Silence may be golden, but it won't save you. After surviving a brutally abusive relationship, Shannon Ezzo understands the importance of sharing her story. Constantly living in fear of what would happen next, her body and mind were battered and bruised. By sharing her story, Shannon hopes to empower other men and women who have lived, or are still living, in similar situations. No matter what the circumstance, no one should have to go through this alone.
When Love Turns to Fear: Answers from an Abuse Survivor is designed to answer the wide-spread requests for a book written by someone who experienced abuse to provides insights, understanding, and solutions for abusive relationships. Also, this book gives answers to the most frequently asked questions: “What is an abusive relationship?”, “What can I do if I am in an abusive relationship?”, “How can I help someone in an abusive relationship?” This book has unique advantages over other books. It is interactive, allowing the reader to record information and complete checklists. Also, it tackles legal, financial, safety, emotional health, and recovery issues. No other book is so comprehensive! Yet, it is written to be easily read: for both grown adults and teens. It is practical, honest, and understanding. Throughout the book stories from the many women Alison interviewed are presented and insights are drawn. And since many abuse victims have concerns over spiritual implications, the book includes eye-opening chapters to present what the Bible reveals about God’s opinion of abusive relationships. This book has been used successfully by many victims of abuse, and has received the support of professional counseling centers, the clergy, parent groups, civic groups, and universities.
"Engel doesn't just describe-she shows us the way out." -Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail Praise for theemotionally abusive relationship "In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offersstep-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse. . . helping bothvictims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful andtraumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individualsand for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotionalabuse." -Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse "This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotionalabuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showingeach party what emotional abuse is, how it affects therelationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamicrelationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp thetools for change and really use them." -Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and owner of BPDCentral.com The number of people who become involved with partners who abusethem emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves isphenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form ofabuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world'sleading experts on the subject, shows us what it is and what to doabout it. Whether you suspect you are being emotionally abused, fear that youmight be emotionally abusing your partner, or think that both youand your partner are emotionally abusing each other, this book isfor you. The Emotionally Abusive Relationship will tell you how toidentify emotional abuse and how to find the roots of yourbehavior. Combining dramatic personal stories with action steps toheal, Engel provides prescriptive strategies that will allow youand your partner to work together to stop bringing out the worst ineach other and stop the abuse. By teaching those who are being emotionally abused how to helpthemselves and those who are being emotionally abusive how to stopabusing, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship offers the expertguidance and support you need.
Free yourself from toxic relationships with “the new gold standard in abuse recovery” from the founder of the Women’s Therapy Clinic (Jackson MacKenzie, author of Whole Again). Foreword by Lois P. Frankel, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author of Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office ARE YOU A VICTIM OF SUBTLE ABUSE? Are you always the one apologizing? Constantly questioning and blaming yourself? Do you often feel confused, frustrated, and angry? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you’re not alone. Nearly half of all women—and men—in the United States experience psychological abuse without realizing it. Manipulation, deception, and disrespect leave no physical scars, but they can be just as traumatic as physical abuse. In this groundbreaking book, Avery Neal, founder of the Women’s Therapy Clinic, helps you recognize the warning signs of subtle abuse. As you learn to identify patterns that have never made sense before, you are better equipped to make changes. From letting go of fear to setting boundaries, whether you’re gathering the courage to finally leave or learning how to guard against a chronically abusive pattern, If He’s So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad? will help you enjoy a happy, healthy, fulfilling life, free of shame or blame. “This book can open eyes for people who may have lost pieces of themselves along the way. Great examples and exercises. It is a companion from start to finish.” —Dr. Jay Carter, author of Nasty People “No-nonsense insights and practical ways to regain control of and empower your life.” —Dr. George Simon, international bestselling author of In Sheep’s Clothing
Ruth Tucker recounts a harrowing story of abuse at the hands of her husband—a well-educated, charming preacher no less—in hope that her story would help other women caught in a cycle of domestic violence and offer a balanced biblical approach to counter such abuse for pastors and counselors. Weaving together her shocking story, stories of other women, and powerful stories of husbands who truly have demonstrated Christ’s love to their wives, with reflection on biblical, theological, historical, and contemporary issues surrounding domestic violence, she makes a compelling case for mutuality in marriage and helps women and men become more aware of potential dangers in a doctrine of male headship.
Being abused doesn't mean that you give up on "You" Being abused doesn't mean that you should give up on yourself. There is hope for you even if you don't see it. In the midst of each and every one of your trials, continue to believe in yourself. No matter how cold and harsh the words may be, my prayers are sent out for a better and brighter day for thee. Never give up on your hopes and dreams, and soon the sun will begin to shine brighter so that a breakthrough you will be able to see. Hold on just a little while longer. Every ounce of hope makes you stronger. You're not alone, I've been there too. That is the reason that my prayers will soon come through to you. I held on to my dignity no matter how my heart was wounded. I pray that there is a blessing in the midst of your storm. I pray that your life will be at peace and that your heart will be calm. No matter what you do, never give up. I pray that God will soon step in and fill your cup. It took me about twenty five years to take my life back and not allow anyone to abuse or treat me that way again. I know about the pain that is in your heart. I realized that I was better than the way that I was being treated. I learned the real meaning of self love; which is the greatest love of all other than the love of God. Now I pour my heart out to you, to be a blessing and to uplift your heart, mind and soul. Even after all of your pain you can still make it. You too, can use your trials to be a blessing to others. I love you my sister, take a hold of my hand, and I'll do my best to help you to stand. Other books by me: The Lives of Abused and Battered Women: www.buybooksontheweb.com, and Heart-Boosting Poetry: www.publishamerica.com
A must-read for any woman who's ever had a delightful pet - and a difficult partner. You'll learn: - Exactly what to do to make your man really sit up and listen to you - How to choose a pedigree partner, and sniff out the rogue breeds - Why you need to mark out your territory, and how to know when you've bitten off more than you can chew - How to have men eating out of your hand! Jam-packed with insights, mind-shifting exercises and laugh-out-loud moments, this book will transform the way you view yourself, your relationships, and your path to lasting love. Read it and your understanding of relationships will be changed forever. Annie Kaszina Ph.D. was a long-term relationship disaster, until she realized that it made sense to choose her partner at least as carefully as her dog. Now a women's relationship expert, she has spent 10 years teaching women to believe in themselves and become the special woman a good man will cherish.
Domestic Violence is a serious issue when dealing with the hands of your abuser. Domestic Violence is a violent or aggressive behavior within the home, church or workplace, typically involving the violent abuse of a spouse or partner. Domestic Violence is also willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/ or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. I was in an abusive relationship with my abuser for a long period of time. I suffer a lot pain and heartache in the hands of my abuser. He had me brainwashed. He can cheat on me with whomever he wanted too, but I dare not question him why. My abuser told me, “I better not tell anyone and if you do I’ll kill you” Now that stuck with me for a long time. I never told anyone of what he had did to me. I knew I had to fi ght back in order for me to get away from him. None of that worked out for me. He always said the right words to win me back. Yes, I loved him and I didn’t want to see him in jail. I kept everything a secret from my family. I pray that if you are in an abusive relationship to get out and seek help. Yes, he may tell you that he won’t do it again but is it worth losing your LIFE? He’s going to tell you all the good words you love to hear, but is your heart worth losing a BEAT? Don’t be afraid to seek help. It’s up to you to get the help. If you know someone you can trust, please tell them. Always keep a journal of what is going on between you and your abuser. I AM A SURVIVOR of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. I survive the hands of my abuser. To all women’s around the world who is going through an abusive relationship, there is joy on the other side. God will be there in the midst of your storm. May God bless you all!!!!!!!!! Ms. Survivor
From the author of Whole Again comes a significantly expanded edition of Psychopath Free—containing new chapters, updated content, and real survivor experiences—that will help you recover from emotionally abusive relationships with narcissists, sociopaths, and other toxic people. Have you ever been in a relationship with a psychopath? Chances are, even if you did, you would never know it. Psychopaths are cunning charmers and master manipulators, to the point where you start to accept the most extreme behaviors as normal...Even if it hurts you. All around us, every single day, human beings devoid of empathy are wreaking havoc and destroying lives in the coldest, most heartless ways imaginable. In constant pursuit of money, sex, influence, or simple entertainment, psychopaths will do whatever it takes to gain power over others. They hide behind a veil of normalcy, arranging their friends and partners like pawns in a game of chess. Using false praise and flattery to get what they want, they can lure any unsuspecting target into a relationship. Once hooked, their charming promises spin into mind games and psychological torture. Victims are left devastated and confused, unable to recognize—or even put into words—the nightmare that just took place. Written from the heart, Psychopath Free is the first guide for survivors written by a survivor, offering hope for healing and thriving after psychopathic abuse. Say goodbye to the chaos, self-doubt, and victimization. You are free.
Library Journal Self-Help Bestseller Winner of the 2023 National Indie Excellence Award in African American Nonfiction Silver Winner of the 2023 Nautilus Book Award A revealing look at why domestic violence victims stay with their abusers…and how they can ultimately leave. And survive. One Saturday morning, Gooden is woken up by her husband shoving her off the bed for no discernible reason. Despite her quick thinking and even quicker footsteps, her husband catches her, his sudden anger inexplicable. No words are exchanged. He begins to strangle her as he has done many times before. With unflinching vulnerability, Gooden outlines in painstaking detail what she had to do to walk away and how others can use her experiences to escape their own abuse, from skimming the grocery money, to squirreling away personal belongings, to navigating a domestic violence shelter. She offers strategies for overcoming the barriers survivors often face, such as money, housing, overcritical social circles, or, most powerfully: love. Uniquely compassionate when it comes to the heartbreak of still loving one’s abuser, Gooden shares how she transformed and extended this love outward, using her story to encourage others to choose themselves. The voice and fire behind #WhyIStayed, Bev Gooden is exceptionally positioned to explore the many reasons victims stay in abusive relationships, and how they can muster the resources and motivation to leave. Surviving is unlike any memoir of survivorship, given its nuance, compassion, and candor. Above all, it is an exquisitely powerful testament to Gooden’s healing, survivorship, and dedication to helping others do the same.
