Comfort the Kid! Infant Sleep, Parent-Child Bonding, and the Perils of "Cry it Out"

Comfort the Kid! Infant Sleep, Parent-Child Bonding, and the Perils of

Author: eliot katz

Publisher: Ivory Tower Books

Published:

Total Pages: 221

ISBN-13:

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Comfort the kid ... or let her cry it out? Listen to your instincts ... or ignore them? Your heart tells you that cuddling your baby is much, much better than "ferberizing." This book explains why. It's 2 A.M. and your baby is wailing. You're tired, frustrated, and overwhelmed. Do you heed your friends' advice and let the baby cry it out, hoping he'll self-soothe and learn that he doesn't need you in the middle of the night? Or do you listen to your deepest instincts, go to the child, and comfort her until she returns to sleep? In this eye-opening manifesto, pediatric sleep specialists Eliot S. Katz and Carolyn D'Ambrosio explore the history of the "Cry it Out" industry and the medicalization of perfectly normal infant sleep patterns. They explain how the demands of modern society encourage parents to value uninterrupted sleep over their baby's needs, and to ignore important nighttime opportunities for parent-child bonding. "Comfort the Kid" also provides answers to the many questions that keep parents awake at night: Should my baby sleep in his own room, separated from his parents? (No.) Will I spoil my baby by picking her up when she cries? (No.) Will comforting my infant when he cries make him manipulative and demanding? (No.) Do the words that I use to describe my child become self-fulfilling prophecies? (Maybe.) Filled with useful tips and safe sleep practices, parent-infant communication, and family rhythms and tempos, "Comfort the Kid!" emphasizes the golden rule of parenting. Comforting your crying infant results in less stress and better sleep for both you and your baby. From Introduction, "Infancy is a challenging passage during which parents draw upon talents, insights, and stamina that they never knew they had. It is also a time to acquire a skill set and strategy that will be helpful for the demands ahead. Our hope is that a full understanding of the underlying evolutionary, biological, and cultural determinants governing infant sleep will ease this process. Knowing the benefits of Comfort the Kid will make sleepless nights a bit less distressing, and perhaps even enjoyable. A few years from now, you will remember these interactions fondly." Praise for "Comfort the Kid," "An innovative approach to helping infants and their families obtain healthy sleep through an understanding of normal infant behavior and the importance of a nurturing parent-child relationship. Highly recommended for all new parents." —Laura Sterni, M.D., Director, Johns Hopkins Pediatric Sleep Center "in this remarkable book, Doctors Katz and D'Ambrosio challenge many of the currently accepted tenets regarding infant sleep and direct parents to behaviors that both maximize sleep quality and optimize bonding with the infant." —David White, M.D., Past President, American Academy of Sleep Medicine "The authors take the reader through the reasoning for why letting an infant "Cry it Out" is not a good approach for either the parent's or the infant's health. Using quotes, anecdotes, and science, the authors discuss evolution, normal sleep, and infant development to assist parents in creating an optimal sleeping strategy for them and their children." —Nancy Collop, M.D., Past President, American Academy of Sleep Medicine Doctors Katz and D'Ambrosio cogently discuss why comforting crying infants, co-sleeping, and other practices that promote bonding between infant and parents will eventually result in less stress and better sleep for both." —Stuart Quan, M.D. Past President, American Academy of Sleep Medicine


The Newborn Sleep Book

The Newborn Sleep Book

Author: Lewis Jassey

Publisher: Penguin

Published: 2014-08-05

Total Pages: 130

ISBN-13: 0698147944

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Developed and refined by two successful pediatricians, the "Jassey Way" boasts more than a 90% success rate of getting children to sleep through the night in their first 4 weeks of life. A safe and proven technique, the Jassey Way uses a feeding schedule that allows newborns (and their parents) a full night's sleep at a younger age than other sleep training techniques.


The Sleep Lady's Good Night, Sleep Tight

The Sleep Lady's Good Night, Sleep Tight

Author: Kim West

Publisher: Hachette Go

Published: 2020-03-10

Total Pages: 479

ISBN-13: 0738286141

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The go-to guide to getting infants and toddlers to fall and stay asleep, completely revised and updated Kim West, LCSW-C, known to her clients as The Sleep Lady®, has developed an alternative and effective approach to helping children learn to gently put themselves to sleep without letting them "cry it out" -- an option that is not comfortable for many parents. Essential reading for any tired parent, or any expectant parent who wants to avoid the pitfalls of sleeplessness, Good Night, Sleep Tight offers a practical, easy-to-follow remedy that will work for all families in need of nights of peaceful slumber! New material and updates include: New yoga recommendations Updated information for parents of young infants Expanded information on nighttime potty training Ending co-sleeping Sleep training for twins and multiples


Brain Rules for Baby (Updated and Expanded)

Brain Rules for Baby (Updated and Expanded)

Author: John Medina

Publisher: Pear Press

Published: 2014-04-22

Total Pages: 338

ISBN-13: 0983263396

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What’s the single most important thing you can do during pregnancy? What does watching TV do to a child’s brain? What’s the best way to handle temper tantrums? Scientists know. In his New York Times bestseller Brain Rules, Dr. John Medina showed us how our brains really work—and why we ought to redesign our workplaces and schools. Now, in Brain Rules for Baby, he shares what the latest science says about how to raise smart and happy children from zero to five. This book is destined to revolutionize parenting. Just one of the surprises: The best way to get your children into the college of their choice? Teach them impulse control. Brain Rules for Baby bridges the gap between what scientists know and what parents practice. Through fascinating and funny stories, Medina, a developmental molecular biologist and dad, unravels how a child’s brain develops – and what you can do to optimize it. You will view your children—and how to raise them—in a whole new light. You’ll learn: Where nature ends and nurture begins Why men should do more household chores What you do when emotions run hot affects how your baby turns out, because babies need to feel safe above all TV is harmful for children under 2 Your child’s ability to relate to others predicts her future math performance Smart and happy are inseparable. Pursuing your child’s intellectual success at the expense of his happiness achieves neither Praising effort is better than praising intelligence The best predictor of academic performance is not IQ. It’s self-control What you do right now—before pregnancy, during pregnancy, and through the first five years—will affect your children for the rest of their lives. Brain Rules for Baby is an indispensable guide.


Safe Infant Sleep

Safe Infant Sleep

Author: James J. McKenna

Publisher: Platypus Media

Published: 2020-01-07

Total Pages: 208

ISBN-13: 9781930775763

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Throughout history and across cultures, sleeping with your baby has been the norm. Yet, in our modern world, the practice is fraught with questions, fear, and guilt. In Safe Infant Sleep, a globally recognized cosleeping authority explores why health professionals broadly recommend against all forms of cosleeping, shares the latest scientific research on the benefits of the practice, and helps you determine the best cosleeping arrangement for your family--from breastsleeping to room sharing.


The Moral Landscape

The Moral Landscape

Author: Sam Harris

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

Published: 2011-09-13

Total Pages: 322

ISBN-13: 143917122X

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Sam Harris dismantles the most common justification for religious faith--that a moral system cannot be based on science.


Holistic Sleep Coaching: Gentle Alternatives to Sleep Training for Health and Childcare Professionals

Holistic Sleep Coaching: Gentle Alternatives to Sleep Training for Health and Childcare Professionals

Author: Lyndsey Hookway

Publisher:

Published: 2018-09-04

Total Pages: 352

ISBN-13: 9781946665218

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"Lyndsey Hookway's Holistic Sleep Coaching is the book parent-child health professionals have been waiting for regarding infants', children's, and parents' sleep! The comprehensive content is comprised of an exhaustive review of the sleep literature, but it is written in a reader-friendly discussion format. (References are cited in text with the complete reference list in APA alphabetical style at the end.) I appreciate Hookway's evidence-based approach with its emphasis on human sleep biology. Yet her words constantly model sensitivity and empathy for both babies/children and their parents who live in our current cultural landscape of isolated nuclear families dependent on two incomes and often miles from physical support." -Karen Kerkhoff Gromada, MSN, RN, IBCLC, FILCA Author: Mothering Multiples: Breastfeeding and Caring for Twins or More "There is much to like in Hookway's book, including her clear understanding of the link between breastfeeding and sleeping, and the importance of sleep for parental mental health. Educating practitioners about normal infant sleep is an important task. Too many are only aware of extinction methods for addressing parental sleep concerns: with Holistic Sleep Coaching Hookway is laying the groundwork for the development of a more evidence-based and systematic approach." -Helen Ball, Professor of Anthropology, Director of the Durham Infancy & Sleep Centre (DISC), Founder of the Baby Sleep Info Source (Basis) "As a breastfeeding professional, I was curious and hopeful when I began reading Lyndsey Hookway's book, Holistic Sleep Coaching. One of the biggest worries for most new parents is how lack of sleep will impact their family, particularly within the context of breastfeeding. This book is not about training a baby how to sleep, or using dangerous methods that can comprise the breastfeeding relationship. This book IS about understanding how sleep works and how to use that knowledge to understand one's baby. It enables parents to support the uniqueness of their child, continue breastfeeding effectively, and identify how to create the most supportive environment possible to optimize sleep within their distinct family. I would definitely recommend this book as a MUST for new parents before their baby arrives, as well as an integral resource for all perinatal professionals! -Laurel Wilson, IBCLC, RLC, CLE, CLD, CCCECo-Author of The Attachment Pregnancy and The Greatest Pregnancy Ever Infants are probably sleeping no differently now than they were 1000 years ago. However, parenting has changed. We are dealing with the paradox of parenting information overload, coupled with time-poverty. Parents know more than ever about the importance of love, attachment and security to young children. They may know about good nutrition, stress management, toxins, skin to skin, breastfeeding, one-to-one time, emotion coaching and organic food. Parents are bombarded with appliances that are supposed to make their lives easier, and yet end up confused about what is really necessary. At the same time, modern parents are leading busy, expensive lives, and have jobs that they love or need. And within all this, their babies are still sleeping the same as they always have. Some sleep experts are quick to suggest quick fixes to lengthen infant sleep, but there is growing concern that techniques such as extinction may have negative outcomes for infants as well as being stressful for parents. Holistic Sleep Coaching is a multi-dimensional approach that looks at the big picture and recognises that babies' needs are not just physical but psychological, emotional and relational. Holistic Sleep Coaching provides an evidence-based overview of how to optimise sleep without leaving babies and children to cry for health and child care professionals.


The Happiest Baby on the Block

The Happiest Baby on the Block

Author: Harvey Karp, M.D.

Publisher: Bantam

Published: 2008-11-19

Total Pages: 250

ISBN-13: 0307485803

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Perfect for expecting parents who want to provide a soothing home for the newest member of their family, The Happiest Baby on the Block, the national bestseller by respected pediatrician and child development expert Dr. Harvey Karp, is a revolutionary method for calming a crying infant and promoting healthy sleep from day one. In perhaps the most important parenting book of the decade, Dr. Harvey Karp reveals an extraordinary treasure sought by parents for centuries --an automatic “off-switch” for their baby’s crying. No wonder pediatricians across the country are praising him and thousands of Los Angeles parents, from working moms to superstars like Madonna and Pierce Brosnan, have turned to him to learn the secrets for making babies happy. Never again will parents have to stand by helpless and frazzled while their poor baby cries and cries. Dr. Karp has found there IS a remedy for colic. “I share with parents techniques known only to the most gifted baby soothers throughout history …and I explain exactly how they work.” In a innovative and thought-provoking reevaluation of early infancy, Dr. Karp blends modern science and ancient wisdom to prove that newborns are not fully ready for the world when they are born. Through his research and experience, he has developed four basic principles that are crucial for understanding babies as well as improving their sleep and soothing their senses: ·The Missing Fourth Trimester: as odd as it may sound, one of the main reasons babies cry is because they are born three months too soon. ·The Calming Reflex: the automatic reset switch to stop crying of any baby in the first few months of life. ·The 5 “S’s”: the simple steps (swaddling, side/stomach position, shushing, swinging and sucking) that trigger the calming reflex. For centuries, parents have tried these methods only to fail because, as with a knee reflex, the calming reflex only works when it is triggered in precisely the right way. Unlike other books that merely list these techniques Dr. Karp teaches parents exactly how to do them, to guide cranky infants to calm and easy babies to serenity in minutes…and help them sleep longer too. ·The Cuddle Cure: the perfect mix the 5 “S’s” that can soothe even the most colicky of infants. In the book, Dr. Karp also explains: What is colic? Why do most babies get much more upset in the evening? How can a parent calm a baby--in mere minutes? Can babies be spoiled? When should a parent of a crying baby call the doctor? How can a parent get their baby to sleep a few hours longer? Even the most loving moms and dads sometimes feel pushed to the breaking point by their infant’s persistent cries. Coming to the rescue, however, Dr. Karp places in the hands of parents, grandparents, and all childcare givers the tools they need to be able to calm their babies almost as easily as…turning off a light. From the Hardcover edition.


The Baby Bond

The Baby Bond

Author: Linda Folden Palmer

Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.

Published: 2009-09-01

Total Pages: 434

ISBN-13: 140224732X

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Meticulously researched and warmly presented, the most authoritative and persuasive guide to attachment parenting When it comes to early parenting, scientific evidence points time and again to the bond between parent and child as a critical factor in a baby's health and wellbeing. Backed by more than 1,200 trusted sources, this breakthrough guide reveals the many little-known advantages that only a responsive, nurturing parenting style can provide: Surprising evidence on the benefits of breastfeeding How attentiveness and touch impacts permanent brain development in infants Under-reported facts about how to reduce colic, food allergies, and illness Why sharing sleep is both safe and natural How to reduce future teen-year stress by bonding with your young child early At the forefront of a passionate, growing movement called "attachment parenting," this warmly presented guide is a rare overview of information too often missing from parenting circles, pediatric offices, and financially motivated product promotions. Why Attachment Parenting? Cultures around the world that practice more natural forms of parenting have healthier infants who cry much less, toddlers who do not exhibit "terrible twos," generally respectful teenagers, and independent adults who participate in family matters. A well-controlled study found sleeping outside of the parents' room brought 10.5 times the risk of SIDS as sleeping in the parents' room. Studies have shown that infants who receive frequent physical affection have lower overall levels of stress. In the United States and other industrialized countries, the infant death rate for formula-fed infants is twice that of exclusively breastfed babies. — Excerpt from The Baby Bond — Most would agree that children probably do not consciously remember the way they were treated during early infancy. Many recount this observation as support or comfort for their ideas about ignoring babies' cries for attention and providing minimal stimulation. Yet, it can be shown that while the specifics may be lost, unconscious memories are developed on the neurological and biochemical level from birth—a baby's brain develops from day one according to its environment. Childhood, adolescence, and adulthood are all affected by this early programming. And, as far as the coveted independence goes, it has been shown that those who receive the most affection early on display the highest levels of independence as adults. —Praise for The Baby Bond — "Babies would tell you to buy this book!" Jan Hunt, MSc | Author of The Natural Child: Parenting from the Heart "An instant classic. A must-read for all parents. Dr. Palmer's book is the best book on the hard science behind attachment parenting that I've ever read. I wish I had read this book before I became a mother." Katie Allison | Author of Attachment Parenting "Well researched and hard hitting…unabashedly tells the truth about so many very important issues." Denise Pickett-Bernard, PhD | RD, The Journal of Human Lactation


Save Our Sleep: Toddler

Save Our Sleep: Toddler

Author: Tizzie Hall

Publisher: Macmillan Publishers Aus.

Published: 2010-02-01

Total Pages: 300

ISBN-13: 1742627110

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From the international baby whisperer Tizzie Hall comes this toddler's edition of the bestselling Save Our Sleep Over 40,000 copies sold. In 14 years of operation, Tizzie Hall's Save Our Sleep organisation has assisted thousands of children of all ages to learn how to sleep through the night, every night. By sharing an insight into baby and toddler sleep patterns, Tizzie has developed a method of putting parents at ease about their child's behaviour and learn how to effectively combat childhood sleep and behavioural problems. Save Our Sleep: Toddler focuses on the wealth of new information specific to sleep and behaviour in toddlerhood. The detailed advice in this book will help you learn how to deal with the tests that inevitably accompany toddlerhood and continue to enjoy a good night's sleep. It provides specific routines for sleeping and feeding for toddlers between one and three years, as well as addressing common toddler issues such as potty training, tantrums, food and feeding, childcare, travelling, moving house, daylight savings and the transition from a cot to a bed. **Tizzie Hall is pleased to offer a complimentary copy of the Save Our Sleep® Safe Bedding Guide with all purchases of a Save Our Sleep ebook. Simply head to the Contact Us page on the Save Our Sleep website and provide the team with proof of purchase.**