This is a story of how a teenagers life was shattered from abuse, Teenage Pregnancy and Intimate Partner Violence (IPV). She walks you through the drama and near death situations from betrayal, that she never expected her life would become.Growing up in California around the music industry lifestyle of singers she always thought she would have a great life, have the fairytale lifestyle and live happily ever after. Well, life was far from that. Instead she kept on running into cycles of abuse that continued to get worse. Every form of abuse you can imagine. Until tragedy ended it all. After her life of abuse, she had developed a desire to help others. She felt a breath of fresh air after finally moving on, sharing that experience with others became her focus. She points out very important steps to take that are helpful for domestic violence and abuse victims to break the cycle. Her hopes is that this book will give courage and hope to victims or even someone that has a friend or relative going through it. Inspire them to break the cycle, like she did and live a happier and healthier life.
A first-ever how-to book to help abusive men change their behavior by changing their thinking. End the cycle of abuse - for good. Authors Charlie Donaldson, Randy Flood and Elaine Eldridge uncover a proven action plan that violent men can use to change their behavior. Filled with insightful questionnaires and actual case histories, the essential how-to book Stop Hurting the Woman You Love, will help end abusive patterns in favor of healthier, happier relationships.
An eagerly awaited collection of stories dealing with domestic abuse, edited by the New York Times bestselling author Zane. Breaking the Cycle is a stunning and moving anthology of stories, each of which focuses on an aspect of domestic abuse. This powerful collection is sure to serve as a wake-up call for people either dealing with a domestic abuse situation, or those watching someone else endure it. In the title story, Zane describes the turmoil that a young girl suffers at the hands of her stepfather. The girl and her mother plan their escape, but at the last minute the mother falters. In D.V. Bernard's "The Lonely Echoes of My Youth," readers are introduced to a young boy raising himself on the fringes of a drug-infested neigborhood. Nane Quartay's provocative story, "The Grindstone," describes a boy who witnesses a brutal murder which will have far-reaching effects on him and his family. Tracy Price-Thompson weaves a powerful tale in "The Stranger" when a woman constantly abused by her husband finds inner strength after a brutal attack. Collen Dixon's "The Break of Dawn" will keep readers deep in thought long after they finish reading her story about a young desperate mother terrifed that her own daughter will grow up and become victimized herself. Dywane D. Birch's "Victory Begins With Me" reflects how one woman has to struggle to get her life back to normal. Shonda Cheekes' "Silent Suffering" flips the script when a man finds himself abused by the female in his life. Newcomer J.L. Woodson's "God Does Answer Prayers" deals with a young boy fighting for his life in a hospital bed, put there by one of the people who is supposed to love him the most: a parent. These stories capture the dangerous realities of domestic abuse, while also pointing toward the steps that need to be taken to break the cycle that perpetuates it. It is sure to serve as a rallying cry for all those who desire victory over their own victimization, and a guide for understanding the complex undercurrents that make such patterns possible.
This “clear, empathetic self-help book . . . is an excellent choice for readers who come from an abusive past and are struggling to make a brighter future”(Publishers Weekly). If you were emotionally, physically, or sexually abused as a child or adolescent, or if you experienced neglect or abandonment, it isn't a question of whether you will continue the cycle of abuse but rather a question of how--whether you will become an abuser or continue to be a victim. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, a leading expert on emotional and sexual abuse, explains how to stop the cycle of abuse once and for all. Her step-by-step program provides the necessary skills for gaining control over emotions, changing negative attitudes, learning healthy ways of communicating, healing the damage from prior abuse, and seeking out support. Throughout, Engel shares many dramatic personal stories including her own experiences with abusive behavior. Breaking the Cycle of Abuse gives you the power to shatter abusive patterns for good and offers a legacy of hope and healing for you and your family. “A beacon of hope for women and men who fear that they will pass the abuse they have suffered on to their children, partners, or employees.” —Lundy Bancroft, author of When Dad Hurts Mom and Why Does He Do That? “In this remarkably powerful, wise, and compassionate book, Beverly Engel . . . offers expert advice and strategies to help parents and would-be parents avoid doing to their children what was done to them and helps both abusers and victims in emotionally and physically abusive relationships make vitally important changes in their relationships.” —Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents and Emotional Blackmail
Violence so often begets violence. Victims respond with revenge only to inspire seemingly endless cycles of retaliation. Conflicts between nations, between ethnic groups, between strangers, and between family members differ in so many ways and yet often share this dynamic. In this powerful and timely book Martha Minow and others ask: What explains these cycles and what can break them? What lessons can we draw from one form of violence that might be relevant to other forms? Can legal responses to violence provide accountability but avoid escalating vengeance? If so, what kinds of legal institutions and practices can make a difference? What kinds risk failure? Breaking the Cycles of Hatred represents a unique blend of political and legal theory, one that focuses on the double-edged role of memory in fueling cycles of hatred and maintaining justice and personal integrity. Its centerpiece comprises three penetrating essays by Minow. She argues that innovative legal institutions and practices, such as truth commissions and civil damage actions against groups that sponsor hate, often work better than more conventional criminal proceedings and sanctions. Minow also calls for more sustained attention to the underlying dynamics of violence, the connections between intergroup and intrafamily violence, and the wide range of possible responses to violence beyond criminalization. A vibrant set of freestanding responses from experts in political theory, psychology, history, and law examines past and potential avenues for breaking cycles of violence and for deepening our capacity to avoid becoming what we hate. The topics include hate crimes and hate-crimes legislation, child sexual abuse and the statute of limitations, and the American kidnapping and internment of Japanese Latin Americans during World War II. Commissioned by Nancy Rosenblum, the essays are by Ross E. Cheit, Marc Galanter, Fredrick C. Harris, Judith Lewis Herman, Carey Jaros, Frederick M. Lawrence, Austin Sarat, Ayelet Shachar, Eric K. Yamamoto, and Iris Marion Young.
Is the person you love most in the world actually destroying you? Sometimes, it's not so simple for individuals in abusive relationships to just break free. Author Tracy S. Deitz, a trained advocate for victims of domestic violence, tells the story of Lydia, a survivor of an abusive marriage who offers a lifeline to anyone who feels trapped in a destructive home. Break the Cycle: Healing from an Abusive Relationship is Lydia's profoundly honest and hopeful guide to gaining the strength, insight, and resources necessary to inspire anyone who wants to forge a new and positive path in life. Encouraging and easy to read, this invaluable book will help both victims and those who care about them to break through the confusion of this complex emotional struggle. By sharing Lydia's personal account about many years on a relational roller coaster, the author offers a vital perspective to individuals who are torn between keeping their covenant vow and trying to survive in a dysfunctional relationship with an unrepentant spouse. Integrating research, Scriptures, and personal anecdotes, the text illustrates practices for healing and finding clarity. From discussing isolation to awakening courage, each chapter identifies challenges and solutions, culminating with study questions for individual reflection or small-group discussions. The guide tackles issues surrounding alcoholism, Christianity and what the faith community teaches about honoring a vow, with daily illustrations of the challenges victims face. While illuminating the dilemmas of loving someone who is an abuser, Break the Cycle: Healing from an Abusive Relationship offers those suffering from this national epidemic a chance to find security, confidence, and peace. Millions of people in this country desperately need to discover the hope that is available to them through a personal relationship with God, rather than religiosity. This poignant, inspiring guide can do just that.
Are you tired of repeating the same cycle? Do you feel like what you do is never good enough? Are negative feelings robbing your life of joy? Do you sometimes feel that you can't find the light at the end of the tunnel? Do you want to be in control and predict your own future? Are you ready for the roller coaster to end and the good life to begin? Millions of people have these same feelings. You are not alone. But you can end your repeated struggles and break out of destructive cycles. Put an end to the frustration and begin to live your dreams. Everyone wants to enjoy a good life-a life of peace and happiness void of chaos! However, the sense of lack drives us into our never-ending cycles...Two steps forward, one step back. Up and down, In and Out. Mountain peak to valley. Like a hamster in a wheel, it never ends! It's time to get off the wheel. This incredible book by Dr. Jim Richards will give you the tools to face life with new confidence. On each page, you will find new keys to personal empowerment. You will transform your self-worth. You will disconnect from the feelings of lack and inadequacy. Your life will become a constant process from good to great! Discover the life-changing secrets of personal empowerment that have brought transformation to millions of people around the world. Breaking the Cycle provides the keys. You can end your destructive patterns today!
Exploring the conditions under which children, as a function of their own abuse, become abusive themselves. That experiences from childhood affect our behavior in adulthood, especially in the ways we treat our children and intimate partners, is generally accepted. Indeed, theories of intergenerational transmission of violence indicate that if we ourselves have been abused and neglected as children, we will likely be abusive and neglectful to others close to us—thus extending the cycle across generations. However, many individuals who were maltreated as children do not replicate this cycle, and such models make little sense of the individual raised in a “good family” who is violent either as a child or as an adult. These discontinuities of cycles of violence and trauma have challenged professionals and nonprofessionals alike. However, broadening our vision and attending to new areas of research can help to illuminate this conundrum and open up new avenues of intervention. In this book, Pamela Alexander does just that. She proposes that an increased risk for abusive behavior or revictimization, as a function of one’s own experiences of abuse or trauma in childhood, can best be understood through the complementary lenses of attachment theory (focusing on the relationship between the child and the caregiver) and family systems theory (focusing on the larger context of this relationship). That is, what a child acquires from her relationship with a caregiver is not simply a reflection of what she has “learned” from experiencing or witnessing abuse. Rather, it emerges from the child’s felt experience of the relationship itself—on implicit emotional, physical, and neurobiological levels. Alexander founds the book on this multifaceted parent–child attachment relationship and its place in the wider family system, integrating clinical experience with close attention to the long-term neurobiological and epigenetic effects of trauma. She focuses on common outcomes of a history of maltreatment, and of child sexual abuse in particular, including peer victimization, partner violence, parenting problems, and sexual offending. A detailed review of the literature accompanies instructive case examples. Sources of trauma from outside the family, including combat exposure, political terrorism, foster care, and incarceration of parents are considered. Finally, Alexander analyzes the multiple sources of natural resilience—the neurobiological, the individual, the relational, and the social—to enable professionals of all backgrounds to tailor-make effective interventions for interrupting cycles of trauma and violence.
Finalist for the 2020 Kobo Emerging Writer Prize in Nonfiction Joanne Vannicola grew up in a violent home with a physically abusive father and a mother who had no sexual boundaries. After being pressured to leave home at fourteen, and after fifteen years of estrangement, Joanne learns that her mother is dying. Compelled to reconnect, she visits with her, unearthing a trove of devastating secrets. Joanne relates her journey from child performer to Emmy Award–winning actor, from hiding in the closet to embracing her own sexuality, from conflicted daughter and sibling to independent woman. All We Knew But Couldn’t Say is a testament to survival, love, and the belief that it is possible to love the broken, and to love fully, even with a broken heart.
In Breaking Cycles Jenarda Makupson tells her story of how her life was shattered from abuse and domestic violence. She walks you through near death situations that she never expected her life would become.Growing up in California around the Motown lifestyle of RnB singers she always thought she would be a singer or an actress, have the white picket fence fairytale lifestyle and live happily ever after. Well life was far from that. Instead she kept on running into cycles of abuse that continued to get worse. Every form of abuse you can imagine. Until it all ended. After that life of abuse Jenarda knew that she had to help others to fill the breath of fresh air that she had a chance to feel after moving on. She points out very important steps to take that are helpful for domestic violence and abuse victims to break the cycle. Her hopes is that this book will give courage and hope to victims or even someone that has a friend or relative going through it. Inspire them to break the cycle, like she did and live a happier and healthier life.
