insights into the adolescent state of mind.

Society in the Self
Society in the Self

Author: Hubert J. M. Hermans

Publisher: Oxford University Press

Published: 2018-03-09

Total Pages: 457

ISBN-13: 0190687800

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Instead of considering society as a social environment, Society in the Self begins from the assumption that society works in the deepest regions of self and identity, as expressed in phenomena like self-sabotage, self-radicalization, self-cure, self-government, self-nationalization, and self-internationalization. This leads to the central thesis that a democratic society can only function properly if it is populated by participants with a democratically organized self. In this book, an integrative model is presented that is inspired by three versions of democracy: cosmopolitan, deliberative, and agonistic democracy, with the latter focusing on the role of social power and emotions. Drawing on these democratic views, three levels of inclusiveness are distinguished in the self: personal (I as an individual), social (I as a member of a group), and global (I as a human being). A democratic self requires the flexibility of moving up and down across these levels of inclusiveness and has to find its way in fields of tension between the self and the other, and between dialogue and social power. As author Hubert Hermans explains, this theory has far reaching consequences for such divergent topics as leadership in the self, cultural diversity in the self, the relationship between reason and emotion, self-empathy, cooperation and competition between self-parts, and the role of social power in prejudice, enemy image construction, and scapegoating. The central message of this book is reflected in Mahatma Gandhi's dictum: "Be the change you want to see in the world."

Analyzing Criminal Minds
Analyzing Criminal Minds

Author: Don Jacobs

Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing USA

Published: 2011-04-19

Total Pages: 336

ISBN-13: 0313397007

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An insightful book presenting cutting-edge information on the newest, most remarkable forensic science and methods used for understanding the criminal mind. Analyzing Criminal Minds: Forensic Investigative Science for the 21st Century explores new and emerging approaches to a perennially fascinating subject. Author Don Jacobs looks at 10 tools and products that have revolutionized the discipline, explaining how modern criminal mind analysis incorporates advances in criminal and forensic psychology, forensic neuropsychology, brain imaging, adolescent neurobiology, criminal profiling, and brain fingerprinting, as well as research into the paralimbic brain system and the impact of the "DANE" brain upon adolescent and young adult behavior. Twenty-three characteristics shared by jailed violent criminals are analyzed and considered in terms of neuropsychology and developmental psychology. The book also probes psychopathy in its various degrees, in children, adolescents, and adults, and explains a controversial but increasingly accepted theory that psychopathy is a "natural" outgrowth of evolution, describing how this "natural" psychopathy can become a condition typified by violent, sadistic, and irreversible personality disorder.