"Causes and Consequences of Extra-Marital Affairs" delves into the intricate web of infidelity, examining the reasons behind these clandestine liaisons and their far-reaching impact. From exploring the emotional and physical temptations facilitated by technology to dissecting the psychological motives that drive individuals to seek solace outside their marriages, this book provides a comprehensive understanding of the complex world of extramarital affairs. With insights into the devastating effects on both the cheating spouse and the betrayed partner, it delves into the profound consequences on marriages, families, and social networks. As it navigates the path of healing and prevention, this book offers a vision for forging stronger, more resilient relationships. Through expert guidance, it unravels the secrets, lessons, and pathways towards a future marked by trust, communication, and healthier bonds.
Do you and your partner argue about the same things over and over again? Are you often confused about why your partner is so angry with you? Are things getting worse and worse even though you’ve tried everything you can think of to make them better? In this breakthrough guide to repairing romantic relationships, therapist and marriage researcher Dr. Stephen Betchen presents a powerful new explanation of what leads to this kind of escalating conflict in couples and how you can repair your relationship and find a whole new level of happiness. Based on his extensive experience as a couples’ therapist, Dr. Betchen has discovered that the prevailing idea that opposites attract is wrong. Instead, one of the strongest forces that attracts people to one another is that they share a hidden, inner conflict in their lives—an unconscious struggle within themselves that each of them developed growing up—which he calls a "master conflict." The fact that a couple shares a master conflict acts as an almost magnetic force of attraction, but, over time, master conflicts often begin to push a pair apart—many of the very things you most appreciated about each other start to grate on you, producing increasing hostility. The good news is that by identifying the master conflict that you share, you and your partner can take the steps to break the cycle of fighting and come to a new place of understanding and happiness in your relationship. Often, just the realization that you have this hidden conflict acts as a powerful cure, allowing you to appreciate each other once again and to be empathetic about the things that have been irritating you both. From his years of work with couples, Betchen has identified the nineteen most common master conflicts—such as getting your needs met vs. caretaking; giving vs. withholding; commitment vs. freedom; power vs. passivity—and for each he provides vivid stories of couples who have struggled with them, as well as simple tests that help you to: • Identify the core master conflict that is causing your relationship problems • Understand the origins of your conflict and how it drew you to your partner • Diagnose how the conflict is now pushing you apart • Come to new terms with the conflict to save your relationship As Dr. Betchen writes, knowledge of a master conflict is power, and Magnetic Partners is an empowering guide that will help you not only to identify and control your master conflict, but also to bring your relationship to a new level based on deeper understanding, ultimately leading to greater fulfillment and long-term resilience. Partners
Two psychotherapists explore the why behind extra-marital affairs: the reasons, the insights, the dynamics and interactions that fulfill the partners' spoken and unspoken needs; and the risks andariably encounter.
"A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”
This book will focus on some aspects that may not be as obvious when discussing affairs. People often wonder if healing is possible, if the likelihood that another affair will happen is big, or if their marriage will end up in divorce. Although this publication briefly touches on several of these topics, other questions will be addressed as well, such as: What if the person having the affair loves both people? Why are affairs so difficult to stop? Should the children know about the affair? What are some steps to recover from an affair? If you are interested to know more about these things, whether for personal reasons, or simply out of curiosity, then I urge you to start reading or listening to this book.
The idea of having an extramarital affair is one of the themes in human relationships that elicits the most controversy, intrigue, and emotional upheaval. A deep-seated societal stigma that has persisted for millennia is revealed when the term is even mentioned in public, causing waves of uneasiness to spread across society. This covert act of betrayal undermines the entire basis of trust, dedication, and faithfulness inside a marriage and, as a result, is entangled in a complicated web of societal conventions, public perception, and personal repercussions. The topic of extramarital affairs continues to spark vigorous discussion in this complex environment of social stigma and public image. Such relationships have unquestionably serious repercussions that touch not only the individuals involved but also their families, friends, and larger communities. To build a more thorough understanding of human connections and the complex dynamics that govern them, it is crucial to analyze these concerns as society develops with empathy, compassion, and a willingness to question strongly held views. A COPY OF THIS BOOK WILL DO YOU A WHOLE LOT OF GOOD.
In the face of near-universal disapproval, between one quarter and one half of all married Americans, including 15-30% of married women, at some point, engage in an extramarital affair. They will have either an enriching experience or the sad, destructive, ugly mess for which affairs are far better known. There is one self-help book that every one of these millions of people wants and needs to read. It has never been written. Until now. Your Affair is a thoughtful, detailed discussion of every aspect of considering, preparing for, beginning and conducting a successful and emotionally fulfilling extramarital affair, including advice, case histories, numerous first-person narratives, humorous anecdotes and step-by-step guidance for every facet of the process. Contrary to what the media like to portray, many of the major pitfalls are avoidable and an extramarital relationship can bring a person greater happiness and personal growth if properly managed. Your Affair shows how.
An extramarital affair is, according to Dr. Herbert Stream, a form of neurotic behavior that reflects the person's unresolved chlidhood conflicts and present level of maturity. Using numerous case histories that provide excellent illustrations, he describes conflicted marriages and the expectations, dissapointments, and frustrations of those who use affairs as a means of escape. Issues such as mate choice, types of marriages, spouses' reactions, and unconsious compliance add depth and complexity to this important and often provocative subject.
